Post by lolalolalola on Nov 28, 2023 12:35:50 GMT -5
Is this rude? My direct report had started doing this recently and it drives me nuts. I plan to tell him to stop but I don’t know if I am overreacting?
What do you think? Is this distracting/disruptive at work or a non-issue?
ETA- I should have clarified that we have lots of meetings together. I could care less about noise at his desk.
It would drive me nuts, too, but I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t think he’s being rude- I liken it to excessive throat-clearing, which would also drive me nuts but that’s my issue, not his.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
Not rude of him, not an issue. Sometimes my fingers start to feel “stuck” or something after a while and I feel the need to crack them to loosen them up. Especially my thumb. It’s not something I do all day long, but it’s also something that helps me on a physical comfort level. I wouldn’t be offended if someone asked me to stop, but I also wouldn’t stop doing it if someone asked me to stop either. At the same time, I totally understand why it could be an irritating sound for someone, as well. I think this is one of those things in an office setting that you have to learn to tune out.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
Doesn't make it inappropriate! What if it was the boss doing it?
I am irrationally annoyed by this OP!
This is why I posted. It absolutely drives me nuts but apparently I’m in the vast minority so I’ll leave it. It’s probably my own ADHD that makes it so distracting. I legit lose my train of thought when talking and he does it.
Post by AdaraMarie on Nov 28, 2023 13:24:19 GMT -5
Ugh I would hate that so much, the sound makes me queasy. I would probably start wearing headphones all the time to block it out but I don't think I would say anything.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
Doesn't make it inappropriate! What if it was the boss doing it?
I am irrationally annoyed by this OP!
I'm annoyed too. Especially since OP made a point of saying it's a direct report. Would they have posted if their boss was doing it? Maybe I suppose but it probably would have been from the slant of "how do I block this noise out" versus telling them to stop.
** Though I see OP has decided not to ask them to stop **
This would drive me nuts, I HATE that sounds, especially when constant/excessive. I get shivers any time I accidentally crack my own knuckles (from hitting my hands into stuff because I'm a klutz).
That said, I don't know that you can say anything. It's not a true issue, and you wouldn't call someone out for sniffing involuntarily or whatever.
I am surprised that hating this sound is in the minority!
Doesn't make it inappropriate! What if it was the boss doing it?
I am irrationally annoyed by this OP!
I'm annoyed too. Especially since OP made a point of saying it's a direct report. Would they have posted if their boss was doing it? Maybe I suppose but it probably would have been from the slant of "how do I block this noise out" versus telling them to stop.
** Though I see OP has decided not to ask them to stop **
How do I block this noise out!!?! I would love some advice here.
ETA- This morning we were in a meeting and it really impacted my concentration as I was speaking. I lost my train of thought and it was not a good look for me so any advice to help is greatly appreciated.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
Huh? I wouldn’t ask someone to stop if they were humming or whistling. I assume it’s at a normal volume and not scream humming that I can’t hear to make a phone call!
lolalolalola, maybe if you ask them nicely in private? Tell them that you find it distracting, and would they mind not doing it during meetings? I feel like that's a fair request.
I absolutely HATE the sound of knuckles being cracked so I'd ask him to please stop. I think it's disruptive, like any repetitive noise in the office - I mean, you'd ask him to stop if he were humming or whistling.
Huh? I wouldn’t ask someone to stop if they were humming or whistling. I assume it’s at a normal volume and not scream humming that I can’t hear to make a phone call!
I should have clarified that we have lots of meetings together. I could not care less about noise at his desk.
Post by followyourarrow on Nov 28, 2023 13:46:51 GMT -5
It's a non-issue for me.
When I'm learning something new I'll quietly talk through the process, step by step. It apparently drives my boss crazy and he'll come close my door. Now I just go ahead and close my door when I know I'll be doing this.