What dumb thing do you not understand...

[ssmjlm]

Dec 30, 2023 12:30:44 GMT -5 Doggy Mommy said:

Along the lines of designer handbags, I came across a bunch of tiktoks earlier this year about what people have to do to buy a Birkin bag. They basically have to kiss up to the sales associate by making a bunch of other purchases before they're even offered a purse. Some people will spend 20k on scarves and blankets and whatever to have the privilege of purchasing a 10k+ bag. So so stupid.

It’s much easier to just buy them on the second hand market. Then you aren’t buying crap for the potential to maybe get a Birkin. I follow one IG account that usually has several for sale.

I also would never spend that much on a handbag and I do love my designer ones.

[dochas]

Dec 30, 2023 0:04:55 GMT -5 sent said:

Dec 29, 2023 23:24:26 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Italian cookies, you know the ones that are a plate of multicolored cookies with random sprinkles. Dry and horrible.

So I would have agreed with you until my dad brought home a plate of these cookies from his holiday party one year. These cookies were so good. They were actually moist and the ones that looked like they had chocolate in them tasted like chocolate. His boss got them at a particular bakery and now I go to the same bakery every year and give them to everyone. 

But everywhere else, definitely dry and horrible. 

I'm sad for people who don't know how these cookies are supposed to taste.

[dochas]

Dec 30, 2023 8:14:05 GMT -5 tiki said:

Dec 29, 2023 21:42:53 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I don't understand why there are still funeral processions. In my area it is common to see them on highways and interstates due to the area. 

My grandmother's funeral procession was one of the most terrifying driving experiences of my life. It was a LONG way from the funeral home to the cemetery - maybe 15-20 miles, so we had to take the Baltimore beltway. There we were, 30+ cars in a chain on a 6+ lane highway, going below the speed limit, all of us in the right lane with flashers on, making it completely impossible for any traffic merging in from an onramp to safely signal left and change lanes into regular traffic. It was white-knuckle the whole way and I was 100% convinced I was going to watch the procession get more people killed.

The cars aren't chained together. You're supposed to let people on and off the highway. The flashing headlights and signs in the window let people know to get in and out of the lane and not park themselves in the middle of the procession. 

[Nonny]

Dec 30, 2023 12:46:59 GMT -5 wambam said:

Dec 30, 2023 12:30:44 GMT -5 Doggy Mommy said:

Along the lines of designer handbags, I came across a bunch of tiktoks earlier this year about what people have to do to buy a Birkin bag. They basically have to kiss up to the sales associate by making a bunch of other purchases before they're even offered a purse. Some people will spend 20k on scarves and blankets and whatever to have the privilege of purchasing a 10k+ bag. So so stupid.

I lurk on the Hermes Game subreddit because I find the whole thing fascinating. They’re bags, they’re nice looking, they’re fine. So when I hear that people are doing $30K pre-spend, or that they’ve dropped thousands and now their sales associate has change and they have to start all over - I just want to flail my arms and shout “WHAT IS THIS”

I feel like this adds a whole new level to the episode of Gilmore Girls where Logan buys Rory a Birkin bag. Were all of his other, previous girlfriends getting the thousands of dollars in scarves? Did Honor put in all the work with the sales clerk and then Logan swooped in a stole a bag purchase from his sister? Was this why Richard never bought one for Emily, because he wasn't going to play that game? 

[tiki]

Dec 30, 2023 15:55:23 GMT -5 dochas said:

The cars aren't chained together. You're supposed to let people on and off the highway. The flashing headlights and signs in the window let people know to get in and out of the lane and not park themselves in the middle of the procession. 

Yes other cars would enter and end up in the middle of the procession. That was fine. The dangerous part came when those cars signaled left and tried to merge out of the 45mph procession and into regular 60mph heavy traffic. To the other drivers on the road, they just looked like part of the procession, not a car trying to change lanes. 

[oregonpachey]

People who don't have hobbies. My MIL has none. She doesn't read, do puzzles, craft or anything. I guess playing on your iPad all day could be a hobby. Find something to do!

[stmonica2]

Puzzles. Someone broke a picture and then expects me to put it back together again. Not my responsibility!

[wambam]

Dec 30, 2023 17:39:37 GMT -5 oregonpachey said:

People who don't have hobbies. My MIL has none. She doesn't read, do puzzles, craft or anything. I guess playing on your iPad all day could be a hobby. Find something to do!

My FIL is like this. It makes it impossible to talk to him because I have nothing to ask him about. I can ask my parents about golf, book club, their volunteering, etc. and have an actual conversation, even if we don’t share any of those same interests. With my FIL, I have nothing.

[scm1011]

Dec 30, 2023 18:07:15 GMT -5 wambam said:

Dec 30, 2023 17:39:37 GMT -5 oregonpachey said:

People who don't have hobbies. My MIL has none. She doesn't read, do puzzles, craft or anything. I guess playing on your iPad all day could be a hobby. Find something to do!

My FIL is like this. It makes it impossible to talk to him because I have nothing to ask him about. I can ask my parents about golf, book club, their volunteering, etc. and have an actual conversation, even if we don’t share any of those same interests. With my FIL, I have nothing.

This is also my mother. Her only hobby is complaining. 

[wanderlustmom]

Dec 30, 2023 17:39:37 GMT -5 oregonpachey said:

People who don't have hobbies. My MIL has none. She doesn't read, do puzzles, craft or anything. I guess playing on your iPad all day could be a hobby. Find something to do!

I have this odd respect for people like that! I love that they aren't going with the expected.  My mom didn't have any hobbies either and it was honestly hard to think of what to write about in her obituary. But she was this really amazing person.  She loved people and talking to them.  But cooking, not really. She didn't like work so she retired as soon as she could, she didn't like to read or watch television. Really wasn't that into travel. Didn't like fashion, any sport, the outdoors, etc. etc. Cant think of anything she liked doing that much. 

[elefun]

We are a big horror/Halloween house and- Tim Burton. His stuff is weird and unenjoyable. He loves the melancholy.

[dochas]

Dec 30, 2023 16:17:17 GMT -5 tiki said:

Dec 30, 2023 15:55:23 GMT -5 dochas said:

The cars aren't chained together. You're supposed to let people on and off the highway. The flashing headlights and signs in the window let people know to get in and out of the lane and not park themselves in the middle of the procession. 

Yes other cars would enter and end up in the middle of the procession. That was fine. The dangerous part came when those cars signaled left and tried to merge out of the 45mph procession and into regular 60mph heavy traffic. To the other drivers on the road, they just looked like part of the procession, not a car trying to change lanes. 

I have fortunately not been to a funeral in a while, but went to a lot growing up. Maybe we did not drive under the speed limit? I can see what you're describing being rough, but I don't ever remember having a problem in a procession.

[SusanBAnthony]

Dec 30, 2023 18:33:47 GMT -5 dochas said:

Dec 30, 2023 16:17:17 GMT -5 tiki said:

Yes other cars would enter and end up in the middle of the procession. That was fine. The dangerous part came when those cars signaled left and tried to merge out of the 45mph procession and into regular 60mph heavy traffic. To the other drivers on the road, they just looked like part of the procession, not a car trying to change lanes. 

I have fortunately not been to a funeral in a while, but went to a lot growing up. Maybe we did not drive under the speed limit? I can see what you're describing being rough, but I don't ever remember having a problem in a procession.

I have also had an issue where I am in the middle lane and need to get to the right lane and exit. But the funeral procession is blocking my way into the lane so I have to cut in.

I live right near two large cemeteries so I probably run into more funeral processions than the average person.

[InBetweenDays]

All inclusive resorts. I've stayed at them twice when vacationing with really large friend groups and can somewhat understand their appeal in those situations. But not when traveling as a family or couple or even small group. I don't want to spend the majority of my vacation eating and staying on resort property.

[eb777888]

Dec 30, 2023 18:58:50 GMT -5 InBetweenDays said:

All inclusive resorts. I've stayed at them twice when vacationing with really large friend groups and can somewhat understand their appeal in those situations. But not when traveling as a family or couple or even small group. I don't want to spend the majority of my vacation eating and staying on resort property.

As a family that takes a lot of very involved vacations with long travel days, lots of walking and sightseeing, we're doing an AI this summer for the first time since 2006 because I just want to sit on a beach, drink, eat and read. 

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Dec 30, 2023 18:09:02 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Dec 30, 2023 18:07:15 GMT -5 wambam said:

My FIL is like this. It makes it impossible to talk to him because I have nothing to ask him about. I can ask my parents about golf, book club, their volunteering, etc. and have an actual conversation, even if we don’t share any of those same interests. With my FIL, I have nothing.

This is also my mother. Her only hobby is complaining. 

Sleeping, with my mom

[pandorica]

Dec 30, 2023 17:39:37 GMT -5 oregonpachey said:

People who don't have hobbies. My MIL has none. She doesn't read, do puzzles, craft or anything. I guess playing on your iPad all day could be a hobby. Find something to do!

This is my MIL too. She only talks (complains) about family and stories of things that happened years ago. When she comes to our house, she'll literally sit on the couch and stare at a wall in silence when the kids are asleep 😳

[Susie]

Dec 29, 2023 22:51:33 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

Dec 29, 2023 22:20:06 GMT -5 CurlyQ284 said:

I'm not talking about the walls. I mean rooms where there is zero color anywhere, rugs, throw pillows, wall art, toys all neutrals. I've seen kids rooms on SM where the entire room is white/gray/beige

My SIL is a beige mom. The whole house (including kids rooms) is off white. The children are dressed exclusively in creams and browns.

The other day she posted “wooden toys just hit different.”

Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how?  I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!).  I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.

[Deleted]

Dec 30, 2023 19:54:19 GMT -5 Susie said:

Dec 29, 2023 22:51:33 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

My SIL is a beige mom. The whole house (including kids rooms) is off white. The children are dressed exclusively in creams and browns.

The other day she posted “wooden toys just hit different.”

Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how?  I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!).  I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.

They probably don’t let their kids pick out their own clothes.

[Jalapeñomel]

The fact that people call it a gender reveal. You’re finding out the sex.

[MixedBerryJam]

Dec 30, 2023 17:49:27 GMT -5 stmonica2 said:

Puzzles. Someone broke a picture and then expects me to put it back together again. Not my responsibility!

My elderly neighbor gives me puzzles she’s finished to bring to my church for the thrift store. The most recent one was a cute Sandra Boynton one so I put it together myself before donating it and I had forgotten how much fun puzzles are! New fan over here.

[polarbearfans]

Dec 29, 2023 18:36:44 GMT -5 joy said:

Dec 29, 2023 18:22:36 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

Stanley's 40oz quencher 😂

I actually don’t understand water bottles in general. I hate carrying something around in my hands. I’m never so thirsty that I need water at a moment’s notice.

I’m an 80s kid who went all day without water, though. I was bred to be a camel.

Seriously! My kid (and ever kid I have met) acts like she is dying if she goes 10 minutes without water. I got an email one day that I didn’t send a water bottle to school that they gave her a cup but that the kids should all have a water bottle daily. So odd. We were never allowed water bottles when I was in school. I told my child when she was coming she would die of thirst that I remember getting a 3 sec drink of water at school 1-2 times a day, and having a bottle of water like two times on long hot touristy vacations that were still barely touched. I drink water as an adult at times, but don’t feel the need to carry it around with me.

[klee23]

Dec 30, 2023 21:42:40 GMT -5 polarbearfans said:

Dec 29, 2023 18:36:44 GMT -5 joy said:

I actually don’t understand water bottles in general. I hate carrying something around in my hands. I’m never so thirsty that I need water at a moment’s notice.

I’m an 80s kid who went all day without water, though. I was bred to be a camel.

Seriously! My kid (and ever kid I have met) acts like she is dying if she goes 10 minutes without water. I got an email one day that I didn’t send a water bottle to school that they gave her a cup but that the kids should all have a water bottle daily. So odd. We were never allowed water bottles when I was in school. I told my child when she was coming she would die of thirst that I remember getting a 3 sec drink of water at school 1-2 times a day, and having a bottle of water like two times on long hot touristy vacations that were still barely touched. I drink water as an adult at times, but don’t feel the need to carry it around with me.

Re: school- are they allowed to drink from the fountains? Since covid my son's school allows bottle refills only still, no mouths

[katb]

Dec 30, 2023 13:47:37 GMT -5 jinkies said:

Along the lines of meat rosettes, I will add any food that is excessively manhandled to look "cute" for a theme.

I'm thinking things like the pretzel + string cheese cut make a fringe+ licorice that people put together to look like a broom at Halloween. Like, yes, those are all foods. But not foods that taste good together and also I don't want you fingering up my food that much before I eat it.

Really any instance of emphasizing the way food looks over the way it tastes (see also, fondant).

Well in fairness, I made those "brooms" just for my kids - never for a party or company.  It is cute for the kids and they like them.  But I also made jack o lantern quesadillans and oogly eye deviled eggs for the kids.  

[basilosaurus]

Dec 30, 2023 21:42:40 GMT -5 polarbearfans said:

Dec 29, 2023 18:36:44 GMT -5 joy said:

I actually don’t understand water bottles in general. I hate carrying something around in my hands. I’m never so thirsty that I need water at a moment’s notice.

I’m an 80s kid who went all day without water, though. I was bred to be a camel.

Seriously! My kid (and ever kid I have met) acts like she is dying if she goes 10 minutes without water. I got an email one day that I didn’t send a water bottle to school that they gave her a cup but that the kids should all have a water bottle daily. So odd. We were never allowed water bottles when I was in school. I told my child when she was coming she would die of thirst that I remember getting a 3 sec drink of water at school 1-2 times a day, and having a bottle of water like two times on long hot touristy vacations that were still barely touched. I drink water as an adult at times, but don’t feel the need to carry it around with me.

I was also a camel, and that was in hot much of the year s fl. I'm sure our kidneys will look down in the future compared to today's generation.

As an adult I drink tons of water, and I do take it with me everywhere, but I'm in the tropics sweating daily, and restaurants rarely have free filters water, so you end up having to buy a plastic bottle. Even at some fancier restaurants no one blinks an eye if you have your own water.

[basilosaurus]

People who go out as a group to a restaurant or bar and spend the entire time on their phones.

Last night was a group of 8, all but 2 of us traveled from another state, 5 people on their phones in between ordering and eating. It was utterly absurd. They spent time and money to come to the beach for NYE, and group activities every day, and they're on their phones. They're even texting each other in group chat.

I reluctantly go for my partner's sake (he's one of the worst offenders, looking at instagram and what's basically wish.com), but I know how to suck it up and be sociable even though I'd rather be reading with my drink on the beach, alone. I waited 6 months for this book to be available, dammit!

I simply do not understand.

[dochas]

Dec 30, 2023 19:54:19 GMT -5 Susie said:

Dec 29, 2023 22:51:33 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

My SIL is a beige mom. The whole house (including kids rooms) is off white. The children are dressed exclusively in creams and browns.

The other day she posted “wooden toys just hit different.”

Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how?  I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!).  I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.

They don't let them do what they want. The clothes are purchased for them, outfits chosen for them (no graphic tees for you!). They have no autonomy or chance to make decisions about the things that are on and around them.

[Susie]

Dec 31, 2023 10:38:07 GMT -5 dochas said:

Dec 30, 2023 19:54:19 GMT -5 Susie said:

Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how?  I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!).  I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.

They don't let them do what they want. The clothes are purchased for them, outfits chosen for them (no graphic tees for you!). They have no autonomy or chance to make decisions about the things that are on and around them.

Yeah, I get that... but I am still sort of amazed.  I buy my kids' clothes without their input, although I do give them "keep or return" input.  (I know their tastes pretty well and buy accordingly, and at 4 and 8 this works better than trying to take them shopping.). Often even after saying keep, my kids will refuse to wear various items.  When the 4yo runs out of pants he likes, tantrums ensue rather than just wearing the elastic waist cords that are in the drawer, and that he himself said were ok to keep.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  So I get the theory, just not so much the practice.

[ellipses84]

Cruises. I don’t understand why you would want to be trapped on a hunk of steel in the middle of the ocean, sleeping in a tiny room with mediocre food and tons of people around all the time. I can understand an AI for an easy relaxing vacation especially with a large group, but a cruise sounds like the worst parts of it to me. You could be travelling the world, seeing amazing cities and having authentic experiences. The excursions sound ok, but the stress and crowds getting on and off the ship do not. I’m a self-proclaimed landlubber who has never been on a cruise and I’ve promised DH I’ll try a short cruise some day because he thinks I’ll like it more than I think I will.

[quesyrah]

Dec 31, 2023 11:24:19 GMT -5 ellipses84 said:

Cruises. I don’t understand why you would want to be trapped on a hunk of steel in the middle of the ocean, sleeping in a tiny room with mediocre food and tons of people around all the time. I can understand an AI for an easy relaxing vacation especially with a large group, but a cruise sounds like the worst parts of it to me. You could be travelling the world, seeing amazing cities and having authentic experiences. The excursions sound ok, but the stress and crowds getting on and off the ship do not. I’m a self-proclaimed landlubber who has never been on a cruise and I’ve promised DH I’ll try a short cruise some day because he thinks I’ll like it more than I think I will.

Cruises aren’t for everyone.

DH and I cruised several times before kids. We recently took them on a cruise and it was….just okay. We all actually got bored quite a bit and spent more time in our cabin than I had expected. We had been looking forward to it for so long that I don’t think any of us wanted to actually say we thought it was just “meh.” But I was really surprised that we didn’t like it as much as we used to.