Post by basilosaurus on Dec 31, 2023 4:30:10 GMT -5
People who go out as a group to a restaurant or bar and spend the entire time on their phones.
Last night was a group of 8, all but 2 of us traveled from another state, 5 people on their phones in between ordering and eating. It was utterly absurd. They spent time and money to come to the beach for NYE, and group activities every day, and they're on their phones. They're even texting each other in group chat.
I reluctantly go for my partner's sake (he's one of the worst offenders, looking at instagram and what's basically wish.com), but I know how to suck it up and be sociable even though I'd rather be reading with my drink on the beach, alone. I waited 6 months for this book to be available, dammit!
My SIL is a beige mom. The whole house (including kids rooms) is off white. The children are dressed exclusively in creams and browns.
The other day she posted “wooden toys just hit different.”
Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how? I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!). I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.
They don't let them do what they want. The clothes are purchased for them, outfits chosen for them (no graphic tees for you!). They have no autonomy or chance to make decisions about the things that are on and around them.
TikTok - it’s so aggressive, the way it just starts playing videos at you the second you open it. Besides, all the content makes its way to Instagram eventually anyways.
Related to TikTok - reels where people are just dancing and there are completely unrelated words scrolling. What is the purpose of this dance?
“New” slang - mid, simp, bet
Simp riles me up. Just a way to shit on men who treat us like humans.
Not that it would be my goal to do this, but ... how? I have one that wants to dress in all the pink and purple available, and another who wants exclusively graphic tees with construction equipment or Star Wars characters on them, and sweat pants only (no hard pants!). I sincerely don't get how beige moms achieve it past the age of about 2 or 3.
They don't let them do what they want. The clothes are purchased for them, outfits chosen for them (no graphic tees for you!). They have no autonomy or chance to make decisions about the things that are on and around them.
Yeah, I get that... but I am still sort of amazed. I buy my kids' clothes without their input, although I do give them "keep or return" input. (I know their tastes pretty well and buy accordingly, and at 4 and 8 this works better than trying to take them shopping.). Often even after saying keep, my kids will refuse to wear various items. When the 4yo runs out of pants he likes, tantrums ensue rather than just wearing the elastic waist cords that are in the drawer, and that he himself said were ok to keep. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ So I get the theory, just not so much the practice.
Post by ellipses84 on Dec 31, 2023 11:24:19 GMT -5
Cruises. I don’t understand why you would want to be trapped on a hunk of steel in the middle of the ocean, sleeping in a tiny room with mediocre food and tons of people around all the time. I can understand an AI for an easy relaxing vacation especially with a large group, but a cruise sounds like the worst parts of it to me. You could be travelling the world, seeing amazing cities and having authentic experiences. The excursions sound ok, but the stress and crowds getting on and off the ship do not. I’m a self-proclaimed landlubber who has never been on a cruise and I’ve promised DH I’ll try a short cruise some day because he thinks I’ll like it more than I think I will.
Cruises. I don’t understand why you would want to be trapped on a hunk of steel in the middle of the ocean, sleeping in a tiny room with mediocre food and tons of people around all the time. I can understand an AI for an easy relaxing vacation especially with a large group, but a cruise sounds like the worst parts of it to me. You could be travelling the world, seeing amazing cities and having authentic experiences. The excursions sound ok, but the stress and crowds getting on and off the ship do not. I’m a self-proclaimed landlubber who has never been on a cruise and I’ve promised DH I’ll try a short cruise some day because he thinks I’ll like it more than I think I will.
Cruises aren’t for everyone.
DH and I cruised several times before kids. We recently took them on a cruise and it was….just okay. We all actually got bored quite a bit and spent more time in our cabin than I had expected. We had been looking forward to it for so long that I don’t think any of us wanted to actually say we thought it was just “meh.” But I was really surprised that we didn’t like it as much as we used to.
DH and I have never been on a cruise but we both have a strong feeling that we wouldn’t like them. Neither of us like crowds of people. We can tolerate them- we lived in NYC but it’s not relaxing for us. We are very independent and like to do our own thing, hop in a car and go. We might do it once in our lifetime to say we did. But I think we would get ancy.
They don't let them do what they want. The clothes are purchased for them, outfits chosen for them (no graphic tees for you!). They have no autonomy or chance to make decisions about the things that are on and around them.
Yeah, I get that... but I am still sort of amazed. I buy my kids' clothes without their input, although I do give them "keep or return" input. (I know their tastes pretty well and buy accordingly, and at 4 and 8 this works better than trying to take them shopping.). Often even after saying keep, my kids will refuse to wear various items. When the 4yo runs out of pants he likes, tantrums ensue rather than just wearing the elastic waist cords that are in the drawer, and that he himself said were ok to keep. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ So I get the theory, just not so much the practice.
Yea. My DD has had very strong opinions about clothes (and could fully undress herself before age 2). We went on a vacation to a beach house where I packed outfits extended family had bought her (they were with us) that she had refused to wear previously. I figured if they were the only option she would wear them (she was 2 years 1 month). Joke was on me as I ended up having to keep washing the one outfit she did like. I mean I could have forced her in to the clothes, but she would have stripped naked after the tantrum that would have ensued while dressing her.
This. Also, having more than 1 drink does not make me non functional either but that's from years of practice lol.
And mofongo -- I get it! And I am kind of jealous, to be honest. But I am such a lightweight that I can really only drink one or two, and the trade off isn't worth it to me.
Maybe me or my kids are broken, but I can literally not imagine a scenario where I would choose to be with them 24/7. I am fascinated that there are people who desire this lifestyle, to the point I truly think I'm missing something. I cannot comprehend.
Maybe me or my kids are broken, but I can literally not imagine a scenario where I would choose to be with them 24/7. I am fascinated that there are people who desire this lifestyle, to the point I truly think I'm missing something. I cannot comprehend.
Oh man, I loved being an SAHM. I still miss the freedom a lot. After early childhood, which was fun and busy, I had six hours to myself every day. Thirty six hours a week to do whatever I wanted. It was awesome. I think I aged a lot less than most of my working friends.
Maybe me or my kids are broken, but I can literally not imagine a scenario where I would choose to be with them 24/7. I am fascinated that there are people who desire this lifestyle, to the point I truly think I'm missing something. I cannot comprehend.
Oh man, I loved being an SAHM. I still miss the freedom a lot. After early childhood, which was fun and busy, I had six hours to myself every day. Thirty six hours a week to do whatever I wanted. It was awesome. I think I aged a lot less than most of my working friends.
I hadn't even THOUGHT about the school years! That does sound magical for sure.
But that's not 24/7 togetherness. I'm so far stuck in early childhood that it feels like a very painful life sentence to which there will be no end (which is impossible, given the liner progression of time).
Oh man, I loved being an SAHM. I still miss the freedom a lot. After early childhood, which was fun and busy, I had six hours to myself every day. Thirty six hours a week to do whatever I wanted. It was awesome. I think I aged a lot less than most of my working friends.
I hadn't even THOUGHT about the school years! That does sound magical for sure.
But that's not 24/7 togetherness. I'm so far stuck in early childhood that it feels like a very painful life sentence to which there will be no end (which is impossible, given the liner progression of time).
I never desired it either. I really crave a world that's mine, which is my job.
This thread has made me realize that all of my closest friends are very successful working moms and they have never once said to me the whole "I could NEVER be a SAHM" spiel and that has made me love and appreciate them even more! We just support each other.
Seriously! My kid (and ever kid I have met) acts like she is dying if she goes 10 minutes without water. I got an email one day that I didn’t send a water bottle to school that they gave her a cup but that the kids should all have a water bottle daily. So odd. We were never allowed water bottles when I was in school. I told my child when she was coming she would die of thirst that I remember getting a 3 sec drink of water at school 1-2 times a day, and having a bottle of water like two times on long hot touristy vacations that were still barely touched. I drink water as an adult at times, but don’t feel the need to carry it around with me.
Re: school- are they allowed to drink from the fountains? Since covid my son's school allows bottle refills only still, no mouths
Yes, they can. The fountains are open and available for drinks anytime.
I don't understand why there are still funeral processions. In my area it is common to see them on highways and interstates due to the area. They also hire private security that blocks traffic. They also go super slow...like below the speed limits. I would never, ever want my family to do this when I die. And no one seems to want to pass them either even when there are multiple lanes. Exceptions would be for public figures, etc.
same here. They started actually when people walked to the cemetery! I feel like they are unnecessary. We have ways to find out how to get to the cemetery!
I do see the point about finding the actual grave site - cemeteries are hard to navigate. But I would think there are ways to deal with that issue without creating a long, slow line of cars from the funeral home that cause traffic issues.
Larger cemeteries can have 5 or more graveside services at a time.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jan 2, 2024 22:12:46 GMT -5
Making running ones entire personality. I don’t care if today is a long day, short run day, how soon until your 15th marathon is, or what your recovery drink is :-). If you ever see me running, get moving, something is chasing me
What dumb thing do you not understand people doing/having that is completely fine in all ways except your personal preference?
If someone says making dumb polls, you're going on the spreadsheet.
Mine: People crocheting temperature blankets. I don't see the point, but I think they're ok.
The only one I know that made one lived in Florida. Not sure the point when temps don't change drastically.
I had to look it up (and now have all sorts of ads so thanks for that), and I certainly had that thought.There are days there when it might drop 20 degrees and stay quite cool for a few days especially in the north, so there could be a fare amount of blues during the "winter" months, even in the south. But, it would be predominately red.
Year round where I am it's usually no cooler than 78 and no hotter than 95. Mostly it's solid 80s daily. My blanket would be monocrome. Florida is downright crazy in comparison.
Oh wow, our last cruise was the Panama Canal and there is no other way I would have ever seen or gone through it. But it was a smaller ship and I never felt crowded. But we also spent a good chunk of time at the pool, in a quieter area, drinking and watching the movies they played on a jumbo screen.
This is striking me as airing of the grievances, and I am here for it in my post holiday “don’t want to work” haze.
1. Kids travel sports. Why do you want to spend every weekend driving up and down the east coast for middle school basketball? Do you think your kid is going to go pro? What about the other kids in the family? And they miss so much school! And have ruined sports for kids, in general.
2. Vegas. Never in a million years do I want to go there.
3. Taylor Swift. I am so sick of Taylor. What’s the draw? And now people are watching football because she might be in a box watching a game?! I just don’t get it.
4. Disney in general. We went once because I had a work trip. The most miserable place on earth for the highest cost. Anywhere but Disney!
1. Kids travel sports. Why do you want to spend every weekend driving up and down the east coast for middle school basketball? Do you think your kid is going to go pro? What about the other kids in the family? And they miss so much school! And have ruined sports for kids, in general.
I think on the first page, someone commented about kids sports in general. My main thought to that one post was that unfortunately, if your kid wants to play sports - the culture around it is crazy and we all have to deal with some of that craziness if our kids want to play sports. It sucks. I hate where kids sports has gone.
But to your point - TRAVEL sports? That's a whole other level than just local rec and/or club teams! DS has friends who are on travel teams and he says how he's jealous, he wants to go to these other locations, etc. Um.... kid, if you want to go on VACATION, we can't play travel sports!
Plus- sports have now basically ruined practically every holiday week/ weekend now! There is no holiday that is sacred anymore. Even if not played ON the day, there are tournaments surrounding 4th of July, Memorial Day, Christmas, New Years....
This thread has made me realize that all of my closest friends are very successful working moms and they have never once said to me the whole "I could NEVER be a SAHM" spiel and that has made me love and appreciate them even more! We just support each other.
I want your friends. I stayed home for the first two years when Big Kid was born. My "best friend" at the time was constantly telling me I needed to go back to work. To be fair, staying home was horrible for my mental health, but she was so unsupportive. We no longer talk, which is a somewhat longer story and vent but the last straw was her saying she was hurt that I told my husband and the father of my children that I was pregnant with Little Kid before I told her. I was done at that point.
1. Kids travel sports. Why do you want to spend every weekend driving up and down the east coast for middle school basketball? Do you think your kid is going to go pro? What about the other kids in the family? And they miss so much school! And have ruined sports for kids, in general.
I think on the first page, someone commented about kids sports in general. My main thought to that one post was that unfortunately, if your kid wants to play sports - the culture around it is crazy and we all have to deal with some of that craziness if our kids want to play sports. It sucks. I hate where kids sports has gone.
But to your point - TRAVEL sports? That's a whole other level than just local rec and/or club teams! DS has friends who are on travel teams and he says how he's jealous, he wants to go to these other locations, etc. Um.... kid, if you want to go on VACATION, we can't play travel sports!
Plus- sports have now basically ruined practically every holiday week/ weekend now! There is no holiday that is sacred anymore. Even if not played ON the day, there are tournaments surrounding 4th of July, Memorial Day, Christmas, New Years....
For sure. DD loves softball but I think she is going to give it up because there are no good options. It’s either make it your whole life and travel on school breaks and play tournaments every weekend and spend all the money until you burn out OR it’s play a 6 week rec season where the only goal is to learn the sport. Once you’re no longer a beginner there is zero middle ground.
1. Kids travel sports. Why do you want to spend every weekend driving up and down the east coast for middle school basketball? Do you think your kid is going to go pro? What about the other kids in the family? And they miss so much school! And have ruined sports for kids, in general.
I think on the first page, someone commented about kids sports in general. My main thought to that one post was that unfortunately, if your kid wants to play sports - the culture around it is crazy and we all have to deal with some of that craziness if our kids want to play sports. It sucks. I hate where kids sports has gone.
But to your point - TRAVEL sports? That's a whole other level than just local rec and/or club teams! DS has friends who are on travel teams and he says how he's jealous, he wants to go to these other locations, etc. Um.... kid, if you want to go on VACATION, we can't play travel sports!
Plus- sports have now basically ruined practically every holiday week/ weekend now! There is no holiday that is sacred anymore. Even if not played ON the day, there are tournaments surrounding 4th of July, Memorial Day, Christmas, New Years....
I hate that kids sports are on Saturdays. I literally cannot find a Sunday league. My kids go to a Saturday language school and it causes DRAMA with sports. Why does every league need to be Saturday? Harumph.
I think on the first page, someone commented about kids sports in general. My main thought to that one post was that unfortunately, if your kid wants to play sports - the culture around it is crazy and we all have to deal with some of that craziness if our kids want to play sports. It sucks. I hate where kids sports has gone.
But to your point - TRAVEL sports? That's a whole other level than just local rec and/or club teams! DS has friends who are on travel teams and he says how he's jealous, he wants to go to these other locations, etc. Um.... kid, if you want to go on VACATION, we can't play travel sports!
Plus- sports have now basically ruined practically every holiday week/ weekend now! There is no holiday that is sacred anymore. Even if not played ON the day, there are tournaments surrounding 4th of July, Memorial Day, Christmas, New Years....
For sure. DD loves softball but I think she is going to give it up because there are no good options. It’s either make it your whole life and travel on school breaks and play tournaments every weekend and spend all the money until you burn out OR it’s play a 6 week rec season where the only goal is to learn the sport. Once you’re no longer a beginner there is zero middle ground.
My daughter had regular high school varsity practice on New Years Day. And the players are barred from travel for December vacation (tournament) and Feb vacation (playoffs), which I think is BS if the school is closed. We are already so limited due to school breaks.
Anyway, both my kids are two sport athletes who haven’t done club teams. I think there’s this idea that you have to be to compete, and you don’t. You may not be the best on the team, but multi-sport and giving your body rest are good for you when you are growing. And our goal is to have a well-rounded, healthy childhood, not to go pro or seek an athletic scholarship.