Ok that makes sense, I guess just in a perfect world you really shouldn't have too say "your a-hole kid damaged my house, so now no kids are welcome". Maybe I'm overthinking it but I'd be worry about a rumor mill "glw said <insert whoever's kid> caused damage to her house" or glw getting backlash for saying the other parents kid did damage as mentioned above that precious would never do that.
I disagree. She doesn't have to say which kid damaged her house, but she also shouldn't have to lie and pretend the kids didn't damage her house. If someone pushes back on the no kids policy, they should know the truth. If they get mad about it, they're being an asshole.
And it was probably their kid that did the damage.
My MIL and SIL were only here for about 36 hours, and somehow our entire guest bathroom is covered in spilled lotion. OMG. It happened sometime yesterday and there was no attempt at cleaning it up (which means it was my MIL) and my H wiped it up, but really it just got smeared everywhere.
Are you sure it wasn't kids from my party? lol
Ha! My MIL is basically an oversized toddler. She pouts and works herself up in 80-year-old lady tantrums.
omg Nonny , what a mess! Is there some mental illness/issue going on that there was no attempt to clean it up?
No, it's just a combo of her being old, maybe some extra tiredness caused by her cancer, but mostly just a general obliviousness to messes. She's always been a bit of a Pigpen type when it comes to housekeeping (this is per my H reflecting on his childhood).
Once, many, many years ago, she once told me that I kept my house too clean, and that a person couldn't even spill anything without someone noticing.
donutsmakemegonuts , I do not understand people who let their dogs bark and bark and bark, and I'm a dog person! The minute Anna would start barking we'd be bringing her in (except if she was barking at solicitors, then she was just doing her job).
This is where I'm at too. I have a dog! Of course she barks! She barks at rabbits, squirrels, people she doesn't know, etc. but she never ever barks to come in the house. And if she did, I would let her in immediately. It would annoy me to hear her out there! It would make me think, hey! If I'm annoyed by my own dog, maybe my neighbors might be! I don't get it. These dogs are literally barking at the their back door, never at the fence line or anywhere else.
donutsmakemegonuts, I do not understand people who let their dogs bark and bark and bark, and I'm a dog person! The minute Anna would start barking we'd be bringing her in (except if she was barking at solicitors, then she was just doing her job).
I don’t get it either. Our old neighbors backyard and living room with sliding glass door backed ours. He’d leave his dog outside for hours barking and we could see above the fence that he was home with the lights going on/off and tv glow. If we are sitting here trying to watch tv and being driven crazy by it, how is he ignoring it?!!
This weekend I went back to IL for a friend's 50th bday party and then had lots of lunch and dinner visits with old friends over the course of 4 days - It was EXACTLY what I needed for my soul.
Except my old ass body is struggling today, hard core. I feel like I could sleep for 48 hours straight.
Oh! A thought just occurred to me! spindle92, you should have donutsmakemegonuts write a note to your leaf blower neighbor and deliver it in the middle of the night!!!
Oh! A thought just occurred to me! spindle92 , you should have donutsmakemegonuts write a note to your leaf blower neighbor and deliver it in the middle of the night!!!
Does this make me a judgmental asshole? I know this person who posted on FB that she and her H were celebrating their 19th wedding anniversary and gushed about how happy they are and how she still remembers the day they met along with pics from their wedding and then one of them at a fancy dinner. Only the problem is about 9-10 yrs into their marriage she cheated on him, had a baby with the other guy and lived with him for 5 1/2 years before she went back to her “H.” I think they got remarried recently at the courthouse but I’m not positive. I don’t know, I just find it weird to say you’ve been married that long when you haven’t and it’s not like you just took a break, you had a kid and lived with the kids dad for more than 1/4 of your “marriage.”
Does this make me a judgmental asshole? I know this person who posted on FB that she and her H were celebrating their 19th wedding anniversary and gushed about how happy they are and how she still remembers the day they met along with pics from their wedding and then one of them at a fancy dinner. Only the problem is about 9-10 yrs into their marriage she cheated on him, had a baby with the other guy and lived with him for 5 1/2 years before she went back to her “H.” I think they got remarried recently at the courthouse but I’m not positive. I don’t know, I just find it weird to say you’ve been married that long when you haven’t and it’s not like you just took a break, you had a kid and lived with the kids dad for more than 1/4 of your “marriage.”
If she said they were celebrating their 19th wedding anniversary, that is correct. She didn't say that they had been married all 19 years...
But I find the people that gush the most on SM are trying not only to convince others that they are happy, but to convince themselves of the same thing.
I need something better for my kid for shampoo/conditioner (almost 11). She's been using Dove, but she doesn't think it's cleaning very well. We are mixing in a clarifying shampoo as puberty is coming and her hair is a bit more oily.
Preferably something at Target? She seems to go through it faster than I would assume. (And yes, I do check she's doing a decent job shampooing.)
I buy the Kristen Ess clarifying shampoo and both DS and I use it. DS uses it daily and I use it every time I wash my hair (every 2-3 days) as a first cleanse and then a second wash with either amika or Redken
Post by soccermama on Mar 19, 2024 16:05:18 GMT -5
H seriously pissed me off this morning and I'm still mad about it. It put a black cloud over my entire day in which I think I would've been in a decent mood if that hadn't happened.
Then, he texted to ask an (unimportant) question a little while ago and he is definitely not getting an answer from me. Not unless he thinks through his life choices and I hear an apology pretty soon.....
donutsmakemegonuts , I do not understand people who let their dogs bark and bark and bark, and I'm a dog person! The minute Anna would start barking we'd be bringing her in (except if she was barking at solicitors, then she was just doing her job).
This is where I'm at too. I have a dog! Of course she barks! She barks at rabbits, squirrels, people she doesn't know, etc. but she never ever barks to come in the house. And if she did, I would let her in immediately. It would annoy me to hear her out there! It would make me think, hey! If I'm annoyed by my own dog, maybe my neighbors might be! I don't get it. These dogs are literally barking at the their back door, never at the fence line or anywhere else.
I also agree with all of this. The inconsideration of some people just continues to astound me. We have neighbors that have two smaller dogs & they definitely have their moments of leaving them out in the yard too long and those dogs will just keep on barking!! It is super annoying. The neighbors have admitted that they never really trained their dogs in any manner so I think that contributes to the problem.
Remember a week or so ago when I said that as the person running our office's (85% women) March Madness pool, I was switching it to the women's bracket this year?
My comms/delivery was top notch. Excitement, pics of LSU team getting the trophy last year, pic of Caitlyn Clark and also one of our local women's bball team that got a good seed in the bracket. It talked about the historic momentum for women's sports, CC's record, record-breaking viewership, etc.
People signed up---and the one person who dared reply to share "concern" about how this would be "confusing for some people because we always play on the men's bracket"----OUR MALE VP. Off course.
I replied with a "Ohhh, Todd. I can see how that could be confusing. You may have missed the first intro email, so I'm reforwarding. Best of luck with your bracket!" when I really wanted to roll my eyes and be all "ooooh, is this too hard to comprehend, Todd? That seems unlikely since you're in the C-suite" but I didn't.
My new job doesn't have a ncaa pool. I suggested the women's erg group do one for three women's tournament only and it's gotten fun feedback.
Ok that makes sense, I guess just in a perfect world you really shouldn't have too say "your a-hole kid damaged my house, so now no kids are welcome". Maybe I'm overthinking it but I'd be worry about a rumor mill "glw said <insert whoever's kid> caused damage to her house" or glw getting backlash for saying the other parents kid did damage as mentioned above that precious would never do that.
I disagree. She doesn't have to say which kid damaged her house, but she also shouldn't have to lie and pretend the kids didn't damage her house. If someone pushes back on the no kids policy, they should know the truth. If they get mad about it, they're being an asshole.
ETA: This is bringing back memories. Before we had kids, we had a housewarming party for our new house, which was a new construction and brand new. A bunch of friends brought their kids (we were dumb and didn't think to say not to bring kids). OMG they did so much damage. One kid pulled down the shower curtain rod in our master bathroom, which scratched the wall and chipped a wood molding. Another kid ran their plastic cars all over our newly painted walls and left black marks all over them. They were running all over and damaged a lot of stuff. I was so upset, but it was my own fault, it was the first big party we had ever had and I had no idea. That was the first and last big party I ever hosted at our house. Even now that I have kids, I won't have a lot of kids at our house unless its warm enough to send them outside. Oh and the parents saw the damage their kids did and most gave a half assed "sorry" and that was it.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Mar 19, 2024 18:23:22 GMT -5
I don't expect anyone to plan things around my kids.
But.
If you don't want people to miss your event because they have kids, you do kind of have to assume the risk that kids are going to be kids, especially when there are a lot of them.
I hope your event goes well, and you have the party you want this year :-)
I was picking DS (7) up from his after school program today. One of his first grade classmates was walking down the sidewalk and saw him in my car, with the window rolled down, and she yells into the window "why are you in a car seat?!" He's in a high back booster because uh, hes 7, and you're supposed to still be in something, no? He's also small so he'll probably be in one forever. Anyway he yelled back "It's a BOOSTER, not a car seat!" and the whole interaction cracked me up.
I was watching this thread grow all day, while simultaneously thinking “where is todays randoms?” Bcause my brain did not compute it was one Tuesday. Even thoigh Tuesday is my office day, so I was sitting in the office, reading on my phone. It took me far too long to internalize today was Tuesday.
I was picking DS (7) up from his after school program today. One of his first grade classmates was walking down the sidewalk and saw him in my car, with the window rolled down, and she yells into the window "why are you in a car seat?!" He's in a high back booster because uh, hes 7, and you're supposed to still be in something, no? He's also small so he'll probably be in one forever. Anyway he yelled back "It's a BOOSTER, not a car seat!" and the whole interaction cracked me up.
My kids are tiny, and both were in boosters until they turned 12 years old and were in 5th grade (which is the 1st year of middle school here). They were both pretty mortified at that point, because a lot of their friends were sitting in the front seat regularly at that point even though they technically started doing that way too early. It's been my experience that people either REALLY follow car seat rules, or REALLY don't.
I was picking DS (7) up from his after school program today. One of his first grade classmates was walking down the sidewalk and saw him in my car, with the window rolled down, and she yells into the window "why are you in a car seat?!" He's in a high back booster because uh, hes 7, and you're supposed to still be in something, no? He's also small so he'll probably be in one forever. Anyway he yelled back "It's a BOOSTER, not a car seat!" and the whole interaction cracked me up.
My kids are tiny, and both were in boosters until they turned 12 years old and were in 5th grade (which is the 1st year of middle school here). They were both pretty mortified at that point, because a lot of their friends were sitting in the front seat regularly at that point even though they technically started doing that way too early. It's been my experience that people either REALLY follow car seat rules, or REALLY don't.
Yeah, I suspect my DS is also going to be embarrassed by being in some kind of seat forever, too, and it will become a thing. This is fairly rural central PA, so I'm not real surprised that a lot of families don't follow the rules, lol.
I explained to him that everyone his age should really be in a booster or car seat at this point but we won't judge other families or point it out.That should go well for him, who loves to point out when people aren't following rules haha.
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 20, 2024 9:09:00 GMT -5
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This thread reminded me of two party issues with kids/pets. We had a "soft" house warming if you will, about a month after we moved in with a small group. One of our good friend (married couple) brought their dog as they were still training. They asked ahead of time, and the dog was well behaved, but they brought the cage along with a LOT of stuff outside of maybe a water bowl and some food. Sadly said dog has been rehomed (ugh). We later had a formal, big housewarming, and our pretty new, very expensive hammock was ruined. A parent sat in the hammock with their kid and maybe another kid. Other parents didn't care if the hammock was basically a playground for the kids. I'm sure there was other stuff I've blocked out. After all that I change my answer that yes you can call out bad kid behavior when it causes physical damage to your house.
ETA: DH was suuuper pissed about the hammock because we both worked a LOT of OT to save up for a deck set that year, and had enough to get the hammock with Kohls cash from the deck set purchase. We were so busy that day we didn't have time to look out in the yard and see everyone playing, but that also seemed like a quick "hey kid get off the hammock". We've since learned to put things away we don't want getting damaged.
rubytue , my week is all off too. I got home from a long drive visit last night and had to reaaaally remind myself it was only Tuesday night. I will continue to blame DST that it's taking way longer to adjust this year.
Finally, I've had some luck with Tea Tree oil I forget the brand, it's a green bottle and/or Suave clarifing shampoo when my hair gets really greasy. I just have to be careful not to use either of them every day as it really dries out the top of my head.
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 20, 2024 9:21:13 GMT -5
litskispeciality what did they do to ruin a hammock? Stain it? Break it? That really stinks and that an adult was there witnessing it? They suck! I have zero problem letting a parent know their kid broke/damaged something especially when parents was aware kid was doing things they'd likely not allow at home. Niece and nephew from DH's side broke the light globe on our porches ceiling fan and just walked away. Nope. I told DH I wanted it replaced and he took care of calling BIL, pretty sure he and SIL were aware and just went home like all was well.
My kids are tiny, and both were in boosters until they turned 12 years old and were in 5th grade (which is the 1st year of middle school here). They were both pretty mortified at that point, because a lot of their friends were sitting in the front seat regularly at that point even though they technically started doing that way too early. It's been my experience that people either REALLY follow car seat rules, or REALLY don't.
Yeah, I suspect my DS is also going to be embarrassed by being in some kind of seat forever, too, and it will become a thing. This is fairly rural central PA, so I'm not real surprised that a lot of families don't follow the rules, lol.
I explained to him that everyone his age should really be in a booster or car seat at this point but we won't judge other families or point it out.That should go well for him, who loves to point out when people aren't following rules haha.
I finally did away with the booster this year, in 6th grade, much to DS’s relief. He was tall enough but still hasn’t broken 80lbs. He tends to slouch so it does make me a little nervous, but I didn’t want to mortify him in middle school. (I’m fully aware I’m overprotective lol.)
Yeah, I suspect my DS is also going to be embarrassed by being in some kind of seat forever, too, and it will become a thing. This is fairly rural central PA, so I'm not real surprised that a lot of families don't follow the rules, lol.
I explained to him that everyone his age should really be in a booster or car seat at this point but we won't judge other families or point it out.That should go well for him, who loves to point out when people aren't following rules haha.
I finally did away with the booster this year, in 6th grade, much to DS’s relief. He was tall enough but still hasn’t broken 80lbs. He tends to slouch so it does make me a little nervous, but I didn’t want to mortify him in middle school. (I’m fully aware I’m overprotective lol.)
80 pounds? I was in high school with a learner's permit before I hit that number, although I had long surpassed gramma in height.
My kids are tiny, and both were in boosters until they turned 12 years old and were in 5th grade (which is the 1st year of middle school here). They were both pretty mortified at that point, because a lot of their friends were sitting in the front seat regularly at that point even though they technically started doing that way too early. It's been my experience that people either REALLY follow car seat rules, or REALLY don't.
Yeah, I suspect my DS is also going to be embarrassed by being in some kind of seat forever, too, and it will become a thing. This is fairly rural central PA, so I'm not real surprised that a lot of families don't follow the rules, lol.
I explained to him that everyone his age should really be in a booster or car seat at this point but we won't judge other families or point it out.That should go well for him, who loves to point out when people aren't following rules haha.
My tiny 7 year old only recently moved out of a 5-point harness so I'm right here with you lol.
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 20, 2024 10:36:33 GMT -5
maudefindlay, We had a nice free standing hammock in a metal frame that had a netted hammock with a cover over it if that makes sense. The hammock was so worn down from too much weight we couldn't use the netting and had to buy another one. The metal frame has always been pretty loose after that too. Thankfully we've found these cloth, sort of rug ones, that are a lot cheaper, but not as great a feel. I should have said something after the party, but we don't see that friend group much...sadly because the husband is a creepy controlling douche. Ironically they came to our BBQ last year and the controlling husband/dad was pretty mad we didn't have a ton of kids at the party and their (now) teenagers were bored. We offered the kids to play 19 different video game systems, we had food and a big back yard. I would have said something to the mom ahead of time about not having a lot of kids there (ok if they don't want to come), but they almost never attend our party, and the year prior the mom was "allowed" to go by herself. Honestly I see why people don't want to host parties, no matter what you do someone isn't happy (plus the cost, time etc.)