Post by lavenderblue on Mar 19, 2024 7:01:59 GMT -5
fangoriagurkel, and I'm side eyeing both of you LOL Yours isn't that bad, I just can't do raisin bread
Just waiting on the final approval from the underwriters, but it looks like I'll be going to settlement on my refi on Thursday. I'm so excited to own 35% of my house all by myself
fangoriagurkel, and I'm side eyeing both of you LOL Yours isn't that bad, I just can't do raisin bread
Just waiting on the final approval from the underwriters, but it looks like I'll be going to settlement on my refi on Thursday. I'm so excited to own 35% of my house all by myself
I blame the migraine, but what does owning 35% of the house mean?
fangoriagurkel , and I'm side eyeing both of you LOL Yours isn't that bad, I just can't do raisin bread
Just waiting on the final approval from the underwriters, but it looks like I'll be going to settlement on my refi on Thursday. I'm so excited to own 35% of my house all by myself
I blame the migraine, but what does owning 35% of the house mean?
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 19, 2024 7:14:37 GMT -5
DH left at 4am for the airport. He'll be in Mexico thru Saturday for work. I'll keep up with the necessary tasks, but a whole lot is falling by the wayside this week. Hello couch, movies, and online shopping.
My parents tagged along with the kids and I for DS's birthday dinner out, which was nice because of course they fussed over him (and they paid, lol), but my dad always just makes everything such a production and it's kind of draining. Just no spatial awareness (kept poking me in the arm with his chopsticks while he was eating- I was about to stab him with my own, reaching across the table and dragging his sleeve through other people's food), asking the poor waitress a million questions about GF noodle options when most of the menu is rice-based, etc. He's always been at least a little like this in my memory, but man the weirdness seems to be getting more pronounced.
And then my MIL of course made a multiple comments on my FB post for DS's bday, some of which were replies to herself. I deleted some that I deemed off topic ("I love his haircut!" ma'am, that picture is from August). She is 100% why I never post on FB anymore, just xp's from insta on the kids' birthdays and maybe the first day of school.
Why are parents so damn weird? I swear every day there's something else that I tell DD she's allowed to slap me if I ever do it.
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 19, 2024 7:28:43 GMT -5
candreco I hear you on the FB annoyance. I already don't like my SIL and haven't infriended her yet to just keep her drama away as she would point it out and demand a reason like she was being victimized, but if I post multiple photos and she loved every single one again I'm doing it. DH's refrain about her is "Why do we have to explain this to a 50 year old woman?"
candreco I hear you on the FB annoyance. I already don't like my SIL and haven't infriended her yet to just keep her drama away as she would point it out and demand a reason like she was being victimized, but if I post multiple photos and she love tits every single one again I'm doing it. DH's refrain about her is "Why do we have to explain this to a 50 year old woman?"
I'm not sure what you were actually going for, but this is giving me the church giggles.
The amount of growing up my kid has seemed to go through in the last few months is making my momma heart hurt. Yesterday and today she wanted me to curl her hair for school. Today she told me she's going to walk to the bus stop for middle school by herself (which I can see from the front door, but still...).
I went to bed with a headache, woke up with one. Took different meds once I had some breakfast and they seem to be working. I have no motivation today, but need to work on a few boring writing things today.
And then my MIL of course made a multiple comments on my FB post for DS's bday, some of which were replies to herself. I deleted some that I deemed off topic ("I love his haircut!" ma'am, that picture is from August). She is 100% why I never post on FB anymore, just xp's from insta on the kids' birthdays and maybe the first day of school.
I also have really slowed down on sharing on social media. Partially because the kids are older and I am very aware that I am putting their lives out there. But also because of MIL. Say I post a picture of my son at a xc meet. My MIL instantly will just comment "WHERE ARE YOU!" Like, why does it matter? Also you have the schedule, look it up. We are on a course somewhere in the vicinity of where we live lol. Same for restaurants. "WHERE IS THIS." Again, why do you care? It is so awkward and I had to just stop putting us out there because she can't help but ask the most absurd question in the comments. She is also so aggressive with her tone. Lady, calm down. I am not about to tag my location in my social media, chill.
I have had a sore/raw throat for 3 days now. I keep waiting for it to turn into a full blown sickness, but so far, nothing. Fingers crossed. I'm thinking it's because I'm so dry. Like my lips are cracked, nose is dry/bloody and when I wake up my mouth is so dry. I must be mouth breathing more than usual? H said he hasn't noticed me snoring or anything. I have the humidifier going and turned it on high last night.
I'm getting my hair done on Friday and considering cutting it pretty short... like just below my chin type bob. My hair right now is about 3-4 inches past my shoulders. But I've been feeling like it's looking thin and straggly lately. Then I think I might wait till the fall. I don't want to not be able to throw my hair in a bun while on the boat and at the beach this summer. Also, I know this sounds ridiculous, but at 43, I feel like this is my last hurrah with long hair. Like once I chop it, I'll just keep it short the rest of my life. I've never been one to be attached to my hair in any way... I've always cycled between growing it out and having it long for a few years, then chopping it short... rinse, repeat.
Twice in the past three days H has asked if I'm okay because I "seem a little down." I am down. It's pretty much my "normal." I guess I'm not masking it as well as I usually do.
I met my sister and my new baby nephew for lunch this past weekend. He is the cutest most giggly, smiley three month old I've ever met 💗 and his older brother is such a lovable, funny two year old. It seems like she's found some peace and happiness and a supportive community and that makes me so happy for her.
She also updated me on various things going on with my family, and I'm torn between reaching out to help (eldest daughter syndrome 🙄) or protecting my own peace.
Unrelated: I ordered strawberry starts and they arrived yesterday. Just in time for freezing overnight temps 😬 hoping they'll still be viable 🤞 I'm so far behind with the garden this year. I haven't even started any seeds yet 😕
candreco I hear you on the FB annoyance. I already don't like my SIL and haven't infriended her yet to just keep her drama away as she would point it out and demand a reason like she was being victimized, but if I post multiple photos and she love tits every single one again I'm doing it. DH's refrain about her is "Why do we have to explain this to a 50 year old woman?"
I'm not sure what you were actually going for, but this is giving me the church giggles.
It was supposed to be loved. No clue how that happened!
I’m so annoyed with my dad. I asked my mom if she wanted to go to our cottage with me for a few days next week - leaving Thursday afternoon and coming back Sunday morning.
My dad’s immediate response was: 1. You’re going to leave me all alone on Easter?! This is obnoxious because A. My parents don’t celebrate Easter in anyway. No Easter bunny or special meals and B. She’ll be home by lunch.
2. I don’t know if I can handle grandson on my own. It’s my nephew’s spring break and my parents usually watch him while he is not in school but A. Nephew is 14 and while immature he is still largely independent and B. His step mom doesn’t work Fridays and his dad is off on weekends so you are looking at 1/2 day Thursday.
For the love of god, dad you are a fully grown man. You will be fine on your own.
NewGirlNic, I do similar things with my hair. I grow it long and then it feels so...scraggly, or just, blah, so then I do a dramatic cut. I honestly am shocked I have not done it the last two years, it is my MO to do it annually, lol.
And then my MIL of course made a multiple comments on my FB post for DS's bday, some of which were replies to herself. I deleted some that I deemed off topic ("I love his haircut!" ma'am, that picture is from August). She is 100% why I never post on FB anymore, just xp's from insta on the kids' birthdays and maybe the first day of school.
I also have really slowed down on sharing on social media. Partially because the kids are older and I am very aware that I am putting their lives out there. But also because of MIL. Say I post a picture of my son at a xc meet. My MIL instantly will just comment "WHERE ARE YOU!" Like, why does it matter? Also you have the schedule, look it up. We are on a course somewhere in the vicinity of where we live lol. Same for restaurants. "WHERE IS THIS." Again, why do you care? It is so awkward and I had to just stop putting us out there because she can't help but ask the most absurd question in the comments. She is also so aggressive with her tone. Lady, calm down. I am not about to tag my location in my social media, chill.
I'm glad to hear other people have this issue lol. My MIL has tried adding me as a friend for years and I always decline. She brought it up once (like, who does that?!) and I lied and said I never got a request. She hasn't tried again since, so I guess she got the hint. I just didn't need her commenting on EVERY SINGLE THING. There's a reason we only talk to her and FIL once in awhile. They don't need to know our business. I am friends on Facebook with my mom and she is borderline annoying with it, but she has chilled out a little. She does still like every post I make which is funny because I personally save likes/loves/whatever for stuff that really really move the needle for me. She's out here throwing around likes all willynilly lol.
Someone on the way to work cut me off so I flashed my lights at them a few times. She stopped the car. Got out and yelled at me that "don't you dare flash your lights at me". Holy shit. I was terrified. So then I pull into DD to get my coffee and she pulls up to let her teen out (the high schoolers often get dropped there and then walk over to the HS). I saw her through the window while waiting for my coffee and hid behind the drink cooler.
Like holy fuck, lady. You're the one that cut me off!
Post by followyourarrow on Mar 19, 2024 8:19:28 GMT -5
I had to hide FSIL on social media. She makes 5+ posts a day that are either woe is me or faguebooking. My mom responds to my social media posts very positively, but then will call me and complain that she didn't know that we were going to go do something and hint that maybe we're spending too much money.
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Mar 19, 2024 8:24:09 GMT -5
I called the non emergency line last night about my neighbors barking dogs. I had left them a note in their mailbox last week that was a very friendly (I thought) "hey! I know how dogs are blah blah blah, but please be mindful of how long you are leaving your dogs out to bark! Thank you!" and they proceeded to leave them out yesterday from at least 1 pm (maybe earlier but I got home around then for lunch) until 8:30 pm when the officer showed up. It was pretty chilly here yesterday as well, so that probably sucked for them. I don't have any doubts that they are being taken care of, they have a nice fenced in yard and everything, but they bark constantly for hours to be let in to the house. Like literally all they are barking at is the back door to be let in. I don't know how the neighbors actually deal with it themselves. At one point yesterday, it didn't even look like anyone was home (no cars in the driveway like usual) and the poor dogs were still out.
Needless to say, I was an anxious ball of nerves last night. Apparently after I called, the neighbor woman came over to our house and rang the doorbell. I was in the shower after my workout but I saw her on our motion camera. I did not want a confrontation but I guess I'm going to get one.
There's a role opening up at work that I sort of want, but I don't think I'd get it, and I don't think applying is worth the discomfort it could cause. A couple people I work with closely plan to apply, and if one of them gets it, there's no real change to our relationship, as they're both my internal customers and will remain one. But if I were to get it, I'd become their manager, and I think there would be very hard feelings.
I went out with friends Saturday night and ended up paying way more than my fair share: I paid $80 and my own share, including tax and a tip north of 30% would have been $50. In the grand scheme of things, what's $30, and I need to let it go. But it was a pricey place, and I'm not a foodie, so I'd be happier somewhere less expensive, and it's a drag to me. To complicate things further, this was already with the two people who spent much more covering the tip, so they did make some effort to even things up, and I still got the shaft. I began speaking up before thinking through the math, and one of them thought I was trying to pay more, and she said life is too short to worry about a few bucks. I guess she was trying to be generous (assuming she wasn't thinking about how much less my meal cost), but the not worrying ended up with me paying nearly twice what I owed. lol
One of the other women is a close friend of mine and the other two are newer friends to me, but we had such a good time, I can definitely see the four of us getting together more often. I'm having intrusive thoughts about repeatedly subsidizing their fancy meals, and I'm annoyed at myself for dwelling on it. Make it stop!
I have a solo trip to take a class at a museum Fri-Sun. I signed up for it thinking it would be nice weather and on my off times I could walk around the surrounding little towns but it looks like it’s going to be rainy with a low in the low 20s! Oy! Our anniversary is next Monday and normally the weather is pretty nice around then so I was using that as a guide; the museum is not that far away. Aimlessly wandering in 25° weather in the rain is not what I had in mind.
I did sign up for a crochet lesson at a local yarn store to kill some time Friday so at least that will be inside and warm!
I know it will be fine but I was hoping for some nice springy, look at the tulips and trees time!
Pilsy, that sucks so much! I shared in another randoms, but this has been happening to me too with a new group of girl friends. It is making me not want to go out with them. It is really rude and inconsiderate and their "what's a few bucks between friends" is crap when they are ordering much more expensive food than you. It really bugs me too because in my group, the people who don't care about the money and order the most expensive food/multiple drinks are the ones who have much higher HH incomes so sure, it doesn't matter to you, but it does to me.
The advice when I posted was to ask for a separate check in advance and I'm trying to work up the nerve to do that, but I'm still not sure I can. It is too awkward. Instead I'll probably just stop going out with them as much or try to suggest cheaper restaurants (although those don't really exist anymore).
Post by thebreakfastclub on Mar 19, 2024 8:44:27 GMT -5
I think if I was in that group check sharing position, I'd make sure I had cash in $10-20 bills.
So if my total with tip was rounded up to $50, I could just pay my part with that and be done. There is no group activity to figure things out, because I figured out my part, here you go.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Mar 19, 2024 8:48:54 GMT -5
I blocked all of my H’s family on social media after they took us posting pictures of us taking our oldest to see a stage show as permission to take her to see her first movie. I’m usually not like that about that type of stuff, but my mom had very kindly asked permission to take her to see a movie, had it all planned out, and they swooped in and took that away from her. I was my mom’s movie date as a kid, and it was going to be sooo special to her to take her grandkid.
So I blocked them all. And I know it drives them crazy. It has been about a decade now and I sleep very well at night knowing my MIL especially is sad she can’t tag me in posts about Boomer things and see pictures of her grandchildren on demand.
Pilsy, noodleoo, I swear this happens to me every time I go out too. I hate it and it makes me want to avoid going out with people. That shit is expensive now anyway, I don't need to pay for your 3rd margarita!
My ILs (who I do love but who are a lot) are not on social media but I have their emails filtered. They email their two kids and the spouses about five times a day and I just cannot. I figure if it is something important, DH will tell me.