Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
I will say that as someone who doesn’t have step siblings, it seems bizarre in my mind that you haven’t met the mom-to-be and don’t anticipate seeing her or your husbands step brother at any future events. That’s just what sticks out to me in the “why would you invite strangers” aspect of your question of the situation.
She says she’s only seen him 3 times in 23 years so clearly it’s not a close relationship and there either aren’t events they’d both be invited to or they don’t attend them.
They became step siblings as teenagers and the step brother lived with his mom except every other weekend. It’s not surprising they aren’t close imo. That sounds like a situation where they’d both have really work hard to be close and they haven’t.
I can see being invited because people often do invite all extended family to these sort of things and there isn’t a feud but it isn’t an event I’d feel compelled to go to. I’d probably send a card and small gift card and call it a day.
I'd be way more bothered about the hosts requesting diapers, a book, AND a gift. Those add-ons really add up!
Sadly I've seen this become more common over the years. But, at 46 I get invited to fewer baby showers! 🙌🏻
Yeah while baby showers are sort of dying down in my world (for now) I've seen a lot of bring a gift, and 1 - 2 extra items...then the parents to be and/or grandparents complain they got "so many" clothes, or the same size diapers that the kid will outgrow quickly...so...
Getting way off track, but I think those male only diaper parties (aka let's all get together and drink, oh but bring something for the baby so it's a "shower") are becoming more common. Honestly just host co-ed party showers. Skip the games, just eat, maybe open a few gifts, drink if you want and go home, lol.
And I've seen more and more (co-ed) baby showers at breweries. Nothing wrong with that other than the poor mom to be can't have a drink, but I think that would be way more fun than a ladies only thing.
ETA: As far as not seeing your step-sibling much, there are blood relation families who don't see each other much due to a number of reasons including geography and schedules. Step-bonus-whatever families are only that much more complicated. We have a new (great) nephew born right before Christmas that I haven't been able to meet due to my family stuff, however I've still sent gifts. I had no judgement, nor did I even think to question why OP wouldn't see the parents to be...it was just a question do you send a gift for someone you don't plan on seeing?