A school related vent. I'm taking an investments analysis class for my MBA, and it's all online. This class has been the most frustrating experience. The only instruction for the class comes from free MIT videos that are 14 years old. We have a midterm due this week that's proctored online. The professor did not set things up correctly and initially we were unable to use a calculator, scratch paper, a formula sheet etc. A dean had to step in after the professor consistently didn't respond and he was able to set most things up correctly. I tried to take my exam last night and was told I still couldn't use the provided formula sheet and that my calculator was the wrong brand, even though the rules specify it just needs to be a hand held calculator. I rescheduled my exam to today, but today is the last day to take it and I have been unable to get anyone to fix it so that I may take it. I checked into withdrawing, because I'm that frustrated, but it's too late.
Yes, I'm quoting myself. But, update for anyone who cares. I emailed the professor and the dean last night about my issues. The dean replied this morning that he couldn't help me. So I went nuclear, wrote a scathing email, copying everyone I could find, outlining every issue with the class. The dean called me himself and let me know the exam fixed. I take the midterm at 12:30.
Welp, I'm still stuck handwashing dishes :/ Repair person was just here and they have to order a part and because I only WFH one day a week it works best to do it then it will be at least another week before it's fixed.
One of our neighbors is having an estate sale today and I'm surprised how many people were there when it started at 8am! Our whole cul de sac was packed with cars - all round the circle, in the middle of the circle and down the street. Who knew so many people were available on a Thursday morning?!?! I told H I might go over and take a look - not because we need or want anything but mainly because I'm nosy and want to look at the inside of the house. I might try to figure out what they plan to do with the house too - the lady that lived there died and at one point some of her family was going to move in but I don't know if that's still the case. The housing market in my area is hot and it's a ranch which is hard to find in this area so if it goes up it will go fast I'm sure.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Apr 11, 2024 9:31:50 GMT -5
Isn’t this cake fun? My boss surprised me with it yesterday to celebrate my certification. She sent it home for me and the kids. It tasted like food coloring 🤣 but it was such a cute design! I lied and said it was awesome. Hey, even bad cake is better than no cake.
A school related vent. I'm taking an investments analysis class for my MBA, and it's all online. This class has been the most frustrating experience. The only instruction for the class comes from free MIT videos that are 14 years old. We have a midterm due this week that's proctored online. The professor did not set things up correctly and initially we were unable to use a calculator, scratch paper, a formula sheet etc. A dean had to step in after the professor consistently didn't respond and he was able to set most things up correctly. I tried to take my exam last night and was told I still couldn't use the provided formula sheet and that my calculator was the wrong brand, even though the rules specify it just needs to be a hand held calculator. I rescheduled my exam to today, but today is the last day to take it and I have been unable to get anyone to fix it so that I may take it. I checked into withdrawing, because I'm that frustrated, but it's too late.
Yes, I'm quoting myself. But, update for anyone who cares. I emailed the professor and the dean last night about my issues. The dean replied this morning that he couldn't help me. So I went nuclear, wrote a scathing email, copying everyone I could find, outlining every issue with the class. The dean called me himself and let me know the exam fixed. I take the midterm at 12:30.
Kick butt on the exam!! But also make sure you fill out the evaluation at the end of the class. Those are SO important!
I've had this idea for a business for like 4 years, and I'm really starting to feel something churning in me to start making it a reality. Eeee!
It's basically a late-night library that sells alcohol and coffee. Where people can curl up with a glass of wine or a cup of coffee and read a book out in public, in a quiet space where they're around others but don't have to actually interact with them.
I've thought of calling it The Cellar Library. Although just last night I got a hankering for The Nook.
I'm planning to pilot it out of my basement for a while - first just with friends, and then maybe I'll open it up to my neighborhood. Obviously I wouldn't be able to sell anything at that point but I'm hoping it's legal to set out a bucket for donations to help defray the drinks cost. I have an email out to a guy I know who's an instructor for the state law enforcement agency to see if that's okay.
Yesterday, we had our second kids day event. It went well, we ran over about an hour but that enabled us to finish more care. Then DH went out of town mid day, and I had to rush to DS baseball game. Thankfully my parents were able to bring him.
Today, we have a meeting in about 45 mins with DS teacher and the principal about some nonsense going on with the teacher. He’s a long term sub, and this is literally the only time I’ve had an issue that couldn’t be solved easily with a teacher and decent communication. So. We will see how that goes. I know several parents are having issues with him as well.
I wrote up my list of discussion points. I am kind and understanding, but have some clear issues and need answers. Wish us luck!!
I've had this idea for a business for like 4 years, and I'm really starting to feel something churning in me to start making it a reality. Eeee!
It's basically a late-night library that sells alcohol and coffee. Where people can curl up with a glass of wine or a cup of coffee and read a book out in public, in a quiet space where they're around others but don't have to actually interact with them.
I've thought of calling it The Cellar Library. Although just last night I got a hankering for The Nook.
I'm planning to pilot it out of my basement for a while - first just with friends, and then maybe I'll open it up to my neighborhood. Obviously I wouldn't be able to sell anything at that point but I'm hoping it's legal to set out a bucket for donations to help defray the drinks cost. I have an email out to a guy I know who's an instructor for the state law enforcement agency to see if that's okay.
This is a great idea! I've seen some people mention "book clubs" where you talk for the first 30 minutes, then everyone just reads separately and that always sounded like a great idea to me and kinda similar.
BYOB would be great here, with you providing some snacks and other beverages. Keep us updated on how it goes!
Post by slbride2003 on Apr 11, 2024 9:55:22 GMT -5
I am in the doctor’s office waiting room and the number of older patients on speaker phone is making me crazy. Sensory overload. It is so loud in here; I can’t believe they are able to hear their calls.
A school related vent. I'm taking an investments analysis class for my MBA, and it's all online. This class has been the most frustrating experience. The only instruction for the class comes from free MIT videos that are 14 years old. We have a midterm due this week that's proctored online. The professor did not set things up correctly and initially we were unable to use a calculator, scratch paper, a formula sheet etc. A dean had to step in after the professor consistently didn't respond and he was able to set most things up correctly. I tried to take my exam last night and was told I still couldn't use the provided formula sheet and that my calculator was the wrong brand, even though the rules specify it just needs to be a hand held calculator. I rescheduled my exam to today, but today is the last day to take it and I have been unable to get anyone to fix it so that I may take it. I checked into withdrawing, because I'm that frustrated, but it's too late.
Yes, I'm quoting myself. But, update for anyone who cares. I emailed the professor and the dean last night about my issues. The dean replied this morning that he couldn't help me. So I went nuclear, wrote a scathing email, copying everyone I could find, outlining every issue with the class. The dean called me himself and let me know the exam fixed. I take the midterm at 12:30.
Good luck on your exam. I'm sorry this is just the midterm and not the final and that you're done with it after this. I'm amazed you were able to be so proactive and advocate for yourself so well...I suck at stuff like that so much and no matter how mad and upset I was about it, I would have been floundering, so go you!
Post by gerberdaisy on Apr 11, 2024 9:59:49 GMT -5
I need help establishing boundaries with my H while we both work at home. We each have offices, but they share a wall. Whenever he has a thought, question, anything he'll just yell to me from anywhere in the house and expect me to answer. Or come and help him with something. It drives me absolutely nuts. I like to listen to audiobook and have ear buds in, or just focus on what I'm doing instead of half listening for him.
I've tried to talk to him about it, but it isn't working. Yesterday I thought we were on the same page, but this morning he's talked to me at least 5 times from another room, asking about plans for the weekend, dinner plans, other random stuff. Then when I say something he gets upset.
To be clear, I'm not saying we can't talk, but just not all the time. I need more separation during the day. He does the same thing when I'm on a meeting, where I would never do that to him. I have an office I could go to, but its 40 minutes away and I really don't want to do that.
I need help establishing boundaries with my H while we both work at home. We each have offices, but they share a wall. Whenever he has a thought, question, anything he'll just yell to me from anywhere in the house and expect me to answer. Or come and help him with something. It drives me absolutely nuts. I like to listen to audiobook and have ear buds in, or just focus on what I'm doing instead of half listening for him.
I've tried to talk to him about it, but it isn't working. Yesterday I thought we were on the same page, but this morning he's talked to me at least 5 times from another room, asking about plans for the weekend, dinner plans, other random stuff. Then when I say something he gets upset.
To be clear, I'm not saying we can't talk, but just not all the time. I need more separation during the day. He does the same thing when I'm on a meeting, where I would never do that to him. I have an office I could go to, but its 40 minutes away and I really don't want to do that.
OMG. This sounds miserable. Is there any way you could swap one of your home offices with another room in the house so you aren't next to each other? I also think I'd work on not responding at all during your business hours. He can hold his thoughts until "home hours" or send you a text that you can respond to when you have time.
gerberdaisy, could you schedule a standing daily meeting(s) with him? Like for every day at, say, 10am and 3pm, you both have 15-minute blocks on your calendar to check in with each other. In between those times, you each just need to keep a list of things to discuss during those times.
Otherwise, I'd seriously consider over-the-head noise cancelling headphones and drown him out. I imagine this will lead to conflict, but then I'd be like, "Well, I've talked with you about this and you won't respect my wishes, so this is what it's come to!"
ssmjlm, gerberdaisy - I heard back from my contact and yeah, BYOB is the way I'll have to go. I guess setting out a freewill donation bucket would turn my basement into a "saloon." Which I kind of love the idea of, LOL!
I had a dream in which DH and I got in a fight and I woke up so mad at him this morning. It took me a solid 20 minutes to disassociate dream DH with real life DH.
The same thing happened to me this morning. H was like "is something wrong?" Sorry babe, you were a real asshole in my dream last night.
Post by mrsukyankee on Apr 11, 2024 10:37:21 GMT -5
gerberdaisy, my H and I have an agreement that we can only talk to the other person when we see them face to face - so if one of us is facing their screen and have headphones on, no talking. If it's desperate, we can send a Teams or Whatsapp message asking for a time to meet up (which seems crazy but it works). And then, when I would forget (because I would), my H wouldn't answer me or he'd hear me and put up a hand to say, nope, not talking. You may have to be blunt with your H.
I need help establishing boundaries with my H while we both work at home. We each have offices, but they share a wall. Whenever he has a thought, question, anything he'll just yell to me from anywhere in the house and expect me to answer. Or come and help him with something. It drives me absolutely nuts. I like to listen to audiobook and have ear buds in, or just focus on what I'm doing instead of half listening for him.
I've tried to talk to him about it, but it isn't working. Yesterday I thought we were on the same page, but this morning he's talked to me at least 5 times from another room, asking about plans for the weekend, dinner plans, other random stuff. Then when I say something he gets upset.
To be clear, I'm not saying we can't talk, but just not all the time. I need more separation during the day. He does the same thing when I'm on a meeting, where I would never do that to him. I have an office I could go to, but its 40 minutes away and I really don't want to do that.
That's obnoxious. I hate when people yell questions from another room/floor. It seems the height of laziness and rude to assume that the other person is free to talk when you can't even see them.
Can you close the door and just ignore him until he gets it? He can get mad if he wants, but he's the one being rude and ignoring your boundaries.
H and I both work from home and we always check that the other isn't busy/on a call before interrupting them. We usually eat lunch together so we mostly talk then.
I took my dog in for arthritis meds, and we decided to try a new monoclonal antibody shot that is supposed to work magic. It was $80. And my brain, who has seen bills for cancer-related monoclonal antibodies was like, damn, that’s cheap! Anyway, doctor said it feels like the arthritis is in her knee, based on swelling and stuff. And it was suddenly like, oh, so that’s why she holds her leg out and dangles in when she pees.
This morning, she was squatting with both legs. No dangle!
I am so happy that is appear to be working. Also, that we have something really objective to measure improvement and to trigger the next dose. Since they said it will be every 4-8 weeks, depending on how she feels. And I have something I can see that is clear. Not just “hmm, is she seeming a bit less … something.” She is a Jack russel, so, you know, she is very bouncy and jumpy even when in pain!
Post by wanderlustmom on Apr 11, 2024 11:03:46 GMT -5
today's post is definitely bringing up all kinds of things that annoy me too.
I agree it's fine to bring your own food on a plane, but fish or tuna? No way. I would have a hard time holding myself back. We are living in a society people. And I love those foods too but way too strong of smells.
Same with the speaker phone conversations at the doctors office. That is just the worst. I'm already anxious in the waiting room but why don't you make it worse by me hearing you go over your grocery list or talk about your neighbor? I need to remember to bring headphones. My husband can tune that out.
Also my sisters husband wants to chat her up all day working from home. She works PT and is mostly home and it drives her crazy. Her husband gets hurt about it too when she tries to get him to stop. Thank God my husband (with many other annoyances) does not do this to me. But I still don't love him being here because it throws off my flow. No way around it though since he is retiring in a few months. We will have to figure it out. But he doesn't chat me up. My thing that bothers me is I'm never truly relaxed because he will come up to get food, use the bathroom or take a shower. We always want our shower at the same time too. Of course he's just doing his normal human thing so I don't have a reason to be annoyed. He does need to eat, shower and use the bathroom. LOL! And at night I'm totally different. I want him around and get so lonely if he travels for work. Dinner and a show, bring it. During the day, stay on your calls in the basement.
I need help establishing boundaries with my H while we both work at home. We each have offices, but they share a wall. Whenever he has a thought, question, anything he'll just yell to me from anywhere in the house and expect me to answer. Or come and help him with something. It drives me absolutely nuts. I like to listen to audiobook and have ear buds in, or just focus on what I'm doing instead of half listening for him.
I've tried to talk to him about it, but it isn't working. Yesterday I thought we were on the same page, but this morning he's talked to me at least 5 times from another room, asking about plans for the weekend, dinner plans, other random stuff. Then when I say something he gets upset.
To be clear, I'm not saying we can't talk, but just not all the time. I need more separation during the day. He does the same thing when I'm on a meeting, where I would never do that to him. I have an office I could go to, but its 40 minutes away and I really don't want to do that.
That's obnoxious. I hate when people yell questions from another room/floor. It seems the height of laziness and rude to assume that the other person is free to talk when you can't even see them.
Can you close the door and just ignore him until he gets it? He can get mad if he wants, but he's the one being rude and ignoring your boundaries.
H and I both work from home and we always check that the other isn't busy/on a call before interrupting them. We usually eat lunch together so we mostly talk then.
I like the lunch idea. We usually go out to lunch together once a week and will catch up then. I can try to go over into the kitchen and catch up regularly during lunch.
and 100% I think it is so rude and lazy to yell from different floors/rooms. It drives me absolutely nuts in general, but especially during the work day.
Unfortunately, I do not have a door, my off is what would have been the formal dining room. H has a door and uses it, but still yells to me.
Just the validation that I'm not crazy that this irritates me makes me feel better! I know a lot of this is his untreated ADHD, but still. Since I've posted this he's called me into his office asking what to pack for a trip next week, how long to cook chicken in the air fryer and something else I can't remember, the insanity must stop!
Another option is going to a joint work space type thing once a week or so, but I like being home generally just not like this.
My 11th grader was taking the dSAT this morning- all the 11th graders in his school were- and the power to the entire block went out. It's super windy today, and it sounds like cables crossed and arced and lit other equipment on fire, so quite dramatic! What a mess. I'm sure CB has a process for this type of event, but not cool universe. At least he gets the rest of the day off.
DD/8th grader just finished her last online class for the year, so she has every morning free now until 11:30 (when we take her in for her electives, ELA and history). Which also means I have my mornings free, too! 🥳 🎉 🪅
I'm sitting outside with my dogs and the wind just blew a plastic grocery bag (remember those things) into our yard. My little Heinz57 mix hightailed it to hide behind me while while my pyr tried to big dog woof it into submission from 5 feet away. If that is how they react to me in "danger", I am definitely on my own- lol.
Post by maudefindlay on Apr 11, 2024 11:30:38 GMT -5
gerberdaisy the thought of you considering leaving the house makes me angry. He's a grown ass adult, he can control this and do better ADHD or not.
Eta You should switch so you get the office with the door and a lock!
Also, it's ok if his response to your repeated reasonable request is to continue to react by being hurt. You are rightly upset and he is doing nothing to help that when it's the right thing to do and fully in his control.
Just the validation that I'm not crazy that this irritates me makes me feel better! I know a lot of this is his untreated ADHD, but still. Since I've posted this he's called me into his office asking what to pack for a trip next week, how long to cook chicken in the air fryer and something else I can't remember, the insanity must stop!
Another option is going to a joint work space type thing once a week or so, but I like being home generally just not like this.
This is crazy! You need to stop humoring him and going into his office. Him "calling for you" for these dumb things makes it sound like you're his old school secretary or something. Can you swap offices so you have the door?
Post by gretchenindisguise on Apr 11, 2024 11:42:04 GMT -5
My phone managed to fall out of my pocket at the exact time I was closing my door and the back glass got smashed, despite having a case on it - it just hit in the perfect way 😩. So I went on Verizon to just get a new phone, and even though they say "any trade it!" they lie. I was going to get 1/2 the amount than I would if my phone were in good condition.
Post by gerberdaisy on Apr 11, 2024 11:43:59 GMT -5
and since I'm giving the play by play here...we just both went out and made lunch and talked a bit. I think he gets where I'm coming from, but I will have to keep working on reminding him and setting boundaries. He has the memory of a goldfish when it comes to this.
He usually travels a lot during the week and has been home the last couple, so its driving me extra crazy right now.
Then of course my mom called me, just to talk, why can't everyone leave me alone!
I took my dog in for arthritis meds, and we decided to try a new monoclonal antibody shot that is supposed to work magic. It was $80. And my brain, who has seen bills for cancer-related monoclonal antibodies was like, damn, that’s cheap! Anyway, doctor said it feels like the arthritis is in her knee, based on swelling and stuff. And it was suddenly like, oh, so that’s why she holds her leg out and dangles in when she pees.
This morning, she was squatting with both legs. No dangle!
I am so happy that is appear to be working. Also, that we have something really objective to measure improvement and to trigger the next dose. Since they said it will be every 4-8 weeks, depending on how she feels. And I have something I can see that is clear. Not just “hmm, is she seeming a bit less … something.” She is a Jack russel, so, you know, she is very bouncy and jumpy even when in pain!
Is it Librela? That's been getting a lot of buzz in the tripawd community lately. My three legged dog hasn't developed arthritis yet, but it's a matter of time. I'm trying to stay up on the best meds to help keep her comfortable as she ages.