There are virtually no pictures of me. I know it's morbid but sometimes I think about what will happen when I die and that there won't be any pictures to use.
H will take a picture if I ask, but they are so universally unflattering that I stopped asking. We went on a big vacation in March, and I think there is one photo from the entire week with me in it. My daughter offered to take some for me, but it ended up being a joke where she turned the selfie camera on and handed the phone back to me with 18 close up pictures of her face.
I'm part of the problem too though because I look at pictures of myself and only see how terrible I look, so then I avoid photos. Of course I look back at photos of me in my 30s and realize that I actually looked great. But can't make myself accept that someday 50, 60, 70 year old me will feel that way about the "bad" pictures I take today.
Commiserate word for word enough that it made me cry. I also get annoyed that dh doesn’t seem to even try and get a good photo. Like maybe if you can see my 6month pregnant belly that isn’t pregnant then crop it or something. My h is always selfish about hopping in when I’m just taking photos of the kids too. This is something o actively dislike about him.
This is one of the main reasons I splurged for the photo package when we went to Disney. I wanted to be in the photos with my family, not the one taking them.
One of the things that upsets me and hurt me so much (and still does, if I'm being honest), is that no one thought to take pictures of me with the kids in the hospital after they were born. I have a couple of pictures of me still on the operating table with them, but you can't see my face very well, and... it's on the operating table. LOL No one thought to say hey, let's give her the baby, and take a picture of her. Granted, DD was in the NICU for a week, but again, even on discharge day, it just didn't happen. We have pictures of the babies with all sorts of people holding them, just not me. I took some pictures of them myself, but no selfies. Being in a post-delivery stupor made it nearly impossible to ask or anything. I have pictures of DH with them too, and of course my family and his family all got pictures.
Im still mad about this from DD1 too. H’s parents came to visit us in the hospital and H did a full on photo shoot of them holding DD1. Like took at least 50 photos. There were like 2 of me and they were terrible. They also completely ignored me during the visit, and it was a long, rough delivery so that was hurtful. They were not allowed to visit us at the hospital for DD2.
MIL also walked into my hospital room on FaceTime and made me talk to some random relative I’ve never met. I looked and felt like shit and I’m still mad about it.
This was natively very true in our family. There were like no pics of me with the kids. I talked to H about it, and now he tries to take more, but so often they're terrible. I have not been successful in getting him to take the next step, which is to engage just at like an IG or TikTok level of learning about taking a remotely decent photo.
The angles he uses aren't just random, they're like 100% terrible. Luck couldn't result in a body of pics this bad. And idk how he even does it. How does he get angles upward of my chin when he is a foot taller than me!? They are also blurry an inexplicable % of the time, and the compositions are bizarre.
I don’t have kids yet (just one that’s still cooking), but my husband is the SAME. I don’t know how he manages it, consistently truly awful.
He took this picture of me on our HONEYMOON, a time when presumably his gaze was still full of love and admiration. What the fuck.
I have been trying to explain why putting somebody at the edge of a fisheye photo is cruel and yet still…
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Post by thebreakfastclub on May 9, 2024 17:37:56 GMT -5
Omg not in a million years do I want a photo of me in the hospital after having a c-section. No hair and makeup done, tired and puffy? Lol no, let's not.
Post by cricketwife on May 9, 2024 18:22:57 GMT -5
jane6672 THANK YOU for making the rest of us feel not alone, lol!!!
OP, two options are true- if I ask, someone will take a photo and there are few photos of me. My husband is TERRIBLE. Like several others have said, I don’t even know how he manages to take such bad photos. And in the last year I’ve gained a lot of weight and I just don’t even want to be in photos. He makes me look bad even when I feel good about myself so I just don’t need to be made to feel worse that.
I didn't read the thread - but take the picture. Don't worry about how you look. You're not guaranteed the future and someday that might be all you have.
Photo packages at the most random places exist because of me. $25 dollars for a picture of all of us as we entered the zoo? $50 for me to take it home today in a zoo-themed frame? Take all my money. I just realized this is another reason why I like Disney. I almost always buy the photo package, in the parks and on the ship. Because when else will I get this chance to ask someone else to take lots of decent to nice photos of me + the kids?
jane6672 , that might be my favourite thing on the internet today. thank you for saving the photo and sharing it with us.
H is great about taking nice photos if I remind him, and I can't harp about the reminding part because I am equally as bad. Our son turned 10 in February and I was looking through my phone for a nice photo to post of him and had to go back to September. So not only do I not take a ton of photos of H, I also don't take a lot of our kid either. Most of our photos as a family/pair/individual are outdoors in the summer and the majority of those are hiking or something. So the scenery is lovely, but the clothing and overall appearance is not great. If I died and H had to make a photo collage, it would be me on various mountain tops, red faced and sweaty.
Post by wanderingback on May 10, 2024 6:30:49 GMT -5
Also, many of you should be more kind to yourself. Don’t say ew or that you look fat. Celebrate your body, especially if you grew a child with your body. Take the selfies and the candid shots and ask people to take pics and give yourself grace.
Post by definitelyO on May 10, 2024 9:59:13 GMT -5
DH does not take photos really at all of anything other than the dogs and mountains. So yes, for me to be in photos I do have to ask. and honestly - I've learned (in life and this relates to gifts, etc.. too) is that you cannot assume that someone will do what you would do and that if you want something you have to ask for it. Yes, wouldn't it be amazing if we didn't have to ask - but you get 100% of the things you don't ask for.
so for DS's prom after I took pics of him and his GF I asked if she would take one of us and of course she did
Also, many of you should be more kind to yourself. Don’t say ew or that you look fat. Celebrate your body, especially if you grew a child with your body. Take the selfies and the candid shots and ask people to take pics and give yourself grace.
So I didn't used to get in the pictures because I didn't like to record the fact that I had gained weight since I had kids and not been able to get my life in order and lose it. I got over it by asking people to take the picture, but not looking at the pictures until some time later. For some reason, letting some time pass lets me not focus on how many chins I had in the picture or how crazy my hair looked and instead appreciate that my kids were there smiling with their biggest, happiest grins and not caring about any of those things.
This is one of the main reasons I splurged for the photo package when we went to Disney. I wanted to be in the photos with my family, not the one taking them.
One of the things that upsets me and hurt me so much (and still does, if I'm being honest), is that no one thought to take pictures of me with the kids in the hospital after they were born. I have a couple of pictures of me still on the operating table with them, but you can't see my face very well, and... it's on the operating table. LOL No one thought to say hey, let's give her the baby, and take a picture of her. Granted, DD was in the NICU for a week, but again, even on discharge day, it just didn't happen. We have pictures of the babies with all sorts of people holding them, just not me. I took some pictures of them myself, but no selfies. Being in a post-delivery stupor made it nearly impossible to ask or anything. I have pictures of DH with them too, and of course my family and his family all got pictures.
Im still mad about this from DD1 too. H’s parents came to visit us in the hospital and H did a full on photo shoot of them holding DD1. Like took at least 50 photos. There were like 2 of me and they were terrible. They also completely ignored me during the visit, and it was a long, rough delivery so that was hurtful. They were not allowed to visit us at the hospital for DD2.
MIL also walked into my hospital room on FaceTime and made me talk to some random relative I’ve never met. I looked and felt like shit and I’m still mad about it.
I didn't want to 'like' this - but I am so sorry. I know how hurtful it is to be overlooked and seen as the incubator for their precious grandchild/new relative. Not that they shouldn't be excited, but also not at the exclusion of the new child's mother! Grrrr I'm so upset for you. Hugs.
I don’t think this is strictly a mom thing — I have lots of good photos of DH on vacation, with our dog, etc. and not many of the same with me. And the ones he takes of me are so awful. He complains I take so long to take a picture … well, maybe you should take a little more time friend. lol.
But I’ve seen the selfies he takes of himself … they are also awful. So it’s not like he’s taking lots of care on his own photos either. I’ve tried to show him on his selfies, like see how horrible that angle is for you? But next time, same exact thing. 😂
Post by basilosaurus on May 12, 2024 16:36:45 GMT -5
I don't really have family, don't travel with a single person, and I take a few selfies. Also, I've never enjoyed being in pictures. It was my gramma who was the family photographer which I guess proves the point. I personally don't care if I only rarely take a selfie.
I too made sure to get a mother's day pic - it was me in the kids w/my breakfast in bed. I'm makeup-less, in PJs and look like I just woke up. But we all look so happy and in the moment, it's a good one
I don’t think this is strictly a mom thing — I have lots of good photos of DH on vacation, with our dog, etc. and not many of the same with me. And the ones he takes of me are so awful. He complains I take so long to take a picture … well, maybe you should take a little more time friend. lol.
But I’ve seen the selfies he takes of himself … they are also awful. So it’s not like he’s taking lots of care on his own photos either. I’ve tried to show him on his selfies, like see how horrible that angle is for you? But next time, same exact thing. 😂
ha, this is so true! G posts like 3 pictures a year on instagram, (that is being liberal) and if it is a selfie of him and our son they both look so terrible. I laugh every time.