Tuesday Randoms

[erbear]

In my ongoing health saga...(skip if you're bored...I am) -- I had a cardiac nuclear stress test today. They didn't stop me on the treadmill, my heart rate looked fine (65 resting, they got it up to 150 after about 10 minutes of exercise, BP rose appropriately). I haven't gotten the report back but I still feel like shit. Constant pain in my chest, back and side now (!!), I haven't slept well in 2 nights because I keep waking up with my heart racing. I'm just so tired of feeling like crap.


And school starts tomorrow, so that should be fun. Nothing says low stress like 8th graders just back from summer.

[bears]

Sept 3, 2024 10:06:28 GMT -5 bears said:

To continue the saga of volleyball tryouts: DD was hardcore saying she wouldn't make the team, didn't want to bother trying out all weekend. Despite that, she spent some time practicing and even went to a clinic one evening. She kept on reserving the right to change her mind.

Well, this morning she was a complete disaster (completely disorganized and anxious), but packed her knee pads without prompting (she said "this doesn't mean I'm trying out"), and texted from the bus stop that she would be trying out.

I'm so glad, but I wish she had more confidence in herself! I think if she had gone into this process believing in herself, it would reflect in her skills! Why can't she believe in herself as much as MH and I do?!

She went to day 1 and now is on the fence on future days. I thought we had made the decision! I think she will continue the try outs, but wants to have an out.

I'm trying so hard to be patient, but she was such a jerk to me when I picked her up. Pretty cheery initially, but she was tired as fuck (had trouble sleeping last night) and hangry, so she lashed out at me. She has anxiety and ADHD plus a really early lunchtime. It's really wreaking havoc with her mood. MH and I are trying to encourage her to pack appropriate food, including snacks, but it's like talking to a brick wall.

[mommyatty]

@fluffycookie- I worked for a vet specialist who was in a building with a bunch of other specialists including an oncologist. If I had an animal with cancer, I 1000% would not treat it beyond having a growth removed if there was a decent likelihood that would extend the animal’s good years. Those animals undergoing things like radiation were so miserable and scared and had no idea what was going on. I totally get why the owners would do all they could (I’m a nut over my cats), but having seen the “behind the scenes,” I just couldn’t do it. The vet isn’t going to judge you for that.

But I totally would get the biopsy. If it turns out to be something easily remedied, I would want to remedy it. If it’s cancer, I would monitor to ensure quality of life and make my decisions from there.

Also, some vets are the worse themselves at knowing when to let go. My boss the vet had this cat he had gotten when someone refused to pay the bill at vet school when he was doing his post-DVM specialty work. They abandoned the cat instead. This cat was ancient. I remember walking into their house (they were our next door neighbors and I babysat for their kids a lot), and he had the cat on the dining room table doing dialysis on the cat. It was ridiculous honestly. I mean, the cat was well over 20 by then. It was really time to let go. And he would never have agreed to that treatment for one of his patients considering the cat’s age. He finally let the cat go a few weeks later.

[campermom]

I got the notification that my direct deposit was set up for child support, but not the certified letter that ExH willl receive a change of payee (to them instead of me) yet. That should happen this week hopefully.

I also need to figure out how to phrase “please come to the next psychiatrist appt bc she wants to discuss why you haven’t been giving meds consistently” in a non-conflict way.

I send exactly how much is needed. He has been sending at least one dose back home per visit, sometimes 2 if it’s a week visit. It’s not something I can really address legally bc my lawyer said “how will you prove this”

Great.

[maudefindlay]

campermom do you really need to contact him? Can the psychiatrist contact him instead?

[campermom]

maudefindlay she’s made it very nonverbally clear she’s staying out of any back and forth. She even mentioned that he emails her and she has told him repeatedly she will not discuss clinical issues via email, and told me she feels like he’s trying to “catch her” in something.” She right on the money. He uses any info to “prove” any points made, later on. Like, well you told me the shortage was in February and that was the first week of March, see? This is evidence you are keeping information from me” that kind of thing. It’s like he searches for info to try to use it against someone whether it’s her or me.

She said she wants him there so she can try to help him trouble shoot. Which is awesome. Bc if I said “maybe try setting a timer” I’m controlling. It will be interesting to see how it goes. He’s shown himself to both psychiatrists before. They remain very neutral and professional but will say things like “well I’m not putting you with him in the virtual room again bc I think that would be retraumatizing to you” or “I don’t realty know what you could have done or said to make that go differently or better” so I know they get it but try not to get directly involved.

[followyourarrow]

fluffycookie, I made the same decision as you with my last dog and I don't regret it. Treatments would have been horrible for her. I gave her the very best life I could until the cancer overtook her. My vet didn't judge, in fact it's what he encouraged.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Sept 4, 2024 5:45:59 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

campermom do you really need to contact him? Can the psychiatrist contact him instead?

This .. let the psychiatrist do your dirty work, aka contact him, for you. You shouldn't have to do what amounts to a basic standard office reminder call that they would do for any patient.