Tuesday Randoms

[ssmjlm]

No one remembers, but my car is in the shop today for blown speaker fuses that cannot just be changed out. This is the 3rd car thing in 5 months and we're not really looking for me to get a new car right now. So crossing fingers it's not a pricey repair (if it can even be repaired). I don't even have 100k miles.

Can I afford 2 car payments, yes. Do I want to, nope. 


Also, DH has one of the tundra's that are being recalled for new engines and it's a whole thing that neither of us really want to deal with, so let's add on more car stress.

[lavenderblue]

One of my cats is in heat. They are not quite 6 months old and are scheduled for their Spay surgery next week. I was not prepared for this. She was acting really weird and I was legit ready to rush her off to the Vet because I thought she ha a blockage or something. Luckily I took a video and sent it to my son and his gf (they are huge cat people) and they talked me down. My poor girl is being extra crazy, I feel so bad for her.

[candreco]

Kids and I had a relaxing long weekend, but maybe too relaxed because by late yesterday morning I was feeling twitchy. Just felt like I needed a change, so I went to the C&B outlet and got a couple of new throw pillow covers for the living room (what we really need is a new couch), and then I rearranged the office, and ordered a buch of peel & stick wallpaper samples for one of the walls in there so I can also pick a paint color. Definitely had project regret partway through as I untangled all of the cords and cables, and tried to corral the displaced odds and ends. Not telling DH about rearrranging, I want to see if he notices when he gets home at the end of the week....

I 100% don't want to be at work today. The weather is gorgeous, I'd really rather take the dog for a hike, maybe eat lunch on a patio somewhere, and spend the afternoon reading on the porch.

[TR]

H was snoring so much last night so I’m really tired and dragging in the office today.

[gummybear]

Oh, do I have one for you guys.

PDQ

*poof*

[sadlebred]

ssmjlm Just because someone can afford 2 car payments, it's never a fun situation. Hopefully it can be fixed.

I'll be doing some job hunting this morning and meeting with someone this afternoon on Zoom. Sadly, it's not about a specific job opening. I've been networking and need to follow up with 2 people this week.

Before that, ebike ride!

[mrsukyankee]

Holy crap, gummybear. I'd struggle to not hold back with that one.

[stemmie]

My mom's home from vacation with my niece. Let the doctor's appointments begin. She's also starting pelvic floor PT. I'm returning extra tile to the store from my bathroom update before I take mom to PT. I think I may be sitting on about $400 worth of stuff. I hope so, we had some serious project creep to the tune of $7K.

[mysteriouswife]

gummybear my petty ass would say sure meet at X time. Then leave 15 min prior.

DD had a similar experience in second grade where we had to involve police and the school board. I’m sorry your family dealt with that.

[devonpow]

It’s DS1’s first day of senior year 😥 Time flies

[followyourarrow]

It was a great weekend, we got a ton of things done, but now I'm exhausted. I'm almost glad to be at work so I can just sit at my desk. We moved into our house 11 months ago and we've talked about building an outdoor target archery range since we moved in, and we finally made it happen yesterday. We made sure to build safety into it, so even a crazy arrow won't leave our yard or hurt anyone. There was only a little blood shed, a ton of sweat, minor cussing, but no yelling or fighting, we did good together and this was our first real building project together.

[Wallflower]

I mentioned a few weeks ago that a dear friend (T) passed away after a brief battle with cancer. After she passed, her wife (R) found a journal and mention of a few instances of infidelity. Well, now R has deactivated T's FB page. This has been the primary method T and I communicated since we stopped working together and it means I can't see her page anymore and every comment of hers on my posts is gone. (I do still have our messages, though. Thank goodness.)

Folks, it's such a blow. I don't blame R at all, I get it. She's dealing with everything the best way she knows how and I support this. It's all been horrible for her. But I was seriously in tears last night.

[jinkies]

gummybear audacity is at an all time high.

I'd be torn about whether to ignore the request entirely or just send a laughing emoji. And then "no".

People never cease to amaze me.

[prettypitties]

We got married this weekend! Saturday evening was our ceremony (just H and I and his kids) and Sunday was a small backyard BBQ for my friends and family. H's family all lives in Florida, so we'll celebrate down there at the end of October.

Everything went beautifully except that our officiant was AN HOUR AND A HALF LATE! She confirmed with me the day prior and the morning of that she'd be here at 6pm. From 6:15 on we were calling and texting with no response until 7:22pm when she said she lost cell reception and had to "stop at a stranger's house to get on their wifi to call". A flimsy excuse at best. Anyway, she finally made it, performed our quick ceremony, took some pics in the remainder of the daylight and filled out the marriage license before we had to hop in the car so we'd make our dinner reservation. I'm not one to leave terrible reviews, but I think I have to for this. She hasn't followed up at all to reiterate her apologies (which were pretty weak to begin with), and she didn't offer to give me any type of refund.

[wildrice]

gummybear, wow wow wow. What did your daughter say? The audacity indeed.

Wallflower, big hugs. I imagine it's difficult to navigate your own feelings with this extra information. I don't blame R either, but it sucks because that impacts a lot of people other than her

[gummybear]

Sept 3, 2024 8:12:59 GMT -5 jinkies said:

gummybear audacity is at an all time high.

I'd be torn about whether to ignore the request entirely or just send a laughing emoji. And then "no".

People never cease to amaze me.

We had a good laugh after the shock wore off. Because she is a nice person DD “felt mean” saying no even though under no circumstances did she want to do it so I told her to respond that her parents weren’t comfortable with that idea - I am channeling Ollena Tyrell big time.

[cville]

I missed a tiny patch on my knee shaving my legs. It will for certain occupy my every thought all day.

[ssmjlm]

gummybear, wow, I hope your DD just gave her the stink eye and walked away. I'm assuming all other communication is blocked based on what happened beforehand.

[cville]

Also. The sheer number of people who don't know how to print to PDF or attach another email to an email is mind blowing. I'm 45% luddite and have known how to do so for probably literal decades at this point.

Today I got an email from someone who wanted to share an email with me, but not forward it. He printed it out, scanned it, and sent it to me.

He is younger than I am.

And an engineer.

[gummybear]

Sept 3, 2024 8:23:31 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

gummybear, wow, I hope your DD just gave her the stink eye and walked away. I'm assuming all other communication is blocked based on what happened beforehand.

It’s a small school and they participate in the same sports so they see each other daily but have managed to coexist but no communication beyond that. And the parents (who are the real problem bc the child is a product of her environment) NOTHING. Not even eye contact.

[flygirl]

prettypitties, Congrats!

gummybear, I think every expletive I know would have come out of my mouth…people and their audacity!

Mine is minor but OMG people have lost their damn minds at parent drop off. I get some kids take a bit longer than others, but if your little precious needs you to turn your hazards on because they need that long-you need to go park and walk them to the door. We can’t have 20 cars back waiting on one kid. This morning I was 10 cars deep and the car in front of me had 2 girls-by the time we got to the drop off point, they should be ready since we just sat there for 5 min right? Nope…

[ohgillian]

On the whole I had a good childhood. But the longer I parent, the more I realize how fucked up some of the stuff was that my mom would say to me. She was mean and critical and I cannot even imagine saying things like that to my daughter. WTF.

[wildrice]

prettypitties, congratulations!!! I hope you will share pics when you get them. That's so exciting!

I'm sorry about your officiant. I had a similar experience with our elopement - he got lost and it was in an area with true spotty cell service - and it definitely made everything feel rushed since we too had a dinner reservation (and a flight out of the country after that!). It is so disappointing, especially when you're trying to keep things simple and low stress! I think leaving a bad review or some other kind of complaint is fair.

Speaking of complaints, I fired our cleaners yesterday. It is a cleaning service so it's not like anyone can take it personally, but I was doing some deep cleaning tasks like washing our curtains yesterday and noticed just a really thick layer of dust on a few things that really should be a part of the rotation when the cleaners come. The level of dust makes me think they weren't missed once, but over and over again. Stuff like a mirror above our dresser, lampshades, and ceiling fan blades so not exactly hidden! I am not sure if we will hire someone else or if I'll just see if I can keep up with things on my own - that's the short term plan, at least. I am home most of the time and not really all that busy outside of work so there is no reason I can't do the cleaning other than that I don't want to, lol. My H is always drowning in work so he can't really take on anything more (part of why we got cleaners to begin with!) so we'll also see how long it takes for me to get annoyed about that.

[gummybear]

Sept 3, 2024 7:57:04 GMT -5 mysteriouswife said:

gummybear my petty ass would say sure meet at X time. Then leave 15 min prior.

DD had a similar experience in second grade where we had to involve police and the school board. I’m sorry your family dealt with that.

8th grade is one thing but 2nd? Ugh. I’m so sorry.

[macmars45]

wildrice that's the same reason we got cleaners. H is drowning in work so between that and time spent with our DS(8) there isn't much extra time in the day. And we both hate cleaning. These are the first years we've been able to afford cleaners so we're taking advantage of that.

[maudefindlay]

gummybear these people wow. Reminds me of the person who wrote into Ask A Manager complaining they went to a job interview for a very niche job and didn't get it. She learned while in the interview process that a girl she bullied in high school worked there and came to realize she was the reason she didn't get the job. It did not go the way the letter writer hoped it would. AAM basically told the LW that some things are so bad that yes they will continue to affect you and not be written off even years later.

[maudefindlay]

Congratulations prettypitties!

wildrice not wanting to clean is a totally valid reason to hire new cleaners.

[emilyinchile]

Omg gummybear. I can't even imagine how this went down - like was it a straight-to-the-point text, did the girl try to get all chummy and then ask...just the context after everything that's gone on and their general level of contact does not make sense with "can we please be trapped in a car one on one every day," much less asking for a favor!

I stayed up wayyyyy too late watching Sinner vs. Paul last night (US Open). Even though Sinner won in straight sets, Tommy Paul played so well, and the first two sets were really close and could have gone either way. I am now regretting my life choices as I look as my massive to do list on no sleep.

[gummybear]

Sept 3, 2024 8:49:59 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

gummybear these people wow. Reminds me of the person who wrote into Ask A Manager complaining they went to a job interview for a very niche job and didn't get it. She learned while in the interview process that a girl she bullied in high school worked there and came to realize she was the reason she didn't get the job. It did not go the way the letter writer hoped it would. AAM basically told the LW that some things are so bad that yes they will continue to affect you and not be written off even years later.

I have to admit I have fantasies about something like this. I am petty. Honestly though it was the worst thing and the best thing bc it completely changed my relationship with DD (for the very best) so we ended up winning. And karma came pretty quickly and it didn’t involve us at all.

[wildrice]

Sept 3, 2024 8:47:20 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

wildrice that's the same reason we got cleaners. H is drowning in work so between that and time spent with our DS(8) there isn't much extra time in the day. And we both hate cleaning. These are the first years we've been able to afford cleaners so we're taking advantage of that.

I think that is awesome! If I had a kid there is no way I'd be considering stopping this, lol. We will see how long it lasts without one!