Weekend randoms

[waverly]

We have door and garage cameras to make sure the kids got home from the bus stop OK while we are at work. Now they are old enough we probably don’t necessarily need it.

DH and I share location but I’m not sure DH has really checked. My kids check more than he does. And he’s never said anything. Myself on the other hand did ask him why he was at a car dealership. He went through a stage of wanting a million different cars and drove me crazy. Otherwise we don’t bring it up to often. He wants me to track him during his races/ runs so that we can cheer him on at the finish line.

[ny96]

I wouldn’t track H’s location (I’m not even sure if that feature is turned on on his phone), but we share an iPad with his Apple ID logged in, so I see when he leaves work every night because the car icon comes on.

[scm1011]

DH and I use Life 360 to track each other. I like that he can track me on my long runs and I like to see how close he is to getting home without bothering him (our transit system is really unreliable). I can see it being problematic if one partner is controlling or using it for nefarious reasons, but if you have a healthy relationship I don't see why its a big deal.

[heygrey]

I've never wanted location sharing with H for daily life, but he has been training for a half marathon and I'll ask for it during the race so I can track him. I might also consider it when he's going on long runs just so I can see that he's still moving. The other morning he set out for a 10k at 7:30am and I reminded him to be safe with the morning commute traffic. There are some nasty intersections near our house and drivers are insane. 10 minutes after he left the house I heard ambulance sirens stop at one of those intersections and I was pretty anxious until he got home.

[lilypad1126]

H and I share our locations, but I bet he doesn’t even know how to check it. It’s been helpful multiple times for me to track him when he’s called me and asked if there’s a hotel or some other business near where he is (we both do a lot of long solo drives, he’s not great at planning ahead).

I got a mani/pedi today and I cannot figure out why people think they are super relaxing. Those massage chairs are so uncomfortable to me, and I spend the whole time having to pay attention to what they want me to do/move. My nails turned out cute tho!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I'm so frustrated today. My mom fell on Monday or Tuesday and she twisted her ankle. Last night she decided that she HAD to go to urgent care this morning. But she can walk on it, she can put weight on it, it's just sore. I took her anyway, bc what kind of asshole would I be if not? But she has a bruise that I could clearly see, and they wouldn't have done much if it was broken anyway. I wasted two hours this morning, it's not even sprained. And the whole time H and Luce are texting me and bothering me about how long I was gonna be.

Then Lucy (16) was going to her friend's house. We were on her way to pick up two girls- one texts and says she doesn't feel well. Then the other girl, we pulled up to her house and she told Lucy she's not allowed out. making my way to the destination, and now all four girls are mad at each other and we just went home. I drove for more than an hour and didn't even get rid of my own kid, come on.

It's so frustrating that my time is so much less valuable than anyone else's. My mom never asks my sister, who lives with her, to take her anywhere. Last week mom made a flu shot appointment on Sunday at like 9. She didn't even ask me if I was doing anything, wtf?

[deadwing]

Sept 15, 2024 15:11:26 GMT -5 lilypad1126 said:

I got a mani/pedi today and I cannot figure out why people think they are super relaxing. Those massage chairs are so uncomfortable to me, and I spend the whole time having to pay attention to what they want me to do/move. My nails turned out cute tho!

Agreed! I always feel like if I let my concentration lapse, I'm going to fall off the chair. It's so awkwardly shaped for me. It's 30-45 minutes of tension for me.

[beerlover]

H and I share locations; we started doing it while he was Ironman training. It was helpful to see where he was at on his 50+ mile bike rides and know he was OK. Now, I mostly just use it like previous posters have said, to see if he's on his way home from work or errands or whatever. We also share locations with the couple that we own our boat with, just to track who is where when we're meeting to go out on the lake without a bunch of texts.

It's been a nice weekend! Friday night DS had a soccer game, and then we went to a local bar for dinner. We made a fire when we got home and a couple people came over, but it was an early night. Saturday, we were on our boat most of the day. It was absolutely gorgeous and some of the leaves were starting to turn a little bit. We were out with our usual lake friend crew and I think it just felt extra special because there are probably very few (or maybe none) of these type of days left this year. Last night, we went to a bar to hear a friend play music.

Today is the first day in FOREVER that I've been home all day on a Sunday and I've been cleaning and tidying up a lot of things, doing laundry, putting the majority of our boat stuff away, and I also got out our fall decorations and all the fall candles I got at BBW. Even though it's 85 out, lol. H has been at school all day catching up on work and grad work, and he'll pick up groceries for us at 5 so I don't even have to do that, woohoo.

[momin2013]

The only thing I track is the AirTag that I put in DS’ backpack - that’s mostly for my peace of mind that he got to/from school on the bus each day (not that I check, but I can if I need to).

When we got a Ring, I realized that now DH can see me if I happen to sneak in a McDonald’s run on a WFH day. So now I just go through the garage 😂

[thebreakfastclub]

I don’t know anything about the functionality of sharing phone locations and can't think of why I'd need to. It has never crossed my mind until I read this.

[thebreakfastclub]

Sept 15, 2024 15:12:20 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

I'm so frustrated today. My mom fell on Monday or Tuesday and she twisted her ankle. Last night she decided that she HAD to go to urgent care this morning. But she can walk on it, she can put weight on it, it's just sore. I took her anyway, bc what kind of asshole would I be if not? But she has a bruise that I could clearly see, and they wouldn't have done much if it was broken anyway. I wasted two hours this morning, it's not even sprained. And the whole time H and Luce are texting me and bothering me about how long I was gonna be.

Then Lucy (16) was going to her friend's house. We were on her way to pick up two girls- one texts and says she doesn't feel well. Then the other girl, we pulled up to her house and she told Lucy she's not allowed out. making my way to the destination, and now all four girls are mad at each other and we just went home. I drove for more than an hour and didn't even get rid of my own kid, come on.

It's so frustrating that my time is so much less valuable than anyone else's. My mom never asks my sister, who lives with her, to take her anywhere. Last week mom made a flu shot appointment on Sunday at like 9. She didn't even ask me if I was doing anything, wtf?

Gently, you can make your own time more valuable by setting your own boundaries. You aren't required to look at the annoying texts. You can say that the flu shot appointment doesn't work for you. When you flip the script, people will be annoyed but that boundary will serve you well.

[killercupcake]

Sept 15, 2024 7:08:01 GMT -5 stemmie said:

Just coming to.

DH and I got COVID/flu shots Friday at 5pm. I woke up around 2am Saturday morning with all the side effects. The worst of it (fever, headache, nausea and joint/muscle aches) over by noon for both of us, but we were just exhausted.

I need to check on mom later. After, DH and I will probably have dinner out.

The booster knocks me on my ass every single time. I always have to remind myself it’s better than actual covid as I’m shivering. Lol

[gretchenindisguise]

Sept 15, 2024 15:34:56 GMT -5 thebreakfastclub said:

Sept 15, 2024 15:12:20 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

I'm so frustrated today. My mom fell on Monday or Tuesday and she twisted her ankle. Last night she decided that she HAD to go to urgent care this morning. But she can walk on it, she can put weight on it, it's just sore. I took her anyway, bc what kind of asshole would I be if not? But she has a bruise that I could clearly see, and they wouldn't have done much if it was broken anyway. I wasted two hours this morning, it's not even sprained. And the whole time H and Luce are texting me and bothering me about how long I was gonna be.

Then Lucy (16) was going to her friend's house. We were on her way to pick up two girls- one texts and says she doesn't feel well. Then the other girl, we pulled up to her house and she told Lucy she's not allowed out. making my way to the destination, and now all four girls are mad at each other and we just went home. I drove for more than an hour and didn't even get rid of my own kid, come on.

It's so frustrating that my time is so much less valuable than anyone else's. My mom never asks my sister, who lives with her, to take her anywhere. Last week mom made a flu shot appointment on Sunday at like 9. She didn't even ask me if I was doing anything, wtf?

Gently, you can make your own time more valuable by setting your own boundaries. You aren't required to look at the annoying texts. You can say that the flu shot appointment doesn't work for you. When you flip the script, people will be annoyed but that boundary will serve you well.

Definitely this. Say no. You're allowed.

Don't expect people to all of a sudden begin to value your time. They will not. You decide what you are willing and able to do and say no the rest.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Sept 15, 2024 15:34:56 GMT -5 thebreakfastclub said:

Sept 15, 2024 15:12:20 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

I'm so frustrated today. My mom fell on Monday or Tuesday and she twisted her ankle. Last night she decided that she HAD to go to urgent care this morning. But she can walk on it, she can put weight on it, it's just sore. I took her anyway, bc what kind of asshole would I be if not? But she has a bruise that I could clearly see, and they wouldn't have done much if it was broken anyway. I wasted two hours this morning, it's not even sprained. And the whole time H and Luce are texting me and bothering me about how long I was gonna be.

Then Lucy (16) was going to her friend's house. We were on her way to pick up two girls- one texts and says she doesn't feel well. Then the other girl, we pulled up to her house and she told Lucy she's not allowed out. making my way to the destination, and now all four girls are mad at each other and we just went home. I drove for more than an hour and didn't even get rid of my own kid, come on.

It's so frustrating that my time is so much less valuable than anyone else's. My mom never asks my sister, who lives with her, to take her anywhere. Last week mom made a flu shot appointment on Sunday at like 9. She didn't even ask me if I was doing anything, wtf?

Gently, you can make your own time more valuable by setting your own boundaries. You aren't required to look at the annoying texts. You can say that the flu shot appointment doesn't work for you. When you flip the script, people will be annoyed but that boundary will serve you well.

I did tell my mom no on the flu shot. I only agreed to take her to UC today bc I thought her foot was like broken or something. I’d feel terrible if that was then case.

[rubytue]

My neighbor is outside juggling fire right now. Just routine suburbia, nothing to see here.

Suddenly, I feel less weird when my “nephew” and I sword fight on the yard 🤣

[Jalapeñomel]

I also wrote postcards today with a bunch of older women with thick NY accents. They were a riot.

[mysteriouswife]

My MIL tracks SIL. She keeps asking H and I to do the same. Hard fucking no. We have it enabled on our iPhones for the household. I can only think of one time we used it. DD was “missing.” H was home and on a call when she came in. He didn’t hear her or see her. He called me freaking out she wasn’t home or answering her phone. I told him to check the location tracker. It showed at the house. She was in my office sleeping. She fell asleep reading a book in my chair.

[erbear]

No Ring cameras here but we have Life360. It's not so much tracking as convenience (my kids ignore texts and my husband doesn't every check his phone). It's not a trust issue here anyway.

I like DH to be able to track me when I'm running -- we live in a city.

[cville]

I don't think that sharing locations is a sign of a healthy or unhealthy relationship.

I haven't had a need.

[livinitup]

My sister texted me last night something like “Hey, livin, do you know why mom and dad have been in Philadelphia, PA since yesterday?” I did and told her. It was an odd question until I figured she was using location tracking.

And rarely calls any of us.

ssmjlm I don’t know much about fraud protection but I do know that Target does a fair amount of customer tracking in-store and rely heavily on monitoring systems and technology that are not easily seen by would-be law breakers. It’s not always immediate either. (like the exit door). They use metrics to decide to know when to lwt thieves leave but track them when they return for repeat visits until they steal enough for an accumulated felony. Then all the footage gets used against them. It’s also widely used on employees - which is where shrinkage and loss is highest.

[bsp36]

My sister called me today (odd for her she 100%texts) she had received a phone call scam I was in an accident. She was sus and immediately check but man people suck.

[lostrn]

We have location tracking on DS's phone but rarely use it anymore. But it does come in handy for me when DH and DA are off doing who knows what and ignoring my texts and I want to know how far away they are...in other words so I have time to relax or are they about to come home lol.

When DH first started riding a motorcycle he had a GPS tracker on it and I checked it frequently because I was anxious about him riding it. Eventually I unclenched a bit and we stopped paying for it.

[sadlebred]

I got the flu shot and COVID booster today. My arm is already sore. Why am I feeling like I'll regret getting both at the same time tomorrow....

[dreamcrisp1]

lol I have location sharing with my sister and my cousins so we can all see where each other are too. 🤣 my sister will call and be like “I know you’re home so answer the phone!” It really isn’t something that bothers me or that I find weird. But I am very close to my cousins and sister. And my husband and I use it very sporadically and specifically.

[stemmie]

I track my mom's phone. The woman has wicked ADHD and leaves her purse/phone places often. Nine times out of ten, it's slipped out of her pocket/bag and fallen on the floor of my car. It's been handy finding her when I drop her off in a large store like Costco.