Would this be off putting at a baby shower

[Roc A Bee]

Yes it’s off putting.

IDK what kind of floors you installed, but I can’t imagine them being damaged by routine walking around- even in heels. If you plan to have a mosh pit or like play tag, maybe.

[mofongo]

Sept 23, 2024 13:22:13 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Sept 23, 2024 13:00:22 GMT -5 mofongo said:

It’s definitely a thing, my PCP has recommended not being barefoot to me as well. Supportive shoes are part of the treatment for plantar fasciitis. I imagine having supportive shoes is good for many physical issues. This is why I have a large Birkenstock collection!

Yeah for people who have foot problems. It’s def never been on any lists I’ve seen for general public health re: athlete’s foot.

The whole shoe thing seems to go back and forth re: support in the general population (not people with problems). Some "experts" say shoes are better and others argue that shoes make our feet less stable so better to be barefoot at home. Who knows!

Yeah, I don’t think feet will be tied to the next pandemic, lol, but I don’t have issues with the germs from shoes, or feet! It’s just I’m physically more comfortable in shoes, and social norms here are shoes in houses. We also don’t have snow or mud related to snow etc.

[maudefindlay]

If you have athlete's foot definitely wear socks whether in your home or another.

[sandandsea]

I would go for a sock or flip flop party theme so people have a heads up and it makes it more fun/themed that everyone is barefoot. Provide fun socks or flip flops for everyone as a shower thank you gift.

We are also a no shoe house but before kids wore shoes inside then upon having kids and researching into way too many things converted to a no shoe house because my shoes go to some pretty gross places like parking lots and public bathrooms so they get to stay by my door now.

ETA. My mom has foot problems and wear indoor shoes in her house. They stay inside her house 100% of the time and have non marking rubber soles so they don’t mess up floors. I think a lot of people with no shoe houses have house shoes or house slippers they use inside.

[mofongo]

Is athelte’s foot really such a rampant problem?! Lol

[icedcoffee]

Sept 23, 2024 14:36:05 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

If you have athlete's foot definitely wear socks whether in your home or another.

And some lotrimin for christ's sake!

[icedcoffee]

Sept 23, 2024 14:43:21 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Is athelte’s foot really such a rampant problem?! Lol

Like maybe at the pool and locker rooms?  But you're probably not going to get it from Grandma's hardwoods.  

[maudefindlay]

Sept 23, 2024 14:44:23 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Sept 23, 2024 14:36:05 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

If you have athlete's foot definitely wear socks whether in your home or another.

And some lotrimin for christ's sake!

And take the shoes off at home.

[hermione]

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

[dontlook]

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

It’s a real thing here in MN. I hosted a 4th of July party that ended up indoors due to rain. Every single adult person brought inside shoes. Kids run around barefoot or in socks. A lot of older people have baskets of slippers/inside shoes for guests. I don’t use them but they usually are there for you if you need.

[loira]

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

In Canada we're conditioned to have indoor shoes from a young age - it's required for most schools. Also when you come in from the snow and cold, your feet will be sweating buckets if you keep your winter boots on so most adults have indoor shoes at least for winter in the office. My city gets a ton of rain and I walk to work in wellies and change into work shoes in the office for similar reasons.

[wanderingback]

Sept 23, 2024 15:12:16 GMT -5 loira said:

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

In Canada we're conditioned to have indoor shoes from a young age - it's required for most schools. Also when you come in from the snow and cold, your feet will be sweating buckets if you keep your winter boots on so most adults have indoor shoes at least for winter in the office. My city gets a ton of rain and I walk to work in wellies and change into work shoes in the office for similar reasons.

Our daycare, ages 6month - 5 years also asks us to bring indoor shoes for the toddlers and up. The staff all have indoor shoes as well or wear socks in the rooms. Parents are expected to take off shoes when entering classrooms. So our daughter is def getting the indoor shoes and shoes off lesson early!

[dexteroni]

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

I have indoor shoes, but I don’t carry them around with me. I’d be ok with a no shoes party as long as it was announced in advance. Then I would bring my indoor only flip flops or slippers (communal slippers that have been worn by strangers are a hard no).

The reason I wear them as opposed to going barefoot at home is because I need the arch support. So having to go barefoot (even with socks) with no notice would be problematic for me. I’d have to sit for most of the party and I would probably leave early.

[waverly]

Sept 23, 2024 14:43:21 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Is athelte’s foot really such a rampant problem?! Lol

Probably not.  I do remember a very weird situation with one of my grandparent's friends.  We weren't allowed to wear our shoes in the house because they lived on the beach (sand), but we also weren't allowed to not wear slippers or house shoes because apparently they had a contagious foot condition.  Then they also provided flip flops or something like that which as a kid, I was very much ewww to this entire scenario.  I thought it was super weird that my feet would get some kind of medical conditional immediately upon touching their floors, but also didn't trust the shoes they offered to guests as not being contaminated.  I tried to bring a second pair of shoes and that didn't always work because sand got in both.  It was a lot to visit them.  And I didn't understand if it was athletes foot, then why did it go on for the 15 years that we visited them?  

[ohgillian]

Sept 23, 2024 9:06:34 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I'm always caught off guard when I'm asked to remove my shoes.

I don’t think I’ve ever been asked to do so. I’d be kind of horrified? I mean I want to be accommodating but I’d really wish for socks.

[joy]

Philly/South Jersey lifelong resident checking in: I can’t think of one house that I regularly visit that is no shoes. But that’s just my experience within this region; I can’t speak for all of us!

My husband wants to implement it at our house, though, and I’m very uninterested. Rainy/snowy/muddy shoes? Off at the door. Sunny day, dry shoes? Whatever.

But the question is about other people’s homes. If asked, I would absolutely remove. I would like a heads up on an invitation, however, as this request is less common in my social circle apparently.

[nicolewi]

Do you guys have "parade of homes" type events? HOme builders build houses in one neighborhood and decorate/furnish them, and then people buy tickets to go through. It's super popular and crowded. It's in late summer, and almost every house requires shoes off, so many, many people are barefoot. Including me. I have no issue slipping off my sandals and walking through. DH, on the other hand, is incredibly grossed out by this.

So anyway...back to my original point, which is that you need to give people an option. If 100% of people need shoes off, then that's probably not going to go over real well.

And again...to me there's a huge difference between going to a friend's house in jeans or leggings to hang out, vs being dressed up for something like a shower and ending up awkwardly barefoot when you have to take off your cute shoes.

[wanderingback]

My partner was walking with a friend the other week. And he called me in disgust because he was like I was walking with Bob and I tried to warn him but he walked directly in to piles of dog (maybe human??) poop twice. He was like I’m so glad we’re a shoes off apartment and he took his shoes off when he came over cause clearly he’s bad at the avoid poop game lol.

[marie]

I would hate to be surprised by this… I wouldn’t want to be barefoot or have socks with holes in them or something. Also. I wear the “no show” socks with many of my flats or speedy type shoes and that would make me feel weird. I also don’t care if my socks match if I am wearing shoes that they don’t show in, so this could be a nightmare for me 😆

Are you worried about scuffs on your floors, or germs? I don’t think anyone will damage the floors and you could do a good mop/vaccuum after.

[starburst604]

Sept 23, 2024 15:59:59 GMT -5 nicolewi said:

Do you guys have "parade of homes" type events? HOme builders build houses in one neighborhood and decorate/furnish them, and then people buy tickets to go through. It's super popular and crowded. It's in late summer, and almost every house requires shoes off, so many, many people are barefoot. Including me. I have no issue slipping off my sandals and walking through. DH, on the other hand, is incredibly grossed out by this.

So anyway...back to my original point, which is that you need to give people an option. If 100% of people need shoes off, then that's probably not going to go over real well.

And again...to me there's a huge difference between going to a friend's house in jeans or leggings to hang out, vs being dressed up for something like a shower and ending up awkwardly barefoot when you have to take off your cute shoes.

I’ve never heard of this but good god, just give out surgical booties for people to put over their shoes. That’s what most realtors have at the door at open houses.

The infant room at DD’s daycare had those available in place of taking shoes off which I appreciated when I didn’t have on shoes that were easy to just kick off and slip back on.

[momin2013]

Canadian here, so I would 100% expect to take my shoes off anyway. When I know I’m going to be at someone else’s house, unless it’s going to be a pretty quick visit I generally bring a pair of slippers with me.

The fact that you’re wondering if it would be off-puttting, though, tells me that yes, it would be off-putting in your region/circle. I would either:

a) include “please note that we are a no-shoes house” on the invite AND have a handful of new slippers at the ready in a basket near the door to offer people (even dollar store ones would be fine), or

b) not host it at your house

[Jalapeñomel]

I once went to a party where people took off their shoes and I was HORRIFIED at how disgusting some people’s feet were. No, I wasn’t. I never look at people’s feet. Is the party that boring that you notice if someone had a pedicure?

Also, I feel like athletes foot is a much bigger problem in this post than IRL.

The realtors around here carry booties for houses, and anytime we look at a home, they hand us a pair!

Last, I own a Simple Human trash can.

[tacokick]

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

I don’t travel around with socks or indoor shoes at the ready; I bring them with me from home when I’m invited somewhere.

[tacokick]

I think what I’m surprised about is the number of people apparently regularly walking around wearing socks with holes.

Isn’t that uncomfortable? Mend them or buy a new pair!

[starburst604]

Sept 23, 2024 15:09:05 GMT -5 dontlook said:

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

It’s a real thing here in MN. I hosted a 4th of July party that ended up indoors due to rain. Every single adult person brought inside shoes. Kids run around barefoot or in socks. A lot of older people have baskets of slippers/inside shoes for guests. I don’t use them but they usually are there for you if you need.

This is so fascinating to me. In almost 49 years I’ve never encountered anyone IRL with indoor shoes at the ready. I’ve also only known one person who asked people to take shoes off where it wasn’t cultural.

Taking off shoes in my house would be complicated because my dogs would then steal the shoes if I didn’t move them somewhere. In our old house where we had a mudroom that people usually entered through, I noticed that people would often takeoff their shoes, and I would always have to move or they were going home with one less sole in their shoes.

[sdlaura]

This thread is amazing and had me laughing. I live in the San Diego area, so typically everyone has feet that are ready for public viewing due to how often most people are in open-toed shoes. It's not that unusual for houses to be kind of open air or have a whole wall of the house/series of glass panel doors that open to the outside/a backyard pool, so it's normal to walk around barefoot. But we also don't really have much mud/dirt and are never wearing winter boots, so it's also not a big deal to keep wearing shoes in the house.

Usually when I walk into someone's house, if they're a "no shoe" house they tend to have a basket of shoes by the door, and I think it's polite to ask if they'd like me to remove my shoes as well.

I do think since this is a dressy event and people might put some thought into wearing dressy shoes/spend time selecting their outfit or even buy something new, that it's polite to let them know in advance that you'd prefer no shoes in the house, if they wouldn't mind going barefoot or bringing some indoor shoes. Or like others said, make it on theme somehow.

[InBetweenDays]

Sept 23, 2024 15:09:05 GMT -5 dontlook said:

Sept 23, 2024 15:00:35 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm amazed at the number of people traveling around with "indoor shoes" at the ready.

It’s a real thing here in MN. I hosted a 4th of July party that ended up indoors due to rain. Every single adult person brought inside shoes. Kids run around barefoot or in socks. A lot of older people have baskets of slippers/inside shoes for guests. I don’t use them but they usually are there for you if you need.

In my 22 years of living in Minnesota I never once experienced this or heard of inside shoes. But maybe it's a newer thing? I haven't lived there in many years.

We are not a shoes off family, but we have friends who are. And I would not at all be bothered by someone requesting I take my shoes off for a party or any other time.

[dontlook]

Sept 23, 2024 16:31:45 GMT -5 InBetweenDays said:

Sept 23, 2024 15:09:05 GMT -5 dontlook said:

It’s a real thing here in MN. I hosted a 4th of July party that ended up indoors due to rain. Every single adult person brought inside shoes. Kids run around barefoot or in socks. A lot of older people have baskets of slippers/inside shoes for guests. I don’t use them but they usually are there for you if you need.

In my 22 years of living in Minnesota I never once experienced this or heard of inside shoes. But maybe it's a newer thing? I haven't lived there in many years.

We are not a shoes off family, but we have friends who are. And I would not at all be bothered by someone requesting I take my shoes off for a party or any other time.

I don’t remember this from my childhood so maybe it is newer. I don’t know. I know I watched at least 10 adults come into my house with their “house shoes” in hand. It was kind of funny because some were cute and people were showing them off like a fashion show lol.

[mcppalmbeach]

Sept 23, 2024 16:28:03 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

This thread is amazing and had me laughing. I live in the San Diego area, so typically everyone has feet that are ready for public viewing due to how often most people are in open-toed shoes. It's not that unusual for houses to be kind of open air or have a whole wall of the house/series of glass panel doors that open to the outside/a backyard pool, so it's normal to walk around barefoot. But we also don't really have much mud/dirt and are never wearing winter boots, so it's also not a big deal to keep wearing shoes in the house.

Usually when I walk into someone's house, if they're a "no shoe" house they tend to have a basket of shoes by the door, and I think it's polite to ask if they'd like me to remove my shoes as well.

I do think since this is a dressy event and people might put some thought into wearing dressy shoes/spend time selecting their outfit or even buy something new, that it's polite to let them know in advance that you'd prefer no shoes in the house, if they wouldn't mind going barefoot or bringing some indoor shoes. Or like others said, make it on theme somehow.

It’s the party piece that gets me. Like I was literally just looking at shower photos on Facebook in Florida (because I live here) and the women are all wearing maxi dresses or cute like Farm Rio type dresses and they all have cute sandals on. I think it would look a little weird with shoes off … or maybe not, presumably the sandals mean their feet are fit for public viewing. Either way I wouldn’t necessarily be put off, but it definitely wouldn’t be the norm around here for a party even though I’d say most households I know are no shoe for the people that live there.

[pixy0stix]

When it's wet or snowy I either 1) wear hiking boots which gets me through most situations without having to remove my shoes or my feet getting hot, or 2) take off whatever boots I'm wearing and put on other shoes, which I have definitely worn outside.

I'd never traipse through someones house, regardless of shoes on/off, with dog poop on my shoes.

I once was in a situation where I was tagging along with my cousins and we visited a no shoe house. They asked my male cousin to put his shoes back on because his feet were so rank. I swear I can still smell his feet in my nasal cavities sometimes. He had some type of something that he went to the doctor for for special medicated powder.