Thursday Randoms

[fernweh]

I don’t follow them but a bunch of Sesame Street posts have been showing up on my instagram feed. I find them oddly comforting.

[gummybear]

In all the chaos of yesterday H and I both forgot it was our 20th wedding anniversary. Our SIL texted us around 7:30 ( after H left for work) and we both said, SHIT! lol.

I’m not allowed to engage in political discussions at work (understandably) and yesterday it was excruciating. A lot of people were very upset and I so want to empathize. I was really having a hard time - not only bc I agree 100% but from a human perspective it’s hard to see someone suffering and not be able to comfort them.

[followyourarrow]

I've been waiting for answers at work regarding my boss retiring and the plan for me. Boss's boss is in town and he had a conversation with boss and then me. Basically the plan is to let boss stay as long as he wants, he can cut down to part time as he pleases and he'll oversee me, but I'll take over doing everything. It took me a minute to process all of this and I didn't ask a lot of questions at the time. Can I go back to boss's boss and ask a follow up? I want to know if that leaves me with an assistant title and assistant pay for the foreseeable future. Because if that's the case, I'm not okay with that. I have plans to move up to boss's role, then CFO, and my time frame is 5-10 years. Honestly if they think that it's okay to leave me as assistant with all the work, I'm pretty mad about that and will move on.

[jinkies]

followyourarrow absolutely it's ok to go back with follow up questions.

"I've been giving your proposal some thought, and wanted to discuss what my new responsibilities will mean for my salary and title."

Id also get anything they say in writing, with dates if possible. If current boss is staying indefinitely, you want to know if there is a formal date for your new responsibilities and salary to kick in.

[mpc]

Yesterday I mentioned that I was skipping wordle and other NYT games because of the strike and how much I missed them (lol). Thanks to those who offered alternatives! Today I saw that the striking workers have made their own game site for people in the meantime. Wanted to share in case anyone else was interested.

nytimesguild.org/tech/guild-builds/index.html

[noodleoo]

I'm still in shock today. I can't believe the orange turd is going to be president again. Hearing the news people call him "president elect" makes me nauseous. I don't know how to process this. 

I'm trying not to think about it and avoiding all news, but then will randomly remember one of his "promises" and start tearing up again.  

[emilyinchile]

I quit my job on Tues because I cannot with my toxic boss anymore. During the quitting meeting he asked if I could stay on and do just a part of my job, and I told him no because it's the part I like least and also I'm going to go do a project I've been thinking of for a while. He just called to ask if I could stay on and do just a different part. Sir. No. Please try to keep a shred of your dignity!

[fernweh]

Nov 7, 2024 8:53:40 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

I've been waiting for answers at work regarding my boss retiring and the plan for me. Boss's boss is in town and he had a conversation with boss and then me. Basically the plan is to let boss stay as long as he wants, he can cut down to part time as he pleases and he'll oversee me, but I'll take over doing everything. It took me a minute to process all of this and I didn't ask a lot of questions at the time. Can I go back to boss's boss and ask a follow up? I want to know if that leaves me with an assistant title and assistant pay for the foreseeable future. Because if that's the case, I'm not okay with that. I have plans to move up to boss's role, then CFO, and my time frame is 5-10 years. Honestly if they think that it's okay to leave me as assistant with all the work, I'm pretty mad about that and will move on.

Of course you should ask follow up. Maybe propose that they give you bosses title and make him a ‘consultant’ or something. Do not do this job without the title and money, otherwise when he actually leaves I would worry they would bypass you and expect you to train the new person or something.

[jane6672]

I’ll save myself the trouble of writing, and you the tedium of reading:

Imagine a minor but legitimate complaint about my MIL here.

[wanderingback]

Nov 7, 2024 9:02:53 GMT -5 noodleoo said:

I'm still in shock today. I can't believe the orange turd is going to be president again. Hearing the news people call him "president elect" makes me nauseous. I don't know how to process this. 

I'm trying not to think about it and avoiding all news, but then will randomly remember one of his "promises" and start tearing up again.  

I still haven’t checked the news so haven’t seen it in writing or seen his dumb face. I just can’t do it. I was just following the posts on here and another text group I’m in of abortion providers so that’s how I knew the outcome. I literally haven’t listened to his voice since probably the very end of his last term, so I plan to keep it that way.

[wanderingback]

My mom had planned a Kamala Harris celebration party with her friends So they still got together last night but obviously weren’t celebrating. That just made me sad again, obviously Harris has her faults, but for Black women in their 60s and 70s it was just so wonderful for them to have hope that a Black woman could be president. At least they/we got to have Obama.

[devonpow]

Same as others- I deleted all my news apps yesterday morning and can’t listen to the majority of my podcasts. I just won’t do it. I’m also realizing that news consumption was a big part of my day previously - I think maybe this detox for a while can be a good thing and get me off my phone.

I was being pretty stoic until I got to my barre class yesterday. It was all women and a lot of older women yesterday and even though we don’t really know each other there was a group cry and a lot of hugging in the lobby. It was semi cathartic.

Our sweet dog was adopted after the 2016 election to help me focus on something else. DH agreed we can get another one now (also to help me with DS1 leaving for college), so yay for dogs at least.

[calamity]

I'm in the office today and I just can't with the MAGAT idiots. I literally couldn't face it yesterday.

I'm putting in my headphones and tuning it out. I can still see high fiving and general bullshit.

If it weren't for my husband I think I would hate all men. My FIL, my dad and my mom all voted for that asshole. UGH.

[noodleoo]

wanderingback , I'm devastated for/about Kamala. As an Indian woman with 2 daughters, I was so excited. Now, I don't think we will see a female president in my lifetime.

calamity , I had a work meeting with a bunch of old white men yesterday. One of them is from the UK and he brought up the election and they were all laughing about it. I don't know which ones are Trump supporters and which aren't, but it was horrible that they could laugh about it. I kept my camera off and stayed muted, I doubt they even noticed/cared how uncomfortable they made me. (I'm the only woman/non-white person in the group).

[macmars45]

I'm taking a huge step back from news consumption now and will especially after January. I can't do another 4 years plus probably the rest of my life like 2016-2020. I can't. I'm on anxiety meds now (and wasn't for those years); I will protect my mental health this time. Between trump and covid I broke in 2020. I can't do that this time.

[calamity]

noodleoo , if there is ONE thing this election taught us it's that America does not give a shit about women. Full stop.

ETA- I'm sorry for everyone feeling this way right now.  

[scout8]

Another one who is cutting back on news consumption. I'm going to need to find a new hobby.

[lavenderblue]

Add me to the list of those who just can't stomach the news right now. I've gone from anger to sadness and now I'm just numb. I don't even know what to do anymore, but I do plan on handing out a bunch of "I told you so's" when this all comes crashing down around those who voted for him. I hope your cheaper eggs is worth the loss of your uterus, Janice.

[hermione]

I think I have to choose to completely disengage on news of the day and most social media for the next four years. I am not even joking. I donit think I can do it again.

[candreco]

Work is a sh!t show to go with the downfall of democracy, so I'm just a ball of angst over here. I am holding it together for now but DH is finally getting home on Saturday after six freaking weeks and I plan to just spend the weekend letting myself wallow/rot.

[sadlebred]

I just cancelled one online newspaper subscription. I'll keep the others for now, but I haven't checked them since Tuesday.

[noodleoo]

Nov 7, 2024 9:42:39 GMT -5 scout8 said:

Another one who is cutting back on news consumption. I'm going to need to find a new hobby.

Same.  I need a new distraction.  Apparently I spend a lot of time reading WP and listening to political podcasts.  I need suggestions for replacements.

[eb777888]

I'm giving myself this week to process. I've been putting on the housewives as a distraction. I'm remembering now that I got super into the Housewives and the related podcasts in 2016 after Trump won to distract myself. Mindless, frivolous TV.

Add us to the people adopting a pet soon. My 15 y/o dog died last month and we were going to wait until next year to get another, but now is definitely the right time.

[wildrice]

I don't think I've gotten any work done this week at all. Today I need to try to get my shit together and do some things.

My other goal for today is to reach out to people who I know are hurting after the election results. I mean that's basically everyone I associated with - but some people in particular I really need to check in with. I was too exhausted/numb yesterday.

I am struggling to reconcile the fact that we wanted to fight so hard for democracy in this election - but democracy is this. He was democratically elected by the majority of American people. I don't know how to accept that the people have spoken. At least in 2016 there was some psychological comfort in the fact that it wasn't a majority decision.

[lilypad1126]

My usual morning routine involves turning on the news while I eat breakfast/drink coffee/play wordle. I can't bring myself to turn the news on and have to hear people talk about this like it's normal and just another day. So this morning I put on some wedding show on TLC. My H came out and was like what is this?! No news?! No sir, we are not watching the news this week (and possible never again the way I feel right now). Instead we rooted for brides to win a honeymoon.

[bears]

Nov 7, 2024 9:33:09 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

I'm taking a huge step back from news consumption now and will especially after January. I can't do another 4 years plus probably the rest of my life like 2016-2020. I can't. I'm on anxiety meds now (and wasn't for those years); I will protect my mental health this time. Between trump and covid I broke in 2020. I can't do that this time.

This is exactly what I'm feeling right now. I didn't get on meds until 2022 and realize I should have done it years earlier.

Living in an informed place of rage and anxiety didn't help a soul. I need to figure out how to navigate the future, but I'm dedicating my time to focusing on what I can control in life and choosing joy.

Part of this is figuring out how best to use my privilege to help others.

[keyslover]

I am trying to focus on things I can control and still be the change I want to see in the world. But man, do I still feel devastated.

[pandorica]

I'm with everyone else. My only news is coming from here at this point. I'm still cycling through numb/rage/sadness. I'm debating canceling Thanksgiving with family and booking a trip somewhere, but I'm giving myself a few more days.

I have so much work to do, but it's all mindless clean up work from busy season and I can't focus on it at all.

[eb777888]

Yeah, I'm in the "not consuming any media" group. No fucking way. Yesterday was David's birthday and when we were at dinner, he was talking about all of the things we can do to win next time. And I was like... David, I get where you're coming from, but I am not ready for that conversation yet. I'm still processing all of this.
He's young and eager and I don't want to be discouraging, but me and my H are still in total shock, even though we knew he had a good change of winning. I haven't even cried yet.

[expectantsteelerfan]

I'm also trying to distract myself with random house tasks I've been putting off, and I have a random stupid question.

How do you dispose of dead plants? I had 2 mums in planters on our front doorstep that have bit the dust (I can't keep anything alive for more than a week, I swear). In the past I've dumped them in our big toter garbage can, but we have new rules and can't have any 'loose' garbage in the cans anymore. It seems, I don't know, weird and extra unenviromentally friendly to take out a garbage bag and use extra plastic to throw away a dead plant. We have a wooded area in our back yard...can I just toss them back there and let them naturally decompose? That is what we've done with other organic matter like the jack-o-lanterns after Halloween, but then there was stuff circulating about how the pumpkins AREN'T actually good for wildlife to eat because it's not part of their usual diet, and they give off methane as they decompose, etc. etc.