Thursday Randoms

[underwaterrhymes]

Nov 7, 2024 12:48:28 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

Nov 7, 2024 11:59:21 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

Follow up to my earlier post. I did talk to the head boss about compensation and title. He said nothing is changing right now, but yes, as my boss goes part-time and I take over more, they will make changes to my title and salary. Unfortunately there's no timetable to this, so I'm going to have to set an internal end date for putting up with this.

So, let me ask some questions for clarity.

At some point, your boss will decide to be part time, and then you’ll slowly start to take over his work and slowly get a title change? And this is all at the whim of a man who is a meddler, and toxic. Am I missing any details?

If I’m correct, or close enough, I’d push back and really truly not be ok with that. You were hired with this carrot dangling on a stick, and they’re pulling it away. I’d be very clear about wanting a timeline, and that their hokey ass plan is absurd. But professionally, of course. Because this is complete and utter madness and nonsense. No man would be expected to do this.

THIS.

Employers do NOT have your back. I wouldn’t do extra work on a promise of an increase.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Getting ready and to school is still a learning process for BOTH of us. Days I work in SF are a total zoo bc I take her in THEN I head into work - 90 mins of traffic for me. Today, she struggled waking up and told me she didn't want to go bc she was 'too tired' so I left a bit before 8. At 20 to 9 that she was awake and could go to school. I never saw the message bc stupid Wayze. It broke my heart her telling me that if I had seen the message at 20 to 9 and ok'd her taking an Uber to school she would have gotten ready and gone. Instead, I didn't see the message until nearly an hr later and to her it was too late. 

ugh 

2 things - leave Wayze on in the background so if she does text I can see it AND let her know that if she wakes up and decides to go after I've left, she can always take an Uber to school. 

[sadlebred]

I have one vaccine to get in Dec. I'm UTD on everything else thank goodness.

[wise_rita]

Nov 7, 2024 10:11:18 GMT -5 wildrice said:

At least in 2016 there was some psychological comfort in the fact that it wasn't a majority decision.

Yes, but in 2016 we had the promise of a free and fair election in 2020.

2028 not so much.

[Roc A Bee]

Nov 7, 2024 12:58:59 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Nov 7, 2024 12:48:28 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

So, let me ask some questions for clarity.

At some point, your boss will decide to be part time, and then you’ll slowly start to take over his work and slowly get a title change? And this is all at the whim of a man who is a meddler, and toxic. Am I missing any details?

If I’m correct, or close enough, I’d push back and really truly not be ok with that. You were hired with this carrot dangling on a stick, and they’re pulling it away. I’d be very clear about wanting a timeline, and that their hokey ass plan is absurd. But professionally, of course. Because this is complete and utter madness and nonsense. No man would be expected to do this.

THIS.

Employers do NOT have your back. I wouldn’t do extra work on a promise of an increase.

I would only do the work that I’m paid for. The day I’m asked to do his a piece of his work, I’d bring up the change in salary and title.

[lavenderblue]

followyourarrow, I feel like this company has been leading you on and hanging this new job title/salary out in front of you like a carrot since day 1. They DO NOT have your best interest in mind and your career is not their priority. I think you really need to think long and hard about your future there, or lack there of, and start polishing up your resume.

[sent]

Nov 7, 2024 12:10:51 GMT -5 sunshineandpinot said:

Please tell me if I should call our ortho practice and apologize. I know we were all a little on edge yesterday and I may have taken it out on the bitchy lady that works in their billing or she may have deserved it. IDK. And for the record, I intend to fully pay my bill. sent maybe you have an opinion

My two daughters and myself are all in Invisalign. Well, one is done. I got my retainer yesterday, and dd#2 has a while.

After our initial exam, the billing lady (idk what I should call her, she handles the payments) came in and said our insurance would cover $2,500 pp so our oop was ~$3650, (per person, x 3) I have this quote at home.

I paid in full for all three of us to get the "cash discount." So it was like $11K, a large amount at once. But it was done. This was June of 2023 and nothing more has ben mentioned.

Yesterday as I'm leaving with my retainer, she gets in front of me, with a bitchy attitude and informs me I have a $1800 balance. I said that was impossible bc we paid in full. She told me clearly not and handled me my statement. I am pissed and not prepared. I got to my car and cannot make sense of the statement. I come back up and ask for an explanation, why we would owe more.
DD#1 $500
DD#2 680
me $620

After a bunch of sighs and highlights she thinks that maybe our deductible is only $2K. Which, after I call, it turns out it is. Yes, this was on me to verify but I don't know where they got the $2500 from. I feel like she owes me an apology for getting this wrong and surprising me with a $1500 bill. (They'll get the remaining $300 from insurance.)

I was pretty pissed and don't know if I should apologize for losing my cool when I go in there to pay or just pay. (which I'm going to use prepaid visa gift cards as debit cards for the CC points and I can't wait to tell her it's against the law to charge a surcharge on debit cards.)

Should I eat humble pie and apologize or pay and be done with it?

I’m on my phone, apologies for the huge quote.

I think you mean your benefit is $2000 and not your deductible?

As much as we try to get accurate info, it is not always easy to find out how much plans are supposed to pay so she may have looked in the wrong spot and wrote down the wrong number. Occasionally benefits can be increased or decreased by the employer from year to year so this may have happened changing the amount from the time you started until now. The last reason it may have happened is that this position is not an easy one to train for and many practices are hurting for good employees. I commend you for acknowledging that it was on you to know your benefits. The vast majority of the general public I meet somehow think it’s the responsibility of the doctor’s office to calculate accurate out-of-pocket amounts. Nearly everyone gets mad when we tell them that they owe money because we could only provide an estimate at the beginning. Even though we make them sign and initial and acknowledge that insurance is an estimate.

I’m sure she could have been nicer. If she’s generally been normal in the past, I’d consider apologizing if you are so inclined. We all like it when patients acknowledge that it is rough out there extracting money from insurance companies and that we’re really not trying to fleece anyone while trying to do our jobs and be profitable. I’m trying provide a positive experience to the community while making payroll so my staff can pay for their kid’s dance lessons as the meme goes.

[sunshineandpinot]

Thanks sent, I appreciate your perspective! And yes, I meant benefit not deductible. The entire office has been really great except for this lady and every interaction I have had with her has been poor. She's not nice. And she just should have pointed out where the balance came from; it would have been so much easier to understand, especially bc she knew I thought I was paid in full.
I'll pay but I'm not bringing her coffee!

[followyourarrow]

Nov 7, 2024 12:48:28 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

Nov 7, 2024 11:59:21 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

Follow up to my earlier post. I did talk to the head boss about compensation and title. He said nothing is changing right now, but yes, as my boss goes part-time and I take over more, they will make changes to my title and salary. Unfortunately there's no timetable to this, so I'm going to have to set an internal end date for putting up with this.

So, let me ask some questions for clarity.

At some point, your boss will decide to be part time, and then you’ll slowly start to take over his work and slowly get a title change? And this is all at the whim of a man who is a meddler, and toxic. Am I missing any details?

If I’m correct, or close enough, I’d push back and really truly not be ok with that. You were hired with this carrot dangling on a stick, and they’re pulling it away. I’d be very clear about wanting a timeline, and that their hokey ass plan is absurd. But professionally, of course. Because this is complete and utter madness and nonsense. No man would be expected to do this.

I was hired a year and a half ago as an assistant X.  I know accounting and the background to the job, but of course not the intricacies to exactly what we do.  I've been learning that from boss and have slowly taken over 1/2-3/4 of what he does, but strictly on his time table and when he feels like sharing information.  There's still information he's refusing to share.  The plan when I was hired was that I'd take over boss's position when he retired.  Now they're saying boss will eventually go down to part-time for an undetermined amount of time.  When he goes part-time I'll get a salary and title increase.  I do feel like the carrot or goal keeps being moved on me and I'm frustrated at the lack of time frame, but I guess I appreciate that they're not just forcing my boss to retire, even though at 72 he should!  FWIW there are at least 4 other employees in the company in my shoes where they are an assistant whatever, just waiting for the boss to retire so they can really do what they were hired to do.

My resume is ready and I've been applying already.  I'll continue to apply, but it's also a bad time of year to apply.  I graduate with my MBA in May and will push harder for something different at that point.

[sent]

Nov 7, 2024 15:37:23 GMT -5 sunshineandpinot said:

Thanks sent, I appreciate your perspective! And yes, I meant benefit not deductible. The entire office has been really great except for this lady and every interaction I have had with her has been poor. She's not nice. And she just should have pointed out where the balance came from; it would have been so much easier to understand, especially bc she knew I thought I was paid in full.
I'll pay but I'm not bringing her coffee!

I think that’s fair. No coffee for the not nice billing lady!

[livinitup]

followyourarrow Congrats on the MBA. So, when you leave, so does all of the training this guy bestowed on you in drips and drabs? Because only this 72 year old guy knows what he does and everybody is a-okay with him continuing full time pay like this, or part-time soon, or never.

So, when you leave the entire endeavor to replace him winds back to zero?

You’ll be long gone, and I hope you never look back.

[circa1978]

God, this day is endless.

[soccermama]

Nov 7, 2024 16:16:57 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

God, this day is endless.

definitely the vibe of this whole week!  ugh.  

[macmars45]

Nov 7, 2024 10:19:47 GMT -5 keyslover said:

I am trying to focus on things I can control and still be the change I want to see in the world. But man, do I still feel devastated.

I'm pouring myself into helping my kids at work (elementary school). I teach reading intervention with a touch of math. I was problem solving with a teacher on ways to help a specific kid yesterday and today.