Monday Randoms

[georgeharrison]

2025 has been one thing after the other. I'm trying really hard to be thankful for the good things, but it's a struggle. I started listing the stuff out here, but right now, I'm just sad because we had to put one of our dogs to sleep on Saturday morning and then load up the car and take my son back to college (it's always really hard for me when he leaves). The house is two souls quieter.

I imagine once things stop going to crap and things start getting back to normal, my face will break out severely.

[honeydew1894]

I am dragging today! We spent Sunday at the lake with my family for the kids' birthdays. I paddle boarded, which was nice but a workout. Then at night, I saw Chicago with a friend. It was so fun, but I didn't get to bed until 11. I had all of my tutoring clients from 8:15-11:30 am, so I am just now taking a breath.

[circa1978]

BRB - going to adopt a cat.

[fluffycookie]

Add me to the list of people who slept like crap. We went to the beach yesterday and MH ordered me fried clam strips which my stomach cannot handle them anymore. I slept awful. Around 4am I went downstairs and tried to sleep on the couch with the heated blanket. I still feel like I have a boulder in my stomach.

[shauni27]

silva, just a little garter snake, fortunately. Anything bigger and I would be freaking the fuck out. Calm and healthy wishes headed your way as you await the results.

[ellipses84]

[mention]wildrice [/mention] You reminded me of something else that happened this weekend. Not nearly as bad, but Friday night as I was going to bed, there was some sort of huge green bug on my closet door. Maybe a giant cricket or praying mantis. I went to see if DH or DS1 would catch it and put it outside without killing it but they were watching a movie and I was tired so I just turned out the lights and went to bed thinking it wouldn’t bother me. Normally I always sleep with covers even if it’s hot, but it was sweltering so I had my foot out. Within 5 minutes, I feel a bug jump on my foot. I jump out of bed screaming. DH runs in. We tear the covers off the bed and throw some into the laundry but can’t find it anywhere. I sleep with a new blanket, fully covered up to my neck. We never find the bug.

Fast forward to last night. I’m trying to get DS2 to bed but he needs his nails cut, everyone in the house seems to be having a “night before school starts freak out”, so I go into the bathroom and shut the door to focus on the task at hand and block out everyone else’s drama. As soon as I shut the door the same (or same type) of bug drops from above and directly onto my chest. I start screaming and open the door, run through the living room, out the door to the back patio and flick it off me. DH and DS1 just watched in bewilderment and the shock of it definitely got everyone else to calm down 😆

Oh and when I flicked it off, it flew away…so in the bedroom it probably didn’t jump to me, it could have been flying around all night and flown onto me.

[silva]

Aug 11, 2025 11:40:55 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

silva , just a little garter snake, fortunately. Anything bigger and I would be freaking the fuck out. Calm and healthy wishes headed your way as you await the results.

Thank you!

[lostrn]

Multiple times a week DH and I are getting automated emails and text messages from the school system nagging us about DS's required vaccine for the start of the school year. I've literally submitted this 3x, the last time submitting the document straight from the health department website in case my scans of our records were hard to read. The school has acknowledged my submissions. Then please, please take me off the automated emails and texts.

[cheekywife]

silva, sending good thoughts that everything comes back clear. i went through a similar scare in 2023 and the waiting is so hard.

[ellipses84]

[mention]Silverhalo [/mention] fingers crossed for good results. Way to go for advocating for yourself! I have BRCA2+ and get monitored regularly and have had biopsies that have come back fine but it helps to have a baseline and for them to know where the dense spots / previously biopsied spots are for future MRIs / ultrasounds. I’m considering a preventative mastectomy which my sister has had.

[spindle92]

Apparently I still "got it".

By got it, I mean knowing every word to the song Baby Got Back.
I had quite the performance in my car at lunch but was sad no one else got to experience it.

[silva]

Aug 11, 2025 11:59:41 GMT -5 cheekywife said:

silva , sending good thoughts that everything comes back clear. i went through a similar scare in 2023 and the waiting is so hard.

Thank you.  I'm proud of myself because if this happened 2 years ago, I would be in bed, isolated, depressed and unable to function or any will to fight. 

[silva]

Aug 11, 2025 12:02:46 GMT -5 ellipses84 said:

[mention]Silverhalo [/mention] fingers crossed for good results. Way to go for advocating for yourself! I have BRCA2+ and get monitored regularly and have had biopsies that have come back fine but it helps to have a baseline and for them to know where the dense spots / previously biopsied spots are for future MRIs / ultrasounds. I’m considering a preventative mastectomy which my sister has had.

Thank you. Glad you are able to have a baseline and continued monitoring.  At what point do you need to decide on a preventative mastectomy, if you don't mind me asking? 

[bex1973]

We're in the last week of summer break, school starts next Monday. 8 weeks FLEW by! And this week is not relaxing for her at all, dance summer intensive so at studio every day plus 2 days of cheer practice. I took Friday off so we'll do something fun together before she has to be at the studio. I love that she enjoys her activities and that we can provide the opportunities but it doesn't surprise me that I'm probably going to be over miles on my lease LOL

I've mentioned here that we've started doing a family meet every Sunday to prepare and make sure we've got everything covered for the upcoming week and it's been so helpful but yesterday kid (who likes the be the one to write on the calendar) was a little amazed to see all the things going on for all of us. Normally we meal plan too but she was like "we'll just eat whatever, whenever" Good thing I ordered a few meals from our local meal service and those just need to be heated up so that's makes a couple of nights easy!

[beerlover]

The sitter DS goes to some days in the summer (she is a licensed in-home provider) just texted the parent group "my inspector showed up today and I have too many." I'm not sure how she wants us to respond to that? Am I to volunteer to go get my kid early? Not send him tomorrow or another day this week? I could offer this, but then I want a discount lol.

[heygrey]

Aug 11, 2025 12:40:38 GMT -5 beerlover said:

The sitter DS goes to some days in the summer (she is a licensed in-home provider) just texted the parent group "my inspector showed up today and I have too many." I'm not sure how she wants us to respond to that? Am I to volunteer to go get my kid early? Not send him tomorrow or another day this week? I could offer this, but then I want a discount lol.

How does this happen??? The line of "too many" is very, very clear by licensing standards so she knows full and well she's breaking the rules. What else does she compromise on? 

ETA: We used a licensed in-home provider and she allowed "drop ins". But she had 6 spots filled and kept 2 available. Parents could sign up in advance so sometimes those spaces weren't available day of. She wouldn't have accepted a drop in if it put her over 8. 

[1confused1]

Got two meeting invites this morning, one for a center update and one for an ice cream social, both on the same day at the end of August. So does that mean I will still have my job or does it mean I still won’t know about anything until the end of August?! This is literally so messed up and so damn stressful.

[beerlover]

Aug 11, 2025 12:44:11 GMT -5 heygrey said:

Aug 11, 2025 12:40:38 GMT -5 beerlover said:

The sitter DS goes to some days in the summer (she is a licensed in-home provider) just texted the parent group "my inspector showed up today and I have too many." I'm not sure how she wants us to respond to that? Am I to volunteer to go get my kid early? Not send him tomorrow or another day this week? I could offer this, but then I want a discount lol.

How does this happen??? The line of "too many" is very, very clear by licensing standards so she knows full and well she's breaking the rules. What else does she compromise on? 

She has several other staff there as well. I think summer is weird and more difficult to predict ratios since kids are more in and out due to camps, vacations, etc. Maybe she is down a staff member today? It's a rural area and yea, I'm sure some rules are bent. To be clear my kid is almost 9. Definitely would be more concerned about this if he was a baby.

[rhian]

Aug 11, 2025 12:52:19 GMT -5 beerlover said:

Aug 11, 2025 12:44:11 GMT -5 heygrey said:

How does this happen??? The line of "too many" is very, very clear by licensing standards so she knows full and well she's breaking the rules. What else does she compromise on? 

She has several other staff there as well. I think summer is weird and more difficult to predict ratios since kids are more in and out due to camps, vacations, etc. Maybe she is down a staff member today? It's a rural area and yea, I'm sure some rules are bent. To be clear my kid is almost 9. Definitely would be more concerned about this if he was a baby.

This still seems like something she should have realized immediately when the child who pushed them over ratio was dropped off, and addressed it then (i.e. not allowed that child to be dropped off) ...

[ssmjlm]

Our entire drive home has gone between sun and downpours with minimal visibility. Of course no rain at home where we need it!

[lust2hart]

Aug 11, 2025 11:29:37 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

BRB - going to adopt a cat.

Exciting!

I am (very much not) patiently waiting for our humane society to respond to my message about fostering 2 kittens. 

[circa1978]

Aug 11, 2025 13:58:31 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

Aug 11, 2025 11:29:37 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

BRB - going to adopt a cat.

Exciting!

I am (very much not) patiently waiting for our humane society to respond to my message about fostering 2 kittens. 

Oh no. I was being sarcastic about the snake. 😬  

But my H and DS would be over the moon. 

[mrsukyankee]

I met up with a person from my community facebook page to start doing C25K with her. Turns out she's just moved here from LA to be with her fiancé. She's struggling with the move so I think it was nice for her to talk to an older immigrant. We walked/ran for about 40 minutes. First time doing that sort of movement in a few years. And then this afternoon, I went with a client to a climbing gym to do a bit of a behavioural experiment. I am now in pain.

[bex1973]

Aug 11, 2025 14:13:40 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

Aug 11, 2025 13:58:31 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

Exciting!

I am (very much not) patiently waiting for our humane society to respond to my message about fostering 2 kittens. 

Oh no. I was being sarcastic about the snake. 😬  

But my H and DS would be over the moon. 

This made me chuckle...

[waverly]

Aug 11, 2025 9:13:41 GMT -5 beerlover said:

DS has decided that he wants to go to Chuck E Cheese for his birthday. He loves arcade games. They have a deal for 6 kids for $100. I don't think that includes the pizza but it includes 2 hours of game play for all of them plus some special stuff for the birthday boy. H and I will take them next Friday evening on his actual birthday. We asked 4 of his school friends and his cousin - 3 friends confirmed, waiting to hear back from the other 1, and his cousin may not be able to due to football practice, so we might need to ask someone else. It's been a little tough figuring out who to ask, and also not wanting to hurt any feelings. I'm sure I am giving more consideration to this than other people do, though. He has been left out of things before and that's just the way it is.

We've definitely talked about this before because I was trying to be as inclusive as possible which I think was great.  But back in 5th grade, I was so worried about including everyone.

Meanwhile, my daughter was in the process of being dropped by the "popular girls".  The mom is all in on the popular girl stuff and whatever her daughter wants, so now I just do whatever we want knowing that everyone else is doing whatever also.  The dad has definitely clocked that I don't give a crap anymore, but the mom keeps perpetuating the mean girl popular stuff, so all I have to say is karma. 

I also have another friend whose daughter is all in on popularity.  She won't even say hi to me in front of her mother when she is supposed to be polite because she is so superior.  7th grade girls are the actual worst. 

Long way of saying that allowing your kid to choose their friends without parental input might be more helpful to them in the long run.  I still occasionally plan something, but 99% of the time, I am like OK tell me who you want to invite. 

[waverly]

silva, how do you know bi-RADS score. I need to get a biopsy too, but they didn't give me a percentage.

They tell me if could look irregular due to my breast surgery or it could be cancer, and they can't tell without a biopsy. It's pretty small though, so Dr. Google told me if it were to be cancer it would be caught early.

[cheekywife]

silva , that's huge progress and you should be proud of yourself! really hope everything comes back clear and that you maybe just need extra mammograms for a bit. this is a good reminder to get mine scheduled in october. 

[shauni27]

Aug 11, 2025 11:56:55 GMT -5 lostrn said:

Multiple times a week DH and I are getting automated emails and text messages from the school system nagging us about DS's required vaccine for the start of the school year. I've literally submitted this 3x, the last time submitting the document straight from the health department website in case my scans of our records were hard to read. The school has acknowledged my submissions. Then please, please take me off the automated emails and texts.

related, my number somehow got on not one, but two school alert/notification lists--one for Sarasota County in FL...I live in Northern New England. The other was local-ish, but not a county I have ever lived in.

I was regularly getting calls and texts that my kid was truent, that school was closing early, cancelled, etc, but when I tried to remove myself from the lists, they could not remove me because I did not know the student's name that they were alerting me about. It took MONTHS of contant texts and calls from two different states regarding two different students, to finally get off both lists.

I still laugh about it, as annoying as it was. 

[lust2hart]

Aug 11, 2025 14:13:40 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

Aug 11, 2025 13:58:31 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

Exciting!

I am (very much not) patiently waiting for our humane society to respond to my message about fostering 2 kittens. 

Oh no. I was being sarcastic about the snake. 😬  

But my H and DS would be over the moon. 

Ohhhhhhhh. LOL!

[underwaterrhymes]

Aug 11, 2025 14:32:53 GMT -5 waverly said:

silva, how do you know bi-RADS score. I need to get a biopsy too, but they didn't give me a percentage.

They tell me if could look irregular due to my breast surgery or it could be cancer, and they can't tell without a biopsy. It's pretty small though, so Dr. Google told me if it were to be cancer it would be caught early.

It should be in your MRI or ultrasound report. Are you able to access it through your portal?