A coworker just said to me "I like your dress'. I said "Thank you, Its pretty inexpensive too". (we are always talking about clothes, shoes, where from, how much). And she said "looks it".
Bitch, did you just say I like your cheap dress?
ETA: she preceeded to try and say she didn't mean it that way.... Oh, really bitch I have my on you. LOLOL
When I was in college, my lab partner told me, after I spent half an hour explaining a chemistry problem to her: "Wow, you are smart! You don't look it, but you are smart!"
Fuck you bitch. Just because I'm pretty doesn't mean I'm dumb. :::flips hair:::
"I've never heard a black person speak as well as you. Are you from the US?"
And then I can't remember direct quotes at the moment, but I frequently get backhanded compliments on my skin/skin tone, like brown skin people can't have nice features.
ETA: she preceeded to try and say she didn't mean it that way.... Oh, really bitch I have my on you. LOLOL
Honestly - I am the queen of stupid comments like your coworker. I really don't mean them to come out that way AT ALL, but I always think after I speak, or confuse my words.
I told my best friend when I first met her "wow, you are ONLY 30?" I meant "wow, you look amazing for ONLY being 30" but I totally screwed it up. Thank god she believed my backpedaling and now laughs when I say backhanded (unintentional) compliments. Which I still do a lot.
The other day someone came up to me and told me how adorable my 2 year old was. They followed that up with "Is he yours?" He doesn't look like me so that's probably what was meant by the comment (although still rude), but it came off like "cute kid, no way he could have such an ugly mom."
And the other day my 2 year old was looking at old pictures with me and came across some wedding pics when I weighed about 15 pounds less. He points to the pic and says "pretty." I asked if he knew who it was and he said "Daddy and Jessica." Jessica is my skinny sister.
The other day someone came up to me and told me how adorable my 2 year old was. They followed that up with "Is he yours?" He doesn't look like me so that's probably what was meant by the comment (although still rude), but it came off like "cute kid, no way he could have such an ugly mom."
And the other day my 2 year old was looking at old pictures with me and came across some wedding pics when I weighed about 15 pounds less. He points to the pic and says "pretty." I asked if he knew who it was and he said "Daddy and Jessica." Jessica is my skinny sister.
Post by explorer2001 on Oct 31, 2012 16:31:27 GMT -5
I totally stuck my foot in my mouth with my aunt over the summer. My mom and my uncle (aunt's husband) are twins. Their youngest is 6 and adopted so they look nothing alike. Aunt had been asked if she was cousin's grandma. I looked at her and said I'm old enough to be cousin's mom, so it could be possible. (I'm going to be 30.) It was really meant as an observation (I was surprised it was possible and did the mental math outloud). Oops!
Last pregnancy (from Stephen's weird aunt): "You look good. You can't even tell you're pregnant! You just sort of look like you got chunky and let yourself go."
Last pregnancy (from Stephen's weird aunt): "You look good. You can't even tell you're pregnant! You just sort of look like you got chunky and let yourself go."
Um. Thanks!
Towards the end of my pregnancy I started letting my patients know I would be leaving soon and one guy said to me" I didn't realize you were pregnant. I thought you were just having too much Chinese buffet."
I once had an older lady come up to me while I was studying at a coffee shop. I had my 800 page psychopharmacology book on the table with me for my class. She came up to me and said "Oh my, that's not YOUR book, is it?" The implication (I think) being that because I was young and reasonably cute, I couldn't possibly be interested in/competent to read/ably to carry a large book. Or something. Yeesh.
Post by dr.girlfriend on Oct 31, 2012 21:03:35 GMT -5
My friend in college told me, "I used to think you were dumb because you talked soooo slooow, but you're actually really smart." He was a New Yorker -- speaks a mile a minute!
Post by dr.girlfriend on Oct 31, 2012 21:06:24 GMT -5
Oh, and when I was in my final phase of grad school (on internship) and all proud of my professional identity, I was doing an evaluation of someone at a VA hospital. I asked what kind of work he did in the service and he said, "Like you." I was like, "You were a psychologist?" and he was like, "No, you know...clerical work." Womp womp.
Oh, and when I was in my final phase of grad school (on internship) and all proud of my professional identity, I was doing an evaluation of someone at a VA hospital. I asked what kind of work he did in the service and he said, "Like you." I was like, "You were a psychologist?" and he was like, "No, you know...clerical work." Womp womp.
I cannot tell you how many times the social workers I work with at the hospital get comments like that!
a few months ago one of my unit secretaries asked me if I'd received any gifts that day. I was confused and asked, "for what?" "Secretaries Day!"
:-( just because I use the copier/fax 7,000 a day doesn't mean I'm a secretary! I was so dumbfounded. wtmf does she think social workers do??
and I got so many "oh you're pregnant?!" remarks I basically wanted to hide in my office. I was fucking 7 months pregnant, wearing maternity clothes, with a visible bump. Yes I'm a bigger woman but I damn well looked pregnant! Went out on bed rest soonafter so I was spared the end of pregnancy comments people usually make at least.