When I found out Santa wasn't real, my parents asked me to pretend like he was for my younger sister's sake. I did, and I enjoyed it, because I thought the whole thing was fun, and as LHC put it, magical.
I see what your saying and I agree to a point. I just don't want my kids to think that I lied to them. If they think I'm going to lie to them about small things like that, what makes them think I wouldn't lie to them about bigger things? Obviously I wouldn't but I wouldn't want them to know that I will always be truthful with them. They can enjoy Christmas and believe in the goodness and magic of Santa but know that he is a fictional character.
I think you're thinking way too hard about this. When I found out Santa wasn't real I wasn't like "OMG you people lied to me, you filthy liars!". Your kids won't be like that either.
I suppose. If H and I decide to have kids, we will more than likely let them believe in Santa because H and I have discussed this. He wants them to believe in it. Yeah it's harmless and I guess I'm being a bit anal about it.
How many people, with a show of hands, hold "lying" about Santa against their parents?
My relationship with my parents is irreparably broken because of the "jolly man" lie. I can't even say his name. I'm working on it in therapy. Baby steps.
Evee you just said yesterday you couldnt lie to your kid about that and jesusjesusjesus is the reeeeeason for the seeeeeeason.
That's incorrect. I didn't say I can't lie to DS. I lie to DS all the time. Everytime we drive by Dairy Queen (day or night) they are supposedly closed.
I also still believe that Jesus is the reason for the season. And I will continue to teach my son that. I just didn't feel like arguing with H about DS knowing santa anymore. So I caved and let H have his way about DS and santa.
How many people, with a show of hands, hold "lying" about Santa against their parents?
My relationship with my parents is irreparably broken because of the "jolly man" lie. I can't even say his name. I'm working on it in therapy. Baby steps.
eventually know Santa is bullshit??? That's crazy talk. I never had Santa come to my house. You want to know what I know about Santa? I know that every year parents without two nickels to rub together write letters to a non profit I work with begging for something for their kids. Not themselves, not for food or a job, or anything they need, but for something to make their kids smile on Christmas morning. Santa is bullshit? Ba humbug. Santa is an expression of love for children. Other cultures express love for their kids differently, but I have seen what it means to be Santa and you people who are anti Santa are insane.
Oh yea, and also if my H told my 3 year old that Santa didn't exist without talking to me first heads would fucking roll. That was a pretty shitty thing to do.
He's taking H to see Santa today, without me. Yes I don't like santa, however if we are going to tell him that santa is real and take him to meet him I still want to be a part of it. H and I both tend to do whatever the hell we want when it comes to DS because big suprise we disagree on everything when it comes to DS.
My relationship with my parents is irreparably broken because of the "jolly man" lie. I can't even say his name. I'm working on it in therapy. Baby steps.
((pants))
Thank you for your support. This is a difficult time of year for me. I wake up on Christmas Eve in a cold sweat, "WHAT'S THAT ON THE ROOFTOP? CLICK CLICK CLICK?" It is always just the sounds of the broken dreams and promises of my childhood.
I can't imagine wanting to take away the thrill of imagination from my child. There's a small window in childhood where magic and wonder are real, and I think that's a great thing.
Thank you for your support. This is a difficult time of year for me. I wake up on Christmas Eve in a cold sweat, "WHAT'S THAT ON THE ROOFTOP? CLICK CLICK CLICK?" It is always just the sounds of the broken dreams and promises of my childhood.
I'm so sorry for your loss of innocence. ((pants))
Post by underwaterrhymes on Nov 21, 2012 9:31:31 GMT -5
But why can't you have both Jesus AND Santa? You can teach your kid whatever you want about Jesus and still let him have Santa, too.
When we were little (and I was actually religious) for the entire month of December if my sister and I both behaved we got to put a piece of straw into Jesus's bed in the manger scene to make sure it was soft. If we didn't behave, we weren't allowed to. Naturally Christmas Eve we were MOST excited about Santa because what kid isn't thrilled to death to leave cookies out and hopefully stay up late enough to hear reindeer hooves on the roof?
But the entire month leading up to it? We were stoked about making sure Jesus's bed was soft for his birth.
H and I are not religious at all and plan on teaching our kid about a bunch of different faiths, but we might still do something like that because it was so special for me as a child.
eventually know Santa is bullshit??? That's crazy talk. I never had Santa come to my house. You want to know what I know about Santa? I know that every year parents without two nickels to rub together write letters to a non profit I work with begging for something for their kids. Not themselves, not for food or a job, or anything they need, but for something to make their kids smile on Christmas morning. Santa is bullshit? Ba humbug. Santa is an expression of love for children. Other cultures express love for their kids differently, but I have seen what it means to be Santa and you people who are anti Santa are insane.
I never thought I'd see the day that Mr.Dobalina would warm my heart. :heart:
I'm not that black and white with KHC. Because the world isn't that black and white, imo. Fiction, fact, whatever. There's magic in the world, and I want my children to believe in it.
Exactly. My God, I have the best memories of waiting up to hear reindeer on the roof with my cousins. Of coming out in the morning and my stocking being full. Of Jack Frost and Rudolph and the North Pole.
My mother was a muted version of Kelle Hampton so we did it all... reindeer food on the driveway, special notes left for me by santa's elves. She was awesome. I have no ill feelings towards her "lies". That is just crazy. I respect her for making my childhood memories so special. I plan to do the same with DS.
He's taking H to see Santa today, without me. Yes I don't like santa, however if we are going to tell him that santa is real and take him to meet him I still want to be a part of it. H and I both tend to do whatever the hell we want when it comes to DS because big suprise we disagree on everything when it comes to DS.
Well, that sounds healthy.
Of course it's not freaking healthy. Which is why are doing marriage counseling.
I will just throw this out there...I feel sorry for any kid who doesn't get to participate in the wonderment of Santa. ...and elf on the shelf. j/k lol
I also feel bad for the parents. They are missing out on some good stuff.
you are totally blowing this out of proportion. first, as parents we DO lie to our children on little things, by omission, etc. it's a fact of life that you don't share every adult concern you have with them about your life, your finances, your job, etc. because they are CHILDREN.
santa, and the game of it, is part of the magic of childhood. even though I knew deep down it was fake, I had so much fun with it as a kid. the first year my parents let me in on it and help stuff my siblings' stockings? christmas sucked.
there are other posts to die on as a married couple. santa is not friggin' one of them. there are more important things to worry about and fight about for crying out loud.