Fight with H last night about DS and Santa

[MixedBerryJam]

Nov 21, 2012 9:27:38 GMT -5 cardiganagain said:

Nov 21, 2012 9:21:44 GMT -5 Loco Coco said:

Oh yea, and also if my H told my 3 year old that Santa didn't exist without talking to me first heads would fucking roll. That was a pretty shitty thing to do.

He's taking H to see Santa today, without me. Yes I don't like santa, however if we are going to tell him that santa is real and take him to meet him I still want to be a part of it. H and I both tend to do whatever the hell we want when it comes to DS because big suprise we disagree on everything when it comes to DS.

This sounds like it'll work well. How do I sign up for your parenting seminars?

[underwaterrhymes]

Nov 21, 2012 10:46:28 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

You heifers made me go pull my old sig off of the board which shall not be named!

In the immortal words of Underwater Rhymes:

Seriously, people. If your faith in humanity is destroyed because your parents told you there was a Santa Claus and as it turns out there is no Santa Claus, you are an ignorant, hypersensitive cry baby with absolutely zero perspective.

LOL. :Y: :Y: :Y: It's true!

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You two should have discussed this before you had kids. Not trying to be a dick but honestly if I married someone and then all of a sudden they are like "Boom, no santa" I would be like wtf.

Same thing goes for you. If you didn't know that he would be on the same page Santa wise with you then that sucks. All these things shoudl be discussed ahead of time.

It sucks you have to go along with him but I can assure you that you can provide Santa and give your kids the true meaning of Christmas. We love Santa. But my kids go to church, we do acts of kindness etc.

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Nov 21, 2012 10:45:19 GMT -5 pedanticwench said:

I'm pretty sure H would file divorce papers if I ever told him that I don't want to "lie" to our future, hypothetical kids about Santa.

Not because he loves Santa that much, but because he would think I turned into a fool.

;D this is true for me too. I think Christmas is so magical. And for me when I was a kid it was the WHOLE package. Going to church, being in Christmas pagent, santa etc...

[sprky79]

If I married someone who went all "Boom, no Santa" I would be ignoring the everloving shit out of them.

[walterismydog]

Santa is real. It's the spirit and the imagination and the magic. It makes me sad that people don't allow their children to experience that. Honestly, I would resent my parents for NOT giving me that childhood magic that has carried over into adulthood.

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Nov 21, 2012 9:17:14 GMT -5 cardiganagain said:

Nov 21, 2012 9:11:26 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

Thanks doblina!!

Also evee you already told the kid he doesnt exist. Wtf are you going to say now? He will think you LIED.

He's 3. He'll believe whatever I tell him. H told him santa is real and DS really seemed interested in him. So after H and I decided we'd do the santa BS I laid DS down and told him all about santa. He's totally into it now and wants to meet him. He was telling me last night what he's going to ask santa for Christmas.

And I bet it warmed your heart. Its so cute and amazing watchng it through your children's eyes. For the love of all that is holy can't we just let our kids be kids.

Next will you take him to a slaughterhouse to see where his chicken nuggets come from. I just don't get why so many parents have to be soooo friggen literal when it comes to this

[Cricket0619]

I loved believing in Santa. I have great memories with my sister and cousins. We could hardly sleep because we were so excited.

[sweetday]

Nov 21, 2012 9:24:45 GMT -5 @mrdobalina said:

eventually know Santa is bullshit??? That's crazy talk. I never had Santa come to my house. You want to know what I know about Santa? I know that every year parents without two nickels to rub together write letters to a non profit I work with begging for something for their kids. Not themselves, not for food or a job, or anything they need, but for something to make their kids smile on Christmas morning. Santa is bullshit? Ba humbug. Santa is an expression of love for children. Other cultures express love for their kids differently, but I have seen what it means to be Santa and you people who are anti Santa are insane.

Perfection

<3

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Nov 21, 2012 10:52:53 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Nov 21, 2012 10:45:19 GMT -5 pedanticwench said:

I'm pretty sure H would file divorce papers if I ever told him that I don't want to "lie" to our future, hypothetical kids about Santa.

Not because he loves Santa that much, but because he would think I turned into a fool.

;D this is true for me too. I think Christmas is so magical. And for me when I was a kid it was the WHOLE package. Going to church, being in Christmas pagent, santa etc...

I agree. And I actually hope my kid never stops believing in the magic of Christmas and everything that comes with it. Including the extra charity we put effort into. For me it's less Santa and more the spirit behind the idea. Someone who makes sure that EVERY child has one special day a year. What's not to love and support?

[ering1115]

Dobs you are completely right.

Santa vs. Jesus as the reason for the season isn't an argument. Santa embraces the spirit of GIVING not receiving. I used to deliver toys to families in need on Christmas Eve with a Santa and some elves. The generosity of the people who gave to the charity was amazing. There was never a year where we couldn't fill each of the requests.

I used to make my mom buy baby clothes every year for me to wrap as a present to take up to the baby Jesus for his birthday. So here is me, waltzing up the aisle at church with a decked out birthday present for Jesus. I am sure people at church though my mom was nuts but whatever- she told me recently that the woman who works at the rectory would make sure that those clothes got to a parish family in need.

You can do Jesus and Santa/presents. They are not mutually exclusive. I think the baby Jesus in his golden booties is a huge fan of people getting presents on his birthday- It would be a lame ass birthday party without them.

[MWOS]

I am lmfao @ "off the Santa grid"

[shostakovich]

Okay, so my sister (who has two little ones of her own) and I still get presents and stockings from Santa. We are grown-ass adults, but still love the tradition of "St. Nick" putting the traditional (and fun!) things in our stockings, and the look my mom gets on her face each year when we open them.

I was not horror-stricken to learn that my parents had deceived me about Santa - I felt even more loved, because of all of the elaborate things they did to convince us that he was real.

[moolarkey]

So believing in Santa scarred you for life? I don't think so. Gosh, I survived learning about Santa, the Easter Bunny AND the tooth fairy.. and honest, I'm really pretty normal.

Seems grinchy to me but it's your life.

[rex]

How dare your kid do something fun around Christmas time.


::eyeroll::

[Deleted]

Or have knock down drag out fights over stupid shit. "Let's stay together and continue to provide our kid with a contradictory home life. Fuck stability. We have a marriage license!"

[thebamker]

Nov 21, 2012 11:20:24 GMT -5 Que? said:

And, if you were at all clever, you would have made your name Cardagain.

Winning!

[mandy0810]

I thought of this picture when she said she didn't want to "lie" to her son. I don't know how to PIP sorry.


pinterest.com/pin/456200637223472967/

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Nov 21, 2012 10:50:38 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

WW Kirk Cameron Do?

Now let's not go THERE. lol

[aliceinfairyland]

Nov 21, 2012 11:02:57 GMT -5 sweetday said:

Nov 21, 2012 9:24:45 GMT -5 @mrdobalina said:

eventually know Santa is bullshit??? That's crazy talk. I never had Santa come to my house. You want to know what I know about Santa? I know that every year parents without two nickels to rub together write letters to a non profit I work with begging for something for their kids. Not themselves, not for food or a job, or anything they need, but for something to make their kids smile on Christmas morning. Santa is bullshit? Ba humbug. Santa is an expression of love for children. Other cultures express love for their kids differently, but I have seen what it means to be Santa and you people who are anti Santa are insane.

Perfection

<3

This? Made this pregnant cry. Allow me to give you a completely inappropriate hug.

[ralphlauren]

Nov 21, 2012 9:09:24 GMT -5 @mrdobalina said:

Guys, I'm a Jew, but dang, Santa is fun for kids....It's you know, a nice thing. Don't make it a powerplay. Fuck, that's grinchy.

Me too. I love Christmas so much. Thankfully my husband celebrates Christmas so I get to. It is our favorite holiday of the year.

[gozf]

I can't believe this is a real thread.

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Nov 21, 2012 11:42:13 GMT -5 gozf said:

I can't believe this is a real thread.

this thread is the reason for the season.

[gozf]

Nov 21, 2012 11:45:27 GMT -5 cville said:

Nov 21, 2012 11:42:13 GMT -5 gozf said:

I can't believe this is a real thread.

this thread is the reason for the season.

lol!

This poor child can't catch a break. Mom and Dad having a Santa v Jesus throwdown? Yeesh.

[sprky79]

Nov 21, 2012 11:51:11 GMT -5 gozf said:

Nov 21, 2012 11:45:27 GMT -5 cville said:

this thread is the reason for the season.

lol!

This poor child can't catch a break. Mom and Dad having a Santa v Jesus throwdown? Yeesh.

WIth a little luck, this kid will quickly realize his parents are effing nuts, and get out of that house at 18 and never look back.

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Nov 21, 2012 11:55:45 GMT -5 @sprky79 said:

Nov 21, 2012 11:51:11 GMT -5 gozf said:

lol!

This poor child can't catch a break. Mom and Dad having a Santa v Jesus throwdown? Yeesh.

WIth a little luck, this kid will quickly realize his parents are effing nuts, and get out of that house at 18 and never look back.

We can only hope.

[Deleted]

I didn't want to do the Santa thing, mainly because I would like to make the focus of Christmas be on charity for those less fortunate and appreciating time with family, as well as the religious aspects. DH (who is Jewish, lol) feels strongly about doing Santa, so we will. It's not worth arguing over and I certainly don't think it does any harm to kids, so I'm going with it and will enjoy all the cute kid excitement that goes along with it.

[pantsparty]

Ooooh, when do we get to talk about the parents who make sure the kids get gifts from Mom and Dad because they don't want Santa hogging all the credit?

THE HOLIDAY SEASON IS HERE, BITCHES!

[flamingeaux]

pssst. there's no i in fabulous.

[EmilieMadison]

Nov 21, 2012 9:12:53 GMT -5 @kimberhenry said:

Yes I am. I mean, I would explain the meaning of Santa and what he represents but not let my kids believe that he is real. Santa is a figure that stands for good things and I would want them to know about that. But Santa being an actual person is fiction, not fact.

Like Jesus!