I'm a devout tea drinker.I actually like the taste of coffee ice cream but can't do coffee itself. Coffee messes with my stomach and makes me feel anxious.
I'd say go with something low caffeine, not a dark roast, high milk to coffee ratio. And not too big.
I think you can tell her you got married without doing it in a drama llama way. A short note afterwards - that avoids confusion about it being an invitation without having to spell out that she isn't invited (it'll be obvious).
I have an aunt that sent us her wedding announcement after the fact - no drama in the family and we are all fairly close but she had always vowed not not marry so when she changed her mind (a decade into her serious relationship) she went ahead and did it and told everyone afterwards. no fuss or drama. We were all very happy for her and they are still together 20+ years later so it was the right decision
It sounds like your mom is sad because she is hoping *your* wedding will give *her* a chance to reconnect with your sister. It isn't your job to heal that rift. And your mom is probably overestimating the chance things would go well between the two of them anyway.
ETA: I missed that your sister wants you to write to her. She may have good intentions but it isn't the right answer.
I've check the law - no minimum in CA. I'll have her take the Red Cross babysitting class and then we'll go through these and other criteria and do a gut check to see if it feels right after that. I know this mom will ask again when DD's ready because the little one loves DD.
Another fat finger typo - she's 12, not 11. She's done mother's helper stuff for her aunt and toddler/baby cousins.
She knows the family, house and kid well - it's the 6 year old little sister of one of her best friends who absolutely idolizes her. The big sister and dad will be out of town for the weekend.
It's 5-8. She has an apple watch with phone service. We'd be a short distance away (not walking distance, but could come quickly if called).
In this scenario I'd allow it. But only if I knew I was available to step in if an emergency occurred.
Yeah - I feel like I need to stay on call for the evening. But that's okay.
She is super responsible- people have been asking me to let her babysit their kids since she was 10. She leads the girl scout meetings for her little sibling and is beloved by the kids. She has already made meals for the child when she's over hanging out with the big sister and helped with her bedtime. This is the first time I've considered it outside the family mother's helper role.
My 11 year old would make a fantastic mother's helper, but I'm not sure I'd leave her completely on her own with kids yet.
How old are the kids that your child would be watching? How long would the parents be gone? How far is their home from yours, or at least from an adult that could come in an emergency? Does your child have a cell phone or does the home still have a house line?
Those are all things I'd want to consider before I agreed.
Another fat finger typo - she's 12, not 11. She's done mother's helper stuff for her aunt and toddler/baby cousins.
She knows the family, house and kid well - it's the 6 year old little sister of one of her best friends who absolutely idolizes her. The big sister and dad will be out of town for the weekend.
It's 5-8. She has an apple watch with phone service. We'd be a short distance away (not walking distance, but could come quickly if called).
My 11 year old had been asked to babysit by a friend. How fix you know your kid was old enough to baby mail?
I'm no help but these typos gave me the giggles!
HA! My phone is the worst for auto correct. I kept correcting "tour" to "your" in my texts to DH yesterday and he kept answering "my what?" It was a mess.
I took ‘coast’ to be shorthand for those houses near eroding cliffs, hurricane flooding barrier islands, and other naturally vulnerable places. .
We bought where we did because it isn’t at risk for tidal or mountain runoff flooding. I refused to consider any house built on stilts (to accommodate steep hills, not floods),
There are other nearby neighborhoods built on bayfill landfill (ie. Vulnerable in earthquakes) where the street gutters sometimes reverse during high rain + king tides. 70-80 years ago when they were built, home buyers didn’t think about climate change. But I don’t understand people who choose those to buy there now. It isn’t the dramatic damage of east coast hurricanes, Malibu mansions sliding into the sea, or low lying towns near the Mississippi River that get inundated, but nature is still coming for you.
] As for a presidential candidate, I want someone who is going to take Covid/public health seriously.
Sure. I also want someone who recognizes LGBTQ based persecution as a grounds for asylum.
But that doesn’t matter because we are going to get either Biden or the GOP candidate.
This isn’t Katie Porter primaryng Feinstein in CA where she has a shot because voters are strongly blue and CA primaries run differently. If Biden gets primaried, it’ll look just like Carter in 1980 or Johnson in 1968.
Sanitizing does nothing to get rid of whatever matter is on your hands - it just kills some of the viruses and bacteria that are on there so if you pass it along it can't replicate and grow new bacteria/viruses. You need to wash them if you want to actually get stuff off.
Dana White is a slob comes clean right? I didn’t totally dislike her but definitely feel like we are very different. So I’m not sure I related too much to what she was saying.
Her main thing is that you don't make a space perfect and then try and maintain it. You start by building small habits that make it a little better at a time. That way, as a space gets better it stays that way. For people who struggle I think that is key.
My take is very simple: If Biden steps down, and someone else steps up, that is the time to have this conversation. Until then, it's time for dems to fall in line. He wasn't my preferred candidate in 2020 but *Biden is going to be the Democratic candidate in 2024.* Biden's not going anywhere. We need to come to terms with that and figure out how we win *with* him. All of this back and forth just sucks energy and feeds the GOP.
* (unless some idiot decides to primary him. That is the quickest way to lose the next election so no one wish that into existence).
** by ‘this’ conversation I mean the conversation about who we’d prefer /what we’d prefer in a dem candidate. Not the broader thread.
OP, the 3 of these work together sometimes and basically have very similar messages but bery different personalities. I really don’t enjoy Dana K White, but ai love the minimal mom and enjoy Cass from Clutterbug well enough. I’d watch a video or two from each and pick the one that you identify the most with and teepee watching her.
I used to watch minimal mom (and did their Take Your House Back course), but she posted about her politics one time and I couldn’t listen anymore 😬
Oh no. I was just going to check her out given cricket's recommendation. What are her politics?
I have a question: for those of you naturally not organized, does a "once and done" visit with an organizer actually help? I feel like they are a great solution for naturally organized people who want a little guidance, help or structure. But do people who truly struggle with organization find that they have successfully used an organizer, and then maintained what that person implemented one term?
I have generally found that systems I build/create myself are much more sustainable than anything someone else does.
I was talking to a friend who was so excited about her recent visit from a home organizer and how the organizer had Marie Kondo'ed her clothes. I feel like those of us who struggle with disorganization (1) already know how to Marie Kondo clothes, (2) we've tried it because we try everything, and (3) we didn't find it useful or we'd already be doing it. The idea that someone else can swoop in, set things up their way and it'll work longer term just doesn't resonate for me. I don't think in rainbows so I'm never going to implement a "home edit" style solution. It would be a complete waste of time.
I imagine some organizers can be dictatorial. But the one we hired was very laid back. She helped with the kids rooms so it wasn’t a whole household system. Systems were determined together so it wasn’t like she was forcing something I would not be interested in. She was very practical so most things just made sense. If it didn’t make sense to me I said it while we were in process and we immediately pivoted to a different location for the items.
Like I mentioned before it’s nothing new than a lot of people do already. It wasn’t Marie Kondo but she did fold clothes that way. And it wasn’t rainbow. It was just basically like you are decluttering and organizing the room yourself with a knowledgeable helper that lightly guides you.
The main thing that helps is to keep up on decluttering imo. My daughter got a ton of birthday presents and it totally threw things off for a while until she used them (mostly art projects).
I have a question: for those of you naturally not organized, does a "once and done" visit with an organizer actually help? I feel like they are a great solution for naturally organized people who want a little guidance, help or structure. But do people who truly struggle with organization find that they have successfully used an organizer, and then maintained what that person implemented one term?
I have generally found that systems I build/create myself are much more sustainable than anything someone else does.
I was talking to a friend who was so excited about her recent visit from a home organizer and how the organizer had Marie Kondo'ed her clothes. I feel like those of us who struggle with disorganization (1) already know how to Marie Kondo clothes, (2) we've tried it because we try everything, and (3) we didn't find it useful or we'd already be doing it. The idea that someone else can swoop in, set things up their way and it'll work longer term just doesn't resonate for me. I don't think in rainbows so I'm never going to implement a "home edit" style solution. It would be a complete waste of time.
Honestly, it sounds like you might like the approach of Dana K White of "a slob comes clean" (don't take offense at the title. I promise I'm not suggesting you are a slob).
She specifically addresses those exact issues (clean laundry in baskets, things not really having a home, things overflowing the home they have) and not in a "pull it all out and spend the whole afternoon organizing it" way. I find her podcasts funny and will listen as a clean even though she is repetitive because she really just goes over her five or six tricks. So if you start with the first pod cast and listen to about 10 you probably will cover everything she does. lol.
Having said that, I do some things quite differently. Personally, I find a running purge goal helpful. I once counted for a month what our average intake of stuff was and I was surprised how much came in.
Now I set a goal to purge 3x that amount each month. (For accountability, I keep a list of months and add a hatch mark for each thing that goes out. Years that I make my numbers feel much better in my home than years that don't).
"1 in, 1 out" replacement doesn't work if you already have too much.
Even 2 to 1 isn't enough (if you have too much) because the thing you get rid of is usually something that broke/is stuffed at the back of the drawer forgotten/something you already ignore. In contrast, a new thing is likely to be put into use right away and be more visible/present in your life (and also need to be stored in a more accessible way). And it might literally take up more space. Older things are more likely to have been shifted until they found a niche to fit right in. Plus other people bring things in that I don't fully realize but definitely mean more stuff.
1) Regarding transportation: He will be driving late sophomore year, but are you planning to give him a car? If you are able to carpool now, will that continue in the future as friend groups shift, etc. How long is the drive?
2) Is this only based upon friends? And why are the friends choosing this school (is it something relevant to him like the availability of specific programs or actively seeking out the different class structure).
3) How will you feel if all three kids choose this school? Once he goes, that might reset what your kids expect and want. (or conversely, is there a chance you will be letting another kid go there for other reasons in the future and not allowing this choice now could sound like favoritism then). And if they don't follow him, how do you feel about carting kids to two different high schools/balancing the schedules of two different schools?
We have 2 rooms that were supposed to be one bedroom per kid. But by the time the youngest was 6 months, the big one wanted so badly to see them that they'd go and climb in the crib every morning. We gave up on two bedrooms and turned one into a playroom. It stayed like that until this summer when the then 11 year old *really* wanted her own room. We are now looking for a new house (for a couple of reasons) but a kid "hangout space" is high on the list of wants.
I miss when shirts were all long. I don't just mean I wish there were more things that weren't crop tops, but why do so many shirts stop at the top of my pants now? I feel so awkward with my whole crotch showing and it's not a flattering cut for my stomach.
Things that stop at the top of pants for other people are crop tops for me. I'm long waisted. "tunic" style tops don't consistently cover my butt- but they do at least go past the top of my pants. No one wants to see my navel.
This isn't analogous to the teacher not covering her ankles for the sake of a conservative student who could take offense. This is more analogous to the teacher telling students in the syllabus that there was a "I steal your hat or head covering" day coming up. Then later ripping the hats off of all students in the room after giving a warning and acknowledging that some of the "hats" in question might actually be yarmulkes and hijabs.
This is not analogous to that at all. Ripping off people’s head coverings is assault. Using relevant course material is not.
At any rate, this argument piece is very detailed and not paywalled.
When the head of the religious studies department came to her defense in an open letter in the campus newspaper, the letter got removed. That doesn’t suggest an academically free and open campus.
This wasn’t some caricatured art conjured by the Western imagination and being perpetuated by an ignorant American: “the images—devotional paintings of Muhammad produced by Muslim artists in the 14th and 16th centuries, respectively.”
Yes - that would be battery so the analogy isn't great.
My point is that the student in question objected because she felt that it was something done to her. Not just someone else's bad behavior near her. Much like when people hear a racial slur quoted, they can feel like it is an attack on them, not merely someone saying something offensive near them. She felt the act of viewing such an image was "forced" upon her (if you think she truly missed the warnings or felt she was not empowered to heed them).
I'm going to stop here.
I'm not comfortable with multiple non-Muslim posters repeatedly challenging the few Muslim posters on what is or isn't offensive to Muslims. I am also not muslim so I am equally culpable. I'm stepping out and just listening to them.
Are you mixing really well into the batter itself? Or mixing it in with the dry ingredients before you add them to the wet ones? Even if the recipe doesn't call for it, you'll want your baking soda and salt mixed into the flour first - and with something that would break up any small lumps. (I usually us a spoon to press and break up any lumps).
I think we all agree that we shouldn't cover our ankles or eyes because some undefined many declare it blasphemy.
This isn't analogous to the teacher not covering her ankles for the sake of a conservative student who could take offense. This is more analogous to the teacher telling students in the syllabus that there was a "I steal your hat or head covering" day coming up. Then later ripping the hats off of all students in the room after giving a warning and acknowledging that some of the "hats" in question might actually be yarmulkes and hijabs.
I think he absolutely should have told you. That doesn't mean he is necessarily lying about planning to work in Orlando.
Doesn't anyone here know people who regularly accompany their family on trips, still work during work hours and just spend their off hours enjoying the destination? This is incredibly common among people I know. The family will head to Tahoe for weeks at a time during school breaks. The working parent(s) will work during the day while a nanny/other parent/ski team/camp entertains the kids. My brother and his wife will do this when visiting her family in Southern California. My brother will work while the rest hit up Disneyland (she'll take a day of leave but he doesn't). His wife might work while he takes the kids to the beach (he works east coast hours so finishes with plenty of daylight left).
I'd say the opposite is more often true - people taking/trying to take approved "vacation" time from work, but they end up skipping at least part of the vacation to do work.
Would your dog fit in there if you redesigned/tiled it to be a doggie shower stall like the ones pictured?
If so, you could put a mesh or slotted shelf above it (something that can withstand getting wet) where you store a literal tub/bin/bucket. upside down and empty to dry when not in use, but you can flip it over and fill with water from the shower head when you need to let something soak or rinse paint brushes in it. Something with a pour spout on one side that you could tip towards the tile back wall when emptying it so the water runs down. When it isn't too heavy you just empty it below.
As a bonus, the mesh shelf can act as a drying rack for odd things and maybe even somewhere you can hang dry clothes (if the mesh/slots accommodate a hanger top)
Oooo. I have a better version of this. Still a "shower below, tub up top" vision. But instead of a shelf you rest the tub on, something with slots on the side that holds a washing bin/tub you can slide in a and out. (Like an Elfa system bin, but solid). Still using the shower head to fill it. But when you wash the dog, you take it out completely so you have space to work and it's still positioned at a good height when in use.
Yeah. He fits there, but if you need to get in there to clean him at all, it would be really uncomfortable squeeze. How far is the sink from the door outside?