Where’s the closest bus stop for the short bus to 😈
The term short bus is typically used disparagingly. I would axe that from your vocabulary
Very true.
From context, I think pinkdutchtulips intended "express bus" rather than "short bus" as it is typically used when meant in a disparaging way (ie. a shorter length school bus that can accommodate kids who may need specialized stops or other accommodations.)
I'm always surprised when people double (or quadruple) down on problematic posts.
Back to the topic:
During COVID, I saw a teacher administer a version of this to 4th graders over zoom in a way that was not belittling, not humiliating and the kids learned. Basically, the only negative consequence of not reading all the directions before starting was that you had wasted your time and energy completing the form. None of the questions were embarrassing (like someone else in here) merely time consuming. And all were on material the kids had mastered/practiced recently so even "wasting time" wasn't exactly a waste of time. The teacher phrased it as "Following directions isn't just for my sake. Instructions are there to help you." With zoom, the kids didn't know who had done as directed and she didn't even have them turn it in with their other work.
I have about 11. I started with fewer/smaller options as a newlywed (cooking for two in a two burner kitchen). Over time, I've added specific pieces as the meals I regularly make are larger and our needs are more diverse. The smaller pans are still useful for specific things. My smallest frying pan could be replaced, but not tossed outright. I don't want to pull out (and clean) an 8 inch pan to sweat two cloves of garlic before throwing them into pesto.
Both my father and MIL became very sensitive to things like soap when undergoing cancer treatment (neither skin related). After trying dozens of fancy and ordinary options, the only thing my MIL could tolerate is a specific soap that went off the market this fall. (The french orange blossom soap from Trader Joes. I brought some for her to try because that was the only thing that worked for me when I had newborns. I've tried 10 options since they stopped making it and nothing works as well for my hands).
A FB acquaintance is at Universal with her 5 year old to perform with her dance troupe. This stuff is such a racket. They are basically just performing for their parents on some random stage. Our high school dance teams go do this in Hawaii once every 4 years. They perform in a really out of the way spot at Pearl Harbour, it's just their parents watching. It's crazy to me that this is so common.
Any travel thing with kids is a racket. I see this with choirs, dance troupes and sports all the time.
Why can't all those "travel" teams just compete against the myriad of other local "travel" teams?
Ok, I am definitely a laughing at inappropriate times person and again it was a 2 margarita lunch, but that thread about parent advice more trouble at school just reminds me of a story not appropriate to add to that thread as it is funny and that thread is not. So growing up in a small town my parents were good friends with lots of my teachers. So one day a teacher friend of theirs was walking down the hall of my elementary school in 1980 something and heard another teacher friend getting after her class and then heard "Y'all need to straighten up, you're acting like a bunch of dildos!" Friend in the hall was aghast and pulled that teacher friend out in the hall and asked if she was OK and did she need help. Teacher friend was confused about the concern. Other teacher explained she was concerned since she called her students dildos. Still it did not register why that was wrong, so she asked her what a dildo was and she said "silly people, they were acting like silly people!". So when the true definition of dildo was shared the color went out of her face and she said "My God, I've been calling them that all week".
Lol. My grandfather, a school superintendent in the 40s, 50s and 60s, used "boob" as his favorite insult. A football player who made a mistake was aways a boob. I'm guessing he never used it with kids.
My kid recently had a choking incident and they were silent. Luckily I saw their face and raced over. But even as I ran over I wasn't sure it was choking except that they didn't answer me when I asked what was wrong.
I do think that water retention is just a very small piece of this. CA has a ton of ag that just needs to end, with avocados and almonds right up at the top.
A wash and blowout on Friday would probably still look better than not having that blow out. But it would fall differently. Tight curls definitely don't hold day to day for me.
However, if I wash and blow dry in the morning, and then wear it up in a bun until I'm ready to style it, I start with body and waves. (People who see my "carpool hair" are often surprised by my evening hair). And unlike the person below me, brushing it would be key to helping a blowout stay smooth. lol.
We see men kill their families and we don't get this kind of support
We have a long legal history of giving men a pass in different ways. The whole idea of "heat of passion" being a mitigating factor excused a lot of on going domestic violence.
Does she like subscription boxes? For someone who ‘already has everything’ I don’t know that I’d go for the gift of ‘more.’ Subscription boxes are consumerism on crack
Some people like the excess of it all. But plenty of people don’t want more for the sake of more.
One gift is nice. It doesn't need to be four (or a dozen) gifts.
D(6) is in 1st grade. The 'this color/toy etc is only for girls' is loud and strong among the kids. DS has been told his pink pants and water bottle with some pink on it are for girls. Some girls were refusing to let the boys play with the barbies at free choice time because barbies are only for girls (by DS' account). The conditioning starts so early. It makes me so sad. So far DS is standing strong because we're a colors/toys/clothes/books etc are for everyone family. It's like swimming up river.
There is also baseline misogyny built in. It's more acceptable for little girls to want 'boys' things than for little boys to want 'girls' things. Our culture often assumes the 'boy' oriented options are better.
Having an NB kid who likes to go glam/glam femme at times is really eye opening. When my kid dresses masculine, no one bats an eye. Add one purple item of clothing or a touch of sparkle, and it brings out all sorts of stranger looks/opinions on "boys in girls' clothes" (not all negative - but adding even one femme touch to a "boy" draws attention. Adding masc touches to femme looks doesn't even register for most people. People who "read" my kid as a "girl" barely notice.)
One thing to note: I see a lot of people conflating PPD and PPP. They aren't the same thing - just like depression and schizophrenia aren't the same thing.
Today I do not have my shit together, even by my limited definition.
I yelled at the kids before school because one flat out refused to do anything to get ready or go. Just sat down in the living room repeatedly saying no. And the other was being difficult *again* about something that I had done *for her and at her request.* Ugh. It's going to be a bad day.
Well, in my experience, there’s always a lot of hissing and excitement on everyone’s part in the beginning and then they settle and adjust:) I have put my cats in my bedroom before, which is fine, except that the litter is then also in my bedroom. Dogs also like to eat treats from teh litter box, so that’s something else to consider.
I love to travel with my dog, but sometimes it’s nice to just be free of that responsibility! Are they in a city that would have decent boarding options? We have one we really like.
They usually board him. My MIL has just been obsessed with this idea for literally years now. It’s like a bucket list dream for her or something. I can’t even explain it.
What exactly is the dream for her? Taking the dog on a big trip? Introducing their dog to your cat? Because both of those can be accomplished with a pet friendly Airbnb and a daytime stop at your house.
Something I've noticed: melatonin helps my anxiety/ruminating on subsequent days. And stopping melatonin (when my sleep patterns are under control) increases those issues.
I stand by my previous statement. Recognizing what is most important (for your situation/life/family) and Trying on those things is having your shit together.
I have clean laundry in baskets right now that could be put away. Instead I spent 4 hours yesterday evening taking my kid to a meet up we do on the opposite side of the Bay Area so they have a regular, safe space with other GNC kids. Everything in their life goes better with that support so it’s worth the hassle for me.
Perfect housekeeping is a luxury for when nothing more important or more interesting is happening. Targeted housekeeping is more my style. (Clean and functional matter more to me than picture ready.)
1) Coughs usually linger for a month for me so I understand where you are coming from
2) I would contact the hostess and the baby mom before attending and ask how they feel about it. If I decided to go, I would wear an N95 and not eat or drink inside (so I didn't have to take it off). It's probably just something lingering, but I wouldn't risk getting a pregnant person sick (just in case it's a second infection fast on the heels of the first). Even a cold during pregnancy is soooo miserable and you can't take the good stuff.
One thing I can say, is it won't be Florida or a number of other locations. No LCOL is worth moving somewhere that is legally hostile to my kids (or possible grandkids). It's one thing to stay somewhere and fight for better. It's another to vote with our feet and move to somewhere.
I have no illusions that my retirement is going to be fancier than my life at this point. We are more likely to down scale to a small condo. And that is if all goes well and both kids can support themselves independently in adulthood. When I "dream big" that's my dream.
Multiple medications doesn't mean all at once and the very fact they can't be taken together might be why the list is so long.
Let's try X. X isn't working? Let's try Y. Y gives you this bad side effect? Let's try Z. But Z can't be taken with A, so we will need to switch that to B.
I think we can understand that, but I took gretchenindisguise 's comment as a worry that more new parents could be hesitant to speak with their doctors about medication in general for fear that this can be the outcome, even if such an outcome is so incredibly rare versus all the positive outcomes from the right treatment plan. And that was a concern of mine too when I saw that article, even if I also understand her defense attorney is trying to do his job too.
Sorry - I agree with Gretchen and meant to be supplementing her point, not undermining it.