I think my husband is trying to plan something for me for my birthday this year. I legitimately don't know how I feel about this. I spent a month figuring out why I hate celebrating my birthday in therapy. Boils down to never feeling prioritized by my family growing up* and if I deny doing anything I protect myself from being disappointed. I'm trying to just let it happen but it's very hard to resist shutting down whatever he's planning.
*birthday is two days before a holiday that we always went out of town for. We were either traveling on my birthday or prepping to travel for the majority of birthdays while I was growing up.
Post by emilyinchile on May 12, 2024 7:08:43 GMT -5
I stayed at my friend's birthday party until 1 am with the thinking that I'd get to sleep in for mother's day. When I got home, poor H was still up because he hadn't been able to sleep. L woke up in the middle of the night yelling for me because he'd kicked his covers off and was cold, and then he woke up at about 6:30 and talked to himself nonstop until his wake up light went green at 7:15. And I got up with him. At least he's been playing happily without needing more input from me than the occasional "yeees?" so I'm under a cozy blanket on the couch.
DD had the best time on her band trip but DH came back horrified by 7th grade girl behavior. He was like OMG I can totally see why DD’s best band friends are both 8th grade boys. DD felt very vindicated. They obviously aren’t all awful but there were a group of 5 drawing on a sleeping kid’s face, taking pictures and airdropping to everyone, and defying every order from any adult including the assistant band director asking them to remain seated and quiet. That’s his first exposure to a big event like this and he was not ready for it. (That goes for DH and the asst band director.) DD was just like see? She will really miss those 8th graders a lot next year so I’m glad she got that day with them.
My beagle just caught and ate a bunny. Wtf do I do?!? 🤮
barf. Nothing, though. If it was a baby from a nest, try to keep him away from it. Sometimes mom bunny will move the babies if the nest is discovered. He might get an upset belly but you don't usually need to worry about pups getting sick from something like this. Anna caught so many critters, it was nasty. I found her with part of a deer leg once. A fox or vulture must have dropped it in the yard. I panicked and called the vet, who were very unconcerned about it.
My beagle just caught and ate a bunny. Wtf do I do?!? 🤮
barf. Nothing, though. If it was a baby from a nest, try to keep him away from it. Sometimes mom bunny will move the babies if the nest is discovered. He might get an upset belly but you don't usually need to worry about pups getting sick from something like this. Anna caught so many critters, it was nasty. I found her with part of a deer leg once. A fox or vulture must have dropped it in the yard. I panicked and called the vet, who were very unconcerned about it.
This is helpful. Google makes me feel like she will have rabies. LOL
Ugh—that dog. She’s getting a good tooth brushing today.
Post by SusanBAnthony on May 12, 2024 8:03:59 GMT -5
I agree with nothing as long as she's on flea/tick prevention. My dog caught a bunny and got fleas- the flea prevention quickly killed them so it was fine, but I'd check her for them and clean her off outside if needed.
barf. Nothing, though. If it was a baby from a nest, try to keep him away from it. Sometimes mom bunny will move the babies if the nest is discovered. He might get an upset belly but you don't usually need to worry about pups getting sick from something like this. Anna caught so many critters, it was nasty. I found her with part of a deer leg once. A fox or vulture must have dropped it in the yard. I panicked and called the vet, who were very unconcerned about it.
This is helpful. Google makes me feel like she will have rabies. LOL
Ugh—that dog. She’s getting a good tooth brushing today.
lol no. It's really rare for rabbits and squirrels (and any smaller mammals) to have rabies, they don't have enough tissue for the virus to infect, essentially. At most you might be worried about parasites but as long as you're taking her to the vet yearly it will be caught and treated. 100% get the ick factor from knowing what's been in her mouth. The first time Anna caught a squirrel I took her right into the bath. I got over it eventually, she was a menace.
Has anyone tried that lemonade coffee drink on the internet? I got intrigued and made a lemon simple syrup and did lemon juice instead of lemonade, and although it sounds like an abomination it was actually really good. I have left over lemon simple syrup so have been enjoying coffees today with it and it may be my new favorite thing.
I haven’t seen the one on the Internet, but a coffee shop near me does espresso + lemonade + fizz and it’s DELICIOUS. Bitter, sweet, earthy, sour, it goes so well together.
barf. Nothing, though. If it was a baby from a nest, try to keep him away from it. Sometimes mom bunny will move the babies if the nest is discovered. He might get an upset belly but you don't usually need to worry about pups getting sick from something like this. Anna caught so many critters, it was nasty. I found her with part of a deer leg once. A fox or vulture must have dropped it in the yard. I panicked and called the vet, who were very unconcerned about it.
This is helpful. Google makes me feel like she will have rabies. LOL
Ugh—that dog. She’s getting a good tooth brushing today.
Our old cat was a killing machine and the worst thing he ever got from all the murder was tape worm. Which is gross but easy to treat.
DH is headed on a guys weekend with some fraternity brothers next week and the lack of planning is killing him. They all want to spend one night near their Alma mater, but vacation rentals are slim and no one wants to do a hotel and Uber, but he’s like “what else can we do?”
I told him I have more than enough points for a free night at a hotel and to offer that up.
Then he said some of them started talking about their CPAP machines and DH is like “man we are old!”
Happy Mother's Day to everyone who celebrates, and hugs to those of you for whom this day is hard.❤️
The kids and I stayed up until around 11:00 (this is quite an accomplishment for me, and was only possible because I took a 2-hour nap midday) trying to see if we could spot any northern lights last night. We couldn't, but it was fun to try nonetheless. I proceeded to get a very good night's sleep, and actually feel ready to be awake now even though it's barely 8:00.
Today we're having brunch at a restaurant we all enjoy, and then it'll be a pretty normal day of grocery shopping and laundry. I've been reading this massive 1100+ page fantasy novel at Kid 1's request (it's the first book in their favorite author's major series) and I'd like to make a big dent in it today so I can be done faster. Several new released I'd preordered months ago came out last week, and I want to start them! All in all, I expect it'll be a nice, low key Mother's Day.
I’m one of those with a hard Mother’s Day. Because of a lack of relationship with my abusive mother and no kids myself (which is, if I’m honest, less than half by choice), so going out and having every cashier wish the middle aged woman a happy Mother’s Day just makes me feel like a failure.
But this morning I woke up to the sweetest text from the “nephew” about being such a great fake aunt. 🥰
My ds has his 'girlfriend' (newly official, they are 14) over for the 1st time today to watch a movie. I told him they could watch it in the living room or basement, and he picked the living room. So now dh and I are hanging out upstairs to give them some space (while going down for random things now and then), but dh is watching baseball in our bedroom, which is making me too distracted to read, but man is it BORING. I hope the pizza I ordered gets here soon so I have a legit reason to go downstairs for a while.
How did it go? I have to say it's something I'm not really looking forward to! Mine will be 14 this summer. He had a big crush for 2 years, but she moved and no one has taken her place. I bought tickets recently for the Bugs Bunny Symphony and it's on Feb 14th next year. Before I bought the tickets I asked him if I should get an extra just in case and he said Yes before I even got the words out. Still no one in mind, but I guess he's wide open to the possibility. LOL But the thought of being on a 'double date' with him does not exactly thrill me. I told him to pick one that likes spicey food because we're going to our favorite Mexican place before the show. LOL
Post by killercupcake on May 12, 2024 10:26:27 GMT -5
Mother’s Day when you have a strained relationship with your mom sucks. I hate this day. I cant even enjoy it as a mom.
And I had a dream about someone who I looked up to as a mom when I was growing up, but she cut off all contact with me (and everyone in our circle) several years ago. I miss her a lot.
My ds has his 'girlfriend' (newly official, they are 14) over for the 1st time today to watch a movie. I told him they could watch it in the living room or basement, and he picked the living room. So now dh and I are hanging out upstairs to give them some space (while going down for random things now and then), but dh is watching baseball in our bedroom, which is making me too distracted to read, but man is it BORING. I hope the pizza I ordered gets here soon so I have a legit reason to go downstairs for a while.
How did it go? I have to say it's something I'm not really looking forward to! Mine will be 14 this summer. He had a big crush for 2 years, but she moved and no one has taken her place. I bought tickets recently for the Bugs Bunny Symphony and it's on Feb 14th next year. Before I bought the tickets I asked him if I should get an extra just in case and he said Yes before I even got the words out. Still no one in mind, but I guess he's wide open to the possibility. LOL But the thought of being on a 'double date' with him does not exactly thrill me. I told him to pick one that likes spicey food because we're going to our favorite Mexican place before the show. LOL
It went pretty well. She was a little awkward, but so am I so I definitely am not going to hold that against her lol. It also didn't help that ds and DD had been to a sleepover the night before and got NO sleep, so ds was a bit out of sorts (like he said he didn't want to eat pizza because his stomach was upset from all the junk and being overtired, so then she didn't eat, but I could tell she was hungry, and I was like, dude just make a plate and sit with her while she eats!). But she was super nice to DD, they even asked her to watch some of the movie with them and to play pool afterwards, so that was nice because ds isn't always nice to DD (also, why does DD autocorrect to capitals but ds doesn't???). They were cuddling a big on the couch while watching the movie, which was cute but weird to see...def. going to take some getting used to! They have been talking on the phone all year and went to homecoming together in the fall, so even though they are just recently 'official' they do seem to know each other really well, so I wouldn't be surprised if she stuck around for a while (although also wouldn't be surprised if she didn't I guess just due to the nature of high school romances!)
My beagle just caught and ate a bunny. Wtf do I do?!? 🤮
My father’s beagle was a killing machine- birds, rabbits, squirrels. The first time he got a squirrel I think the vet put him on antibiotics as a precaution, but that was the only time. And he killed at least three more squirrels.
Post by wanderingback on May 12, 2024 11:39:12 GMT -5
Well I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a baby boy and didn’t have any pain during contractions or pushing. Then I was planning to come here to GBCN to say guess what everyone I was pregnant the past 9 months and never told you all. Lol, so random.
There’s no way I’m ever having another kid and have been thinking about getting a salpingectomy, but I guess my subconscious has different ideas!
Post by basilosaurus on May 12, 2024 11:51:50 GMT -5
Somehow my algorithms on fb have changed so that I get calvin and hobbes, pickles, and dogs eating different foods. Considering there was a stretch of anti-trans and anti-woman sponsored posts (how tf did that happen?!), I'm not complaining. But I've spent more time than I'd like to admit watching dogs eat human food and reading the dumb misspelled captions.
Post by RoxMonster on May 12, 2024 11:56:48 GMT -5
Happy Mother’s Day to those who celebrate!
H and I did a hike first thing this AM. It was very peaceful and I’m now the nerd who likes seeing which new birds come up on my Merlin app. Then we got breakfast out.
Hugs for those with a challenging day for whatever reason. And a great day for those who do celebrate.
I played the donut game with DH last night. He failed miserably; even DS side-eyed his ass. DS knew I'd opt from a vanilla cream at Dunkin or a cronut if available elsewhere. DH think my favorite is a frosted yeast donut with sprinkles; this is based on the fact that it's what I buy for DS. His second guess was glazed which is what I buy for him. He did much better on the chips bonus round.
My day went sideways already. DS got me a nice card and then discovered his "check engine" light on. I ended up driving him to work before 8am. He'll be done 7-ish. In between I have to fetch mom and do dinner with her and then get her home before collecting DS. No wine for me with dinner which is a shame I got a nice red that was rated 92 in the Wine Spectator. One may end up in an Uber as my gift to me. I got prepared lasagna and antipasti from the local Italian restaurant because I can't face the crowds on Mother's Day.
I’m still getting a very very light positive on my Covid test. I was really hoping it would be negative so I could kiss & hug H when he gets home in about an hour. Haven’t seen him in a week so it’s a definitely a bummer
[quote author="basilosaurus" source="/post/14434496/thread" I'm not complaining. But I've spent more time than I'd like to admit watching dogs eat human food and reading the dumb misspelled captions.[/quote]
I rearranged the playroom this morning and added a rocking chair and plant stand. One step closer to it being a library/game room because DS(8) almost never uses it anymore. The only shelves in there are filled with drawing materials and kid board/card games
I had a standup show that went just ok on Friday but then a fundraiser improv show with my all-women troupe that was amazing Saturday afternoon. We raised money for Box of Balloons, which is kind of like the holiday giving tree, but for birthday parties.
Today my elder child stopped by to hang, as I requested, and she told me she was the happiest she’s ever been. That was awesome. She’s always been one to focus on the negative and be a bit of a grudge holder (gee, I wonder where she gets that, lol?), so it’s lovely to see her happier. She’s on hormones but still looks, talks, and dresses exactly the same so I keep slipping up on her name and pronouns. It’s hard, y’all.
My younger texted me a nice message and promised to call later this evening. Then H and I went for a nice bike ride. Great day so far!
I had a standup show that went just ok on Friday but then a fundraiser improv show with my all-women troupe that was amazing Saturday afternoon. We raised money for Box of Balloons, which is kind of like the holiday giving tree, but for birthday parties.
Today my elder child stopped by to hang, as I requested, and she told me she was the happiest she’s ever been. That was awesome. She’s always been one to focus on the negative and be a bit of a grudge holder (gee, I wonder where she gets that, lol?), so it’s lovely to see her happier. She’s on hormones but still looks, talks, and dresses exactly the same so I keep slipping up on her name and pronouns. It’s hard, y’all.
My younger texted me a nice message and promised to call later this evening. Then H and I went for a nice bike ride. Great day so far!
That's so great for her!
I've know a fair number of people during their transition, and as long as there's good faith effort and no bad family history, people on all sides have been pretty damn gracious. She's had years to come to being open, and I think most people understand for a parent it won't happen overnight. You're likely fine, but of course, keep that communication open in case it isn't with her.
icedcoffee, my old beagle (14 yo) got a rabbit once (actually two large ones). He got pancreatitis and spent a few days in the hospital. Keep an eye on him -- if she vomits up blood I would take her in. A couple years later at 16 he got a baby squirrel. As a precautionary measure, I took him to the vet and they gave him something to make him vomit. No issues that time. My beagle also ate everything and had a pretty tough gut until the rabbits.