I'm so glad for the weekend. Work has been bonkers lately and I've been waking up before 5 every morning with my brain GOING and no hope of getting back to sleep. It has done wonders for my morning routine, but it's not like my brain can shut off so I can fall asleep early!
I'm going for an early hike with a friend and I'm really looking forward to catching up. It's been so long since we've had 1:1 time together and we truly need it!
I've spent the last 4 weekends doing house projects, I'm doing nothing this weekend! Video games with DS and some outlet shopping to get him some new shoes but that's about it. I'm so excited to not be exhausted.
The last few weeks and weekends have been crazy, and this weekend/next week is the same. But after that, it will calm down a bit (I hope)! I just need to get through it. I’m guessing anyone else who works in HE or who has a kid graduating from college knows all to well the struggle, and sweet sweet promise of summer that awaits us!
Post by SusanBAnthony on May 11, 2024 7:10:45 GMT -5
My 14 year old didn't make the better high school band and her two friends did. So much crying and feelings.
Then last night H took the kids looking at the northern lights, and they saw them, but not as strong as some of her friends, and now so much crying and feelings.
The emotions about everything are exhausting. She they are like sweet crying give me a hug emotions, she also gets angry with H and I.
My 14 year old didn't make the better high school band and her two friends did. So much crying and feelings.
Then last night H took the kids looking at the northern lights, and they saw them, but not as strong as some of her friends, and now so much crying and feelings.
The emotions about everything are exhausting. She they are like sweet crying give me a hug emotions, she also gets angry with H and I.
I’m so sorry. I have a 13 year old and I feel every word of this. I’m her emotional punching bag and it takes so much energy not meeting her in the feelings.
Said 13 year old is keeping me busy for the second weekend in a row. She has 2 birthday parties so I’ll spend my day shuttling her around. I hope to clean in between.
My 5 year old has a weird rash the doctor is calling eczema. I’m not sure what to make of it or what my next step should be. It looks terrible and I’m afraid it’s something actually contagious. My Zoloft is not touching my anxiety right now.
We hosted a sleepover and it solidified how much I dislike children. I like mine, but 3 girls is like pure torture. They’re so loud.
Today is dance pictures, what a way to ruin Mother’s Day weekend. Dance pictures are just above parent pick up in circle of hell lists.
I got one girl out thanks to an early weekend activity. Now to get the other one home. She was already asking at breakfast when my kid can play again and I’m like “OMG no.”
I think I’m going to run out and get some plants I saw yesterday for us to get in the ground tomorrow. I wanted to check with DH on spacing and how many to get.
Im exhausted after the last few weeks. I'm torn between spending the weekend doing nothing and doing yard work. The weather is lovely for being outside. Right now my younger dog is being very snuggly (she's usually more aloof) so I am parked on the couch with her.
We have nothing really planned for the weekend and it’s lovely. I’ve thrown out the idea of taking MIL and FIL out to an early dinner tonight, h what to call them first - not my parents, so it’s def on him.
I have a couple of embroidery projects in progress. I should be able to get them done this weekend, but I just, meh. I don’t mind doing gives and commissions, but it’s such a slog when they aren’t interesting. But also, I don’t have any other sewing or craft projects I *want* to do right now, soooo.
The big community plant sale I always get my vegetable starts from is this morning, and I'm not going. Up too late last night getting pictures of the Northern Lights + low temps here are still in the danger zone for tomatoes and peppers, two of the things I always grow. I think I'll probably hit the good greenhouse next weekend instead, and as a bonus their plants are already hardened off so I won't have to spend a week running baby plants back and forth between the backyard and the garage.
H came down with the yucky cold DS 2 and I had a week ago, so I think our Mother's Day dinner plans with my parents and sister are a no-go. My sister started chemo last week, so she really can't be around anyone who's sick, and he just feels like crap. DS2 and I had a fun afternoon mother/son day planned involving a new pizza restaurant and some summer clothes shopping, and I'll probalby make Kid 1 come along now so they can minimize their exposure to H in the house. They're taking the AP World test on Wednesday and I do not want them getting sick beforehand.
My dad is in a rehab for PT so that is exciting but they had us bring him clothes when he arrived late last night and then when we were there they were telling us about some paperwork they want us to drop off today. Couldn’t they have told us they needed this before? I had been told the hospital was forwarding everything to them. I’d really like one day without running back and forth for something.
Anyway, we are going to try and have a day of something fun and then drop that off. Fingers crossed we can get some plants. Last time we went to this plant sale the old women were feral. This time we have a wagon so I won’t have to sit on the curb with a bunch of plants waiting for my husband to get me lol
It was so nice last night to get Chinese food and just chill and read on the couch. Slept in til 8 this morning, I was hoping for longer but I felt like I got enough sleep. My cat came in bed and laid her head on my shoulder and was just purring so hard and being so snuggly. <3
Our baseball was cancelled today because the field's too wet, so we have nowhere to be until a 7pm birthday party. DS will stay at my in laws, so tomorrow H and I will go to brunch alone for Mother's Day for me, then go shopping for flowers. We will then go visit his mother and pick DS up, and go to my mother's for dinner. Long day but at least we get to see everyone and I don't have to cook anything.
I feel a little bad for my H. H was a high school principal here for 6 years, and was pretty well loved and respected. He moved up into a curriculum director position in the district. The HS principal they hired to replace him is completely incompetent. H has tried to meet with him and teach him how certain things are supposed to go and he just doesn't give a shit, and is messing up a lot of things. His old staff are still coming to H for different questions just because this guy sucks so bad, and H doesn't want to just say no because it affects other staff and students. But the superintendent seems oblivious to it all.
Speaking of, someone just called him to go open up a door at the HS that apparently no one else has a key to, because they needed stuff for prom tonight, lol. It never ends.
I’ve been having what I thought were gallbladder attacks nightly for almost two weeks and spent the day in the ER yesterday trying to get answers, turns out it might just be reflux, lol. There was a woman in the waiting room vomiting like crazy, her boyfriend brought her a Mountain Dew and she drank it! It didn’t seem like a good idea and didn’t seem to help the violent puking at all. People are so interesting.
It’s nice here today so we’re going to buy plants after t- ball and put together new patio furniture.
I have a to-do list a mile long today! I am going to grab some groceries and outdoor plant related stuff as soon as I can get myself motivated to get out the door. I really want to actually plant stuff, but we are leaving on vacation in a week so I probably shouldn't until we get back and can water consistently. The forecast currently shows rain many of the days we will be gone, but it could change! I just really want some color in our front yard.
The other yard prep stuff I want to do will probably take all day. Then I need to grade for the class I am teaching - grades are due Tuesday. And I should probably start pulling together stuff to pack for the trip.
I dragged my kids kicking and screaming to date night at our old daycare last night, fought traffic to get to the restaurant where I was meeting H, had a mediocre meal with very little conversation because we’re both exhausted and then went straight home to bed (H stayed out a bit later and picked up the kids). Overall a waste of a night and of money. H and I agreed that we have to find a cheaper babysitter so we can go out more. Date night is slightly cheaper, but has a 10pm pick up time so we can’t do dinner and a movie, or a concert, or a play because those start too late.
I’m feeling so blah about everything lately. We’ve got way too much going on. I’m hoping when school is out and soccer is over I’ll feel better.
We are meeting my family tonight for dinner for mother's day. I have a lot of resentment that I had to coordinate the whole thing, when no one does anything to make mother's day special for me. And of course when I text my mom with the details, her first response (as always) is whether I let my brother know and to confirm he is also coming. Yes, mom, I notified your golden child that I planned mother's Day on his behalf, and he will be there so you aren't just stuck talking to me and your grandchildren (God forbid).
I suggested to DH that he invite his mom along, and he agreed that would be a good idea. But then he never did it. She called him yesterday to invite us to dinner at her house, so I guess we are doing that now. I love her and hate the idea of her by herself on mother's Day (she's widowed relatively recently) but it just annoys me that H keeps refusing to call her back and confirm. I can tell he wants me to do it, but I will not.
Last year I did mother's day dinner with a couple of friends and I really wish we had done that again this year.
I just saw mention in a Facebook chat of middle schoolers having half days the week before the last week of school, which is also half days. So 8 days of half days? He doesn't get a school bus, so that's fun.
My husband's mother's day apologies started last night, which is early. Apparently a gift won't be here in time. Usually the apologies come after whatever terrible gift he gives me, which is why I tell him not to buy me anything. When my son was little I would insist that husband take him out so I could be alone in the house. Now that he's older and I'm working I don't need that, but I don't have anything to replace it with either. It's going to rain so no outdoor stuff. It's such a bummer.
The way my mom follows up on a gift she has gotten me or my kid is incredibly annoying. A few examples:
She'll get me a hanging basket every year. My porch is so-so for the amount of sun it gets, so sometimes they do well and sometimes they don't depending on what she bought me, and she will always follow up on the condition of it, like "oh, it doesn't seem to be blooming very much, maybe you need to try XYZ" etc.
She got my DS a comic book making kit on Amazon for Easter. This was my suggestion as he was really into drawing comics at the time, but you know that kids go through phases. He hasn't really gotten into it yet and I made the mistake of mentioning that he was more into drawing generally right now and not just comics and she was like "oh, well hopefully he uses that kit this summer."
She's also asked twice if I have used the gift card they got me for my birthday yet to a friend's boutique, which I haven't, because I haven't liked any of the recent collections.
Or she'll get me a shirt or sweater or something and see me in pictures on FB and be like "oh, haven't you worn the sweater I bought you yet?"
OMG like don't get me anything if you are going to constantly follow up on it and make it a job for me. It's not about money or anything, I think she genuinely just cares, but it's so annoying.
Post by litebright on May 11, 2024 10:07:33 GMT -5
DH came home sick from his latest work trip. I really hope I don't get it, because I am traveling this week and next week for work.
I am really bummed that it was so cloudy/rainy last night in our area, I would have loved to see the northern lights.
The next few weekends are just going to be complete craziness, I am desperately trying to keep track of the 50 gazillion things we have on our schedule in hopes that I can keep things from falling through the cracks. Not likely.
Post by SusanBAnthony on May 11, 2024 10:07:48 GMT -5
jinkies have you ever just done something for your mom just you without your brother? And acted dumb if she is asking about him? "Oh no, he's not coming. This is MY gift for you for mothers day. You'll have to ask him what his plans are 🤷♀️"
beerlover my mom does that too. Somehow it becomes work for me to make sure the kids use gifts or whatever. I stopped participating in it though- she was crabby about it but I just ig bored her because her gift to someone that isn't me, isn't my problem! For example she kept getting my kids pajamas and then telling me to make sure they wore them. Mom! My kids don't wear pajamas. I sure as hell am not spending my time and energy making them wear pajamas just because you kept buying them even though you know they don't wear them. Call them yourself and tell them to wear them and let me know how that goes lololol.
SusanBAnthony, my mom did that with pajamas too until I finally said look he's just sleeping in underwear, stop getting them. She still got him a pair to wear at her house, lol.
jinkies have you ever just done something for your mom just you without your brother? And acted dumb if she is asking about him? "Oh no, he's not coming. This is MY gift for you for mothers day. You'll have to ask him what his plans are 🤷♀️"
Before I had kids, I hosted both our moms for a brunch every year. My very first mother's day as a mom, I told everyone that I wasn't hosting/coordinating since I was now a mom too.
Nothing was planned, so we stopped by my mom's to drop off a gift on mother's day, only to find that they were at my brother's for a mother's day get together that I wasn't invited to.
Suffice to say, my mom wasn't nagging him about including me...
My brother is widowed and lives next door to my parents. They see each other most days. They are pretty enmeshed and I honestly don't think my mom would agree to plans that didn't include him.
Post by wanderingback on May 11, 2024 10:28:34 GMT -5
It’s shaping up to be a nice weekend! My mom is in town, yay babysitting. There’s a picnic in the park for local families so we’re going to go that and then tonight my partner and I are going to go to a wine tasting at a Black owned wine shop.
This morning I ran for an hour and I felt strong! I have a half marathon next weekend and although I’m not fast and I wish I did a bit more training I’m proud of myself and my body.
bears, I’ve done this for the last two weekends for the exact same reason. I was really hoping to sleep later than 6am on the weekend, but my brain had other ideas. I could also do without the work dreams.
At least I was up early enough to get a jump start on laundry and cleaning. (I’ve already had my breakfast donut. DS loves a Saturday morning donut so DH is well aware of my favorites. 😂) I need to finish up, but the pup jumped into my lap demanding pets and is quietly snoozing. I’m letting sleeping dogs lie. Lol.
I am all alone for the next SIXTEEN hours. I have no idea what to do with myself.
That's amazing. My husband took my son to the dentist so I have an hour or 2. I'm blasting the Rolling Stones on vinyl and no one is talking over it. It's the little things.
I am all alone for the next SIXTEEN hours. I have no idea what to do with myself.
That's amazing. My husband took my son to the dentist so I have an hour or 2. I'm blasting the Rolling Stones on vinyl and no one is talking over it. It's the little things.
It is the little things!!
DD has a band field trip to an amusement park in a city 3 hours away. She was a bit nervous so DH volunteered to chaperone in case she needed a safe spot (so far she does not). So they left at 6:30 am and will be home at 10:30 pm. So far I have done nothing. I’m going to do a long workout, get a pedicure, and treat myself to dinner later I think.