Post by pinkdutchtulips on May 12, 2024 14:45:52 GMT -5
I have a love/hate relationship w Mother’s Day. I miss my own terribly and I miss the relationship I always envisioned w my own daughter. It’s toxic combative and centered around her.
She gave me my gift yesterday - flowers, a candle, nail polish, and a set of headbands. Then came the request for lunch in SF at 10p the night before Mother’s Day when every restaurant known to mankind is booked … except the Hard Rock. I made a reservation- first one didn’t work bc we have to pick something up at 1p, ok I change it and she asks for it to be changed AGAIN bc she can’t start getting on time 😩😩 I can’t scrap it bc she’s already whined that wants to spend part of it w me but it has to be on her terms and the hell w whatever plans I might have …
Pray everything cooperates - Miss R, the HRC, traffic
Eta - and things just went bad … cussing at me, yelling at the top of her lungs for no reason …. Bc I simply asked how much longer bc we have a reservation for when we’re expected. A reservation is not a suggestion, it’s a time you’re expected.
Post by underwaterrhymes on May 12, 2024 18:21:48 GMT -5
K has been struggling with bullies this year. And as he is about to head into middle school, we were really starting to worry about how he would be treated.
We found an online, secular, project-based school with student cohorts and really great teachers that we think will be a good fit for him, so we are going to do it. (N will stay in public school and if this doesn’t work out, we wouldn’t have a problem sending K back to public.) It’s not cheap, but we think it will be worth it. It’s been a super hard year.
My Mother’s Day was mostly delightful. DH did a great job handling every kid need while I ran a morning 5K and then had afternoon cocktails with my girlfriends. Now he’s cooking my favorite dinner.
I have a complicated relationship with my mom though and that always sours things. She expects to be worshipped like her sisters are by my cousins on Mother’s Day despite the fact she was a shit mom unlike my aunts. It always makes me feel guilty even though logically I know I shouldn’t.
DD just shared that Friday all the 5th grade girls were pulled into a classroom and lectured on the dress code and how they've seen lots of violations recently. Where were the boys while this was going on? In their classrooms getting time to work on homework. DD was rightfully so annoyed and glad she is questioning all of that fuckery. She pointed out saying tank top straps are to be 3 fingers wide, but a boy in her class that day had one on not that wide.
We've had some days in the 80s and girls get hot just like boys. Fuckers.
Fingers wide is a very subjective measurement. Whose fingers? The person wearing the tank top or the adult enforcing the dress code? Adults definitely shouldn't be putting their hands on children to assess the width of tank top straps.
A good point. DD has not been dress coded, but she says it's the girl's fingers. A very frustrating thing nonetheless, but it sparked a good conversation with DD.
Today was nice, though tiring as usual. Brunch with the 3 of us this morning. Bought a bunch of hanging baskets, some for us and some for family. Ran to H's hometown to see his mom, aunt, and sister and stayed there 2 hours. Then went to my parents for dinner. Lots of visiting, ugh, but at least I didn't have to lift a finger in the cooking department.
H and I had a birthday party last night in his hometown which is about 30 minutes away. So we dropped DS at H's parents house to stay the night so we could attend the party. Stayed at the party about 3 hours, and I did not have much to drink since I was driving. We left the party at 10pm and planned to get a beer at the brewery in our town when we returned. We get there and my H had just brought two full beers to our table and I get a call from his mother saying DS isn't feeling well. I was like oh shit, hoping he hadn't thrown up, and no, he just had a stuffy nose. OK... I suspect he's probably mildly allergic to cats like I am, and they have two, but it doesn't always affect him. Anyway, he kinda loses his mind when he's stuffy b/c he doesn't yet understand how to blow his nose (yea hes 7 lol), and I hadn't brought any meds in his suitcase because I didn't think of it. I always bring Tylenol or Motrin when he's on a sleepover just in case, but not allergy stuff. He was pretty upset so I ended up meeting H's dad halfway and picking him up to come home. I left H at the bar to finish the beers (he had more drinks than me so it didn't make sense to send him). Happy Mother's Day to me lol. I added an extra nose spray and children's Benadryl to the Walmart cart this week so I can keep that in his suitcase now.
DH ran a 10 mile race yesterday and we all came out and supported him. I feel kind of bad because I asked him to garden today for me as a Mother’s day request and he is pretty tired. In fairness, he neglected it for 2 years, and I can’t dig out some of the plants. He still needs to dig out the day Lily. I don’t know who planted them him or my mom but it wasn’t me because I know they take over and are a pain.
I just started watching “The Sympathizer” on Max. I had to break up the first episode and watch it in two parts because this is very heavy.
Otherwise I had a good Mother’s Day. My kids gave me some cards and a gift - a very nice set of headphones to replace the not one but two pairs DS somehow lost in the house. Their dad even took DD to a bakery so she could buy me a cake in my favorite flavor.
Has anyone tried that lemonade coffee drink on the internet? I got intrigued and made a lemon simple syrup and did lemon juice instead of lemonade, and although it sounds like an abomination it was actually really good. I have left over lemon simple syrup so have been enjoying coffees today with it and it may be my new favorite thing.
I haven’t seen the one on the Internet, but a coffee shop near me does espresso + lemonade + fizz and it’s DELICIOUS. Bitter, sweet, earthy, sour, it goes so well together.
oh that does sound good! I wish I had someplace near me with a drink like this, except I may go broke lol I've been drinking so much more coffee the last couple days.