I don't find it flameful, but I am a sex on the first date kind of girl. It seems you are not comfortable with it, why? Because you think it is "slutty" or just because it is so out of character for YOU personally? In which case, you may want to ask WHY you did it? Was it a strong connection with this guy? I wouldn't beat yourself up for that. Or was it something else? For a self-esteem boost (that's not a great way to get it), because you want him to like you (also not a good way to do it)? Everyone does something out of character every now and again, it's not necessarily bad. I'm sorry you feel bad about it. *Hugs*
I think bc i think its "slutty" and bc its out of character with me. This dating as an adult is all VERY different for me since I married my first guy I slept with and then took a 2+ year break after the divorce. This year has been all about me discovering myself and what I want. I think i did it bc i DID have a good connection with him and he was very into me. I was SOO worried he just wanted to "hit it and be done" but he didnt....i think that is where my problem lies....fear of rejection after sex
After seeing Jojo's bday pic on the PIP post, I fully intend on moving to OK and stalking her friends. Jojo if they mention seeing a weird ginger lurking around their neighborhood just act like you have no idea who it is. Thanks
I don't find it flameful, but I am a sex on the first date kind of girl. It seems you are not comfortable with it, why? Because you think it is "slutty" or just because it is so out of character for YOU personally? In which case, you may want to ask WHY you did it? Was it a strong connection with this guy? I wouldn't beat yourself up for that. Or was it something else? For a self-esteem boost (that's not a great way to get it), because you want him to like you (also not a good way to do it)? Everyone does something out of character every now and again, it's not necessarily bad. I'm sorry you feel bad about it. *Hugs*
I think bc i think its "slutty" and bc its out of character with me. This dating as an adult is all VERY different for me since I married my first guy I slept with and then took a 2+ year break after the divorce. This year has been all about me discovering myself and what I want. I think i did it bc i DID have a good connection with him and he was very into me. I was SOO worried he just wanted to "hit it and be done" but he didnt....i think that is where my problem lies....fear of rejection after sex
Hugs, Starry! I know how you feel. And I can't really flame you because I've done the same thing.
I think bc i think its "slutty" and bc its out of character with me. This dating as an adult is all VERY different for me since I married my first guy I slept with and then took a 2+ year break after the divorce. This year has been all about me discovering myself and what I want. I think i did it bc i DID have a good connection with him and he was very into me. I was SOO worried he just wanted to "hit it and be done" but he didnt....i think that is where my problem lies....fear of rejection after sex
Hugs, Starry! I know how you feel. And I can't really flame you because I've done the same thing.
Thanks...I had a hard time with it yesterday afternoon but am doing better today. Live and learn. I think it would have been different if we had been talking/texting for a while leading up to the first date but we didnt (just a couple of days).
I don't find it flameful, but I am a sex on the first date kind of girl. It seems you are not comfortable with it, why? Because you think it is "slutty" or just because it is so out of character for YOU personally? In which case, you may want to ask WHY you did it? Was it a strong connection with this guy? I wouldn't beat yourself up for that. Or was it something else? For a self-esteem boost (that's not a great way to get it), because you want him to like you (also not a good way to do it)? Everyone does something out of character every now and again, it's not necessarily bad. I'm sorry you feel bad about it. *Hugs*
I think bc i think its "slutty" and bc its out of character with me. This dating as an adult is all VERY different for me since I married my first guy I slept with and then took a 2+ year break after the divorce. This year has been all about me discovering myself and what I want. I think i did it bc i DID have a good connection with him and he was very into me. I was SOO worried he just wanted to "hit it and be done" but he didnt....i think that is where my problem lies....fear of rejection after sex
Don't beat yourself up, just remember next time. "I tried it, it was fun, but it's not for me" Obviously no harm done since he still wants to date you, ya know? Dating is rough. I remember dating after HS BF at 22 (the first guy I ever even KISSED) and I was like, "Well, I'm not a virgin, so..." You have to find what YOU are comfortable with. If it's 1 date or 10, who cares. It's about YOU!
After seeing Jojo's bday pic on the PIP post, I fully intend on moving to OK and stalking her friends. Jojo if they mention seeing a weird ginger lurking around their neighborhood just act like you have no idea who it is. Thanks
LOL, they are both married. One of them may get divorced in the next few years, I'll keep you posted
Hugs, Starry! I know how you feel. And I can't really flame you because I've done the same thing.
Thanks...I had a hard time with it yesterday afternoon but am doing better today. Live and learn. I think it would have been different if we had been talking/texting for a while leading up to the first date but we didnt (just a couple of days).
After seeing Jojo's bday pic on the PIP post, I fully intend on moving to OK and stalking her friends. Jojo if they mention seeing a weird ginger lurking around their neighborhood just act like you have no idea who it is. Thanks
LOL, they are both married. One of them may get divorced in the next few years, I'll keep you posted
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
My other confession, I have looked at that photo 3 times. I promise I will stop now.
Thanks...I had a hard time with it yesterday afternoon but am doing better today. Live and learn. I think it would have been different if we had been talking/texting for a while leading up to the first date but we didnt (just a couple of days).
Starry my "Holy shit" comment wasn't to flame or rain damnation on your head...it was because that does not seem like your style. I agree with the others that said no need to beat yourself up over this.
Starry my "Holy shit" comment wasn't to flame or rain damnation on your head...it was because that does not seem like your style. I agree with the others that said no need to beat yourself up over this.
lol its okay. I think i said the same thing in my head a million times already
You sleep with him after your first date....he asks you on a second date which you go on.....and you are still talking after that.
Why are you worried again?
Okay timeline: Lunch was yesterday...he asked me out again to hang out yesterday night yesterday afternoon...i freaked out that he was just "lying" to me and didnt really want to hang out with me yesterday evening...we hung out again and he asked me to spend the night which I did. I had to leave early since I had to be at work and he had the day off so he is still sleeping I assume.
I'm really tempted to hook up with my ex even though I know it's a bad idea for more reasons than I can count. So far, I've managed to turn him down both yesterday and today.
Starry - I'm confused. You just left his house this morning (after sleeping with him last night)? And you haven't heard from him, yet? Do you want to hear from him again?
Starry - I'm confused. You just left his house this morning (after sleeping with him last night)? And you haven't heard from him, yet? Do you want to hear from him again?
Yes I left early this morning bc of work. I do want to hear from him and will contact him later if I dont hear from him so I know whats going on. I imagine he is still sleeping right now bc he has the day off.
I'm really tempted to hook up with my ex even though I know it's a bad idea for more reasons than I can count. So far, I've managed to turn him down both yesterday and today.
I've had two dates so far this week and two more to go. It's been exhausting already.
I'm meeting a guy for coffee at 10:30-on my fifteen minute break. Speed dating style for sure!
Yesterday when I found out about XH all I could think is that P's life would be so much better if XH would lose his parental rights completely. That's not even all that flameful I suppose.
Yesterday when I found out about XH all I could think is that P's life would be so much better if XH would lose his parental rights completely. That's not even all that flameful I suppose.
Starry - I'm confused. You just left his house this morning (after sleeping with him last night)? And you haven't heard from him, yet? Do you want to hear from him again?
Yes I left early this morning bc of work. I do want to hear from him and will contact him later if I dont hear from him so I know whats going on. I imagine he is still sleeping right now bc he has the day off.
Got it. I hope you hear from him soon! I know the feeling. Was he awake when you left or did you sneak out without waking him?
This may be slightly flamefull on my part, but there is no way I would contact him first. I totally buy into the "he's just not that into you" theories.
Yes I left early this morning bc of work. I do want to hear from him and will contact him later if I dont hear from him so I know whats going on. I imagine he is still sleeping right now bc he has the day off.
Got it. I hope you hear from him soon! I know the feeling. Was he awake when you left or did you sneak out without waking him?
This may be slightly flamefull on my part, but there is no way I would contact him first. I totally buy into the "he's just not that into you" theories.
I snuck out without waking him since it was his day off and he knew i had to leave early.
I'm really tempted to hook up with my ex even though I know it's a bad idea for more reasons than I can count. So far, I've managed to turn him down both yesterday and today.
Ex as is in XH or x-bf?
xBF. It's just so good.
I can't even imagine hooking up with my xH at this point. Things were so platonic it was ridiculous.
Got it. I hope you hear from him soon! I know the feeling. Was he awake when you left or did you sneak out without waking him?
This may be slightly flamefull on my part, but there is no way I would contact him first. I totally buy into the "he's just not that into you" theories.
I snuck out without waking him since it was his day off and he knew i had to leave early.
Got it. I hope you hear from him soon! I know the feeling. Was he awake when you left or did you sneak out without waking him?
This may be slightly flamefull on my part, but there is no way I would contact him first. I totally buy into the "he's just not that into you" theories.
I snuck out without waking him since it was his day off and he knew i had to leave early.
Keep yourself busy in the meantime and keep us updated. With two dates in the same day I have a hard time imagining he won't call.
I wish that the line "he's just not that into you" was never uttered in Sex and the City, and I wish that the crappy self-help industry hadn't taken it and run with it.
In your case, Starry, I don't think there's a thing wrong with calling if you want to. If you don't hear from him, or you do and he's weird, that's one thing. Then it's appropriate to desist. But if you want to call him, call him.
It really gets my goat when women get invested in or paralyzed by the not-so-sound advice of the antiquated femme-bots who wrote The Rules or those who use "he's just not that into you" as a mantra, forgetting it was a line penned by comedy writers for a cable television program.
Yes I left early this morning bc of work. I do want to hear from him and will contact him later if I dont hear from him so I know whats going on. I imagine he is still sleeping right now bc he has the day off.
Got it. I hope you hear from him soon! I know the feeling. Was he awake when you left or did you sneak out without waking him?
This may be slightly flamefull on my part, but there is no way I would contact him first. I totally buy into the "he's just not that into you" theories.
Ugh. I know everyone knows I hate this shit. It so game playing. What if HE is sitting there thinking "She snuck out, I guess she's not that into me" and you both miss out because you are playing stupid head games??? GRRR! I am woman, I can call. I am not here sitting around for a man to take action. Fuck. That.
I wish that the line "he's just not that into you" was never uttered in Sex and the City, and I wish that the crappy self-help industry hadn't taken it and run with it.
In your case, Starry, I don't think there's a thing wrong with calling if you want to. If you don't hear from him, or you do and he's weird, that's one thing. Then it's appropriate to desist. But if you want to call him, call him.
It really gets my goat when women get invested in or paralyzed by the not-so-sound advice of the antiquated femme-bots who wrote The Rules or those who use "he's just not that into you" as a mantra, forgetting it was a line penned by comedy writers for a cable television program.
eye-to-eye.
Oh, I'm a helpless woman just waiting for a man to call me because I am too delicate to dial a number! grr.
I get that if he SAYS he will call and doesn't, fine. But if there is no expectation, just fucking call him!!!