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[pedanticwench]

pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=mm&action=display&thread=121281

Basic gist: Her and her H have been together for over 6 years, met when she was approx 18/19. They split the household expenses down the middle, even though he makes 12k more than her. Refuses to help her pay for student loans. Thinks she should get a second job.

eta: changed % to k

[smock]

I saw that post, and I agree with your assessment.

I don't understand why anyone would put up with a shitty H like that.

[imoan]

That is some BULLshit.

[bowies]

I'm having some major douchechills right now.

He is NOT husband material. The fact that he volunteered to pay the cell phone bill is giving me serious pause. It doesn't mesh with his selfish attitude.

She's getting played.

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Jan 14, 2013 17:48:08 GMT -5 bowies said:

The fact that he volunteered to pay the cell phone bill is giving me serious pause. It doesn't mesh with his selfish attitude.

Well technically they made an agreement that if he pays the cell bill, she'll pay the cable and internet. :-|

This reminds me of my ex-FI. My dog was so sick and needed vet care, he had 40k in the bank and told me he couldn't help me. I was a grad student w/ no job and no money at the time. I ended up finding a way to charge it (I think asked my CC to increase my limit) so I could get what I needed for her. I'm glad I didn't end up with that guy.

[bullygirl979]

I didn't read the whole post (I didn't want to throw up my dinner) but it blows my fucking mind how people get married and don't discuss shit like this before hand. Or, notice stuff like this but think it will all get magically worked out by the marriage fairy.

[wrathofkuus]

pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=mm&action=display&thread=121764#

The update.

[bullygirl979]

dear.sweet.jesus.

I will start planning the welcome party for when she lands on the SO board.

[imoan]

Wow... he sounds like an utter peach.

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Jan 15, 2013 11:34:52 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=mm&action=display&thread=121764#

The update.

:-|

[neonpink]

She makes me feel sad. She sounds like one of those people that wants to get married so bad that they look past every awful think their partner does just to get a ring on it.

[wrathofkuus]

I don't think it seemed like she wanted to get married per se, more that she was all agog over this older boy paying attention to her teenaged self, and then just... stagnated.

[motzie]

What a douche. She needs to find her rage, and then lose it all over this guy.

[smock]

And stories like this are why I'm skeeved out by age differences in relationships that start young. We've just seen this pattern so many times!

[bowies]

This? This is why 18 year olds shouldn't be allowed to pick out their spouses.

(Imoan the freak excluded.)

It doesn't sound like she was in a rush to get married - I think she's likely a "it was the next step" type. And she didn't have enough life experience to identify a selfish asshole as non-marriage material.

[Muddled]

It was definitely the next step. This is just what you are supposed to do.

RIGHT?

Bowies, I'm pretty sure Imoan was 16.

[smock]

See, that's why I picked H when he was 19 and I was 21. Because this way I can manipulate him and say KEEP AWAY FROM MY MONAYS!

[bowies]

Also, major WTF at the "I'm not a pro-divorce person." Ummm, what? So you're a pro-have-a-miserable-life-because-of-a-piece-of-paper type? How is that something to brag about?

NOBODY is pro-divorce. Rational people know it's a not-perfect solution to a terrible situation. It's really insulting to imply that people are willy-nilly divorcing on a whim. It's never the divorce that was a whim - it's the marriage.

[neonpink]

I guess I missed the age bit. I was sort of skimming it. He sounds terrible and she could do better.
I also met my husband when I was 19 and he was 21. This year is our 10th together. If he had been anything like the OP's guy I would have cut and run years ago. Lucky for me he is a good guy.

[wrathofkuus]

Jan 15, 2013 13:23:04 GMT -5 smock said:

And stories like this are why I'm skeeved out by age differences in relationships that start young. We've just seen this pattern so many times!

Fucking A.

(I'm also with you on the 19 year old future husband when you were 21.)

[neonpink]

Let me add that we didn't get married that young. We got together but didn't get married until we were 26 and 27 respectively. There was no way I was ready for marriage then. I wanted to graduate college start my career, Dh finished undergrad and went to law school. We were really young though. I look back on it now and realize that we were babies. Responsible ones but still young.

[wrathofkuus]

Jan 15, 2013 13:39:44 GMT -5 bowies said:

Also, major WTF at the "I'm not a pro-divorce person." Ummm, what? So you're a pro-have-a-miserable-life-because-of-a-piece-of-paper type? How is that something to brag about?

NOBODY is pro-divorce. Rational people know it's a not-perfect solution to a terrible situation. It's really insulting to imply that people are willy-nilly divorcing on a whim. It's never the divorce that was a whim - it's the marriage.

lol, it's like pro-choice people who want you to know that they are not personally pro-abortion, unlike that entire race of straw people who want to end all marriages and abort all fetuses.

[Muddled]

I am pro-divorce. What's the alternative? Not having divorce as an option? Heck yeah, I am pro-divorce.

I very much agree with Bowies when she says it is the wedding and not the divorce that is done on a whim, if something is going to be done on a whim.

[imoan]

I WAS 17! GAH! Get your stories straight!
And yes, of COURSE I'm a freak. I wear it like a badge of honor

[imoan]

Jan 15, 2013 15:04:48 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Jan 15, 2013 13:39:44 GMT -5 bowies said:

Also, major WTF at the "I'm not a pro-divorce person." Ummm, what? So you're a pro-have-a-miserable-life-because-of-a-piece-of-paper type? How is that something to brag about?

NOBODY is pro-divorce. Rational people know it's a not-perfect solution to a terrible situation. It's really insulting to imply that people are willy-nilly divorcing on a whim. It's never the divorce that was a whim - it's the marriage.

lol, it's like pro-choice people who want you to know that they are not personally pro-abortion, unlike that entire race of straw people who want to end all marriages and abort all fetuses.

The pro-choice people feel they need to make that distinction because so many pro-life (not all) people tell them that pro-choice = pro-abortion.

[bowies]

LOL, all I'm saying is that you're the exception to the rule. But you already know that.

[pedanticwench]

I'm pro-divorce AND pro-abortion.

[Muddled]

Does the "new" button not work anymore?

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Jan 16, 2013 11:45:38 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Does the "new" button not work anymore?

It just takes a long time.