Post by monkeybabe on Apr 26, 2013 12:23:47 GMT -5
I'm one of the ladies that wanted a sleep in day. That said, while it sounds wonderful every once in a while, I wouldn't want it even weekly. I don't ask Patsy to wake with her on the weekends. Communication is a big problem for me and it's definitely my problem. I get defensive before I even talk to Patsy and then I'm combative when I do talk to him and then he's like, "I'm not talking to you when you're acting like this," and I'm like, "FUCK YOU." Can you see how this makes for shitty discussions? I may complain about Patsy, but a lot of the issues are mine.
My confession: All you ladies talk about how delicious froyo is and it sounded gross to me, so I had never had it until this week. This.week. Omg, who needs ice cream when that's around?!
I just wanted to say that my h doesn't do much at all to help me or ds out besides being the sole provider. I wish it was as easy as telling him hey, you need to do x,y,z and then he would do it. He works 7 days per week, so when he gets home from work, he's tired and lazy. I wish he was more helpful, trust me, but he always working and I do understand that he wants to rest some. He does do most of the yard work at least and he's making it capable for me to be a SAHM. Just trying to show that every situation to unhelpful husbands can be very different.
You need a break, too! When do you get to rest and be lazy?
My husband is ALWAYS working. He comes home from work, helps out a bit, and works more. He goes to bed later than me and wakes up earlier than me. And he still thinks I need time to myself. I'm not trying to back you into a corner or anything, I truly want to help and for you to realize that you DESERVE these things!
This! My DH works crazy hours - he only sees the kids for 15 minutes on weekday mornings and doesn't get home until after they are both in bed on weekdays. When he does get home, he usually is working on his laptop all night, he works a lot of weekend,s travels a lot for work, etc. The man is a hard worker. BUT while I appreciate his hard work, admire his success and work ethic, and am always thankful that his work allows for me to be a SAHM, none of that means that I need to be a martyr and not ever get a break myself. Being home with the kids is hard. doing bedtime 5 nights a week on my own is hard. Juggling the two kids' schedules every day is hard. I need a break/"me" time as well. DH helps with what he can (we alternate sleep in days - which means until 8 AM, lol - on the weekends, he takes both kids Saturday mornings so I can go to the gym, he does what I need him to do when he is home, etc). It doesn;t end up being a lot in terms of actual time or activities - I do 99% of the chores, for example, and on weekends I would rather us do family time for the most part - It just works out that way because he is rarely home. BUT, he is willing and makes an effort when I need him to, which is important.
Also, since he just physicaly ins;t around enough to give me a break, I use a sitter twice a week so I can go do what I need. Is something like that a possibility? It is a HUGE mental break for me, and truly I think makes me a better mom.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
I hope my comments weren't insulting either. I come from a different place than a lot of you. It's easy to say think its not a big deal now but if you plan to have more children, you need to work that shit out now because its certainly not going to get any easier.
It's like when you want a child and your relationship is struggling and you think having a baby is suddenly going to fix everything but it doesn't. Adding children to your family usually takes your problems and magnifies them. Well yeah, additional children do the same.
We certainly aren't perfect and I don't want to make it seem like we are. But you have to be aware...
Post by creamsiclechica on Apr 26, 2013 13:04:19 GMT -5
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
When my BFF was pregnant with twins, she had the same issue of not meeting her calorie requirements. She started to supplement her eating with protein shakes. Can you try that?
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
Can you eat high fat healthy foods? Avocado, whole fat instead of low fat yogurt, coconut?
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
I hope you are aware that when you are pregnant ben and jerrys doesn't count as junk food.
and a pint can have over 1000 calories.
so, get to it.
(i recommend americone dream. It goes down easy, very easy)
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
I hope you are aware that when you are pregnant ben and jerrys doesn't count as junk food.
and a pint can have over 1000 calories.
so, get to it.
(i recommend americone dream. It goes down easy, very easy)
My husband and I have our ups and downs. I just went three days not talking to him because of a jackass thing. But we need to work on communicating.
I am jealous of all you people that say you have easy children. Lydia has always been difficult and is the main source of frustration between my husband and I right now.
We do have a 50-50 equal relationship in terms of chores and taking care of the children.
My confession is we still do not have any birthday gifts for Calista and no ideas. We have like everything and I do not want more junk in my house. I think we are going to get her a pool that both of the girls can use.
Also I do the whole party to the max thing so my family can aww me and think that I am a wonderful mother.
Also , not excited for the weekend and house chores.
I guess I should add my own FFFC. I'm having a really hard time eating the 3000 freaking calories my midwife recommended to keep BF and grow Baby Cream. Like it's really, really hard for me to eat that much. I hope I'm not shorting either baby because of this, and it's a great source of anxiety. I'm going to keep at it, but unless I eat like tons of junk food, I'm coming up short.
Can you eat high fat healthy foods? Avocado, whole fat instead of low fat yogurt, coconut?
This is what I'm trying. We switched awhile ago to whole milk, full fat yogurt, etc for me because I was struggling to keep weight on for my thyroid. I'm hoping it's just complicated by the fact I still feel nauseous at this point and that it'll get better. I've been trying to add avocado to my salads or sandwiches too, and coconut is a good suggestion I hadn't thought of!
rjamz, protein shakes are a good idea too, I always forget about those, thanks!
unclejesse, was it you who added instant breakfast to your coffee or something when we were pregnant? How did that work out for you?
creamsiclechica Milk shake- whole milk, a banana, 2TB peanut butter, 1/2c oats. blend it up and you have yourself ~600 calories
Its definitely tough with the nausea. Even if it's junk you are eating, that's fine. Just eat anything you can keep down. And don't worry if you don't get the exact amount of calories, your body is a survival machine and will provide for both babies. You are probably the one that will suffer, not them. you can only do your best!
When the nausea passes and food enjoyment is upon you again, it will be glorious!
Can you eat high fat healthy foods? Avocado, whole fat instead of low fat yogurt, coconut?
This is what I'm trying. We switched awhile ago to whole milk, full fat yogurt, etc for me because I was struggling to keep weight on for my thyroid. I'm hoping it's just complicated by the fact I still feel nauseous at this point and that it'll get better. I've been trying to add avocado to my salads or sandwiches too, and coconut is a good suggestion I hadn't thought of!
rjamz, protein shakes are a good idea too, I always forget about those, thanks!
unclejesse, was it you who added instant breakfast to your coffee or something when we were pregnant? How did that work out for you?
I still do every morning! I didn't drink coffee (much) while PG, but I added a packet of the Carnation instant breakfast to my milk every day. Now I add it to my coffee and it tastes like a mocha. I get the 30-pack at Costco for like $8 or something.
Can you eat high fat healthy foods? Avocado, whole fat instead of low fat yogurt, coconut?
This is what I'm trying. We switched awhile ago to whole milk, full fat yogurt, etc for me because I was struggling to keep weight on for my thyroid. I'm hoping it's just complicated by the fact I still feel nauseous at this point and that it'll get better. I've been trying to add avocado to my salads or sandwiches too, and coconut is a good suggestion I hadn't thought of!
rjamz, protein shakes are a good idea too, I always forget about those, thanks!
unclejesse, was it you who added instant breakfast to your coffee or something when we were pregnant? How did that work out for you?
I ended up drinking Slim fast in the mornings because it was the only thing that would get somethung in my stomach but not so heavy I'd throw it up. If course, I'd follow it up with a real breakfast, but it really helped my nausea.
My husband and I have our ups and downs. I just went three days not talking to him because of a jackass thing. But we need to work on communicating.
I am jealous of all you people that say you have easy children. Lydia has always been difficult and is the main source of frustration between my husband and I right now.
We do have a 50-50 equal relationship in terms of chores and taking care of the children.
My confession is we still do not have any birthday gifts for Calista and no ideas. We have like everything and I do not want more junk in my house. I think we are going to get her a pool that both of the girls can use.
Also I do the whole party to the max thing so my family can aww me and think that I am a wonderful mother.
Also , not excited for the weekend and house chores.
In general my kids are both easy, but Adam certainly tested us when he was 3.5-4yrs. Luckily he is back to normal now, but I swear it was like he traded with some little turd child for 6 months, lol.
For N's birthday, he got very minimal gifts from us, I felt guilty for a few days but then made myself get over it, we have so much and I just did not want to buy something for the sake of it.
Agreed, weekend house chores blow, they take away from the time that I could be relaxing and playing with the kids. boo.
Thanks musiclover I am glad someone else knows how I feel.
For Lydia's first birthday she had a room full of gifts from us. I think Calista will get an outside chair and a pool. I feel like crap.
Don't, just think about how many more items she has to play with, from being the 2nd child. You have to let the guilt go, I did. We "only" got Nolan an inexpensive ball pit, 2 books and a small/cheap little truck. Adam got much more than that from us, but I figure it will even out eventually and we really can't stress ourselves trying to keep it all the same, it's not possible. I might toss some $ into his savings acct to make me feel better, lol.
Thanks musiclover I am glad someone else knows how I feel.
For Lydia's first birthday she had a room full of gifts from us. I think Calista will get an outside chair and a pool. I feel like crap.
I didnt get Matilda anything at all for Christmas. It just seemed like we didnt need anything, she had everything she needed. Even now for her birthday I feel like in a way I only bought her gifts because of the world/peer pressure. She did t need anything and she does t understand its her birthday or anything.
i haven't given them to her either. I say it's because hubby is out of town til tomorrow but really I'm just to lazy to go get them out of their packaging and wrap them.
Thanks musiclover I am glad someone else knows how I feel.
For Lydia's first birthday she had a room full of gifts from us. I think Calista will get an outside chair and a pool. I feel like crap.
I didnt get Matilda anything at all for Christmas. It just seemed like we didnt need anything, she had everything she needed. Even now for her birthday I feel like in a way I only bought her gifts because of the world/peer pressure. She did t need anything and she does t understand its her birthday or anything.
i haven't given them to her either. I say it's because hubby is out of town til tomorrow but really I'm just to lazy to go get them out of their packaging and wrap them.
Thanks guys. I know she will get a bunch of stuff from the party. I think I will wrap some of the summer clothes I have previously bought her and maybe I will re-wrap the toms she got for Easter that she doesn't wear. The pool and we are good to go.
I do want Lydia to pick her out something special to give to her. But you know how that will go.