Post by browneyedhunni85 on Aug 5, 2013 19:08:51 GMT -5
Christian is and I let DH decide. I can say that I have about 6 boy cousins that are not and I remember them hating it and always talking about it. One even resorted to watching something on YouTube about at home circumcision.
After research and realizing we both scar pretty poorly, we have decided that if we have a boy we will not.
I've never heard of scarring being a problem with circs?? Not trying to push you into doing it, but I'm not sure that is a concern. Maybe ask your pediatrician?
After research and realizing we both scar pretty poorly, we have decided that if we have a boy we will not.
I've never heard of scarring being a problem with circs?? Not trying to push you into doing it, but I'm not sure that is a concern. Maybe ask your pediatrician?
It's more like the final nail in the coffin. I have never heard of it being an issue either, but there's a first time for everything!
I'm not trying to start controversy but I find it odd that so many women here just deferred the decision to their husband.
Dylan is not and any future boy will not be either.
I think there is some importance to a child being the same as their dad if their dad is uncomfortable with the alternative. I think the people that deferred also didn't have an opinion one way or another.
I'm not trying to start controversy but I find it odd that so many women here just deferred the decision to their husband.
Dylan is not and any future boy will not be either.
We made the decision together (although I was the catalyst), but I can understand why people would take that stance. After all, as women, we have no idea how it feels to have a penis, circ or uncirc, while our husbands have a personal perspective.
I'm not trying to start controversy but I find it odd that so many women here just deferred the decision to their husband.
Dylan is not and any future boy will not be either.
Of course we talked about it and I did my own personal research but ultimately I felt he knew best and obviously has better perspective on it than I do. Likewise, my H would similarly defer certain things to me if we ever have a girl. I think it is obviously important to discuss these things before coming to a decision but I felt that after our discussion he could make the final decision.
I'm not trying to start controversy but I find it odd that so many women here just deferred the decision to their husband.
Dylan is not and any future boy will not be either.
I didn't just let him decide. I did all the research, talked to my OB and pediatrician (during our initial interviews), etc. In the end with all my research I did not feel strongly either way. I probably wouldn't have done it if it were just up to me but not because I am against it, just that I did not feel strongly for it. DH, on the other hand, does feel strongly about it, therefore it was a joint decision.
I am sure the other posters who said they let their DH decide were in a similar situation...dod the research and did not feel strongly, therefore let the parent who DID feel strongly make the decision.
Spencer is circumcised. I am pretty sure we are one and done, but if we change our mind in the future and have another boy, he will be circumcised as well. DH said he treats adult men who are not circumcised) on a weekly basis for infections. Plus, uncircumcised males are at an increased risk for squamous cell carcinoma.
I'm not trying to start controversy but I find it odd that so many women here just deferred the decision to their husband.
Dylan is not and any future boy will not be either.
We made the decision together (although I was the catalyst), but I can understand why people would take that stance. After all, as women, we have no idea how it feels to have a penis, circ or uncirc, while our husbands have a personal perspective.
We both contributed to the decision making process, but I let DH have more say due to these reasons. G is circ.
We made the decision together (although I was the catalyst), but I can understand why people would take that stance. After all, as women, we have no idea how it feels to have a penis, circ or uncirc, while our husbands have a personal perspective.
While I do understand that, I still think it is odd to just bow out of the decision making. Sorry honey, I don't have chest hair so it is up to you to decide if we should shave our son or not. I know it's not the same thing but that is how odd that sounds to me. This is a very big decision and to not be involved just because you don't have a penis....I don't know, it just seems strange to me.
I have a friend who decided, with her H, that she would get no say whatsoever, which is odd to me. But I doubt most couples are that extreme.
Post by browneyedhunni85 on Aug 5, 2013 20:07:34 GMT -5
We talked about it as a couple and it wasn't like I had zero knowledge or didn't do my research. I ultimately let DH be the deciding factor. It was something he felt strongly about and I supported him.
My husband is, and he didn't understand the argument of wanting a boy to look like his dad. As DH said, it's unlikely that a kid's penis will ever look like his dad's until he's past the age of show and tell.
Both boys are. I just wish Nolan's nurse hasn't told me that he was not happy about it getting it done. Fuck you honesty. Lol.
I had to assist the doctors at the office when they did them. The babies cried for about a minute and then seemed fine. Seeing them done actually made me feel better about my son having it done. Most of them seemed more upset about being cold and naked then the actual circumcision.
A isn't and neither is DH. I find the anecdotes about men who are not circumcised having issues interesting - it is rare to circumcise in the Uk and not that common here either, and I have never heard of men having issues - and I know a lot of doctors!
Is this my early confession - I have never seen a circumcised penis up close!
I have never never seen an uncircumcised penis! Not even before Colin had his done. MAYBE in a porn? I don't pay attention that much, lol. I would notice, right? Haha
A isn't and neither is DH. I find the anecdotes about men who are not circumcised having issues interesting - it is rare to circumcise in the Uk and not that common here either, and I have never heard of men having issues - and I know a lot of doctors!
Is this my early confession - I have never seen a circumcised penis up close!
I had an awkward conversation with my brother during the decision process that went something like, "so, umm, you were born at home....and umm...I assume that means you're not circumcised?" He assured me he'd never been picked on or wished that he'd been circ'd.
A isn't and neither is DH. I find the anecdotes about men who are not circumcised having issues interesting - it is rare to circumcise in the Uk and not that common here either, and I have never heard of men having issues - and I know a lot of doctors!
Is this my early confession - I have never seen a circumcised penis up close!
Blake is circumcised and so is Jeff. We both felt pretty strongly about it.
My brother is not circ'd and he got teased about it growing up. He hates that he isn't and my mom feels terrible about not getting it done when he was born. She actually offered to pay for him to do it in college. (I got all of this from a drunken convo with my mom and SIL. I have never actually sat down and had a conversation with my brother about his penis. Barf!)
Post by TrudyCampbell on Aug 5, 2013 20:34:26 GMT -5
I really don't want to start a huge debate, but why is it that the general consensus is that babies feel little to no pain but if adults choose to so it its this horrible procedure? Isn't the pain level the same, it's just the memory of the event that changed?