Post by breezy8407 on Sept 13, 2013 8:53:49 GMT -5
I went to see my friend's new house last night. It's a two story with walkout basement, 5 bedrooms, 4 baths, etc. While I don't think I need a house that big ever, I am feeling jealous and jaded at my current financial status. We are starting to save for our next house down payment, and I am sad knowing something like that would never be in our reach.
Post by chasbride07 on Sept 13, 2013 9:00:32 GMT -5
We are going out for a friends birthday party tonight. The reservation is not until 9. I'm not looking forward to it because I'm normally asleep at 9. We thought about having the kids stay with MIL or having MIL stay here but that really wouldn't make a difference because we have DS2's birthday party tomorrow at noon. I'm sure we'll end up having fun, but I'm dreading it right now!
I went to see my friend's new house last night. It's a two story with walkout basement, 5 bedrooms, 4 baths, etc. While I don't think I need a house that big ever, I am feeling jealous and jaded at my current financial status. We are starting to save for our next house down payment, and I am sad knowing something like that would never be in our reach.
Ugghh never in a million years unless a housekeeper is included. I cannot keep up with my 3.5 bedroom, 2 bath 2200sq ft home. It is as big as I'd ever want to go.
But I know the feeling of wishing I were in a better financial situation. Like all the time. I get ragey at work a lot over husband's not making, just spending abilities.
I went to see my friend's new house last night. It's a two story with walkout basement, 5 bedrooms, 4 baths, etc. While I don't think I need a house that big ever, I am feeling jealous and jaded at my current financial status. We are starting to save for our next house down payment, and I am sad knowing something like that would never be in our reach.
Ugghh never in a million years unless a housekeeper is included. I cannot keep up with my 3.5 bedroom, 2 bath 2200sq ft home. It is as big as I'd ever want to go.
But I know the feeling of wishing I were in a better financial situation. Like all the time. I get ragey at work a lot over husband's not making, just spending abilities.
I agree. I hate cleaning and unless I could afford a cleaning service, there's no way it would ever get don.e Right now I have 3 bedrooms and one bath and no storage. I would love to have 3 bedrooms, and office, and 2 bathrooms. And a 2 car garage. That's my wish list!
Sometimes I feel weird about being a SAHM because of some of the things I see being said on here...like, "I could NEVER be a SAHM- I would die of boredom," or "I wouldn't feel like my life was complete," or "I feel like I need to contribute more to the world" (these are generalizations, not direct quotes.) It makes me feel weird, because I AM content...I don't feel the need to get a job, I'm not bored...I'm fine- and I feel like maybe I'm weird because of it...like I should be striving to do something else with my life...I don't know- obviously, I'm happy with where I am (even though I have my moments of seriously needing "me time"), but I feel weird about it sometimes because it seems like a lot of people equate SAH to being boring and unfulfilling.
Sometimes I'm embarrassed when people ask me what I used to do. I'm like "uh, I went to law school." "oh, so you were a lawyer?" "no, I never practiced, I got pregnant right after I graduated." ".....oh...."
You don't know my lyfe! I never wanted to practice anyway!
Sometimes I'm embarrassed when people ask me what I used to do. I'm like "uh, I went to law school." "oh, so you were a lawyer?" "no, I never practiced, I got pregnant right after I graduated." ".....oh...."
You don't know my lyfe! I never wanted to practice anyway!
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I don't know, like...I feel like I furthered my education, I studied something I was interested in...did something in my field after I graduated, and that was it. I had fun- but I feel like that chapter in my life has passed, and I'm happy with it. I look back fondly on those memories, but I wouldn't want to be back there. I'm happy where I am, but it always seems like people are secretly thinking- "well what did you do with that degree?" I personally don't feel like my degree went to waste, but that's just me.
Oh, I don't feel like my degree went to waste. I'm a smarter person because of it and I have the potential to use it if I ever want to. I definitely feel like people are judging me for not using it though. I'm tempted to just say, oh I was a flight attendant or something
I do not understand how poop holding for more than a couple hours is possible, but on top of that, bigapple you've never been sick outside you're home?? There have been a couple emergencies on the subway that the Penn Station public toilets saved me.
Two nights ago L was whining for my fork at dinner. He won't use his plastic baby utensils. I just wanted us to eat in peace so I went and pulled out one of our stainless salad forks from the drawer. Low and behold he started actually eating with it. I realize this isn't the safest thing for a toddler but I don't know what to do. I have been giving him an adult fork every night since.
Sometimes I'm embarrassed when people ask me what I used to do. I'm like "uh, I went to law school." "oh, so you were a lawyer?" "no, I never practiced, I got pregnant right after I graduated." ".....oh...."
You don't know my lyfe! I never wanted to practice anyway!
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I don't know, like...I feel like I furthered my education, I studied something I was interested in...did something in my field after I graduated, and that was it. I had fun- but I feel like that chapter in my life has passed, and I'm happy with it. I look back fondly on those memories, but I wouldn't want to be back there. I'm happy where I am, but it always seems like people are secretly thinking- "well what did you do with that degree?" I personally don't feel like my degree went to waste, but that's just me.
A lot of people are very unhappy and bored in their office jobs too. I think no one says though "ugh, answering phones as a receptionist all day must be sooo boring, I would go out of my mind!" because a lot of people stay in jobs that bore them because they have to for money, but people see SAHM as a choice. That said, its bullshit for people to be judged on their occupation.
Two nights ago L was whining for my fork at dinner. He won't use his plastic baby utensils. I just wanted us to eat in peace so I went and pulled out one of our stainless salad forks from the drawer. Low and behold he started actually eating with it. I realize this isn't the safest thing for a toddler but I don't know what to do. I have been giving him an adult fork every night since.
Logan is obsessed with adult spoons and forks. I let him have it at the table And he practises, though he rarely gets much in his mouth. He's a pretty low key kid so I'm not really worried about him really stabbing himself. He may get a little poke, but that's just part of the learning process.
I can't tell you how many times I message someone on FB and they never say anything back. (Well not that often but still). Do they realize when I go back in, I can tell that you viewed the message at xxxx time on such and such date? If you don't want to do whatever it is, just say so. Don't act like you never saw the message and don't respond b/c I know you did.
One example, in case this makes zero sense. I was asking a friend if maybe she could be my cheerleader for going through some of my mom's stuff as I just can't get motivated. I really just want someone to sit there and keep me company. She said sure but when I suggested dates no response. I've seen her since and it was never mentioned.
I think it is great if you are a SAHM and you love it /feel fulfilled! No need to feel bad, YOU have found what is right for you!
I'm all kinds of confused because I don't think I woul be good or happy at SAH yet I feel very stressed out being a working mom. I want to work part time with my full time salary.
I think it is great if you are a SAHM and you love it /feel fulfilled! No need to feel bad, YOU have found what is right for you!
I'm all kinds of confused because I don't think I woul be good or happy at SAH yet I feel very stressed out being a working mom. I want to work part time with my full time salary.
I am torn on this, too. Currently I wish I could stay home part time/work part time. I am feeling a ton of guilt since we started back at daycare.
All of it is sort of moot since we can't afford for me not to work. I make more than DH.
I had chronic constipation in high school because I never had time to go at school (and plus, what high schooler wants to be the one who stinks up the bathroom). Then by the time I got home, I didn't have to go anymore. Days of this before I'd finally work a potato-sized turd out of my butt. Since then, I've just gone whenever the urge struck.
When I was in high school, freshman and sophomore year, I'd cut class to walk home to poop. Junior and senior, I had a key to a vacant bathroom they never used, so I'd go there, lol. Pooping at school was a serious matter, those public bathrooms were disgusting!
I think it is great if you are a SAHM and you love it /feel fulfilled! No need to feel bad, YOU have found what is right for you!
I'm all kinds of confused because I don't think I woul be good or happy at SAH yet I feel very stressed out being a working mom. I want to work part time with my full time salary.
You said this perfectly! This is exactly how I feel too.
Dh pulled a real shady move yesterday. W/O making this too long he basically invited a perfect stranger to stay at our house for 2 nights next week even after I told him NO! So I told him I'm going to do something he opposes and could care a less about his input. So I lowered the price of our house 2K, 1K for each night that stranger stays with us. He doesn't know yet, but I'll tell him when his stranger friend is over. I want out of our house sooo badly and I told DH we need to tank our price, he's never been on board........well now he has no choice.
Post by charlielove on Sept 13, 2013 10:51:56 GMT -5
When people post pictures (FB, Instagram) of their adorable kids, pets, whatever, but their home is really cluttered and messy, I can't even appreciate the cuteness of the picture because I'm so distracted by the mess.
When people post pictures (FB, Instagram) of their adorable kids, pets, whatever, but their home is really cluttered and messy, I can't even appreciate the cuteness of the picture because I'm so distracted by the mess.
When people post pictures (FB, Instagram) of their adorable kids, pets, whatever, but their home is really cluttered and messy, I can't even appreciate the cuteness of the picture because I'm so distracted by the mess.
Uh oh. I am screwed then.
I've never noticed this with any of your pictures. And to me, toys on the floor is different. I definitely have that going on all the time. It's more the piles of laundry, boxes, piles of paperwork. I just want to go organize.