laurack It's starting to feel like a shack. I desperately want out of this house. We out grew 2 years ago and I'm sooo ready to move on. Here's a link if anyone's interested.
A friend just opened a restaurant in Samdpoint, and I was all "oooh, they're both in Idaho, maybe Kistjenn has eaten there!" Then Google told me it's an 8 hour drive. Idaho's huge, yo.
When people post pictures (FB, Instagram) of their adorable kids, pets, whatever, but their home is really cluttered and messy, I can't even appreciate the cuteness of the picture because I'm so distracted by the mess.
My kids SHINE through the clutter!
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NO! I do not observe this type of clutter/mess in your pictures AT ALL.
I wish I could post the picture I'm referencing that a FB friend posted today. In their living room on the floor is a pile of laundry, a screwdriver, an empty wrapper and soda bottle and an apple core. This is a repeat offender, so it seems like it's not a one time thing for this person. That's the kind of stuff I'm talking about. The apple core really got me.
I'm pretty sure I don't like my husband anymore. I'm finding out that he lies a lot to other people so he is probably lying to me too. He also never has anything new to say. Like when we are having a conversation, he just keeps saying the same thing over and over and then gets pissed when I want to stop talking about it because its like watching the same 30 seconds of a movie over and over and over.
That being said, I will probably never divorce him so I've been feeling really depressed and stuck.
I'm sorry. I would try to work on things because your kids will pick up on things in a few years. What kind of things is he lying about? You have been together since you were pretty young, right?
Thanks everyone! I'm not sure I'm in the right place for seeing councillor right now and there's no way I can afford it.
thedahliharpa He lied to his mom the other night that he had an appointment so she wouldn't come over. That sort of stuff. We've been together since I was 16 and he was 18. I feel like I have changed a lot and he hasn't. It's not either of our faults but it just sucks.
bigapple I wish. I've never been to Sandpoint. It's strange, this state is really divided. Northern Idaho, where Sandpoint is, is very luscious and green, very much like WA & OR. The southern part, where I live is a high plains desert, brown and dry like NV. And I think the only reason why it takes 8 hrs is because there is no direct route that would cut back time. If you look at a map of ID to see roads & Hwys, there's this big black nothing, like no man's land. Anyway, totally just got carried away. Does your friend like ID? Is she from NY orginally?
I've pretty much completely given up on the screen time thing. In fact, I rented (lol, actually RENTED from the video store) Toy Story because I thought he'd like it. He sat right down in his chair and anxiously waited for it to start. And THEN, right after Mr. Potato Head came on, he jumped up, rummaged through his toy box and found his potato head. Then he sat back down with it and continued watching the movie. I thought it was freaking adorable and I dont even care that he's only 1 and watching movies.
Last night confirmed that we have thrown it out the window for sure. Roxy has a small cold and REFUSED to sleep. The only thing that kept me sane was playing Bubble Guppies on repeat for several hours. I also use it as a "babysitter" so I can try to get dinner done. Gotta do what ya gotta do!
bigapple I wish. I've never been to Sandpoint. It's strange, this state is really divided. Northern Idaho, where Sandpoint is, is very luscious and green, very much like WA & OR. The southern part, where I live is a high plains desert, brown and dry like NV. And I think the only reason why it takes 8 hrs is because there is no direct route that would cut back time. If you look at a map of ID to see roads & Hwys, there's this big black nothing, like no man's land. Anyway, totally just got carried away. Does your friend like ID? Is she from NY orginally?
I grew up in Maine which is also very divided with no good roads. The southern bit is like North Boston, and the rest is pretty rural and remote.
She LOVES it there. She's a former East Coast finance girl who decided to pack up and try something new. She convinced her girlfriend to go with her, and they opened a beautiful wine bar/brick oven pizza place that's right on the water. I'm dying to see it in person!
Yes! I can see if I was lounging on the couch and finished my apple and waited to get up and throw it. But leaving an apple core on the floor is totally different!
rainbowchip I wish my DH would lie to his mom! :-p
I understand not bring able to deal with things right away but don't put it off too long. There is a lot at stake and you deserve to be happy.
Yeah, it didn't work though. She stilled showed up and we got to go on the worst family walk ever with her.
I'm kind of hoping that this is just a rough patch and things will get better. I honestly know what started the whole thing and its spiraled from there.
Recently I had to move desks at work and I hated it because I had to clean out my desk. My desk was gross! OMG. I judged myself. Yet, my new desk isn't looking too great already.
Recently I had to move desks at work and I hated it because I had to clean out my desk. My desk was gross! OMG. I judged myself. Yet, my new desk isn't looking too great already.
ugh i suck.
My entire office is so gross. I totally judge myself. And my car. My life is just one bit cluttered mess.
We are so alike
Actually my car is very clean, but that's because I've only had it about a week. Soon it shall follow in the footsteps of my old trash can/laundry basket/shoe storage bin... errr car ... and I will be powerless to stop it
Post by rainbowchip on Sept 13, 2013 13:27:09 GMT -5
I notice the background clutter a lot and often don't post pics that show too much of it. My house is a disaster all the time because we have no where to put anything.
I'm pretty sure I don't like my husband anymore. I'm finding out that he lies a lot to other people so he is probably lying to me too. He also never has anything new to say. Like when we are having a conversation, he just keeps saying the same thing over and over and then gets pissed when I want to stop talking about it because its like watching the same 30 seconds of a movie over and over and over.
That being said, I will probably never divorce him so I've been feeling really depressed and stuck.
I think you and I are in very similar places right now. And like you said in another comment, I too have no idea how we really got here and what has changed. Hugs and :drink:, lady.
@sprinkles, no mommy-guilting from me! We're pretty much given up on the screen time thing, too. It's definitely her babysitter when I'm trying to make dinner or when she's teething and exxxxtra whiney (we sit on the floor and watch together). It's kinda epic right now. We had been spending a lot of time in our backyard where she has an awesome huge sandbox and swing, slide, and playhouse combo, but there is big time road construction at the end of our street and all the noise they make scares her, so inside we go. And I honestly don't feel guilty about it. I think I feel guilty that I don't feel guilty, lol.
My somewhat related FFFC, instead of books before bedtime, we do an episode of Daniel Tiger. Reading her a story before bed was one of those pregnancy visions/dreams I had, but she's a terror with books and it's not relaxing at all. Daniel, on the other hand, is a relaxing 1/2 hour where she sits in my lap and quiety drinks her milk before bed. Hopefully someday we can do books!
Post by lauranicole91 on Sept 13, 2013 14:09:59 GMT -5
DH and I have been terrible dog parents for the past month. They are slowly starting to spend more and more time in the crate than not.
They are crated at night because they were both peeing and pooping on the carpet and doors and refusing to wake us up to go out. They don't pee or poop in the crate though.
They are crated during meals because they try to steal our food, my dog is tall enough to reach counters and our table and will snatch anything the moment you blink. And if the dogs are out Pey would rather share than eat.
My dog's allergies are still flared up real bad and her medicine isn't helping a whole lot. Her constant munching and scratching drives us up the wall.
I've seriously done the math and within a 24hr period they are more often than not in the crate for the majority of that time.
I feel so shitty about this. They've always been annoying but not this bad. I want to love them again. DH and I joke daily about sending them off to a friend(not that anyone would take them) and sometimes I wonder how much of us is actually serious about the thought.
Behavior training isn't an option financially and my dog has already been through once with no change.
mscatra, LOL YES, I feel guilty for not really caring. I know I should buuuut... I like that he likes his shows. lol. And we do Sprout before bed too! Its bath, then PJ's and cuddle on the couch with his milk and we watch whatever is on Sprout. But then DH takes him into his room to do a quick story/song and puts him to bed. I LOVE our cuddle time on the couch in front of the TV before bed, its my favorite!!!!
I've pretty much completely given up on the screen time thing. In fact, I rented (lol, actually RENTED from the video store) Toy Story because I thought he'd like it. He sat right down in his chair and anxiously waited for it to start. And THEN, right after Mr. Potato Head came on, he jumped up, rummaged through his toy box and found his potato head. Then he sat back down with it and continued watching the movie. I thought it was freaking adorable and I dont even care that he's only 1 and watching movies.
A girl on Facebook today, a girl with no kids, put a link to some blog and said all parents should read it. It was about how even a tv in the background is bad. I did not read it, first of all, if you don't have kids, don't tell parents what to read. Second of all, I get really annoyed with the mommy martyr blogs. DS still isn't very interested in tv, and that is sometimes annoying. Like when he is cranky and just needs to relax, we try the tv and get like 2 minutes of his attention.
Post by breezy8407 on Sept 13, 2013 15:56:50 GMT -5
The only way we've been able to get DS to snap out of his crying/screaming freak out mode at 4am is by distracting him with the tv. I've tried everything.
One morning I thought I was watching a Dateline episode, but after about 15 minutes I realized it was a commercial for Lipozene or some other weight loss pill over and over and over again. The "testimonials" were what finally got me to realize it. TV at 4am...not so awesome.
Post by musiclover on Sept 13, 2013 15:59:39 GMT -5
I am pissed that I have been to busy today, that's not a FFFC, but it needed to be said.
mine: Just thought to pull the floor rug mats and wash them (, Adam has for sure peed and dropped poop on both. so fucking gross. In my next home, there shall be nooooo rug in the bahtroom, little boys can't aim.
There was a thread on MMMoms I think that was about screen time and everyone was all--oh, it's so terrible and what's the point of introducing it? I felt guilty briefly (I use it for background noise on occasion and now when I need a break I turn on Phineas and Ferb) and then decided my kids are screwed anyway. I'm not good at playing with them at this age. I generally just hand him toys or crayons, etc. I do love to read with him though.
My real FFC is that I'm getting Wendy's tonight despite having prepped dinner and my weight loss goals. I feel like I have the flu and I just want some fries, damn it.
A girl on Facebook today, a girl with no kids, put a link to some blog and said all parents should read it. It was about how even a tv in the background is bad. I did not read it, first of all, if you don't have kids, don't tell parents what to read. Second of all, I get really annoyed with the mommy martyr blogs. DS still isn't very interested in tv, and that is sometimes annoying. Like when he is cranky and just needs to relax, we try the tv and get like 2 minutes of his attention.
Yeah, I was discussing this topic with my childless best friend and saying that I really thought it was an unrealistic expectation and she very strongly started in on how she knew someone with X kids who did it, so it was possible. I totally had to force the rage monster down and just say, "I never said it was unattainable, just unrealistic for many parents." I really wanted to say, "Well, I guess she's just a better parent than I am, right?" Before kids I really, really hated when someone said that I couldn't comment on kid topics before having kids, but it's true. I need a time machine to go tell myself to STFU,
Yeah really what's the POINT of tv anyway? Lets just all set our TVs on fire! Silly useless boxes who needs them!
I will never let my children watch it. Instead every minute nay every second can be a loving moment, a teaching moment, a one on one burst of mom love and continuos eye contact. We will crochet our dreams using unicorn hairs and wishes!
Oh wait. you don't love your kids as much as me ? How sad for you.
1) This sounds terrible, but I want my Godmother title to be re-assigned. I feel so bad. But, I talk to my BFF, now just a friend (mother of my Godson), about once every other month. I see her maybe 3-5 times a year, and see my Godson about 1-2 times a year. They live 2.5 hours away, and every time I try to make plans, she says she's busy, or she says yes and then cancels that week. I just emailed her to ask what they were doing for Godson's 3rd bday (Saturday) because I hadn't heard anything. She said "Oh, we're just doing something at my parents and all my family will be there. It's at 1 if you wanna come." Umm... ok, except I have plans that day and I'm not going to go somewhere I had to ask about. 2) I didn't feed Mc breakfast last Monday because she got up at 7:15 and MIL was there at 7:30. I forgot to tell MIL that I didn't give her breakfast! So when I got home, MIL was like "Mc was so hungry this morning, so I just kept letting her eat cheerios." I played dumb, and was like "Wow! She ate a lot!" lol
Yeah really what's the POINT of tv anyway? Lets just all set our TVs on fire! Silly useless boxes who needs them!
I will never let my children watch it. Instead every minute nay every second can be a loving moment, a teaching moment, a one on one burst of mom love and continuos eye contact. We will crochet our dreams using unicorn hairs and wishes!
Oh wait. you don't love your kids as much as me ? How sad for you.