LOLOL did she seriously just bounce? Maybe it's for the best, she's been getting tweakish lately.
Lately? Oh, no, this goes back years.
Look, you know honestly, I can never keep up with folks' back stories and perceived beefs with other posters. Mainly because I just don't care that much about foolishness.
Look, you know honestly, I can never keep up with folks' back stories and perceived beefs with other posters. Mainly because I just don't care that much about foolishness.
I just remember her huge beef with 2V. It was weird.
Look, you know honestly, I can never keep up with folks' back stories and perceived beefs with other posters. Mainly because I just don't care that much about foolishness.
I just remember her huge beef with 2V. It was weird.
I don't remember this at all. Do I need to hand in my Regular card?
At the risk of getting flamed, I think SMS needed to take a step back and simmer down, and not just about this issue but in general.
I also don't understand her claims about a double standard. I think even if more established, and dare I say popular, posters were posting the same topics with the same level of hysteria, they would get a little shade thrown their way and a caution to maybe CTFO, no?
At the risk of getting flamed, I think SMS needed to take a step back and simmer down, and not just about this. In general. I don't understand her claims of a double standard. I think if more established, dare I say popular, posters were posting the same topics with the same level hysteria, they would get a little shade thrown their way and a caution to maybe CTFO, no?
I agree. If she really thought the facts were so outrageous as to warrant a five pager of pitchforks, then why even ask the WWYD question in the first place? Just report the guy and move on. The fact that she asked a WWYD and then deactivated when met by some skepticism makes it obvious that she wasn't actually seeking advice about a "problem" but was more interested in trying to get attention or stir a pot.
At the risk of getting flamed, I think SMS needed to take a step back and simmer down, and not just about this. In general. I don't understand her claims of a double standard. I think if more established, dare I say popular, posters were posting the same topics with the same level hysteria, they would get a little shade thrown their way and a caution to maybe CTFO, no?
No flames here. CEP has traveled that road before when folks were all extra and members called them on the carpet. Or maybe there is a double standard. I know all of y'all ain't reading my posts. *narrows eyes*
Til' y'all read all of my posts, everything you think about gonna fail.
Oh I think there is definitely a "double standard" or however you want to describe it. But not just on CEP, on all these boards. It's just kind of the nature of the beast IMO. I mean it's true in "real" life as well. I don't think it's worth getting all riled up over though.
I thought this post was weird bc SMs was getting so mad that people were saying not to enroll her daughter. But it was hard to tell from the OP that enrolling was completely off the table.
Anyway, when you are so invested in a message board that every.single.post becomes bitter and angry, maybe it is time to deactivate.
Yup, there is totally a double standard. There is the benefit of the doubt given to those who have proven themselves to be normal, rational people. And there is the total lack of benefit of the doubt given to those who have proven themselves to be chronic hysterical over-reactors.
Post by iammalcolmx on Sept 30, 2013 8:32:26 GMT -5
This is also the time to realize sometimes the reasoning behind someone not being "popular" on here is because they are always extra in their posts and then act brand new when people get in their assess about it.
This is also the time to realize sometimes the reasoning behind someone not being "popular" on here is because they are always extra in their posts and then act brand new when people get in their assess about it.
This x one billion. Our board is pretty forgiving so long as you don't consistently get defensive, and a sense of humor goes a long way around here. Ask Hawkeye.
I feel kinda bad for her. She was super hung up on people being popular or not popular or etc.
This is bizarre to me. It should probably be a s/o thread or something. But, why do grown ass women care about who is and is not popular?
*no snark here LHC, just me being puzzled*
Can anyone expound upon this? I've just never really cared much about trying to fit in with the "popular" people. I am who I am. I'm like Cyrus on Scandal. When he told James he was what he was and that's that on that. Which sidenote: is why I love me some Cyrus.
Post by mominatrix on Sept 30, 2013 10:38:40 GMT -5
I don't know that 'popularity' is the right word.
There are definitely people on this board (as on other boards, as in life) who when they say something the majority might think is a little *off*, they get the benefit of the doubt. There are others who absolutely don't - - quite the opposite, there's sometimes some twisted logic employed to make things seem more off than they objectively are.
Personally, I'm kind of unhappy this thread took the turn it took. IMHO, if SMS went to this daycare, and its owner may have admitted to an illegal act, she can (and, the way some would have it, really should) inform somebody of that fact. We can parse the language from now till doomsday, of whether the guy actually admitted an illegal act, and whether an appellate court would toss it under World Vision... but those are very different questions than whether in the first instance it's better to inform the proper authorities or not.
...but it turned weirdly personal and wasn't OK. With the deactivation, it's getting even more personal, and even less OK.
I'm sorry but telling people to fuck off and then deactivating is further proof she was and is a complete drama queen.
I mean read the way she worded the op. and hugely bolder parts. The girl can sure dish the shit but can't take the heat if she gets any back.
that said I wish she wouldn't have deactivated as I don't like to see people go esp. When we are already on a platform where we are less likely to get new recruits.
AND there is a double standard for regulars but gtfo.
This is bizarre to me. It should probably be a s/o thread or something. But, why do grown ass women care about who is and is not popular?
*no snark here LHC, just me being puzzled*
Can anyone expound upon this? I've just never really cared much about trying to fit in with the "popular" people. I am who I am. I'm like Cyrus on Scandal. When he told James he was what he was and that's that on that. Which sidenote: is why I love me some Cyrus.
This does deserve an s/o because I am 36 years old and just joined the masters team here in my new home city and I'm seriously being "frozen out" by other adult women. Like 8th grade style. They won't talk to me (even if I talk to them first) and I caught one of them making fun of my stroke the other day at practice. I'm seriously ready to go to Barns and Noble, buy about 15 copies of "Reviving Ophelia" and start handing them out after practice. It's fucking absurd.
I do not care about being "popular" on my swim team. But I do care that apparently my swim team has grown ass women who consider themselves "popular."
And that's all I've got to say about that.
Take out "swim club" and replace it with "mothers on my block" and this is my life every morning. I wouldn't give 2 shits if they weren't also freezing out Grace, which I just find shittastic.
This does deserve an s/o because I am 36 years old and just joined the masters team here in my new home city and I'm seriously being "frozen out" by other adult women. Like 8th grade style. They won't talk to me (even if I talk to them first) and I caught one of them making fun of my stroke the other day at practice. I'm seriously ready to go to Barns and Noble, buy about 15 copies of "Reviving Ophelia" and start handing them out after practice. It's fucking absurd.
I do not care about being "popular" on my swim team. But I do care that apparently my swim team has grown ass women who consider themselves "popular."
And that's all I've got to say about that.
Take out "swim club" and replace it with "mothers on my block" and this is my life every morning. I wouldn't give 2 shits if they weren't also freezing out Grace, which I just find shittastic.
There is a really nice playground in a neighborhood close to mine that I refuse to go back to because the moms there are horrible. They're snobby and rude. They also took their kids to play with some other kids when MY kid wanted to play. Ugh. It hurt.
This is bizarre to me. It should probably be a s/o thread or something. But, why do grown ass women care about who is and is not popular?
*no snark here LHC, just me being puzzled*
Can anyone expound upon this? I've just never really cared much about trying to fit in with the "popular" people. I am who I am. I'm like Cyrus on Scandal. When he told James he was what he was and that's that on that. Which sidenote: is why I love me some Cyrus.
This does deserve an s/o because I am 36 years old and just joined the masters team here in my new home city and I'm seriously being "frozen out" by other adult women. Like 8th grade style. They won't talk to me (even if I talk to them first) and I caught one of them making fun of my stroke the other day at practice. I'm seriously ready to go to Barns and Noble, buy about 15 copies of "Reviving Ophelia" and start handing them out after practice. It's fucking absurd.
I do not care about being "popular" on my swim team. But I do care that apparently my swim team has grown ass women who consider themselves "popular."
I'm sorry but telling people to fuck off and then deactivating is further proof she was and is a complete drama queen.
I mean read the way she worded the op. and hugely bolder parts. The girl can sure dish the shit but can't take the heat if she gets any back.
that said I wish she wouldn't have deactivated as I don't like to see people go esp. When we are already on a platform where we are less likely to get new recruits.
AND there is a double standard for regulars but gtfo.
Well, there were a few people straight up telling her to leave, so I think some of her defensiveness was merited.
Take out "swim club" and replace it with "mothers on my block" and this is my life every morning. I wouldn't give 2 shits if they weren't also freezing out Grace, which I just find shittastic.
Any idea why? I am just curious. I mean lets just say I didn't like a particular adult in my neighborhood that would stop me from letting their kid play with mine and visa vera.
Take out "swim club" and replace it with "mothers on my block" and this is my life every morning. I wouldn't give 2 shits if they weren't also freezing out Grace, which I just find shittastic.
Any idea why? I am just curious. I mean lets just say I didn't like a particular adult in my neighborhood that would stop me from letting their kid play with mine and visa vera.
Can't we all just get along?
oh, i know why. last year one of the women was being a total bitch to a kid at the bus stop. he was in 3rd grade, is LD and a total handful and he'd sit in his mom's car and when the bus came he'd run right on, cutting in front of the other kids. she'd make comments about him all. the. time. i made a comment once or twice but bit my tongue for the sake of my kid. then one day she said something really shitty TO him and then giggled and said "i'm such a bitch, aren't i?" i said "yeah, you are." and walked away.
so am i surprised by it? no. but the fact that it started in the first place disgusts me. i'm not entirely bothered by G being cut out (and frankly i don't think she's even noticed) but it still irks me that they'd do it at all.
now i'm stuck with a problem. do i invite those kids to G's party? their twins' party was earlier this month and G was 1 of 2 kids on our block not invited (the other being the kid i just wrote about) i doubt they'd come but do i be the better person or do i not put it out there? whattodo...whattodo...
Any idea why? I am just curious. I mean lets just say I didn't like a particular adult in my neighborhood that would stop me from letting their kid play with mine and visa vera.
Can't we all just get along?
oh, i know why. last year one of the women was being a total bitch to a kid at the bus stop. he was in 3rd grade, is LD and a total handful and he'd sit in his mom's car and when the bus came he'd run right on, cutting in front of the other kids. she'd make comments about him all. the. time. i made a comment once or twice but bit my tongue for the sake of my kid. then one day she said something really shitty TO him and then giggled and said "i'm such a bitch, aren't i?" i said "yeah, you are." and walked away.
so am i surprised by it? no. but the fact that it started in the first place disgusts me. i'm not entirely bothered by G being cut out (and frankly i don't think she's even noticed) but it still irks me that they'd do it at all.
now i'm stuck with a problem. do i invite those kids to G's party? their twins' party was earlier this month and G was 1 of 2 kids on our block not invited (the other being the kid i just wrote about) i doubt they'd come but do i be the better person or do i not put it out there? whattodo...whattodo...
I feel like I need to get my pitchfork. Team Lauren.
My instinct based upon what you've said would be not to invite, but I don't know the neighborhood dynamic. Do you have enough others to invite? I would think you wouldn't really be making waves if *none* of the others are invited, KWIM?
oh, i know why. last year one of the women was being a total bitch to a kid at the bus stop. he was in 3rd grade, is LD and a total handful and he'd sit in his mom's car and when the bus came he'd run right on, cutting in front of the other kids. she'd make comments about him all. the. time. i made a comment once or twice but bit my tongue for the sake of my kid. then one day she said something really shitty TO him and then giggled and said "i'm such a bitch, aren't i?" i said "yeah, you are." and walked away.
so am i surprised by it? no. but the fact that it started in the first place disgusts me. i'm not entirely bothered by G being cut out (and frankly i don't think she's even noticed) but it still irks me that they'd do it at all.
now i'm stuck with a problem. do i invite those kids to G's party? their twins' party was earlier this month and G was 1 of 2 kids on our block not invited (the other being the kid i just wrote about) i doubt they'd come but do i be the better person or do i not put it out there? whattodo...whattodo...
I feel like I need to get my pitchfork. Team Lauren.
My instinct based upon what you've said would be not to invite, but I don't know the neighborhood dynamic. Do you have enough others to invite? I would think you wouldn't really be making waves if *none* of the others are invited, KWIM?
it's actually my family party so if no one in the neighborhood showed up it still wouldn't be a big deal. G really wants a couple of the kids to come to A party but since my house is small we're only inviting her GS troop to her movie night party. (the family party is actually a party for all 3 of the kids since i'm cheap like that).
i'm leaning towards not inviting them because i'm getting really awesome food and i don't want to chance paying for them to eat.
I feel like I need to get my pitchfork. Team Lauren.
My instinct based upon what you've said would be not to invite, but I don't know the neighborhood dynamic. Do you have enough others to invite? I would think you wouldn't really be making waves if *none* of the others are invited, KWIM?
it's actually my family party so if no one in the neighborhood showed up it still wouldn't be a big deal. G really wants a couple of the kids to come to A party but since my house is small we're only inviting her GS troop to her movie night party. (the family party is actually a party for all 3 of the kids since i'm cheap like that).
i'm leaning towards not inviting them because i'm getting really awesome food and i don't want to chance paying for them to eat.
Ha ha. I was already to come in here saying be the bigger person but if it really is a family party and you are spending $$$ on food then no don't invite them.