Any idea why? I am just curious. I mean lets just say I didn't like a particular adult in my neighborhood that would stop me from letting their kid play with mine and visa vera.
Can't we all just get along?
oh, i know why.
Oh well. At least you know why. I am more bothered (maybe too strong of a word) when someone does not like me and I have no clue why rather than if I know why.
Oh well. At least you know why. I am more bothered (maybe too strong of a word) when someone does not like me and I have no clue why rather than if I know why.
No.
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO. :Y:
Oh well. At least you know why. I am more bothered (maybe too strong of a word) when someone does not like me and I have no clue why rather than if I know why.
No.
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO.
WTF? We were talking about her neighbors .. not you... gwad touchy much
sbp and lauren - do you feel like you can just confront this? Like just say, "It looked like you were making fun of my stroke the other day? What is that about?" or "It seems like we've gotten off on the wrong foot and that my kid and I are being deliberately frozen out here...is that intentional?"
I've done that before, not to embarrass or anything, just to honestly figure out if this is really happening. It does usually embarrass the shit out of people though and they knock it off and act like humans afterwards.
Oh well. At least you know why. I am more bothered (maybe too strong of a word) when someone does not like me and I have no clue why rather than if I know why.
No.
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO.
You can delete your post here, if you wish, and people are not allowed to repost your deleted post like they did on the nest. You can't delete the whole thread, but you can delete all your posts in this thread. I'm not sure what happens to quoted posts.
Not saying I'm suggesting it, just making you aware of your rights, abilities.
These stories are reminding me of the prison cook character in Orange is the New Black. I'll never get why adults continue this type of behavior on purpose.
One guy wouldn't tell me his name. Like I straight up said, what's your name and he said, you don't know? And then his buddy said he's a lawyer, you might have seen him on TV. And I said, does he have chapter thirteen info tapes? Would I know him if I'd taken YAZ? Am I entitled to compensation?
This does deserve an s/o because I am 36 years old and just joined the masters team here in my new home city and I'm seriously being "frozen out" by other adult women. Like 8th grade style. They won't talk to me (even if I talk to them first) and I caught one of them making fun of my stroke the other day at practice. I'm seriously ready to go to Barns and Noble, buy about 15 copies of "Reviving Ophelia" and start handing them out after practice. It's fucking absurd.
I do not care about being "popular" on my swim team. But I do care that apparently my swim team has grown ass women who consider themselves "popular."
And that's all I've got to say about that.
What are they, 8th graders? I give you major props for not looking at them and asking the what the fuck was wrong with them when you saw them making fun of you.
Is there possibly another masters team you could join?
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO.
WTF? We were talking about her neighbors .. not you... gwad touchy much
Sorry about that. I meant to quote kmpls, not you.
Oh well. At least you know why. I am more bothered (maybe too strong of a word) when someone does not like me and I have no clue why rather than if I know why.
No.
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO.
OMG.
Is day to day life difficult for you? Based on your responses, I'm not sure how you don't drown in the rain.
And fwiw, I'm not even close to a "popular girl" on PCE. I mostly lurk here, and I don't know your screen name at all. You come across as crazy.
And for the last time, I don't think that kid was picking on your kid for being Asian. I'd be grabbing a pitchfork to defend you if I thought that was racially motivated at all.
I fielded a voicemail (because, hey, Hawaii is in a different time zone, morAn) from someone cold calling their services to our office. I shityounot, he said "you may have seen me in Forbes or on TV." I nearly fell over laughing.
It must be exhausting to be the person who gets so spun up over every insult, perceived or real.
I deactivated because thejen said I shouldn't have a problem with an eight year old attempting to knock over my toddler because he was pissed about my H, whom the kid also harrassed, being Korean. Why I shouldn't be upset about that is far beyond me, but whatever. That was a shitty, cruel, hurtful thing to say.
What foundmylazybum said upthread about this more recent issue wasn't much kinder.
If deactivating is deemed an "overreaction", then what is the correct course of action? Because clearly just explaining my side of the story is counterproductive and just generated more "You're defensive".
The reactions here just show that deactivating was the right call. KOKO.
OMG.
Is day to day life difficult for you? Based on your responses, I'm not sure how you don't drown in the rain.
And fwiw, I'm not even close to a "popular girl" on PCE. I mostly lurk here, and I don't know your screen name at all. You come across as crazy.
And for the last time, I don't think that kid was picking on your kid for being Asian. I'd be grabbing a pitchfork to defend you if I thought that was racially motivated at all.
At the risk of being gutted with a pitchfork, can I respectfully ask why you don't think this?
I mean, I had reasons why I think it was, which I explained in that post. If you have reasons why you think differently, I'd sincerely like to hear them.
sbp and lauren - do you feel like you can just confront this? Like just say, "It looked like you were making fun of my stroke the other day? What is that about?" or "It seems like we've gotten off on the wrong foot and that my kid and I are being deliberately frozen out here...is that intentional?"
I've done that before, not to embarrass or anything, just to honestly figure out if this is really happening. It does usually embarrass the shit out of people though and they knock it off and act like humans afterwards.
i probably could but to be completely honest, it's a relief not to have to be around them anymore. this couple is SO negative and just pissed off about everything that it's exhausting. everything is the biggest fucking deal in the entire world (they tweaked when they moved the bus stop to the corner, and completely lost the plot when we got redistricted to a blue ribbon school). i'm kind of enjoying the quiet.
if it becomes an actual issue with G i'll say something. their girls are 2 years younger than G so they don't play together. this also means the boys will have nothing to do with them at all, which is fine with me.
Is day to day life difficult for you? Based on your responses, I'm not sure how you don't drown in the rain.
And fwiw, I'm not even close to a "popular girl" on PCE. I mostly lurk here, and I don't know your screen name at all. You come across as crazy.
And for the last time, I don't think that kid was picking on your kid for being Asian. I'd be grabbing a pitchfork to defend you if I thought that was racially motivated at all.
At the risk of being gutted with a pitchfork, can I respectfully ask why you don't think this?
I mean, I had reasons why I think it was, which I explained in that post. If you have reasons why you think differently, I'd sincerely like to hear them.
You know, normally, I don't get in the middle of threads like this. I stay away because I just find them to be silly. But stop. Just stop. anything thejen answers with will not be satisfactory for you. It won't end well. You feel that the kid picked on your child for racially motivated reasons. You're entitled to that.
It really is no different than me trying to change the mind of a some idiots I know that racism is alive and well and that there is a bias in certain things. Everyone will not agree with me. She's not going to agree with you, and her response will make you angrier. It's really not worth hashing it out. And - that post was back in May. Tomorrow is October 1st. That was nearly 4 months ago.
Breathe and step back. It's not worth the effort. And I don't even know thejen like that, but I can tell that this has upset you greatly and continuing the debate is not the best thing here.
At the risk of being gutted with a pitchfork, can I respectfully ask why you don't think this?
I mean, I had reasons why I think it was, which I explained in that post. If you have reasons why you think differently, I'd sincerely like to hear them.
You know, normally, I don't get in the middle of threads like this. I stay away because I just find them to be silly. But stop. Just stop. anything thejen answers with will not be satisfactory for you. It won't end well. You feel that the kid picked on your child for racially motivated reasons. You're entitled to that.
It really is no different than me trying to change the mind of a some idiots I know that racism is alive and well and that there is a bias in certain things. Everyone will not agree with me. She's not going to agree with you, and her response will make you angrier. It's really not worth hashing it out. And - that post was back in May. Tomorrow is October 1st. That was nearly 4 months ago.
Breathe and step back. It's not worth the effort. And I don't even know thejen like that, but I can tell that this has upset you greatly and continuing the debate is not the best thing here.
So far she hasn't answered anything. If she does, then maybe it will be satisfactory; we'll see.
I'll accept that I was wrong when someone explains why. But "You're just waaaaaaay overreacting" isn't an explanation, it's just cruel and it was the last straw for me personally.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Ummm, I think you have proven you are a over reacting drama queen.
I get Mama bear over my kids too but nobody is attacking your kid.
Just calm down and rejoin or go down in a blaze of glory.
And you have proven that you are just being cruel as shit.
I beg to differ that eight year old intentionally trying to knock over a toddler with a yoga ball is not an attack. My husband was THERE and this is what he told me - but sure, you know better.