R rarely cooks, even though he's a decent cook. He has an engineer mind and can't just get creative or do things loosely, he has to follow a recipe to a T and it stresses him out, so he doesn't do it often. He does cook breakfast a lot. Eggs, bacon, toast.
For me, cooking can be fun and creative . I love experimenting and throwing stuff together. Usually those dishes turn out the best. If I follow a recipe I usually alter it in some way. I love to listen to music and cook. It's therapeutic for me.
We both cook about equally. Our style is following recipes with small adjustments based on our tastes. We do a lot of crockpot meat and roasted veggies.
He can cook. He doesn't cook often though, but he is capable. I generally cook because I love it. Except while pregnant it appears, although it has been better the last week or so.
We are exactly like you. I love cooking, I find a lot of pleasure in the different variables and the creativity involved. I never follow a recipe exactly, ever. I always add and take away things that I like/don't like. I also find pleasure in looking for recipes, planning them, ect.
H needs a recipe and he always follows it. It's always breakfast and there's like, a million dirty dishes when he's done. He's super loud in the kitchen, there's stress and noise. It's funny, H is an extremely patient, laid back, calm person but in the kitchen he's super anxious and rushing around, slamming shit, just super stressed. He does make the BEST breakfasts and his specialty is pancakes. He always makes holiday pancakes shaped like different things: Christmas was candy canes, Rudolph and a snowman. Easter was actual bunny shaped pancakes. He rocks breakfast fo sho! The three times a year he does it.
MH is a great cook he is creative and will make new receives all the time. I can only cook basic things and I like to bake because following exact directions is my thing. I eat like crap when he isn't home.
He's a very s.l.o.w cook and also thinks up some random not good combinations. I don't mind cooking and am good at it (confident enough to get creative/ not need a recipe) so I make the majority of our meals
Post by rupertpenny on Oct 17, 2013 20:01:50 GMT -5
We both cook. I'm better at it, but only because I have more practice. He's gotten a lot better recently though since he did most of the cooking when I was pregnant.
He loves to cook stuff that takes 8 hours and hard to find ingredients, like cassoulet.
Both H and I are engineers, that's no excuse. He cooks twice a week, I cook the other 4 days (take-out/date night once a week). For me cooking is peaceful (I very loosely follow recipes or make something up).
Yeah, I think it's just a matter of it being a stressor or stress reliever. I'd rather eat cereal and not have a stressed out situation with a million dishes, or just cook the meal myself.
I do most of the cooking. I'm a creative cook and efficient. H will cook but it takes foreeeeverrr and he can't multitask so the main course will be done before he starts steaming the veggies or whatever. It's all half lukewarm half piping hot. I would just rather do it myself. Or like the other day when he roasted the veggies two hours before I left work. ^o)
Post by marylennox on Oct 17, 2013 20:12:38 GMT -5
My H is a great cook. He is really good at throwing random ingredients together and making something awesome, knowing what things would go well together, etc.
I'm not creative with it at all and have always found it boring. I've been trying to cook more recently though. I'm finally starting to get some enjoyment out of it, but I definitely need to have a recipe. And the easier, the better. Too many steps and I won't even attempt it.
I cook most of the time because I'm at home. It's a big relief to give my kids over to H and hide in the kitchen. I've been cooking for 20 years or so, yet after all this time, I still don't feel comfortable improvising. I have about 100 recipes I love to chose from.
My H has a few favorites that he cooks very well: breakfast burritos, fajitas, Indian stew, jerk chicken.
I don't love to cook, but I want to eat decent, non-processed food so I do. I have to follow recipes and get stressed if I have to improvise, although I will say I may be getting slightly better at this. I don't like to try new recipes, and rely instead on tried-and-true favorites, over and over. But I have been trying to make one new recipe a week to find some new ones for the rotation.
I basically cook dinner - a meat and vegetable - so that I have leftovers for lunch.
My ex-husband was a fabulous cook who didn't need recipes. He loved to criticize my attempts though.
DH is the cook of the house. He's very creative and sees cooking as a stress reliever. I cook about 3 times a month.
People judge me for not cooking because I'm usually home 3-4 hours before DH and I get long breaks off work where I'm home all day. Cooking really stresses me out though so I don't do it. I would feel guilty about it if he didn't enjoy cooking. I probably wouldn't cook more, but I'd make sure there was piping hot takeout on the table every night.
Post by shadynasty on Oct 17, 2013 20:27:17 GMT -5
We both cook. H is good at breakfast, Italian, steak, stuff like that. I'm a little more adventurous with different ethnic food but I always need to follow a recipe. I hope to someday be like my mom though who can whip up something awesome from scratch with random leftover ingredients.
H actually inspired me to get into cooking. It's not that I disliked it or was bad at it, but I was lazy and now that I have someone to cook for who encourages me it's fun.
Post by justkeepswimming on Oct 17, 2013 20:29:46 GMT -5
I do almost all of the cooking. I enjoy it and am pretty good at it.
H has been trying to "help" since I have been working crazy long hours. By help I mean, offer to cook for a certain night and then proceed to slam things around the kitchen, use a million pots and pans, and call across the house to me like 4-6 times asking where things are or how to do something.
I know I sound horribly ungrateful, and I don't say anything to him, because I know he is trying to be helpful. But OMG it takes WAY more patience than I have to spare after a 12 hour work day!
I cook most of our meals now that I stay home. We used to be more equal, but it makes more sense for the person with more time to do it! DH is an excellent cook, though. On the cleaning front, not so much. LOL
Seriously, though, the man can make a pancake into the shape of anything, so he makes those for the kids probably 2-3 times a week. Sometimes he gets fancy with food coloring. Heh
I used to not cook but all of H's meals are crap so I started a few years ago. He thinks I am a great cook. I make good meals but I am not particularly creative. I just find good recipes and follow them. Walla.
Post by lolobeth802 on Oct 17, 2013 20:37:39 GMT -5
My husband does cook. Meat centered dishes and lots of grilling. I bake and for meals I throw things together for like roasted chicken and salads or grilled cheese and tomato soup haha.