who cries and whines when she doesn't get her way? Scott's 17 year old lives with us, she just got done whining because Jill opened the frosting container and ate out of it. Which I know is wrong but give me a break. She then treats my kid like shit and says nothing is ever good here. Then go back to your moms if it sucks so much here. Jill is 5 she doesn't know better. Oh and she never eats what I cook she then whines she's hungry and expects her dad to go out and get her food.
She probably knows she's not wanted there and lashing out. Make her feel wanted and welcomed. Is she your stepdaughter? I couldn't help but noticed you called her Scott's daughter. Do you treat her different than your daughter? ( as in your daughter can do no wrong?). My 4 yo knows not to eat frosting from a can.
She probably knows she's not wanted there and lashing out. Make her feel wanted and welcomed. Is she your stepdaughter? I couldn't help but noticed you called her Scott's daughter. Do you treat her different than your daughter? ( as in your daughter can do no wrong?). My 4 yo knows not to eat frosting from a can.
ETA: do not take on a disciplinary roll. It will help nothing.
No I don't treat her any different. OK my 5 year old should know better but R shouldn't be whining like she does at 17. She lives with us because she can't get along with her mother, or her mothers boy friend.So no matter where she is she feels things suck.
I'm not a bad stepmom. I treat her no different than I do my own kids. Like I said she doesn't eat what we cook and expects that someone should go out and get her something else. Her father has allowed her to act like this. She just ordered him to go get new frosting and he went out to do it. She wouldn't even go with him and now she is letting my son in her room but not my daughter.
He tells me to take more proactive role and say something to her because he disciplines my kids.
I can see his point, but dealing with an 8 and 5 year old is EONS different than dealing with a 17-year-old woman. She sees you and your children as competition. I'm afraid it's up to Scott to deal with this--not you.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by hisno1girl on Oct 26, 2013 20:09:54 GMT -5
If he's not going to do anything or say anything for her behavior, nothing you say or do is going to make a difference. You and he need to get on the same page about discipline.
He shouldn't expect you to hand out discipline if he's not willing to do it either.
No I don't treat her any different. OK my 5 year old should know better but R shouldn't be whining like she does at 17. She lives with us because she can't get along with her mother, or her mothers boy friend.So no matter where she is she feels things suck.
She's got that in one place and an adorable 5 year old to compete with. That does suck. You should ignore and her father should make her feel important when he can.
I'm not a bad stepmom. I treat her no different than I do my own kids. Like I said she doesn't eat what we cook and expects that someone should go out and get her something else. Her father has allowed her to act like this. She just ordered him to go get new frosting and he went out to do it. She wouldn't even go with him and now she is letting my son in her room but not my daughter.
He teaches her that behavior is acceptable and then expects you to handle correcting it?! Uh, not how it should work. I think I would start there, if I were you.
I'm not a bad stepmom. I treat her no different than I do my own kids. Like I said she doesn't eat what we cook and expects that someone should go out and get her something else. Her father has allowed her to act like this. She just ordered him to go get new frosting and he went out to do it. She wouldn't even go with him and now she is letting my son in her room but not my daughter.
Sorry I was just going by the tone of your post. Talk with Scott about the dinner thing. Find a common ground. Then explain to her the house rules in a friendly way with him.
Post by hisno1girl on Oct 26, 2013 20:12:37 GMT -5
Also, dealing with a 17 y/o girl is not far off from dealing with a 5 year old. There are outbursts, temper tantrums, and childish behavior by both age groups.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by gretchenindisguise on Oct 26, 2013 20:16:20 GMT -5
8/5 is different than 17. What did you guys talk about between you and H and you and the kids before you got married? What was the plan?
She's allowed not to eat your food, but she is on her own if she doesn't like it.
I also eat frosting out of the can, but it's not a communal frosting or one that's intended to be used in the future. Plus I'm 32 I do what I want. My 4 year old doesn't. When she's 32 she can.
And I say Scott's daughter because we are not married.
I don't get how this matters.
Because of she would have said "SD" people would say, "When did you get married??" and then "Ohhhh, you're not really her stepmom, let your DH handle this."