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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Can you freeze your eggs? Would that make you feel less like you are missing out? I have friends who did that and said it made them feel like they were in their 20's again.
Oh my sweet bonquiqui; I am so sorry you have been put through this pain. Changes are difficult enough to deal with, but it is so much harder to deal with when you also find that your perceived past and present are severely altered from what you believed to be true.
I wish Chicago wasn't so far away right now. So many of us love you and care about you beyond what you have imagined. Big hugs to you; I know how hard, fast, and deep the feelings cut. Be gentle with yourself and let us know if you need anything.
Post by flamingeaux on Nov 11, 2013 1:22:01 GMT -5
Dude. That sucks. But I promise you, this is going to bite him hard in the ass. If after 15 years, he was too incompetent to stick with a kickass woman, like you, through the shit you were dealing with. No way could that chump ass, peanut dicked, mofucking cheater moron handle dealing with one infant, let alone a double whammy of twins. And then when new chick takes a quarter of your leftovers from him and half his salary for childsupport, you can sit there in your apartment with your adorable cats, who are already potty trained and capable of feeding themselves in the middle of the night without having to wake you up by screaming, and laugh your ass off. Or who knows you may be too busy banging some smokin' hot new guy who appreciates everything you have to offer to even care about what's going on in that douchebag's life.
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Thank you everyone. I appreciate it. I am so stunned. I know that it shouldn't matter so much now, because it is over, but it's like he broke up with me all over again. I wonder why he ever had to tell me. She is only 8 weeks pregnant, so she couldn't have known for long right? He said they have already had some complications and she has been to the hospital a few times. Why tell me?!?!?!?! I don't really know when it's typical to find out. Why, tonight? Why did he have to tell me now? How else would I find out?
He said his life is far from perfect, and he was on match.com just a few months ago, so now she is pregnant, and they are back together? Part of me wonders if she tried to trap him. I don't care, and I have no sympathy for either one of them.
My head is spinning, so sorry if I am repeating. I just don't even know what to think. I want to take some advil pm, and just sleep, but I don't know that my mind will let me.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
and elle, you are right, maybe i should look into freezing eggs. I have no idea how much that would even cost, but definitely something worth looking into.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Thank you everyone. I appreciate it. I am so stunned. I know that it shouldn't matter so much now, because it is over, but it's like he broke up with me all over again. I wonder why he ever had to tell me. She is only 8 weeks pregnant, so she couldn't have known for long right? He said they have already had some complications and she has been to the hospital a few times. Why tell me?!?!?!?! I don't really know when it's typical to find out. Why, tonight? Why did he have to tell me now? How else would I find out?
He said his life is far from perfect, and he was on match.com just a few months ago, so now she is pregnant, and they are back together? Part of me wonders if she tried to trap him. I don't care, and I have no sympathy for either one of them.
My head is spinning, so sorry if I am repeating. I just don't even know what to think. I want to take some advil pm, and just sleep, but I don't know that my mind will let me.
8 weeks and some complications? I would be a million nest dollars she is lying.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
He told you because he's insensitive and/or an asshole.
Right, I mean I don't mean to sound like an asshole, and I would never wish any ill upon anyone let alone their child, but if she is already having complications at 8 weeks, with twins, AND she is in her mid 40's isn't there a chance this isn't a viable pregnancy? Why the fuck would you tell me? It makes no sense.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I'm really thinking that someone is lying in some regards to it.
So it seems, I am beginning to think. I don't even understand why I am being brought into this. I don't get why I would be told, let alone so early in a pregnancy. I was in such shock earlier, but now I am getting angry, and this makes no sense.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I'm really thinking that someone is lying in some regards to it.
So it seems, I am beginning to think. I don't even understand why I am being brought into this. I don't get why I would be told, let alone so early in a pregnancy. I was in such shock earlier, but now I am getting angry, and this makes no sense.
But the odd thing was is that we have had the most civil divorce. No fighting, nothing. I just don't see what he has to gain by telling me this, but it does sound so fishy. Clearly, he is trying to hurt me, but I cannot for the life of me figure out why. I felt like I was just starting getting a plan together. Moving back home, and finally looking forward to something. Maybe that is it.
None of this makes any fucking sense. I found him on match.com back in August maybe, I can't remember the exact month. He was seeing her back waaaaaaaaay before we even separated. I wonder if they broke things off, and then she got pregnant, and now ugh. I don't even know. He says his life is so far from perfect, so there is more he obviously isn't telling me, but I just don't understand why he had to tell.
I will be glad once my settlement comes through, so I can not have to even speak to him ever. Right now he is still giving me money in addition to the alimony. I am sure she hates that.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
He probably told you because he knew it would hurt you, or he was looking for 'friendly advice' since they don't have a lengthy history. Screw him six ways to Saturday though, because he lost that privilege when he left you. You don't owe him anything.
I seriously wish I could make all this heartbreak go away for you, but I can't. I will leave you with this:
He probably told you because he knew it would hurt you, or he was looking for 'friendly advice' since they don't have a lengthy history. Screw him six ways to Saturday though, because he lost that privilege when he left you. You don't owe him anything.
I seriously wish I could make all this heartbreak go away for you, but I can't. I will leave you with this:
Aww thank you. That video lol. He would deserve that right about now.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
He probably told you because he knew it would hurt you, or he was looking for 'friendly advice' since they don't have a lengthy history. Screw him six ways to Saturday though, because he lost that privilege when he left you. You don't owe him anything.
I seriously wish I could make all this heartbreak go away for you, but I can't. I will leave you with this:
Aww thank you. That video lol. He would deserve that right about now.
I don't have to be at work for another 13 hours, and I have a full tank of gas. LOL
I love that movie, and that scene makes me laugh every time. Seriously though, take some time to grieve. You guys were together for a significant part of your life. It's okay to be sad, mad/pissed, depressed, and all of the other emotions that go along with it. We're all here for you, we love you and think you are fantastic.
But the odd thing was is that we have had the most civil divorce. No fighting, nothing. I just don't see what he has to gain by telling me this, but it does sound so fishy. Clearly, he is trying to hurt me, but I cannot for the life of me figure out why. I felt like I was just starting getting a plan together. Moving back home, and finally looking forward to something. Maybe that is it.
Aww hon, I'm so sorry. This sucks all around. And I know you feel he has nothing to gain from all this, but that just isn't true. If he has a super hot, smart, wonderful woman such as you still hung up on him, it'll "proove" he really is a catch. Which deep in his heart of hearts he knows isn't true. The majority of the time* cheating is all about the cheater. It's an inherently selfish act. He's a small insecure man and his actions reflect that.
Aww thank you. That video lol. He would deserve that right about now.
I don't have to be at work for another 13 hours, and I have a full tank of gas. LOL
I love that movie, and that scene makes me laugh every time. Seriously though, take some time to grieve. You guys were together for a significant part of your life. It's okay to be sad, mad/pissed, depressed, and all of the other emotions that go along with it. We're all here for you, we love you and think you are fantastic.
Ha the drive time is only 8 hours round trip, so you could even take a nap. lol He kept saying, "i only want the best for you, and i want you to be happy" blah blah I am freaking delighted. He is an idiot.
The plus side is when I got home and I was bawling my eyes out, Kallie brought me her duck. She wanted Mr quackers, her most prized possession to make me feel better.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"