When people post MIL vents lately, part of me can't help but think "At least you HAVE a MIL." Because it's been 11 months since I last saw mine alive, and 10 months since she died suddenly, and I miss her all the damn time. I know this is totally irrational because the MIL vents posted here are generally all justified because the MIL in question is straight up crazy, and I know my MIL was far from perfect and had a touch of the crazy herself (but it was more of a harmless crazy), and I know people need to vent before they go nuts on someone. But I can't keep the damn thought from creeping into my head. I think it's because we're coming up on the first anniversary of her death, plus AJ is just so much damn fun and I know she'd be losing her mind with joy over him...so I find myself thinking about her a lot lately.
I love Valentine's Day. I love Pinteresty cards, getting gifts from my husband, having an excuse for going out for a nice dinner, and eating chocolate. Haters to the left.
Right now I hate it. Both kids are handing out valentines this year. It took over 2 hours to get them to fill out the damn things. JUST WRITE YOUR NAME! Don't write half of it and wander away. Quit whining about how you're tired and I should do it for you. Stop pretending you don't know how to spell your classmates' names when there is a list in front of you. I could go on and on. It took everything in me not to just do it myself and be done in 5 minutes instead of standing over them making them do it.
When people post MIL vents lately, part of me can't help but think "At least you HAVE a MIL." Because it's been 11 months since I last saw mine alive, and 10 months since she died suddenly, and I miss her all the damn time. I know this is totally irrational because the MIL vents posted here are generally all justified because the MIL in question is straight up crazy, and I know my MIL was far from perfect and had a touch of the crazy herself (but it was more of a harmless crazy), and I know people need to vent before they go nuts on someone. But I can't keep the damn thought from creeping into my head. I think it's because we're coming up on the first anniversary of her death, plus AJ is just so much damn fun and I know she'd be losing her mind with joy over him...so I find myself thinking about her a lot lately.
I'm sorry for your loss and I get it. I have a really great mil and it would be a big loss for me also. I lost my grandma suddenly when I was pregnant and I think all the time about how she never met my daughter and how much she would love her and it makes me so sad.
Post by Velar Fricative on Feb 13, 2014 14:31:40 GMT -5
I'm about to go apeshit on some teachers on my FB feed who, every fucking time it snows, they bitch and moan about NYC schools being open and talk about how their lives are endangered. I really go out of my way to look for non-teachers on my feed who complain about having to go to work but...nope, just the teachers. I cannot stand teacher martyrs - they think what they are doing is invaluable (and no doubt in my mind that it is) but if that's the case, shouldn't they support schools being closed only for the most dire of weather/other emergencies?
FWIW, my teacher DH and my teacher BFF both agree with me re: obnoxious teacher martyrs. The latter teaches in the suburbs where they now pretty much close at the first announcement of a snowflake (definitely wasn't the case when I was living and going to school in the district she teaches in!), so every year for the last few years they have had to cancel scheduled vacations to make up the days.
Finally, this is New York. It snows here. Get over it. I like winter and even I'm getting tired of the snow at this point, but having to commute in the snow is not like going into a burning building to fight a fire so spare me the "Mayor de Blasio is endangering our lives!!!!" speeches.
One of my classmate's mother was brutally murdered when we were 10 years old. It was in the news today that the boys convicted of the crime are back in court for resentencing because the state supreme court made life sentences illegal for minors. This makes me livid. I don't care that they were minors, what they did was horrific and traumatizing to the entire community. I just pray that the new sentencing is still fitting to the crime.
How old were they when they did it?
I'm sorry.
I think 15 or 16? They pretended to be a cop with fake lights, pulled her over, robbed her, shot her, beat her, and stabbed her over 30 times. She was on her way home with birthday presents for her kids My classmate was 10 when it happened, and his 3 siblings were all younger. I still remember when it happened.
I'm about to go apeshit on some teachers on my FB feed who, every fucking time it snows, they bitch and moan about NYC schools being open and talk about how their lives are endangered. I really go out of my way to look for non-teachers on my feed who complain about having to go to work but...nope, just the teachers. I cannot stand teacher martyrs - they think what they are doing is invaluable (and no doubt in my mind that it is) but if that's the case, shouldn't they support schools being closed only for the most dire of weather/other emergencies?
FWIW, my teacher DH and my teacher BFF both agree with me re: obnoxious teacher martyrs. The latter teaches in the suburbs where they now pretty much close at the first announcement of a snowflake (definitely wasn't the case when I was living and going to school in the district she teaches in!), so every year for the last few years they have had to cancel scheduled vacations to make up the days.
Finally, this is New York. It snows here. Get over it. I like winter and even I'm getting tired of the snow at this point, but having to commute in the snow is not like going into a burning building to fight a fire so spare me the "Mayor de Blasio is endangering our lives!!!!" speeches.
I was one of the people bitching on FB this morning, but am not a teacher.
It took me a heck of a long time to get to school with DD this morning in a cab. The distance is 20 blocks. The roads freaking sucked. We arrived at 8:40, when most of the yellow buses are at school by 8:00 or 8:05. Buses for 2 of the 4 bus routes still hadn't arrived when we got there. Which means that either kids were stuck on super slow buses navigating the snow banks or they stood out on bus stops in this crap weather for over 20 minutes this morning, or both.
I ended up walking home after I dropped her off because I just didn't feel all that safe in a cab. I can do this. If I asked DD to walk 20 blocks in this weather on unshoveled sidewalks, she would most likely cry and give up after a few blocks.
I get not closing the schools for every little dusting, but if the schools are going to be open, then the roads need to be cleared. Not all kids live in walking distance of their schools and certainly, not all teachers do.
I'm about to go apeshit on some teachers on my FB feed who, every fucking time it snows, they bitch and moan about NYC schools being open and talk about how their lives are endangered. I really go out of my way to look for non-teachers on my feed who complain about having to go to work but...nope, just the teachers. I cannot stand teacher martyrs - they think what they are doing is invaluable (and no doubt in my mind that it is) but if that's the case, shouldn't they support schools being closed only for the most dire of weather/other emergencies?
FWIW, my teacher DH and my teacher BFF both agree with me re: obnoxious teacher martyrs. The latter teaches in the suburbs where they now pretty much close at the first announcement of a snowflake (definitely wasn't the case when I was living and going to school in the district she teaches in!), so every year for the last few years they have had to cancel scheduled vacations to make up the days.
Finally, this is New York. It snows here. Get over it. I like winter and even I'm getting tired of the snow at this point, but having to commute in the snow is not like going into a burning building to fight a fire so spare me the "Mayor de Blasio is endangering our lives!!!!" speeches.
I was one of the people bitching on FB this morning, but am not a teacher.
It took me a heck of a long time to get to school with DD this morning in a cab. The distance is 20 blocks. The roads freaking sucked. We arrived at 8:40, when most of the yellow buses are at school by 8:00 or 8:05. Buses for 2 of the 4 bus routes still hadn't arrived when we got there. Which means that either kids were stuck on super slow buses navigating the snow banks or they stood out on bus stops in this crap weather for over 20 minutes this morning, or both.
I ended up walking home after I dropped her off because I just didn't feel all that safe in a cab. I can do this. If I asked DD to walk 20 blocks in this weather on unshoveled sidewalks, she would most likely cry and give up after a few blocks.
I get not closing the schools for every little dusting, but if the schools are going to be open, then the roads need to be cleared. Not all kids live in walking distance of their schools and certainly, not all teachers do.
I was no fan of Bloomberg but he was at least good at getting the plows out there, even in the forgotten borough that tends to see more snow than most other parts of the city.
I'm still annoyed by the bitching, but I admit that it's because of a long history of bitching by teachers. Plus, the complaints started last night before the snow even started and the estimates of how much snow we were going to get were still within a wide range.
This is my first confession, and really more of an unpopular opinion. I hate the "how much are you saving" type threads. They seem to be more about giving people the opportunity to brag about their income and less about MM.
I have been talking about poop with my H for the last week. Since we started B on solids, it's a fascinating topic. Is it solid? Were there chunks in it? What did the avocado look like on the other end?
I swore up and down I wouldn't be one of those parents that talks about poop, but MAN it's interesting! I am going to promise to try not to talk about it in public, or around really anyone but my H, because those moms really grossed me out pre-baby.
msniq & I have started a game when we hang out with non-parent friends. "how long can we make it without talking about poop?". We need ot make up penalties, like, first one to mention poop has to spray down all the diapers. in the rookie mom's handbook, one of their fun activities for new moms is "have your mom friends over for dinner, but you're not allowed to talk about eating sleeping or pooping" It's tough! This shit is no joke, yo. (wakka wakka)
my confession is that I side-eye all of gofundme, 95% of indiegogo, and 90% of kickstarter. Maybe in 2019 President Chris ChristieJeb BushScott Walker Hillary Clinton will sign the Small Investor Protection Act and all of these things will go away.
This is my first confession, and really more of an unpopular opinion. I hate the "how much are you saving" type threads. They seem to be more about giving people the opportunity to brag about their income and less about MM.
I don't know if I agree about the bragging part, but I read that recent savings thread and proceeded to feel like shit lol. Even if none of the following is true and they're just really great at socking away money even on lower incomes (in which case, I'm envious!), I just pretend that 1) they must make a lot more money than we do, 2) they don't have the student loan debt that we do, and/or 3) they live in a LCOL area. But really, I think I just have to stop reading those threads!
This is my first confession, and really more of an unpopular opinion. I hate the "how much are you saving" type threads. They seem to be more about giving people the opportunity to brag about their income and less about MM.
Oh, I hate them, too. I don't read them.
I do read the spinoff threads mocking/complaining about them, though!
On a more lighthearted note, I had a dream last night that my sister was staying with us and decided to throw out my frozen BM (all 40-50oz of it) because she thought it was taking up too much room in my freezer. Apparently the fumes from the nail polish I put on my nails before bedtime went to my head...
I'm not a teacher martyr, but I am a teacher's-wife martyr. I wish I married a guy who got paid some overtime when he had to work 14 hour days three days this week... but nope. Still just a crummy teacher salary because it's "volunteer" work. I am jealous of my friends with husbands that are nurses and trades workers that get $$$ in exchange for solo parenting.
FIL is trying to convince DH that we (FIL, SMIL, DH, me, DS(3), DD(1.5), BIL, and SIL2) should go camping together and share a camper and spend a week off the grid in the Rockies after SIL1's wedding in June. He wants to go 4-wheeling and fishing. I told DH there was no way in hell that was happening, and if he agreed to it, he would be taking the kids by himself and I would be spending a week at a spa by myself in Denver.
My confession is that I wish DH did agree to it. Alas, he knows better than to think the woods will be entertaining to DS for more than 24 hours, and he knows he cannot cohabitate with his family that long. Especially after the wedding drama already unfolding 4 months early.
Sometimes I worry that certain posters think I follow them around and like everything they post. I mean, I do follow them around and like everything they post, but it's because I AGREE WITH THEM and I want to be friends with them. Occasionally I'll skip liking their posts for a few days to compensate.
Sometimes I worry that certain posters think I follow them around and like everything they post. I mean, I do follow them around and like everything they post, but it's because I AGREE WITH THEM and I want to be friends with them. Occasionally I'll skip liking their posts for a few days to compensate.
Oh, I freak myself out this way. I will avoid "liking" their posts for a few days to give myself some distance, because I'm convinced they'll think I'm permanently living up their butt otherwise.
I'm about to go apeshit on some teachers on my FB feed who, every fucking time it snows, they bitch and moan about NYC schools being open and talk about how their lives are endangered. I really go out of my way to look for non-teachers on my feed who complain about having to go to work but...nope, just the teachers. I cannot stand teacher martyrs - they think what they are doing is invaluable (and no doubt in my mind that it is) but if that's the case, shouldn't they support schools being closed only for the most dire of weather/other emergencies?
FWIW, my teacher DH and my teacher BFF both agree with me re: obnoxious teacher martyrs. The latter teaches in the suburbs where they now pretty much close at the first announcement of a snowflake (definitely wasn't the case when I was living and going to school in the district she teaches in!), so every year for the last few years they have had to cancel scheduled vacations to make up the days.
Finally, this is New York. It snows here. Get over it. I like winter and even I'm getting tired of the snow at this point, but having to commute in the snow is not like going into a burning building to fight a fire so spare me the "Mayor de Blasio is endangering our lives!!!!" speeches.
My oldest daughter (2.6 yo) sleeps like shit. Always has, probably always will. For the past month, she sleeps in our bed. This was my husbands doing - caving into her and giving her what she wanted. I'm totally fine with this arrangement as it means no getting in on in our bed ever.
Sometimes I worry that certain posters think I follow them around and like everything they post. I mean, I do follow them around and like everything they post, but it's because I AGREE WITH THEM and I want to be friends with them. Occasionally I'll skip liking their posts for a few days to compensate.