I'm about to go apeshit on some teachers on my FB feed who, every fucking time it snows, they bitch and moan about NYC schools being open and talk about how their lives are endangered. I really go out of my way to look for non-teachers on my feed who complain about having to go to work but...nope, just the teachers. I cannot stand teacher martyrs - they think what they are doing is invaluable (and no doubt in my mind that it is) but if that's the case, shouldn't they support schools being closed only for the most dire of weather/other emergencies?
FWIW, my teacher DH and my teacher BFF both agree with me re: obnoxious teacher martyrs. The latter teaches in the suburbs where they now pretty much close at the first announcement of a snowflake (definitely wasn't the case when I was living and going to school in the district she teaches in!), so every year for the last few years they have had to cancel scheduled vacations to make up the days.
Finally, this is New York. It snows here. Get over it. I like winter and even I'm getting tired of the snow at this point, but having to commute in the snow is not like going into a burning building to fight a fire so spare me the "Mayor de Blasio is endangering our lives!!!!" speeches.
We must have the same friends! They're driving me crazy! Especially because my one friend likes to smugly say, "we all make choices, you chose your career" when someone complains about teachers getting summers off or something like that. I'm so tempted to respond to her post saying, "You chose where to take a job, should have found a district that has snow days", but I restrain myself. I love teachers, I'm married to one, and most of my friends are teachers, but it just can't take the martyrdom.
But I will admit that I judge people who think termination should be illegal. And not in a "We have different opinions and I think you might be wrong" kind of way, but in the way that makes it impossible for me to look at them the same way again. And I honestly question their intelligence a little. I don't mean people who say, "Oh well, I don't believe in doing this". Believe what you want. But people who say, "Because I don't believe this, it should be illegal" get a huge side eye from me.
I have an easier time understanding a religious pro-lifer who is pro-life in all situations, but I think it is questionable as all hell to call yourself a Catholic or Christian, be "pro-life" when it comes to abortion and then be for capital punishment. Oh, and while I am at it, it would help if in your pro-life stance, you were pro-universal-health-care plans so that said pregnant women who shouldn't have the legal option to terminate, according to you, would continue to receive quality health care throughout her pregnancy. And I would also like it if you were pro-gay marriage so that the baby carried to term could be adopted by any loving family, not just a strict, antiquated definition of what constitutes a family. And if the woman without legal options chose to keep and raise her own baby, then I think it would be nice if you also refrained from judging welfare and other government assistance, should said woman and her baby need to rely on these.
I do not think anyone I know IRL who is "pro-life" believes all the other stuff I would ask them to believe to give them a free pass on this one.
Who are all these people complaining that teachers "have summers off"? Is this really a thing?
In my experience*, most of the time! this is not a thing. I usually only hear people make comments when teachers are: a) complaining about how little they get paid, b) complaining about how hard they work, or c) complaining about summer coming to and end and how much going back to work sucks.
* I live in NY, where (in my opinion), teachers are well compensated. My husband was a teacher, the vast majority of my friends are teachers, and most of them don't complain, so nobody gives them a hard time.
Some of the things I miss most about teaching are extended breaks (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring, Summer) and snow days haha. I liked teaching (and would get back into it someday if I found the right position), but it was SOOOO much harder than my job now, and I was paid absolute shit to teach. And I used my summers "off" to work a second job to offset my shitty salary, along with most of my colleagues.
But I do not like the martyr crap that is all over FB and never dared to complain to non-teachers. Hell, DH's company was closed today and he still spent most of the day on conference calls and is still working now (and probably for another 2 hours at least). He is compensated well, with the expectation that he is to be available...but even so, it would be a ballsy move for me to complain about having to return to work in August.
Who are all these people complaining that teachers "have summers off"? Is this really a thing?
Not complaining per se but since I am a trained teacher I get a lot of "must be nice to have 3 months off" comments. I quickly explain that it is not 3 months and while nice I had to explain why teachers do not get any additional vacation to take whenever they want like the rest of the world. People are often shocked by this. Insert eyeroll. I worked way harder and made less than a third of my salary as a teacher than in corporate America. So there naysayers.
Some of the things I miss most about teaching are extended breaks (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring, Summer) and snow days haha. I liked teaching (and would get back into it someday if I found the right position), but it was SOOOO much harder than my job now, and I was paid absolute shit to teach. And I used my summers "off" to work a second job to offset my shitty salary, along with most of my colleagues.
But I do not like the martyr crap that is all over FB and never dared to complain to non-teachers. Hell, DH's company was closed today and he still spent most of the day on conference calls and is still working now (and probably for another 2 hours at least). He is compensated well, with the expectation that he is to be available...but even so, it would be a ballsy move for me to complain about having to return to work in August.
Hahaha! Ditto ditto ditto. I will have to like this post a couple times
I so rarely log in not on the app I never notice when I get likes or am quoted until sometimes days later, then I feel like an ass.
I'm nervous about the TT post since people now know my real name. I'm debating quitting gbcn and starting over discretely.
I don't think you should worry. The post was deleted on FB before most people on here even saw it, and people would have to have like written down your name or have a photographic memory to remember it. I would not fret over this.
I so rarely log in not on the app I never notice when I get likes or am quoted until sometimes days later, then I feel like an ass.
I'm nervous about the TT post since people now know my real name. I'm debating quitting gbcn and starting over discretely.
I don't think you should worry. Â The post was deleted on FB before most people on here even saw it, and people would have to have like written down your name or have a photographic memory to remember it. Â I would not fret over this. Â
Also, it was already limited to people who were already members of the group.
Post by Velar Fricative on Feb 13, 2014 20:54:41 GMT -5
I will say that I don't know a single teacher that doesn't work in the summer. There's summer school, there's summer camps, there's tutoring, other random gigs, etc. Yes, it's extra money but while the school year isn't year-round, I don't know anyone who actually does take off for 2-3 months.
One disadvantage to being married to a teacher is that when we travel, we can only travel during $$$ peak periods since vacation times are fixed. Oh well.
I rarely post on hdbd because I feel a little sad if my picture is not well liked. I would rather just aw in my own post where I can't compare.
I think these days if you get in early, you get alllll the likes.
I just compare the # of likes to the poster above and below me. That way if I'm late to the thread, I don't have to compare myself to the OP and their eleventy hojillion likes.
We've had so many snow days that our school system is now doing 2 hour delays as much as possible. Some of my teacher friends are actually complaining that they're tired of it because it's hard to have a "normal" day on a delayed schedule. I think they're all just over the disrupted school week thing going on and on and on.
I know I should be all "cook baby cook!" but now that I've hit 37 weeks, I'm kind of ready for this baby to get here already. I'd be completely fine if I went into labor tonight.
I am SO here with you. I keep saying that I want her to stay in as long as she needs...but if she is ready now that would be fabulous. I am officially over this.
I rarely post on hdbd because I feel a little sad if my picture is not well liked. I would rather just aw in my own post where I can't compare.
I painstakingly go back to like all of the posts in HDBD (I did on GotP too, and sometimes still do!) because it makes me feel bad to think anyone would ever feel this way!
I way, way overthink likes. But I love to give them out. I am a like whore. I own it.
I LIKE YOU ALL SO MUCH.
I try to remember to like all the HDBD posts, but half the time I post my contribution then totally forget to go back to the post to see other pics. Oops.
I will say that I don't know a single teacher that doesn't work in the summer. There's summer school, there's summer camps, there's tutoring, other random gigs, etc. Yes, it's extra money but while the school year isn't year-round, I don't know anyone who actually does take off for 2-3 months.
One disadvantage to being married to a teacher is that when we travel, we can only travel during $$$ peak periods since vacation times are fixed. Oh well.
This is true of people with school-aged children as well. Gone are the days when I could just plan a vacation around when the best fares were available.
Post by zeewifeandmama on Feb 13, 2014 21:50:25 GMT -5
I'm not sad for my kids to get older. I look at them right now and instead of being all " myyyy bayyybeee" as most of my friends are I'm like. " let's get outta diapers, finished teething, & sleeping through the night!...big kids rock!"
Post by wanderlustmom on Feb 13, 2014 21:51:30 GMT -5
Ha ha on the like threads. I love these boards but don't put enough time into participating in order to know more moms. Need to work on being more active
I have been going through a general self loathing stage. Since I am PMSing with a cold going on day three of cabin fever and nearing 40--will see if it passes soon. Today I raged inside because DH forgot to clean the coffee maker, have had no motivation to return work calls (such a pain to reschedule clients) and just feel blah. Sure it is soon to pass and I feel guilty because nothing is even bad; just having a poor attitude.
I rarely post on hdbd because I feel a little sad if my picture is not well liked. I would rather just aw in my own post where I can't compare.
I painstakingly go back to like all of the posts in HDBD (I did on GotP too, and sometimes still do!) because it makes me feel bad to think anyone would ever feel this way!
I way, way overthink likes. But I love to give them out. I am a like whore. I own it.
I LIKE YOU ALL SO MUCH.
I do the same thing! I stopped posting in HDBD on GP because I would be sad if someone below me got more likes and think " do I look like shit?!" and then realized I was being a crazy person.
Ha ha on the like threads. I love these boards but don't put enough time into participating in order to know more moms. Need to work on being more active
I like/appreciate them so much and know I don't put in enough time to know people or be known, but my plan is to be less active. I'm afraid I waste time at night when I should be reading or cleaning or [insert any productive activity here], and coming only for advice makes me feel a little guilty. I really can't post from work, so I feel like I'll never be a real "regular."
Everyone is entitled to some days/feelings/stages like yours. I just hope it turns around soon. Meanwhile, hugs to you.
So as for those teacher martyrs, I am with ya. I am so sick of the "ohhh but we work soo hard, we deserve the summer off". Yes, many many do work really hard all year. Some of you do not let's face it. Lots of people work 12-14 hour days on a regular basis and do not get paid overtime (i used to be one). So give me a break. Just admit , it is AWESOME to have so much time off. Why all the defensiveness???
ETA "you" above refers to teachers in my school. just so no one flames me i just needed to GET THAT OUT
Lol totally my thoughts. I have a couple teachers in my il's and all I hear is how much they work at night and weekends. Yeah well you have the summer, spring break, winter break and a bunch of other days off so cry me a river. What can't they just own that it's a pretty cushy gig? Yeah well I work hard too and I work more days and my job actually is quite important too. And it's not charity, you are paid too. Ok rant over lol.