Could you stay married if...

[sonrisa]

Your husband announced one day that he wanted to live his life as a woman. No operation and things wouldn't change in the bedroom - he's happy being male there. But in all other aspects of his life he'd like to change his gender, his name, dress as a woman, etc. He loves you and wants to stay married. Would that be a deal breaker for you or could you try to work through it? Would kids v. no kids affect your feelings?

(Brought to you by a character in a book I'm reading)

[Jalapeñomel]

It would be a shock, and probably take some serious therapy, but yes, I think I would try to stay. 

EDIT: Are you reading Orange is the New Black?

[Moe]

[thebuddhagouda]

I don't think I could. There would be no judgement, and I would want him to be happy, but I could not be happy in that situation.

[wambam]

No, I don't think so.

[Deleted]

We've had this discussion before. (Maybe on MM?)

For me, no. It wouldn't work. If it were otherwise blissful, maybe I'd try. But it wouldn't work.

If he started this when we were 80? Maybe.

[papie]

No I wouldn't. He would just be a completely different person from the guy I fell in love with, and I don't think the love woul survive such a big change. We have almost three kids, I would be supportive in explaining it to the kids and everything, but would most likely divorce.

[cville]

I don't think so.

[Deleted]

I know that I would try my hardest but ultimately I don't know if I could stay with him. I would have to actually be in the situation to really know how I would react. My H is a manly man so I don't have to worry about that every happening.

[nahoku]

I think it would be a dealbreaker for me.

[Deleted]

I don't know if I could or not. It seems unlikely though.

[Deleted]

No.

[bonquiqui]

No, I don't think so

[Deleted]

I don't know, probably not if we didn't have a kid.

But we do. Really, my focus would be us getting with a counselor ASAP to make sure we continue showing O a respectful, loving dynamic. That doesn't mean we would stay together, but we're still a family unit.

[Deleted]

No, I don't think I could stay married.

[schitzengiggles]

I don't think I could stay. There would be no ill feelings, however I don't think I would be happy.

[gullterre15]

I don't think I could stay.

[Deleted]

Nope. Is it awful to say that this is because DH would make an UGLY ASS Woman? So there is now way I could be attracted to him either way.

This reminds me of that part of OINTB when he is in transition and his wife is helping teach him to dress as a Woman and not a slutty teen. I don't think I could have that level of patience.

My patience with DH is really really thin lately. Like if he forgot to buy toilet paper, I might contemplate leaving at this point LOL.

[mrsgoontz]

I don't think I could stay married. I would be supportive of his decision and wish him a lifetime of happiness but I don't think I could be happy or satisfied in our relationship. We don't have kids.

[birdistheword]

No. I would try to be understanding and be there for him, but I do not think I could stay married to him.

[cuddlyevil]

I would accept him as a woman and help with explaining it to the kids. But I do not believe I would remain married to him.

[elleblue]

I'd like to think I would but I honestly don't know. I would be willing to go to therapy and exhaust all ways of working things out first though. 

[chiclet]

I couldn't stay married.

[trixie12]

Deal breaker. I would continue to have a platonic relationship especially if kids are involved.

[pittsmcgee]

Tough one. Really tough. My husband is my BFF, so this is hard for me to decide.
In the end, probably not.

[cleo29]

No.

There was an HBO movie with Jessica Lange and Tom Wilkinson. I can't remember if he wanted the operation or not, but it was really well done.

www.imdb.com/title/tt0338290/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_13

[jellymankelly]

I think we'd separate and I'd concentrate on my TV shows and being the Momager of my 6 kids.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

No. A lot of what I find attractive about him has nothing to do with how he is in the bedroom.

And he wouldn't make a pretty woman.

[eb777888]

Dealbreaker.

[Deleted]

No. I couldn't do it ..I would have a platonic relationship with him but no this is a dealbreaker for me