I have a friends from HS, M and K, who were in a lesbian relationship for years. K is now a man, and it was REALLY hard on M for the first few years, but they now have one of the strongest relationships I've ever seen.
Wow. I think I'd make it clear that I'd support him but leave if I don't feel attracted to her. Which to be honest just his desire of doing this would already be a huge turn off but who knows.
I honestly don't know. We built a life together, and I can't imagine him not with me till the end.
I'd be hurt (mostly for him) that he felt like he couldn't tell me and had to hide it in while being unhappy in himself. I'd be supportive no matter what though, and stand by him whether we remained together or not.
Post by shostakovich on Mar 6, 2014 16:58:44 GMT -5
Okay, so first - I think my H would actually make a really pretty woman. He's got a purdy face, you guys. But he's hairy - so, so hairy. But assuming he'd do hormones? He'd be lovely.
Would I be attracted to him as a woman? I have no idea. I'm attracted to him now in part because of his physicality, but there are also so many things about him that attract me that have nothing to do with looks. I wouldn't think those things - like sense of humor, intelligence, creativity - would change.
Short answer: I'd stay and try my damnedest to work it out long term. I love the shit out of him, and would fucking miss him so, so much if we split.
This is an interesting thread because gender is absolutely a part of my H's identity to me (and to him as well for me, I'm sure). I don't think I'd be successful at separating the two and continuing forward in our relationship. It's never occurred to me that they could be separate, really.