Whomp whomp I know I've been a downer lately. But I'm really struggling with my seeming inability to get any interest from guys. I don't really need something super serious, but I'd like to date someone for more than a week (and those are few and far between as it is). I'm coming up on 4 years this summer and I feel like a loser:( And I know I'm being a broken record, so thanks for hanging in there and listening.
(hug) (hug2) I've been feeling the same way. I don't want something super serious, but something fun and regular would sure be nice!! What happened with the guy with the hot tub date? That sounded so promising.
I have a three strike policy in life and on the interwebz. If you come to me with the same drama, with no change in behavior then I check out. I do not burn bridges, but I politely decline to get involved after the third drama filled vent/breakdown of the same issue.
This is strictly to protect myself from over investing in others lives when they are not self aware. I will go to the ends of the earth to help a friend who I feel is really working for change, but I just can't waste my time on repeat offenders. I used to drain myself this way. I have told a few friends "I have offered my opinion on this matter several times, it is up to you from here on out. When you are ready to make a change I will be here for you."
It has worked for me. Sorry if that seem cruel to some.
Whomp whomp I know I've been a downer lately. But I'm really struggling with my seeming inability to get any interest from guys. I don't really need something super serious, but I'd like to date someone for more than a week (and those are few and far between as it is). I'm coming up on 4 years this summer and I feel like a loser:( And I know I'm being a broken record, so thanks for hanging in there and listening.
(hug) (hug2) I've been feeling the same way. I don't want something super serious, but something fun and regular would sure be nice!! What happened with the guy with the hot tub date? That sounded so promising.
Yea I'm feeling a little bit better this week. Two fun dates on the horizon. Hot tub dude and I fizzled out after about 6 dates. He made it clear that he wasn't that excited about me and was looking around for something better. oh well! On to the next.
I have a three strike policy in life and on the interwebz. If you come to me with the same drama, with no change in behavior then I check out. I do not burn bridges, but I politely decline to get involved after the third drama filled vent/breakdown of the same issue.
This is strictly to protect myself from over investing in others lives when they are not self aware. I will go to the ends of the earth to help a friend who I feel is really working for change, but I just can't waste my time on repeat offenders. I used to drain myself this way. I have told a few friends "I have offered my opinion on this matter several times, it is up to you from here on out. When you are ready to make a change I will be here for you."
It has worked for me. Sorry if that seem cruel to some.
(hug) (hug2) I've been feeling the same way. I don't want something super serious, but something fun and regular would sure be nice!! What happened with the guy with the hot tub date? That sounded so promising.
Yea I'm feeling a little bit better this week. Two fun dates on the horizon. Hot tub dude and I fizzled out after about 6 dates. He made it clear that he wasn't that excited about me and was looking around for something better. oh well! On to the next.
Yay to upcoming dates! Every time something ends or fizzles out, I remind myself of how quickly new guys always show up. Eventually the right guy will show up (right for something fun and regular at least!)
I have a three strike policy in life and on the interwebz. If you come to me with the same drama, with no change in behavior then I check out. I do not burn bridges, but I politely decline to get involved after the third drama filled vent/breakdown of the same issue.
This is strictly to protect myself from over investing in others lives when they are not self aware. I will go to the ends of the earth to help a friend who I feel is really working for change, but I just can't waste my time on repeat offenders. I used to drain myself this way. I have told a few friends "I have offered my opinion on this matter several times, it is up to you from here on out. When you are ready to make a change I will be here for you."
It has worked for me. Sorry if that seem cruel to some.
I think this is a good policy. I don't have a set number but if I see a repeated pattern of behavior and it's starting to bother me, I back away. I had a friend whom I had to tell earlier this week that I would no longer counsel her about relationship issues anymore. She was draining and doing the same unhealthy shit over and over again. Felt like I was enabling her by listening and making mysel exhausted.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I have a three strike policy in life and on the interwebz. If you come to me with the same drama, with no change in behavior then I check out. I do not burn bridges, but I politely decline to get involved after the third drama filled vent/breakdown of the same issue.
This is strictly to protect myself from over investing in others lives when they are not self aware. I will go to the ends of the earth to help a friend who I feel is really working for change, but I just can't waste my time on repeat offenders. I used to drain myself this way. I have told a few friends "I have offered my opinion on this matter several times, it is up to you from here on out. When you are ready to make a change I will be here for you."
It has worked for me. Sorry if that seem cruel to some.
I think this is a good policy. I don't have a set number but if I see a repeated pattern of behavior and it's starting to bother me, I back away. I had a friend whom I had to tell earlier this week that I would no longer counsel her about relationship issues anymore. She was draining and doing the same unhealthy shit over and over again. Felt like I was enabling her by listening and making mysel exhausted.
My friend said this to me. She couldn't handle ALL my guy drama anymore and I wasn't taking any advice anyway. So, I got a therapist. Best thing my friend could have done for me.
I have a three strike policy in life and on the interwebz. If you come to me with the same drama, with no change in behavior then I check out. I do not burn bridges, but I politely decline to get involved after the third drama filled vent/breakdown of the same issue.
This is strictly to protect myself from over investing in others lives when they are not self aware. I will go to the ends of the earth to help a friend who I feel is really working for change, but I just can't waste my time on repeat offenders. I used to drain myself this way. I have told a few friends "I have offered my opinion on this matter several times, it is up to you from here on out. When you are ready to make a change I will be here for you."
It has worked for me. Sorry if that seem cruel to some.
I think this is a good policy. I don't have a set number but if I see a repeated pattern of behavior and it's starting to bother me, I back away. I had a friend whom I had to tell earlier this week that I would no longer counsel her about relationship issues anymore. She was draining and doing the same unhealthy shit over and over again. Felt like I was enabling her by listening and making mysel exhausted.
Yes! I have a friend who was "dating" a guy for like 3 goddamned years - he was her EVERYTHING, but he refused to call her his girlfriend, treated her like crap a lot, played on her self-esteem issues (e.g., comparing her to his much thinner ex-gfs, including telling her that he's not really attracted to overweight girls, even though this dude is pushing 300lbs.) I got so fucking sick of hearing her sobbing on the phone and telling her the same thing over and over again. I had to just say STOP. Stop coming to me for help if you're not going to listen. I'm not going to change my stance. You deserve better and I hope you realize it soon.
Thank 8lb 5oz baby Jesus, she finally ditched him. And now she's been dating some SUPER hot guys! I TOLD YOU YOU WERE BETTER THAN THAT DOUCHE!