Yeah, my husband has blue eyes and I have greenish-brown eyes (my grandparents had blue, brown, brown and hazel eyes, my dad has brown, my mom has green). So I've wondered before what color our future children might have, because frankly, I have no clue what it will be.
I would love a little redheaded kid, but my husband is from a family that is entirely brunette, so I don't see that one happening!
Maybe someone else knows. pescalita maybe? I think red hair has to be on both sides somewhere? Your H could have some in there somewhere. My h has brown hair, but gets red in his beard. Our daughter has strawberry blond hair like mine.
I think so. My husband's aunt (FIL's sister) is blond. AFAIK everyone else has brown hair and blue eyes. Whomp, whomp. I should have married a ginger.
ETA: My husband has Irish and Scottish (and German) ancestors, but my dad is mostly Scottish (and Irish and German) and has dark, thick hair just like my husband does. My mom's red hair comes from her Welsh family/father's side. About 12%, I think, of people in Wales/Ireland/Scotland have red hair, so you still have a better chance than not of being a northern British Isles non-redhead.
Maybe someone else knows. pescalita maybe? I think red hair has to be on both sides somewhere? Your H could have some in there somewhere. My h has brown hair, but gets red in his beard. Our daughter has strawberry blond hair like mine.
I *think* hair color is governed by more genes than eye color and therefore more complicated, but in general yes, red hair is not dominant so it needs some help from both sides.
Carl has some red in his facial hair, J is leaning the tiniest bit strawberry/auburn. I don't know of any on my side but I've got a lot of Irish.
My dh is a redhead, but the only one they know of in his family. My brother gets red in his beard, and both my grandmothers had red hair. Alas, my dd has red hair. Based on the link below it seems like there has to be red on both sides somehow?
i can see it. DH and i were very much this way. if only he could have gotten a good, solid union job we would have been married earlier, with a house earlier and more than just two oopsie babies.
its been beaten into our heads from a young age that that's how you are supposed to do it. being from large, blue collar, middle class, union families that did just that is what was expected of us.
And that's what I was responding negatively to, not the IF. It's just a really foreign mindset to me. Like they're saying that they shouldn't really have to work for it, that it's the minimum standard for a happy life, kwim? Like this is exactly what should be afforded to us by virtue of following these steps and if it's not, then that's the fault of the economy or other outside sources. And that there is really nothing else for them to do but wait until those factors resolve themselves.
It is strong in the middle class white privilege world. Your life is supposed to work out a certain way if you just follow these easy steps (ie don't fuck up).
I imagined our child with a ton of dark brown curly hair with blue eyes and olive skin.
When they plopped her on my tummy I got a blondeish baby with fine hair, gray/blue/green eyes, and pale.
TMI When she was crowning the OB was like, I see blonde hair, I think everyone in the room was like, "wut?!"
I can't wait to see what the (hypothetical) next one looks like. Either way my guess will be wrong!
End tangent.
How long did it take you to stop expecting her eyes to change? I was convinced probably for at least a year that her eyes would just get darker one day.
Well her eyes did change, they lost the gray blue look and turned Hazely green/blue. I think that first full year we were expecting them to go brown though. But everything about her from her skin to her hair color has darkened since birth. She has a glorious tan this summer.She's still nothing like my mind imagined in utero.
My nephew had red hair but the only one with red hair on our side of the family is my great-grandfather. Maybe even my great-great-grandfather. Can't remember which one. We don't know about his father though, maybe they are all redheads.
H and I both have brown hair/brown eyes and he's part Asian, but we both have recessive blue eye genes apparently so my mom is convinced this next babe will be blond and blue eyed. Time will tell, LOL.
How long did it take you to stop expecting her eyes to change? I was convinced probably for at least a year that her eyes would just get darker one day.
Well her eyes did change, they lost the gray blue look and turned Hazely green/blue. I think that first full year we were expecting them to go brown though. But everything about her from her skin to her hair color has darkened since birth. She has a glorious tan this summer.She's still nothing like my mind imagined in utero.
My daughter is pretty much the same color from birth. Her hair has gotten a bit darker though but that's pretty standard for blondes. The rest of her however, she doesn't tan, eyes are the same shade as they were when that cloudy gray new babies get cleared up, etc.
And I see that mindset as the flip side of bootstraps. If you follow the rules and do everything right you are successful, so if you aren't successful, you must have done something wrong.
This is so true and probably why I had such a serious reaction to this piece.
Yeah, my husband has blue eyes and I have greenish-brown eyes (my grandparents had blue, brown, brown and hazel eyes, my dad has brown, my mom has green). So I've wondered before what color our future children might have, because frankly, I have no clue what it will be.
I would love a little redheaded kid, but my husband is from a family that is entirely brunette, so I don't see that one happening!
My whole family has dark brown hair and light eyes, never a redhead to be seen that I know of. DH and his parents have dark brown hair and dark eyes but his brother is a hazel-eyed redhead and lo and behold our younger kid is a strawberry blonde with blue eyes. (Older one is light brown with hazel eyes. Our two girls also have entirely different skin tones. Genetics are weird!!)
My sisters and I are all different looking.
Pale/blonde/blue eyed me.
Pale/brown hair/brown hazel eyes middle sister.
Olive/lt.brown/dirty blonde/green hazel little sister.
None of us look related. Same parents!!
Meanwhile my dad is a red head and there are no other known red heads in his family.
Listen, I am not homozygous brown. In fact, when I was born, my mom wrote in my baby book that I had hazel eyes. When I was a kid they were basically brown, but when I puberty, I started getting a green ring around the outside. Now, depending on the day, the light, and how dilated my pupils are, my irises can be either a muddy brown color or a mostly green hazel. Like I said, my mom has green eyes, so I'm convinced that I have a recessive gene that is not brown! My brother, however, has brown eyes, and the chart posted previously said that, simplistically, a brown-eyed and green-eyed couple has a 50% chance of a brown-eyed kid.
So going by that chart, if I pick brown, MY kids have a 50% chance at brown, but if I pick green, they have a 0% chance of brown, and I don't think either is correct.
Listen, I am not homozygous brown. In fact, when I was born, my mom wrote in my baby book that I had hazel eyes. When I was a kid they were basically brown, but when I puberty, I started getting a green ring around the outside. Now, depending on the day, the light, and how dilated my pupils are, my irises can be either a muddy brown color or a mostly green hazel. Like I said, my mom has green eyes, so I'm convinced that I have a recessive gene that is not brown! My brother, however, has brown eyes, and the chart posted previously said that, simplistically, a brown-eyed and green-eyed couple has a 50% chance of a brown-eyed kid.
So going by that chart, if I pick brown, MY kids have a 50% chance at brown, but if I pick green, they have a 0% chance of brown, and I don't think either is correct.
I just found this chart that says all our kids are destined to have hazel eyes.
The blue-eyed parent can only give bm to his children and the hazel-eyed parent can only give GM. So, all of their children will be GbMm or hazel-eyed carriers for green and blue eyes.
I feel for them and applaud their decision to wait until they're financially ready.
I agree that they should be applauded that they're waiting until they're financially ready. I think the article missed a lot of info that may have shown why they aren't. It kinda touched on the wrong things, IMO.
Also / 15k to have no guarantee of a baby is heartbreaking. Is that a common figure for IVF? I think in Ontario they're going to start covering ONE cycle per woman. I wish I could donate mine to someone.
We're looking at $20-$25k OOP for IVF. I cannot be non-biased on this.
I guess FOR ME it's just very odd to sit there and map out your life that way once you leave idk, the 8th grade. I think it's just a different outlook of life, that if you follow these lines, your life will fall into place. So it's very hard for me to sympathize with someone who seemingly thought they could for the lack of a better phrase, have it all.
i can see it. DH and i were very much this way. if only he could have gotten a good, solid union job we would have been married earlier, with a house earlier and more than just two oopsie babies.
its been beaten into our heads from a young age that that's how you are supposed to do it. being from large, blue collar, middle class, union families that did just that is what was expected of us.
Same.
My parents, who never went to college themselves, drilled into our heads from a young age that after high school, you go to college, which all but guarantees you a good job. Then you get married and buy a house, then have babies. No "wasting money" on renting an apartment. If life didn't happen that way, then you did something to screw it up.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I'm really hoping my child keeps his blue eyes. They're so pretty. I had blue eyes till I was about 7, and then they went rogue.
That's my only contribution.
I didn't realize that eye color could change so late.
My heterozygous brown eyes (with curly Hawaiian/Asian hair genes, lol) produced a blue-eyed kid. (H has blue eyes.) I doubt our odds of having a blue-eyed kid were really 50/50 as in that chart.
I feel bad for this couple. Yes, the wife made a few assy-esque statements ("ohnoes! We'll just have to travel!") but, in large, they're in a difficult place. HeyJude nailed it.
Also, tangental, H has brown eyes, I have green eyes. Both our boys have blue eyes.
Yeah, my husband has blue eyes and I have greenish-brown eyes (my grandparents had blue, brown, brown and hazel eyes, my dad has brown, my mom has green). So I've wondered before what color our future children might have, because frankly, I have no clue what it will be.
I would love a little redheaded kid, but my husband is from a family that is entirely brunette, so I don't see that one happening!
Maybe someone else knows. pescalita maybe? I think red hair has to be on both sides somewhere? Your H could have some in there somewhere. My h has brown hair, but gets red in his beard. Our daughter has strawberry blond hair like mine.
I guess FOR ME it's just very odd to sit there and map out your life that way once you leave idk, the 8th grade. I think it's just a different outlook of life, that if you follow these lines, your life will fall into place. So it's very hard for me to sympathize with someone who seemingly thought they could for the lack of a better phrase, have it all.
I completely get this people because I know my parents sold me the "go to college, get married, buy a home, make babies, life is like a dream" dream too.
The general idea in my house was that anything you wanted, you would have work really hard and likely sacrifice for to make it work. It was never said though so I'm not sure why I think that.
I feel bad for this couple. Yes, the wife made a few assy-esque statements ("ohnoes! We'll just have to travel!") but, in large, they're in a difficult place. HeyJude nailed it.
Also, tangental, H has brown eyes, I have green eyes. Both our boys have blue eyes.
You both xarry the recessive blue eye gene.
Yea, we know. Both our fathers have blue eyes. My mom has green. All my sibs have blue or green eyes, all their kids have blue or green eyes. So there's no brown eye gene on my end. But H's mom and sister both have brown eyes. So I figured, odds being what they are, they would have been brown, or maybe green.
When B was younger he was white blonde too. People'd look at him and my dark haired, dark eyed husband and my dark hair and green eyes and ask some tentative questions like "so.... were either of you blonde as babies?"
I'm really hoping my child keeps his blue eyes. They're so pretty. I had blue eyes till I was about 7, and then they went rogue.
That's my only contribution.
I didn't realize that eye color could change so late.
My heterozygous brown eyes (with curly Hawaiian/Asian hair genes, lol) produced a blue-eyed kid. (H has blue eyes.) I doubt our odds of having a blue-eyed kid were really 50/50 as in that chart.
My mother's eyes went from blue to green when she was in her 20s. My younger sister's went from light blue to blue-green in her teens. I'm in my early 20s and my eyes are no longer shocking blue, but blue with green undertones. It's very weird.