Breastfeeding is not going very well - she's gaining plenty of weight but it hurts a lot and I can't get her to latch properly. I've been pumping and bottle feeding at night because it's so hard to nurse when she's sleepy. I feel a little bad that I look forward to night feedings because I get a break from painful nursing.
Have you seen a lactation consultant? Hang in there it does get better, I promise!
Oh I have another one. Our house has been invaded by flies! There were a few that got in when H was grilling. I never got around to killing them. We went on vacation and they multiplied. I keep killing them completely and then an hour later 5 more appear. Rinse and repeat. Ugh!
I have a tiny bit of disappointment that we are likely having another boy. I'm thrilled that he's healthy and I love having a boy but this very well may be our last and I would have liked to know what it's like to have both a son and a daughter.
Such an honest and, I think, totally natural feeling. If our next were a boy I'd be thrilled to give J a brother but a little disappointed too (assuming we stop at 2).
Post by Jalapeñomel on Jul 25, 2014 14:13:52 GMT -5
I try not to let the fact that D isn't crawling yet not bother me, but some day it really does. I have friends who have kids who are up on walkers, pulling up, who are the same age as D, and D still doesn't crawl. I know this is one of those things that I have to start getting used to (not comparing my kid to other kids), but it's hard. And then I start to think that maybe he will have some serious issues from being a preemie, and I get to thinking that this is somehow my fault (even though logically, I know it isn't). Being a mom is hard, yo!
I'm having a shitty day. Unexpected semi-crisis at the worst possible time. I'm sure it will all be fine but I'm an anxious person married to a catastophizer!
Headed to Vermont after work. Hopefully we can manage to have some fun despite the worrying.
Oh mine wasn't even a confession, oops. I wore a maternity dress yesterday. I spent a bunch of money on it and saw it in the closet mocking me. Everyone said I could wear it post pregnancy. It looked fine, just didn't really flatter my hips at all.
I try not to let the fact that D isn't crawling yet not bother me, but some day it really does. I have friends who have kids who are up on walkers, pulling up, who are the same age as D, and D still doesn't crawl. I know this is one of those things that I have to start getting used to (not comparing my kid to other kids), but it's hard. And then I start to think that maybe he will have some serious issues from being a preemie, and I get to thinking that this is somehow my fault (even though logically, I know it isn't). Being a mom is hard, yo!
Do not let this bother you! My friend had a baby three months younger than B who is walking (we are not). She is a great person but she is a little clueless and her living situation is less than ideal. I almost died when I saw the video but every kid is different and yours will probably get there any day now. B crawled at 11 months old.
Hugs, Brie. I think I will feel the same if we have another boy. And then I will feel obligated to be all "oh I always pictured myself as a mom to boyyyys! Lalalala!" even if I'm sad on the inside.
But people with gender disappointment are assholes, according to every post on the subject here. Ahem.
I don't think that's true. I mean, when people are like "I will never love this child because he's a boy", yes I WTF them. But it's ok, IMO, to have a bit of gender disappointment.
I was sure C was a boy. I don't know why but I did always picture myself with boys. So I was a bit, hmmmmmmmm, when we found out. I don't think disappointed is the right word, more like I needed a while to embrace a new reality. Of course now I can't imagine her being anyone but, well, her.
My confession: we're supposed to go to a fair tonight with friends and I don't want to. I might say C's to fussy to go even though she probably won't be after this nap.
Post by dulcemariamar on Jul 25, 2014 14:29:49 GMT -5
If there was a guarantee I would love to have four daughters. The embarrassing reason being is that I love the book Little Women and think it would be fun to have four girls.
Post by leonard131 on Jul 25, 2014 14:31:23 GMT -5
A good friend was suppose to come down the beach and I think I talked her out of it. It would have been a lot work to pack up a 4 month old for what basically would equate to a day and half.
I am so excited because if she had come down she wouldn't have gotten there unitl close to 10:30 -11 pm which about 1-1 1/2 hours past my bedtime.
Post by juliette21 on Jul 25, 2014 14:31:42 GMT -5
I have 2 boys, and even though the little guy is nearly 2 years old I still experience gender disappointment from time to time.
I was really disappointed when we found out #2 was another boy, but then I felt so guilty for feeling that way, that I spent the rest of the pregnancy acting SO happy about it. I think I lied to myself and just tried to be grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby because that's how you "should" feel.
Anyways, I still get pangs of sadness that I won't ever have a daughter. But then I flip back to thinking having 2 of the same gender is easier in a way. It's really nice for my boys too, I see them becoming little buddies as they grow and I am so happy they have each other.
I really believe there is no ideal situation, there are positives and negatives to all sibling combinations. Well, maybe the two of each really is the perfect set-up as another poster mentioned!
I try not to let the fact that D isn't crawling yet not bother me, but some day it really does. I have friends who have kids who are up on walkers, pulling up, who are the same age as D, and D still doesn't crawl. I know this is one of those things that I have to start getting used to (not comparing my kid to other kids), but it's hard. And then I start to think that maybe he will have some serious issues from being a preemie, and I get to thinking that this is somehow my fault (even though logically, I know it isn't). Being a mom is hard, yo!
I hear you on this. I'm really trying not to let it bother me that V can barely sit on her own and is nowhere near crawling when there are babies way younger than her doing both easily. I think it's really hard not to compare. But try not to stress. And it is not your fault!!
I lost my eyeglasses a year ago and never replaced them because I'm cheap. I've finally reached my "new every two" date with my insurance so I can get another pair.
I only need them for when I'm on the computer, not for operating heavy machinery.
I don't want to BF. I don't even want to try. DH wants me to (breast is best, y'all) so I will try, but I hope I hate it or my milk doesn't come in. Still, I ordered a pump from my insurance and am looking at nursing bras. You know, the like 3 styles that come in my size.
We got one of those baby food processors despite it not being on the registry (I think it's the Baby Bullet). No gift receipt. My mom was insisting I keep it b/c my cousin had one and it was so handy. Yeah, no. So now I'm considering adding it to the registry so I can return it without a receipt b/c I've heard BRU's regular return policy blows.
After DH painted the nursery (read: sitting room off our bedroom), we now have all of the furniture and the room is too small for all of it. I mean, the dresser we got is bigger than my own dresser. I can't fit a rocker/glider like I wanted either. Now onto convincing DH to paint the room we were going to use for the baby when she is older, and just having the PnP or a bassinet or something in the sitting room for the time being.
I don't think that's true. I mean, when people are like "I will never love this child because he's a boy", yes I WTF them. But it's ok, IMO, to have a bit of gender disappointment.
I was sure C was a boy. I don't know why but I did always picture myself with boys. So I was a bit, hmmmmmmmm, when we found out. I don't think disappointed is the right word, more like I needed a while to embrace a new reality. Of course now I can't imagine her being anyone but, well, her.
I feel like hypothetical "this girl I know is upset she's having a boy" posts end with "omg I could never! Children are a gift! It's not like you get to choose!" responses. I don't think Brie saying she's mildly disappointed or me saying that I thought Bas was a girl makes us terrible people.
I agree. You're terrible people for different reasons, sure, but not that.
I still get annoyed when my SIL calls DD a certain nickname. I should really get over it or say something but it is so stupid and petty that I would have no way how to say it without sounding like a freak.
"Hi, can you not use that nickname, I don't like it. Thanks!" Ugh.
When ds was born, everyone insisted that we couldn't just call ds by his full name (Sebastian), but instead needed a nickname. We said it was up in the air, but the possibilities were Bas, Bastian, or Seabass. Well, soooooo many people latched on to Seabass, but we NEVER call him that ourselves now, so it sort of grates on me. (I also hate it when people call him Seb, which FIL kept doing for a while.)
I love the name Sebastian. LOVE. I didn't know that was his full name. Bas is an adorable nn.
Before she was born, we would use this nickname once or twice when talking about nicknames for her but when she was born, I suddenly didn't like it. We NEVER use it at all but my SIL has clung to it. I think overtime if we never use it and no one else does, maybe she will stop. There are other nn's that I do like so perhaps I'll start using those around her and she will catch on.
If there was a guarantee I would love to have four daughters. The embarrassing reason being is that I love the book Little Women and think it would be fun to have four girls.
Me too! I have one sister and I see friends that have 2 or 3 sisters and think it would be so awesome (assuming they all get along as adults). I'm not even really a girly type person but something about having that female connection would be really neat.
Post by simpsongal on Jul 25, 2014 14:47:28 GMT -5
@mrsspunky is there a reason why you don't want to BF? I think a lot of women are weirded out by it - I remember a few ladies mentioning it on Got Pregnant.
Try not to worry about it - if it doesn't work out or you don't want to, formula is a fine option. If your DH harps on it, I would just agree that you'll have to see how it goes when you get there (I had the same attitude about labor & delivery and my "birth plan": have baby both of us stay alive relatively unharmed).
Post by cincodemayo on Jul 25, 2014 14:48:57 GMT -5
I have a theory that if I don't find out the sex of my hypothetical second baby, there is a higher chance that it will be a girl. I only have a slight preference for it to be a girl so I won't be sobbing in the delivery room if it's a boy, but I'm hoping H will let me test this theory.
Post by purplecow0206 on Jul 25, 2014 14:51:23 GMT -5
It drives me NUTS when my DCP goes on and on about how A gets "mama's milk" when I pick her up and we start talking about the day and what she did (there are 2 other infants right around A's age and they are both formula fed). She keeps on attributing A's crawling/pulling up to "mama's milk". I feel so bad and really hope that she doesn't say anything about it around the other parents.
Just because BFing has continued to work out for us doesn't mean it's the best way to go, nor is it indicative of A being "ahead" on her gross motor skills. She's just a tiny, overachieving peanut.
I try not to let the fact that D isn't crawling yet not bother me, but some day it really does. I have friends who have kids who are up on walkers, pulling up, who are the same age as D, and D still doesn't crawl. I know this is one of those things that I have to start getting used to (not comparing my kid to other kids), but it's hard. And then I start to think that maybe he will have some serious issues from being a preemie, and I get to thinking that this is somehow my fault (even though logically, I know it isn't). Being a mom is hard, yo!
Same here - I think DD is only a week or two older than your DS and no crawling here either (not for lack of trying though, but she just can't figure it out!). I know babies walking at 10 months and here DD is, 10 months next week and not even close. Most of the time I'm okay with this and I know she'll get there eventually, but other times I'm all WTF when I read about other babies.
I don't want to BF. I don't even want to try. DH wants me to (breast is best, y'all) so I will try, but I hope I hate it or my milk doesn't come in. Still, I ordered a pump from my insurance and am looking at nursing bras. You know, the like 3 styles that come in my size.
This website has a ton of larger sized nursing bras. Maybe something there will work for you?
Post by scribellesam on Jul 25, 2014 15:13:22 GMT -5
In light of all these "I always wanted a girl" confessions, I guess mine is that I always wanted two boys and it makes me feel like a sexist asshole.
Bonus confession inspired by @this : My doctor brought up the option of inducing me at 39 weeks due to DS1's size and I'm very open to the idea. Anyone who has a negative opinion on the matter can vaginally birth an 11lb baby before spouting off about my birth plans, thanks.