"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
You have to be a really shitty mom to loose custody, I mean, you have to basically murder someone.
I know someone who has 50/50 custody with his piece of shit incubator. The courts like to keep both parents in the kids lives if at all possible.
I didn't lose custody. I also have no idea why people keep assuming I did. I agreed to the current time share, in mediation. We didn't even go to court. We settled in mediation.
And I agreed to this agreement, because XH and I were fighting all the time and it was doing negative things to DS. He was acting out at day care and school. He was refusing to take his medicine and was starting to hit other kids. It was really bad. I decided that all of our fighting and disagreeing about DS wasn't solving anything. XH was not willing to work with me on anything, so I tried to do what I thought was best to avoid anymore negative effects, so I gave in and gave in.
I don't except any of you to understand, but if and when you are ever in my shoes, maybe you will understand.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Here's what I think you should do: sign away your parental rights. By even considering a move 1000+ miles away shows that you don't really want to be involved in your kids life.
You care more about yourself and "putting all this behind you" and moving on with another husband. The fact that you are already struggling financially in a MCOL area and are looking to move to a VHCOL area means that you are looking to purposefully limit your time with your son. The same time that you just spent $5K to get. WTF? You make no sense and I can't believe I even typed up a response.
You have to be a really shitty mom to loose custody, I mean, you have to basically murder someone.
I know someone who has 50/50 custody with his piece of shit incubator. The courts like to keep both parents in the kids lives if at all possible.
I didn't lose custody. I also have no idea why people keep assuming I did. I agreed to the current time share, in mediation. We didn't even go to court. We settled in mediation.
You have every other weekend and summers....that, imo, is not having custody.
Most judges rule for 50/50, because it's best interest of the child to have BOTH parents in their lives equally. I get that you both wanted the child to remain in the same school system. For that to happen and for you to have equal amount of time with YOUR SON, them you should have moved to the county that you want your son to stay in.
You know, whatever. As long as you sleep OK at night, that is what counts for you.
I didn't lose custody. I also have no idea why people keep assuming I did. I agreed to the current time share, in mediation. We didn't even go to court. We settled in mediation.
You have every other weekend and summers....that, imo, is not having custody.
Most judges rule for 50/50, because it's best interest of the child to have BOTH parents in their lives equally. I get that you both wanted the child to remain in the same school system. For that to happen and for you to have equal amount of time with YOUR SON, them you should have moved to the county that you want your son to stay in.
You know, whatever. As long as you sleep OK at night, that is what counts for you.
Please read my re-write. Moving to another side of town wouldn't have solved anything
Post by EmilieMadison on Aug 7, 2014 10:34:24 GMT -5
BWAHAHA!
"Hm, you know, I didnt realize that abandoning my disabled kid with a man I think is a horrible person might be a bad idea until a bunch of internet strangers ripped me a new asshole. Now I think I might not go, and maybe I'll even FaceTime with him three times a week instead of two. Thanks for making me a better mom!"
"Hm, you know, I didnt realize that abandoning my disabled kid with a man I think is a horrible person might be a bad idea until a bunch of internet strangers ripped me a new asshole. Now I think I might not go, and maybe I'll even FaceTime with him three times a week instead of two. Thanks for making me a better mom!"
Post by shostakovich on Aug 7, 2014 10:35:39 GMT -5
Dear Diary,
Yesterday I polled my internet friends to find out how they really feel about me. It turns out they really like me! It's nice to have friends to swap cardigan suggestions and parenting tips with.
"Hm, you know, I didnt realize that abandoning my disabled kid with a man I think is a horrible person might be a bad idea until a bunch of internet strangers ripped me a new asshole. Now I think I might not go, and maybe I'll even FaceTime with him three times a week instead of two. Thanks for making me a better mom!"
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Post by EmilieMadison on Aug 7, 2014 10:43:36 GMT -5
And no, I dont think you "lost custody". I think you gave it up. I think you very willingly decided to have as little time with your kid as possible. I bet having him during the summer was something your exH insisted upon so that your kid at least knows who you are and that you agreed to it grudgingly. Moving to NY would make those summer visits pretty hard (read: impossible) because it's doubtful your exH would allow you to take the kid that far away. And WALLA! No kid.
Just own it. You dont want to be a parent anymore than we want you to be a parent.
"Hm, you know, I didnt realize that abandoning my disabled kid with a man I think is a horrible person might be a bad idea until a bunch of internet strangers ripped me a new asshole. Now I think I might not go, and maybe I'll even FaceTime with him three times a week instead of two. Thanks for making me a better mom!"
And no, I dont think you "lost custody". I think you gave it up. I think you very willingly decided to have as little time with your kid as possible. I bet having him during the summer was something your exH insisted upon so that your kid at least knows who you are and that you agreed to it grudgingly. Moving to NY would make those summer visits pretty hard (read: impossible) because it's doubtful your exH would allow you to take the kid that far away. And WALLA! No kid.
Just own it. You dont want to be a parent anymore than we want you to be a parent.
And no, I dont think you "lost custody". I think you gave it up. I think you very willingly decided to have as little time with your kid as possible. I bet having him during the summer was something your exH insisted upon so that your kid at least knows who you are and that you agreed to it grudgingly. Moving to NY would make those summer visits pretty hard (read: impossible) because it's doubtful your exH would allow you to take the kid that far away. And WALLA! No kid.
Just own it. You dont want to be a parent anymore than we want you to be a parent.
I will never "own" that because it's not true.
I did what I thought was best for my DS.
WHICH IS IT? Did you do it because you thought it was best for your DS to live with your woman-hater XH, or because 'there's not a damn thing (you) could do'?
ETA: Ok, this is what happened 43 minutes ago Yes I am but there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. And you're not afraid that you leaving him with a misogynistic father will make him think his dad is right because mom abandoned him? Sure, I think that sometimes, but again, there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. Uh, you could, you know, stay in town and spend time with him a couple of times a month. So I can stay and watch XH turn DS into XH. No thank you
Last Edit: Aug 7, 2014 10:49:08 GMT -5 by Ohhmm(bligo)
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby