I thought about what you all said yesterday

[missburlyq]

About the leaving the state part, not the other rambling ridiculousness of New York, FL.

Make no mistake, I was 100% sold on moving to NYC permanently, however I did listen to what you guys said about how it could/would have negative effects on DS. Obviously I don't want that to happen, so I'm reconsidering staying down here.

I'm not totally sure what I'm going to do and I obviously have time to think about it. Aside from all the wretched horrible human being child abandoning garbage, I appreciate most everyone's input.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

Oh, I just saw this.

-If people want me gone, I will leave. Very simple yes or no answer
-Pretend we're your dependent and proceed accordingly.

72%.

[Jermys]

It might be better for you to just go and leave him with his dad. Better you abandon him earlier in his life than later. Get your tubes tied.

[firelight1210]

I don't understand you.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

Aug 7, 2014 9:06:50 GMT -5 cjoy said:

OMG GO AWAY. If I call you Mommy, will it help?

pffftttttttsssssssssssssss

[no0b]

It never ends

::sobs::

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

Aug 7, 2014 9:12:06 GMT -5 everyjuan said:

Aug 7, 2014 9:06:50 GMT -5 cjoy said:

OMG GO AWAY. If I call you Mommy, will it help?

There is NEVER going to be a more perfect description gif than this, EVER.

[sparkythelawyer]

How do I block people again?

[W.T.Faulkner]

Aug 7, 2014 9:13:49 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

Aug 7, 2014 9:12:06 GMT -5 everyjuan said:

There is NEVER going to be a more perfect description gif than this, EVER.

OH SHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT!

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

I may change my vote to no. Cjoy's NEVER had such good material to work with.

Not that it would matter, since it's now 74%.

Not that it matters, because you're not leaving.

[Deleted]

I'm going to hate myself for replying but I can't not say anything. Regardless of how you feel about your XH and how far away you want to be from him, your son should be your number one priority. No excuses.

I have a former friend who had a child young on purpose, (19-20) because she thought she could handle it. She and her H put themselves before their own child. Plus they pretty much just tolerate each other and shouldn't be together. They pawn their child off on the grandparents. Now this bitch is expecting twins. Just more children for these two fuckwits to damage. Granted, I'm not a parent, but I cannot for the life of me think of anything more important than my own child. I cannot fathom why people think they aren't supposed to be responsible for a human being they created. You seriously remind me of them because they didn't want to be bothered raising their own goddamned child. You are a mother FIRST and foremost.

Your DS didn't ask to be born. As a parent, you owe him as much as possible.



/gets off soapbox

[pinkeggs]

Aug 7, 2014 9:06:50 GMT -5 cjoy said:

OMG GO AWAY. If I call you Mommy, will it help?

[no0b]

At this point I think I will follow LHCs advice and just not engage.

[Kristinmo]

LOL at 1,000 page views and 12 responses.

[ZoeHart]

I'm really hoping this is all because you are an attention whore and not because at any time you actually thought abandoning your son was a good idea.

[waaahmbulance]

[missburlyq]

Aug 7, 2014 9:20:42 GMT -5 @kimberhenry said:

I'm going to hate myself for replying but I can't not say anything. Regardless of how you feel about your XH and how far away you want to be from him, your son should be your number one priority. No excuses.

I have a former friend who had a child young on purpose, (19-20) because she thought she could handle it. She and her H put themselves before their own child. Plus they pretty much just tolerate each other and shouldn't be together. They pawn their child off on the grandparents. Now this bitch is expecting twins. Just more children for these two fuckwits to damage. Granted, I'm not a parent, but I cannot for the life of me think of anything more important than my own child. I cannot fathom why people think they aren't supposed to be responsible for a human being they created. You seriously remind me of them because they didn't want to be bothered raising their own goddamned child. You are a mother FIRST and foremost.

Your DS didn't ask to be born. As a parent, you owe him as much as possible.



/gets off soapbox

I hear what you are saying. However XH pretty much took over the mom responsibilities from day one, against my wishes. Even when I told XH that I wanted to be the one to do the "mom like things" he wouldn't let me. So despite my best efforts, when XH found out DS was a DS and not a DD he's tried to distance DS from me. 

As much as I wanted to be "mommy" XH would shield that from happening. So please forgive me if I'm not all "my baby, my baby" about this. This has been going on DS's whole life. XH took my place as mommy, whether I wanted it or not. I didn't even get to pick the name for crying out loud.

And as someone said yesterday - if I were a man, this would be totally different. To be truthful I've been treated like the "man" of the relationship during the whole situation. So forgive me for not wanting to fight it anymore. There is only so much a person can tolerate before you just throw the white flag up and say fine, trying is pointless.

[eddy]

everyjuan that was the most perfectly played gif of all gif land.

/bows down

OMG, I just want to sit and look at it and appreciate what you just did there.

[studytime45]

Aug 7, 2014 9:35:35 GMT -5 missburlyq said:

Aug 7, 2014 9:20:42 GMT -5 @kimberhenry said:

I'm going to hate myself for replying but I can't not say anything. Regardless of how you feel about your XH and how far away you want to be from him, your son should be your number one priority. No excuses.

I have a former friend who had a child young on purpose, (19-20) because she thought she could handle it. She and her H put themselves before their own child. Plus they pretty much just tolerate each other and shouldn't be together. They pawn their child off on the grandparents. Now this bitch is expecting twins. Just more children for these two fuckwits to damage. Granted, I'm not a parent, but I cannot for the life of me think of anything more important than my own child. I cannot fathom why people think they aren't supposed to be responsible for a human being they created. You seriously remind me of them because they didn't want to be bothered raising their own goddamned child. You are a mother FIRST and foremost.

Your DS didn't ask to be born. As a parent, you owe him as much as possible.



/gets off soapbox

I hear what you are saying. However XH pretty much took over the mom responsibilities from day one, against my wishes. Even when I told XH that I wanted to be the one to do the "mom like things" he wouldn't let me. So despite my best efforts, when XH found out DS was a DS and not a DD he's tried to distance DS from me. 

As much as I wanted to be "mommy" XH would shield that from happening. So please forgive me if I'm not all "my baby, my baby" about this. This has been going on DS's whole life. XH took my place as mommy, whether I wanted it or not. I didn't even get to pick the name for crying out loud.

And as someone said yesterday - if I were a man, this would be totally different. To be truthful I've been treated like the "man" of the relationship during the whole situation. So forgive me for not wanting to fight it anymore. There is only so much a person can tolerate before you just throw the white flag up and say fine, trying is pointless.

Waaaah Waaaah fucking WAHHHH 

Grow some proverbial balls and take responsibility for your actions. 

[lulu13]

Aug 7, 2014 9:35:35 GMT -5 missburlyq said:

Aug 7, 2014 9:20:42 GMT -5 @kimberhenry said:

I'm going to hate myself for replying but I can't not say anything. Regardless of how you feel about your XH and how far away you want to be from him, your son should be your number one priority. No excuses.

I have a former friend who had a child young on purpose, (19-20) because she thought she could handle it. She and her H put themselves before their own child. Plus they pretty much just tolerate each other and shouldn't be together. They pawn their child off on the grandparents. Now this bitch is expecting twins. Just more children for these two fuckwits to damage. Granted, I'm not a parent, but I cannot for the life of me think of anything more important than my own child. I cannot fathom why people think they aren't supposed to be responsible for a human being they created. You seriously remind me of them because they didn't want to be bothered raising their own goddamned child. You are a mother FIRST and foremost.

Your DS didn't ask to be born. As a parent, you owe him as much as possible.



/gets off soapbox

I hear what you are saying. However XH pretty much took over the mom responsibilities from day one, against my wishes. Even when I told XH that I wanted to be the one to do the "mom like things" he wouldn't let me. So despite my best efforts, when XH found out DS was a DS and not a DD he's tried to distance DS from me. 

As much as I wanted to be "mommy" XH would shield that from happening. So please forgive me if I'm not all "my baby, my baby" about this. This has been going on DS's whole life. XH took my place as mommy, whether I wanted it or not. I didn't even get to pick the name for crying out loud.

And as someone said yesterday - if I were a man, this would be totally different. To be truthful I've been treated like the "man" of the relationship during the whole situation. So forgive me for not wanting to fight it anymore. There is only so much a person can tolerate before you just throw the white flag up and say fine, trying is pointless.

This is very interesting insight into the mind of a person who needs to justify abandoning their child. I don't doubt many dead beat dad's use the same thought process to dodge their guilty feelings and abandon their responsibility.

[tripleshot]

It took 46 minutes for someone to respond. We were all doing so well ignoring. Thanks Ombligo!

[ECB]

Aug 7, 2014 9:35:35 GMT -5 missburlyq said:

 However XH pretty much took over the mom responsibilities from day one, against my wishes. Even when I told XH that I wanted to be the one to do the "mom like things" he wouldn't let me. So despite my best efforts, when XH found out DS was a DS and not a DD he's tried to distance DS from me. 

As much as I wanted to be "mommy" XH would shield that from happening. So please forgive me if I'm not all "my baby, my baby" about this. This has been going on DS's whole life. XH took my place as mommy, whether I wanted it or not. I didn't even get to pick the name for crying out loud.

And as someone said yesterday - if I were a man, this would be totally different. To be truthful I've been treated like the "man" of the relationship during the whole situation. So forgive me for not wanting to fight it anymore. There is only so much a person can tolerate before you just throw the white flag up and say fine, trying is pointless.

I would expect a misogynist to do the opposite, actually.  He's taking on the mom role and you're treated like the man?

Does.not.compute w/ descriptions of him being a misogynist asshole.

[Deleted]

[missburlyq]

Aug 7, 2014 9:58:37 GMT -5 ECB said:

Aug 7, 2014 9:35:35 GMT -5 missburlyq said:

 However XH pretty much took over the mom responsibilities from day one, against my wishes. Even when I told XH that I wanted to be the one to do the "mom like things" he wouldn't let me. So despite my best efforts, when XH found out DS was a DS and not a DD he's tried to distance DS from me. 

As much as I wanted to be "mommy" XH would shield that from happening. So please forgive me if I'm not all "my baby, my baby" about this. This has been going on DS's whole life. XH took my place as mommy, whether I wanted it or not. I didn't even get to pick the name for crying out loud.

And as someone said yesterday - if I were a man, this would be totally different. To be truthful I've been treated like the "man" of the relationship during the whole situation. So forgive me for not wanting to fight it anymore. There is only so much a person can tolerate before you just throw the white flag up and say fine, trying is pointless.

I would expect a misogynist to do the opposite, actually.  He's taking on the mom role and you're treated like the man?

Does.not.compute w/ descriptions of him being a misogynist asshole.

Why is that hard to compute? If DS was a DD he wouldn't have stopped me from being "mommy" but since DS is a DS he wants him raised his way, and he wants DS to do his things and to be taught his certain way - And regardless of what I think/feel/want it doesn't matter. I'm the woman and therefore my opinion is invalid when it comes to DS.

[rumble]

The misogynist father insisted on playing "mommy"?

You either don't know what the word misogynist means, or you're completely full of shit.

Most likely both. O.o

[missburlyq]

Aug 7, 2014 10:03:44 GMT -5 rumble said:

The misogynist father insisted on playing "mommy"?

You either don't know what the word misogynist means, or you're completely full of shit.

Most likely both. O.o

Why is that hard to compute? If DS was a DD he wouldn't have stopped me from being "mommy" but since DS is a DS he wants him raised his way, and he wants DS to do his things and to be taught his certain way - And regardless of what I think/feel/want it doesn't matter. I'm the woman and therefore my opinion is invalid when it comes to DS.

[rex]

remember your poll? gtfo.

[missburlyq]

Aug 7, 2014 10:05:26 GMT -5 rex said:

remember your poll? gtfo.

I didn't say I was leaving, in my poll. I asked everyone if they would like me to leave. Don't misinterpret.

[firelight1210]

So you just wanted to know if you were hanging out somewhere where everyone hates you and wants you to leave? Because that's a good time to you?

[eb777888]

Aug 7, 2014 9:06:50 GMT -5 cjoy said:

OMG GO AWAY. If I call you Mommy, will it help?