A little food for thought then I'm done. My step FIL has two kids that he gave up on because the mother made it "impossible" for him to be there. The mother threatened if he stepped foot near her house, she would pull a gun on him. Instead of fighting it by getting a lawyer and being proactive about being a father, he gave up. His DD is a drug using loser who has had a few kids that she has lost custody of pretty much after they were born. His son is also a drug using loser who has a masters in architecture but chooses to pop pills and sponge off the government.
So you tell me if those kids were better off with only one parent.
ETA: I meant no disrespect to single parents. Just reread it and didn't want anyone to think that. I'm just pointing out that having only one parent raise you while the other gives up on you is very damaging.
WHICH IS IT? Did you do it because you thought it was best for your DS to live with your woman-hater XH, or because 'there's not a damn thing (you) could do'?
Whichever one she thinks will garner her more sympathy at that moment. Even though she's failing miserably at that too.
And no, I dont think you "lost custody". I think you gave it up. I think you very willingly decided to have as little time with your kid as possible. I bet having him during the summer was something your exH insisted upon so that your kid at least knows who you are and that you agreed to it grudgingly. Moving to NY would make those summer visits pretty hard (read: impossible) because it's doubtful your exH would allow you to take the kid that far away. And WALLA! No kid.
Just own it. You dont want to be a parent anymore than we want you to be a parent.
I will never "own" that because it's not true.
I did what I thought was best for my DS.
So, by "not true" you mean "that's the fucking truth right there". Got it.
Post by kellykapowski on Aug 7, 2014 10:53:56 GMT -5
Yyyyyyya, no. I'm pretty sure there's just about nothing that would make me "throw up the white flag and give up." ON MY CHILD.
No amount of penis (or vagina if that's your thing), promise of bigger and better things, happiness in the future, or what have you would let me give up the good fight.
But you go on with your bad self thinking that a few years worth of effort into your young child's life is enough work. You go on with your bad self.
No amount of penis (or vagina if that's your thing), promise of bigger and better things, happiness in the future, or what have you would let me give up the good fight.
But what about a Slurpee? Those can talk a person into damn near anything.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
And no, I dont think you "lost custody". I think you gave it up. I think you very willingly decided to have as little time with your kid as possible. I bet having him during the summer was something your exH insisted upon so that your kid at least knows who you are and that you agreed to it grudgingly. Moving to NY would make those summer visits pretty hard (read: impossible) because it's doubtful your exH would allow you to take the kid that far away. And WALLA! No kid.
Just own it. You dont want to be a parent anymore than we want you to be a parent.
I will never "own" that because it's not true.
I did what I thought was best for my DS.
Like the time you FF his carseat at 6 MONTHS?
Or the time you moved him into your parents house with their 20 cats and 5 litterboxes?
No amount of penis (or vagina if that's your thing), promise of bigger and better things, happiness in the future, or what have you would let me give up the good fight.
But what about a Slurpee? Those can talk a person into damn near anything.
I wanted to get a Slurpee today, but the Slurpee machine was broken
No amount of penis (or vagina if that's your thing), promise of bigger and better things, happiness in the future, or what have you would let me give up the good fight.
But what about a Slurpee? Those can talk a person into damn near anything.
Parenting isn't black and white. There are a lot of dads who stay at home and do the majority of the child rearing. That doesn't mean that the mother has no input into their life. You say that your ex has all of the say in everything - that's because you let him. If you want to be 'mommy', petition the court for more time with your child (which you could get if you actually wanted it and tried) and spend time with him. Be a mother. FFS, this is ridiculous.
More realistically, I think this is all a load of bullshit. You don't want to be a parent anymore but you don't want to just come out and say it. Because it makes you look bad or something. No worries, you already look bad enough.
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I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
Two Theories 1) Evee is fake. She always has a dramatic story to tell and she contradicts herself all the time. The fact that she'll come back after months and start new drama only makes me believe it more. No sane, normal person stirs up shit on a message board every few months then disappears. She's someone who is bored with her real life and enjoys getting occasional attention on here for her stories.
2) She really is a terrible mother and is trying to spin the story to make her XH look like the bad one so she can get Internet sympathy. I don't think anyone who knows her in real life feels a bit bad for her because they've seen the crazy by now. Unfortunately she's also not that smart so her alligator tears and sob stories aren't convincing to us either.
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"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
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