Is she a French teacher? Some of her phrasing is awkward. Like when people say "Close the lights".
No. She teaches grade 7.Â
Yeah, that is not cool. She can get a pass for like JK or something since she likely knows her letters, but that's a lot of errors printed out. I'm more forgiving for a Post It note or something, but not that.
Post by dexteroni on Sept 19, 2014 18:57:04 GMT -5
Wait - if she's a teacher, why doesn't she get home until 6? Even the teachers I know who lead an after school activity are home earlier than that. This has nothing to do with the OP, it just made me curious.
Wait - if she's a teacher, why doesn't she get home until 6? Even the teachers I know who lead an after school activity are home earlier than that. This has nothing to do with the OP, it just made me curious.
She brings the children home at 3:40 then goes upstairs or to yoga.
Wait - if she's a teacher, why doesn't she get home until 6? Even the teachers I know who lead an after school activity are home earlier than that. This has nothing to do with the OP, it just made me curious.
She brings the children home at 3:40 then goes upstairs or to yoga.
Wait - if she's a teacher, why doesn't she get home until 6? Even the teachers I know who lead an after school activity are home earlier than that. This has nothing to do with the OP, it just made me curious.
She brings the children home at 3:40 then goes upstairs or to yoga.
Wait, wait, wait.
Surely this doesn't take the three hours you are there to do yoga. What else is she doing during that time? Because it seems she wants you to do literally everything, including the kitchen sink.
I'd tell you to just quit now, but I wanna know how the confrontation goes first.
I’m only visiting from MMM but I’m intrigued now and dying for an update. I’d love to be tagged when you respond. I don’t want to miss this!
You’ll find another job. Good luck!
You can bookmark the thread and you get a notice when there is a new post. It does it for any new post, but it makes it easy to find in the bookmarks tab.
I’m only visiting from MMM but I’m intrigued now and dying for an update. I’d love to be tagged when you respond. I don’t want to miss this!
You’ll find another job. Good luck!
You can bookmark the thread and you get a notice when there is a new post. It does it for any new post, but it makes it easy to find in the bookmarks tab.
Wait - if she's a teacher, why doesn't she get home until 6? Even the teachers I know who lead an after school activity are home earlier than that. This has nothing to do with the OP, it just made me curious.
My H is never home before 6. He's a K-5 art teacher with 600 students in his school, and he's the only art teacher. The amount of prep work and grading he has to do with that number and range of students is insane. And his prep work can't really be done at home (readying clay and paints and such), so he's always at school late.
Just thought I'd answer your curiousity with one example if why a teacher may not get home early.
I have lots of questions! (they may have been answered on page 2, but I can't see that page since I got the malware message)
So what kind of meals are you prepping dreamcrisp1?
Typically a salad for the oldest one and then dinner for both. Chicken and rice or potatoes or sometimes the grandma leaves food and I prep it and warm it up. The mom doesn't cook.
What is VIM?
Cleaning stuff? For the sink.
Why do the kids have drink cups?
They drink from it at every meal.
How old are these kids?
7 and 9.
Do they ever get to have any fun time?
I suppose after I'm gone, they do.
Is English her second language? Yes, it is. She's canadian, as well.
What was the jist of the email? If you don't mind sharing.
Hello A,
I've been thinking over this and I've decided to say something about it.
Firstly, I'd like to emphasize that I adore M and S and I think they are great. I greatly enjoy your family.
During our first meeting, we discussed the things that you would like to be done in your home and the kids being the main priority and the main responsibilities. However, some of these things that you have listed as daily or weekly chores is not feasible to be accomplished in the time that I am there. There are things like laundry, ironing, dishes, swiffering, and moping that are doable and I do them as much as time allows me. Things like lunch, dinner, and homework seem to be the most important in my eyes. There are things in the weekly chores category that will not be able to happen. The checklist adds pressure to me because it is an expectation of me.
Can we prioritize this list and figure out the things that are more important and the things that maybe you can do on the weekends or something? There is absolutely not enough time to accomplish all these things. I'd like to be able to focus on helping M and S with school and their work and sometimes, I feel pulled between doing dishes, swiffering, etc. when they need my attention.
Yeah my kids are 4 & 6 and they get their own breakfasts in the morning (or they get out ingredients of things they can't put together, like pancake mix and milk, etc.) and they put their own dishes in the dishwasher. I don't think this is unusual. She's raising her kids to be brats like her.
You really needed to be more firm about not being the one to clean her toilets and iron her clothes. Unless, you don't mind being the maid. Even if there was time, I wouldn't want those included in a nanny's duties.
I posted early on and after reading all the updates...oh my. I have worked with many high-maintenance families before but nothing this extreme. And the kids are way too old to not lift a finger with their dishes or make their beds. Good luck...
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Sept 19, 2014 21:39:21 GMT -5
My plan is to give her the benefit of the doubt and start with this email. I want to see what she says and where she stands. Then, I will approach it as necessary. And lay out that I'm not cleaning bathrooms amongst other things.
Post by petitefrite on Sept 19, 2014 22:10:30 GMT -5
Wait a second, so let me get this straight: 1. She brings the kids home at 3:40 2. She does not spend time with them after school, instead she hired you to come and be with them, even though she is home? 3. She advertised this as a child care position, but fully expects you to be a housekeeper also, and at a nanny rate of pay. 4. Grandma cooks for the family?!?!
So between you and grandma the two of you do all cooking, cleaning, and child care, correct?
If so, I agree with PP's, run. This woman will never be satisfied.