Post by underwaterrhymes on Sept 20, 2014 19:56:19 GMT -5
His first reaction was one that arose because he cares about you and he wanted to comfort you. Probably there was a little excitement in there too.
This new reaction is because he's had time to think about what this means long term. He may love you and he may be excited about being a dad, but it's overwhelming and unexpected.
He acted like a douche, but it's not really because he's mad or because he thinks you were underhanded. It's mostly because he's scared. This really does change everything.
I do think he will come around, but in the meantime take care of yourself and start building, as @cse1960 suggests, for you and your baby's future.
No matter what happens, though, you will be okay. Big hugs.
Post by messykitchen on Sept 20, 2014 20:04:54 GMT -5
I took a long break from here (still lurked sometimes) but I wanted to come back out and say Montery, I am so sorry you are going through such a tough time. If you ever need an ear, I am here. I have had the unexpected pregnancy (my wonderful 15 yr old son) a pregnancy that I ended, and I have a daughter I gave up for adoption. Whatever you decide, no matter what this guy's reaction ends up being, you will be ok. We ALL support you here, we all will love you and have your back no matter what. You are an amazing woman, just from what I know from your posts over the years. Please be kind to yourself. ((hugs))
Post by thecatinthehat on Sept 20, 2014 20:08:53 GMT -5
I have no advice to add, you got so many good ones. So I am just sending you hugs. I hope he comes around and realizes what a dick he has been. Please take care of yourself.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with testing while on the pill before your period. It is not 100% effective and my periods on the pill is always so much lighter than without it. I have tested before thinking I was having symptoms and worried that my LMP was not really what I thought it was. I could wait until my next period but sometimes when you are freaking out like that, you don't think so clearly and just pee on a fucking stick.
I'm sorry he reacted so strongly. His initial reaction was so perfect and so supportive. Perhaps he just needs a little more time and space to process.
Agree with others let him contact you. Hugs to you. Focus on your little baby and yourself right now.
Post by sugarbear on Sept 20, 2014 22:57:21 GMT -5
No advice from me, just hugs. I do think, regardless of what happens, he does owe you an apology. We have a saying with our kids: you can be mad, but you can't be mean.
at this Point in our lives, there is no point to worry about how it came about, it happened so you take that road, However the journey will be, it will be all right in the end.