I might do it and its only because I forget what I already liked.
But I do know what you mean and I feel that way when I post two IG pics back to back and one of them gets more likes than the other.
Fair enough. But if someone is going down the thread and liking one after another in order it's not hard to forget which you did and didn't like, KWIM? Like, it's obvious some people blatantly skip some peoples pictures. It's just weird!
I'm sure I accidentally skip pictures. Totally not on purpose, mostly due to posting with a toddler trying to steal the iPad or climb on me.
Working full time and not wanting to stay home. I don't like being alone with them both for even one day and I feel sometimes like I am broken because of this
Feeling "fat" /insecure about my body even though I know logically I am thin and look fine
The fact that I don't dress the kids in nice clothes or care
This isn't about me and probably doesn't have a place jn this thread. Lol.
I'm not sensitive about H's teeth but I'm aware of them-----They are yellowed from years of coffee and wine. I finally convinced him to get them whitened. If only he would find the time.
They aren't awful, but if they were mine I'd be whitening the heck out of them. I'm trying to find a way to do my own that won't hurt like crazy since my teeth are crazy sensitive.
Mine are so sensitive too so if you find a way please let me know!
Do you have trays? I put sensodyne toothpaste in my trays for like 15 minutes before whitening. It helps a lot with sensitivity.
On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn
I have gone back through threads and KNOW I've liked something yet it isn't liked. I blame technology glitches. I tell myself that's the case for everyone.
On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn
Please know that if I've done this, it was completely unintentional. I like all photos!
Post by DesertMoon on Oct 30, 2014 16:35:42 GMT -5
To be honest there was one person I intentionally withheld my likes from. Shes not here anymore but her and I had an unspoken understantding to completely avoid eachothers threads and pics and basically ignore eachothers exsistance.
If I'm being totally honest, my first reaction was "everything". My weight, big nose, giant forehead, teeth(hello adult braces), age differences, infertility issues, family issues, and the list goes on. I try very hard to seem confident and have an IDGAF attitude. I think most people who know me IRL think that is how I am. However, inside I feel like a young girl who wants to be accepted and liked by everyone. Sometimes I will look at M and think to myself that I really, really hope she doesn't feel like this, ever. I know that's unrealistic(I think 95% of people are insecure about something) but I'm going to try to help her be as secure as possible if I can.
I sometimes wonder if other adults feel inside like the the child/teen they used to be w/their insecurities(and/or fears) or if I'm just odd.
If I'm being totally honest, my first reaction was "everything". My weight, big nose, giant forehead, teeth(hello adult braces), age differences, infertility issues, family issues, and the list goes on. I try very hard to seem confident and have an IDGAF attitude. I think most people who know me IRL think that is how I am. However, inside I feel like a young girl who wants to be accepted and liked by everyone. Sometimes I will look at M and think to myself that I really, really hope she doesn't feel like this, ever. I know that's unrealistic(I think 95% of people are insecure about something) but I'm going to try to help her be as secure as possible if I can.
I sometimes wonder if other adults feel inside like the the child/teen they used to be w/their insecurities(and/or fears) or if I'm just odd.
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I also hope feverently that my boys adopt my H's "bringitbecauseigivezerofuckswhatyouethink" attitude. He really truly doesn't care what the majority of the world thinks. It must be such a free feeling!
Post by imimahoney on Oct 30, 2014 16:52:44 GMT -5
I'm super sensitive about my weight and my skin. I suffer from severe acne and it sucks. I know people stare, I just hate it. There isn't enough makeup in the worldnto cover these mounds of disgustingness.
This is true, and it's irritating then too. The only thing people should say when someone announces the sex of their child is "congratulations!"
But then there was also a post either here or on ML about how it was weird for people to congratulate someone on a sex (I'd say gender, but people get sand in their vagina over that too) announcement, so maybe the only appropriate response is "hmm." Although I'm sure people would think that was bitchy.
This has just been an ongoing flame? I guess? around here, and it comes mostly from the boy moms, for whatever reason.
I honestly think some of it is defensive. A lot of women (myself included) wanted to experience daughters. Let me preface this with the fact that I adore my children and wouldn't trade even one of them for five girls but:
I feel like quite often I see moms of two girls being really happy with their family unit. They don't feel like they're missing out on anything by not having a boy. Then I feel like, what is wrong with me that I feel like I'm missing out on the mother/daughter dynamic? So it's hard to read the complete satisfaction stories, because it makes me feel guilty that I don't feel that way.
This isn't aimed at you, or really anyone here. It has more to do with me and my emotions. I was just agreeing with @eac2c that it can be hard to read that stuff and feel like people pity you (even if they don't actually).
I know we've moved on lol it just took me awhile to figure out how to phrase this.
I couldn't have said this any better. I long for a daughter and also feel like I'm missing out, but I love my boys more than anything and wouldn't trade them for all the girls in the world!
Post by laurensmomma on Oct 30, 2014 17:03:30 GMT -5
I don't think I'm super sensitive about anything about myself, but I am super, overly sensitive when it comes to my loved ones' feelings. Like, if someone were to bad mouth my dh, I would not be okay with that. When Lauren gets older, and is confronted with getting her feelings hurt by her friends, I am going to have to try so hard not to continually step in. My first instinct is to protect, in an over-bearing sort of way.
Post by laurensmomma on Oct 30, 2014 17:06:06 GMT -5
I think I may have been the only lady on here that would have preferred a boy over a girl. I love my daughter, and I know having her has made me a gentler person (maybe a boy would have done the same, I don't know) and was absolutely the right sex for me to have, but I just wanted a boy so bad. I think mostly because I was a tomboy growing up, and most of my closer friends were guys.
I think I may have been the only lady on here that would have preferred a boy over a girl. I love my daughter, and I know having her has made me a gentler person (maybe a boy would have done the same, I don't know) and was absolutely the right sex for me to have, but I just wanted a boy so bad. I think mostly because I was a tomboy growing up, and most of my closer friends were guys.
I wanted a boy as well. There was a moment of disappointment when Zoe came up on the u/s with not even a hint of a penis. My reasoning were the same as yours. I was a tomboy and didn't know what to do with a girly girl. Now I have just that, I am finding I can roll with it. I wouldn't switch Zoe out for a boy any day, now.
I have major anxiety about inconveniencing people and having them annoyed at me. It makes me avoid interacting with people a lot. Also, I'm really sensitive to making people feel bad, so I hold a lot of things in.
I think I may have been the only lady on here that would have preferred a boy over a girl. I love my daughter, and I know having her has made me a gentler person (maybe a boy would have done the same, I don't know) and was absolutely the right sex for me to have, but I just wanted a boy so bad. I think mostly because I was a tomboy growing up, and most of my closer friends were guys.
I wanted a boy as well. There was a moment of disappointment when Zoe came up on the u/s with not even a hint of a penis. My reasoning were the same as yours. I was a tomboy and didn't know what to do with a girly girl. Now I have just that, I am finding I can roll with it. I wouldn't switch Zoe out for a boy any day, now.
Ah, I like that we have this in common!!! I feel exactly the same. So far L isn't too girly, but I'm letting her be herself and not trying to influence her away from dress and frilly things if that's what she like.
Lord help me if she ever wants to play "princesses", lol.
I wanted a boy as well. There was a moment of disappointment when Zoe came up on the u/s with not even a hint of a penis. My reasoning were the same as yours. I was a tomboy and didn't know what to do with a girly girl. Now I have just that, I am finding I can roll with it. I wouldn't switch Zoe out for a boy any day, now.
Ah, I like that we have this in common!!! I feel exactly the same. So far L isn't too girly, but I'm letting her be herself and not trying to influence her away from dress and frilly things if that's what she like.
Lord help me if she ever wants to play "princesses", lol.
Ha! Zoe is Frozen and purple obsessed. She's worn a purple nightgown dress the last two days... all day. She loves her shiny bracelets and beaded necklaces. Letting them do their thing is the easiest way to go.
I think I may have been the only lady on here that would have preferred a boy over a girl. I love my daughter, and I know having her has made me a gentler person (maybe a boy would have done the same, I don't know) and was absolutely the right sex for me to have, but I just wanted a boy so bad. I think mostly because I was a tomboy growing up, and most of my closer friends were guys.
You're not the only one. On a practical level, I thought my H would relate more easily to a boy. I also thought, and still think, that a boy would have an easier time of things in life, a career, balancing family with a career, etc. I fervently hope this changes before our kids are affected though.
I am super sensitive unfortunately. Mostly IRL not on here. Same as a lot of you I'm sensitive when I feel left out and how my kid acts in public. I'm overly sensitive about being diabetic. I really hate when people compare having type one to type 2. It drives me insane, but that's my mom's friends who do that mostly no one here.
I wanted a boy as well. There was a moment of disappointment when Zoe came up on the u/s with not even a hint of a penis. My reasoning were the same as yours. I was a tomboy and didn't know what to do with a girly girl. Now I have just that, I am finding I can roll with it. I wouldn't switch Zoe out for a boy any day, now.
Ah, I like that we have this in common!!! I feel exactly the same. So far L isn't too girly, but I'm letting her be herself and not trying to influence her away from dress and frilly things if that's what she like.
Lord help me if she ever wants to play "princesses", lol.
My H actively tries to steer L in the direction of traditional boy toys. She has a lot of cars, a train set, and a handful of airplanes. One of L's favorite things to do is put them all to sleep.
I am super sensitive unfortunately. Mostly IRL not on here. Same as a lot of you I'm sensitive when I feel left out and how my kid acts in public. I'm overly sensitive about being diabetic. I really hate when people compare having type one to type 2. It drives me insane, but that's my mom's friends who do that mostly no one here.
Dh is type 1 as well, and deals with the same issues. I'm sorry. :0( There's been some mild concern that L might be (haven't tested her yet), which would be really hard. It would be crazy to have two Type 1s in one family, right??? It's not genetic...
Post by laurensmomma on Oct 30, 2014 17:22:23 GMT -5
Aw, earlybird, that's so cute!!! Lauren loves to tell me to go to sleep (just pretend, though). She has DH and I lay/lie/whatever down on the ground, gets pillows for us, puts a blanket on us, and says, 'shhh... go to sweep (aka sleep)'.
Aw, earlybird, that's so cute!!! Lauren loves to tell me to go to sleep (just pretend, though). She has DH and I lay/lie/whatever down on the ground, gets pillows for us, puts a blanket on us, and says, 'shhh... go to sweep (aka sleep)'.
This is a big hit with L, too. Love our little girls.
Post by LiveLoveLearn on Oct 30, 2014 17:26:13 GMT -5
My weight and the way I look mostly. I also get sensitive about making good impressions and my lack of close friends currently.
The gender preference is weird to me. I will say I always wanted a girl and DH always wanted a boy but after Aiden I thought brothers would be so fun. I got so many comments when we found out we were having a girl about how now with one of each we would have the 'perfect' family. It really bugged me that somehow a family isn't perfect without one of each.
I am super sensitive unfortunately. Mostly IRL not on here. Same as a lot of you I'm sensitive when I feel left out and how my kid acts in public. I'm overly sensitive about being diabetic. I really hate when people compare having type one to type 2. It drives me insane, but that's my mom's friends who do that mostly no one here.
Dh is type 1 as well, and deals with the same issues. I'm sorry. :0( There's been some mild concern that L might be (haven't tested her yet), which would be really hard. It would be crazy to have two Type 1s in one family, right??? It's not genetic...
I'm sorry that your H deals with it too. It would be super weird if L was diabetic. My endo always told me my children would have something like a 5% chance of being diabetic. I worry about it still though lol.
Dh is type 1 as well, and deals with the same issues. I'm sorry. :0( There's been some mild concern that L might be (haven't tested her yet), which would be really hard. It would be crazy to have two Type 1s in one family, right??? It's not genetic...
I'm sorry that your H deals with it too. It would be super weird if L was diabetic. My endo always told me my children would have something like a 5% chance of being diabetic. I worry about it still though lol.
Ah, I hadn't heard that statistic, so that is fairly reassuring. :0) Thank you!
I just want to say if I have skipped over a pic with the " like" button I would NEVER ever ever do something like that intentionally. If it has happened it's because I stopped. Sometimes I get distracted and come back and start up again . I always try to check and make sure, but I am human. I love all the kids here. I hope no one would intentionally skip either because that is just beyond assholish.
*** although I have noticed that on my pics , too... I just choose to believe a bitch of that magnitude doesn't exist****
I don't think I'm sensitive about specific things, but I'm sensitive to criticism from specific people. There are people on the board who I really love and look up to, and if I feel like they're thinking less of me for some reason, I get sensitive about it. It doesn't stick with me, though.