Would it bother you if your husband went to dinner at his parents house the first night you come home with your new baby?
My MIL invited us to dinner Friday. However I am scheduled to be induced on Tuesday. His mom wats us to come over for dinner and then looked at me and said if you don't feel up to it. We can still have H come over and you can just stay home with the baby.
She did offer to send me a plate home, but they meal she is planning is not one that I eat. SO I told her not to worry about that part.
However I don't think I want him to go on the first night home and I also think it is weird for her to ask.
There were other things that happened this evening too... so maybe I am just e over sensitive.
Yes!!! It's time for your husband to chose between mommy and his new family. He should call your mil and tell her he obviously can't come over but if she could bring a meal you both like over that would be great.
There are a lot of stories posted as strange that I don't think are too bad, but this is really bad. Tell her that day doesn't work for you guys and she's welcome to bring dinner to your house the next week (if you even want her to...).
Yeah that would bother me. A lot. No way in hell would DH go. Not sure what your relationship with your in laws is like but put your foot down now. You have no idea how your delivery will go and what recovery will be like. Plus you'll have a new baby at home, won't your DH want to be with his newborn child instead of a dinner at his parents?
Of course that would bother me. That would bother ANYONE. Except, apparently, your crazy MIL and apparently clueless husband. No, of course your husband shouldn't leave you alone the day you get home from the fucking hospital. He should WANT to bond with you and the new baby, NOT have dinner with his mother. That is absolutely ridiculous.
Post by narockshard on Nov 30, 2014 22:12:46 GMT -5
I just find it super weird that your MIL would even have a dinner planned knowing that you'll have a brand new baby. She should offer to bring dinner to you guys, but not all people are that thoughtful I guess. Either way, I don't think it'd be ok for your husband to go.
Post by vanillacourage on Nov 30, 2014 22:13:58 GMT -5
What the actual fuck?
Your MIL is trying to mark her territory. Peeing on your DH's leg would be more subtle. Time for him to shut it down - and honestly I think it's crazy that wasn't his first knee-jerk reaction.
Your MIL is trying to mark her territory. Peeing on your DH's leg would be more subtle. Time for him to shut it down - and honestly I think it's crazy that wasn't his first knee-jerk reaction.
I'm buzzed off secret closet wine and was trying to figure out how to word exactly this. Thanks for saving me the hassle vanillacourage.
April 2014 was a good vintage for secret closet wine, I bet it's delicious.
Post by ilikedonuts on Nov 30, 2014 22:27:58 GMT -5
Wait he seriously thinks he is going?
I literally cannot wrap my mind around him (or your MIL) thinking this is okay.
I just read this post to my husband and he started laughing and was like "I'm sure the guy laughed at his mom right?" And I won't repeat what he said when I told him your husband said he'd go for an hour or two.
Oh hell no. Not for an hour, not for a minute. I would throw my husband out if he left to go to his mother's for dinner the day I came home from the hospital with a newborn.
Your husband needs to be at home helping you navigate your new life with your new child.
Post by AlpineSlide on Nov 30, 2014 22:30:52 GMT -5
He thinks he'll go for an hour??! Big ol hell no! I would not want to be alone with a brand new baby the first night. He needs to get his head out of his ass.
Who knows how you'll be doing with recovery, etc. That is a lot. She was wrong to ask, they should drop off a meal to you (that you'll eat), and he's nuts for thinking about going!
It sounds like they're both nuts. Her for asking and him for agreeing. I think you should listen to the advice given. I also want to say that I love that @cse1960 is posting over here. She gives great advice, especially in this situation!