I don't pinterest, buuuuut I seriously did have a notebook of magazine cut outs for my future "perfect" life. Celebrity husband, huge house, fake dog, wedding shit, home decor. It was just fun. It's fun to fantasize.
I read this pretty quickly and apparently combined some of those because I saw "fake dog shit" and I was like "wow, that's a weird thing to fantasize about".
That was rude? Okay then. The tidal wave of derision and cynicism in your response to me seemed more rude which was why I chose not to further discuss it. But I don't even know you, so what do I care.
I don't pinterest, buuuuut I seriously did have a notebook of magazine cut outs for my future "perfect" life. Celebrity husband, huge house, fake dog, wedding shit, home decor. It was just fun. It's fun to fantasize.
I read this pretty quickly and apparently combined some of those because I saw "fake dog shit" and I was like "wow, that's a weird thing to fantasize about".Â
Hey, the devil is in the details. If it's fantasy life, my dog will shit roses!
I totally have boards for fantasy homes, vacations and wardrobes so it's probably not that much different. People are probably like "bitch please with your $4000 jacket. We all know you shop at Banana."
Admittedly I see them as different which is probably my flameful lol. I sometimes get so anti codependency that I swing too far the other way. But I feel like planning things you want for your future is fine but when you're planning involves another person who doesn't yet exist, I think it's weird.
So, maybe my desire to be so strongly independent and not expect someone else to come into my life, and making sure I plan for a life that doesn't account for a dude, is my flameful.
Oh I would never have any plans for dude coming into my life. But I do have big plans for the lottery to come in...
Post by jojoandleo on Dec 12, 2014 12:33:43 GMT -5
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
I don't know... I guess I started the pinterest board because IF (and that's a big if) I ever decide to get married again, I would want it to be completely different from my first wedding so it's fun to look at different things.
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
I bought a ballgown on sale at a formal dress shop once. I wear it around my apartment. It makes me feel pretty.
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
Haha, you crack me up. Thank you for making me laugh on a horrible day.
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
Haha, you crack me up. Thank you for making me laugh on a horrible day.
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
I bought a ballgown on sale at a formal dress shop once. I wear it around my apartment. It makes me feel pretty.
My roommates in college and I would sit in our apartment wearing formal dresses while just watching TV and drinking. And then we would tell each other how pretty we look, lol!
I have a good one. This week the only thing that worked to see FWB was to meet for "lunch" It has been 3 weeks since I've seen him so I told him we could just hang out at my house. I skipped my morning workout to come into work an hour earlier and then told work I had a bunch of things I needed to take care of at lunch so I would be taking a long lunch. I work in a family business with my dad and my sister. 2 and a half hours later I came back to work and maybe I was just imagining things but I think my sister gave me a funny look. My hair looked nowhwere as neat as it did when I first came in. It wasn't total JBF hair but I didn't have time to straighten again so just ran a brush through and called it good. Now I am scheming how I could make this happen more often....maybe a therapist appointment in a different town would sound like a good excuse for a LONG lunch break?
@fucksticklegit's post yesterday made me realize that I definitely want to wear a tea-length dress if/when I get married again. AND I'm probably going to make a secret pinterest board now. 99% of my pinteresting is in the 'humor' category; I don't actually plan things with pinterest, lol.
BF told me he was stumped about what to get me for xmas. He's already bought me a bday present though. And I sympathize with having to think of two gifts in one month. So I told him that he could help me pay for a new tattoo as my xmas present. Is that flameful?
I still pick out fantasy wedding shit and I am married. It's just fun! I loved my wedding! I love pretty dresses! I love jewelry! I love attention! Some people fantasize about 401Ks, other people weddings. Different strokes and all that.
I would seriously but wedding dresses to sit on my couch and watch TV ala Friends if I was rich. They just make me feel special.
I bought a ballgown on sale at a formal dress shop once. I wear it around my apartment. It makes me feel pretty.
I really got screwed with this. My kid AND the BF both have Dec birthdays. My son is easy to shop for (he's turning 2), but the BF was definitely difficult. Especially since this is a new relationship so there was a lot of pressure.
ETA: I don't know what happened to the quote, but it was where you were talking about having to get 2 gifts.
I really got screwed with this. My kid AND the BF both have Dec birthdays. My son is easy to shop for (he's turning 2), but the BF was definitely difficult. Especially since this is a new relationship so there was a lot of pressure.
ETA: I don't know what happened to the quote, but it was where you were talking about having to get 2 gifts.
Oh yeah, my family is full of Sagittarians, so I get it. I'm very sympathetic and don't take it personally if people get me a combined gift or whatever. That's what BF did last year. He told me he had an idea for something, but it was a little more $$ than we had agreed on, so would it be ok if he made it a bday and xmas gift? I was like, yeah, sure, IDGAF. It was a soda stream! I love it. And at that stage of our relationship (we still weren't official/exclusive), I would have been more upset if he had spent $70 on my bday and more on xmas. Unnecessary.
I really got screwed with this. My kid AND the BF both have Dec birthdays. My son is easy to shop for (he's turning 2), but the BF was definitely difficult. Especially since this is a new relationship so there was a lot of pressure.
ETA: I don't know what happened to the quote, but it was where you were talking about having to get 2 gifts.
Oh yeah, my family is full of Sagittarians, so I get it. I'm very sympathetic and don't take it personally if people get me a combined gift or whatever. That's what BF did last year. He told me he had an idea for something, but it was a little more $$ than we had agreed on, so would it be ok if he made it a bday and xmas gift? I was like, yeah, sure, IDGAF. It was a soda stream! I love it. And at that stage of our relationship (we still weren't official/exclusive), I would have been more upset if he had spent $70 on my bday and more on xmas. Unnecessary.
I have a feeling that I set the bar too high with his Christmas gift. I'm screwed next year (if we're still together then).
Speaking of FB, someone from SO showed up in my "people you may know" and I was briefly tempted to send a friend request, but she would have no idea whoTF I am.
My face isn't exactly a secret around here, and if I popped up on your FB then we probably have friends from here in common so I'd figure it out eventually. Feel free to request me, but I'm far more boring on there than here.
Whats so weird about it? I save styles I like and my best friend has access to it so when the day comes, dude can ask her what I like and what my size is and there's a whole board full of ideas for him to take into consideration. Its not a cut and dried "YOU MUST PICK FROM THESE", but my tastes are unconventional and if he's at a loss for ideas, its there to help.
I think it's strange for people who aren't in committed relationships to plan weddings or pick out rings. If you want a ring, buy one for yourself. This could be partially from my own experience being 25 and getting a huge ring and being obsessed with the PPD instead of the relationship. It could also be the fact that I had a huge gorgeous ring and an asshole husband. The beauty of engagement rings is lost on me. I just can't get it up for jewelry or shiny things after being blinded by them in the past.
You know, I sort of feel this way too but I really think it's more MY issue than anything. I guess I didn't have a "huge" ring but I had all the elements of a nice happy wedding, except the happy relationship and the right groom. I feel almost anti-wedding stuff, but that's also weird because I actually am in a good relationship with someone I'd love to marry someday. Yet the idea of a fancy ring and wedding planning and a white dress is still something I have an aversion to. Honestly, I think it all seems a bit fake and over the top to me, but at the same time I get it that it's not that way for many/most people.
I think I've become a lot more cynical since divorce, and a lot more romantic since meeting someone. Though those two things are total opposites, I feel like I'm still both. I'm hoping for happily ever after, but also don't expect it. I worry about what happens when the honeymoon ends, even though there really was no honeymoon with XH so it's not a matter of "I've been through what happens afterwards and it's not pretty".
I had a hard time picking out a wedding card for a friend last month. It felt super fake to pick out cards that said things like "today starts the rest of a happy forever!". I felt like I wanted to give a card that said something more like "glad you're happy now, I hope that lasts and you don't end up divorced!".
My face isn't exactly a secret around here, and if I popped up on your FB then we probably have friends from here in common so I'd figure it out eventually. Feel free to request me, but I'm far more boring on there than here.
We only have one mutual friend, but she's an awesome one. Prepare to be bombarded with pictures of my kid because that's pretty much all I ever post.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Dec 12, 2014 13:27:19 GMT -5
I've got my first parent/teacher conference this afternoon.
I'm fairly certain dd is doing ok academically, my main concern is socially - she's had moments where she's had ZERO qualms about telling random strangers about her dad's antics (PD taking him away in cuffs *that she saw*, his drug use, etc.).
I think it's strange for people who aren't in committed relationships to plan weddings or pick out rings. If you want a ring, buy one for yourself. This could be partially from my own experience being 25 and getting a huge ring and being obsessed with the PPD instead of the relationship. It could also be the fact that I had a huge gorgeous ring and an asshole husband. The beauty of engagement rings is lost on me. I just can't get it up for jewelry or shiny things after being blinded by them in the past.
I had a hard time picking out a wedding card for a friend last month. It felt super fake to pick out cards that said things like "today starts the rest of a happy forever!". I felt like I wanted to give a card that said something more like "glad you're happy now, I hope that lasts and you don't end up divorced!".
ha. I'm kidding. I get where you're coming from. Sometimes all the wedding stuff can seem fake and over the top, but I remind myself that some people actually do have happy and healthy marriages and not all of them are doomed.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Dec 12, 2014 13:45:10 GMT -5
I'm not a Pinterest-y girl and never have been, so any kind of board makes no sense to me. And (yes I'm making a generalization here) I think sometimes people who build up these elaborate wedding fantasies tend to fetishize the wedding and aren't giving much consideration to the actual marriage. But I'm also a weirdo who thinks engagement diamonds are a huge scam although I usually leave those opinions to myself because I realize I sound like a sanctimonious asshole when I talk about them. Which is all a long-winded way of saying a Pinterest wedding/engagement board is super weird to me but take my opinion with an entire salt lick.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Meh, as I said in fuckstick's post yesterday. I have a secret wedding board. Chances are that when I get married again, 99% off that stuff will not be used because who knows what will be in style when that happens, and I do believe that a wedding is for two people, so the groom would bring changes, and my own personal tastes will likely change.
I just like pretty things, and wedding shit is pretty, but I don't want to post wedding stuff on my random fashion board because it doesn't really fit. I loved my first wedding, I love weddings. Nothing about the demise of my relationship has changed that. I think it is a beautiful thing to celebrate love. The world is shitty enough, I don't need to shit on something happy just because it might not work out.
Post by cuddlyevil on Dec 12, 2014 14:32:05 GMT -5
I can't do pintrest, I'll get over-involved. But I do not judge anyone for having a board for ideas and shit.
That said, while I would like to get married again eventually, I'm not anywhere near gathering ideas--I'm only sort of at the "on a beach somewhere would be cool" stage.
I really just use Pinterest as a "I saw something cool on the internet and may want to come back to it" thing. I don't get sucked in because my boards are really not purposeful at all. Like I have a travel board where I pin random travel tips or destinations I see posted elsewhere. I have a lot of recipes, some of which I've made or plan to make and some I should probably just delete because I'll never use them.
I don't often go out searching for something for a particular purpose. I have done several searches for something for a cover up tattoo, but that hasn't amounted to much since I hate everything lol.
Meh, as I said in fuckstick's post yesterday. I have a secret wedding board. Chances are that when I get married again, 99% off that stuff will not be used because who knows what will be in style when that happens, and I do believe that a wedding is for two people, so the groom would bring changes, and my own personal tastes will likely change.
I just like pretty things, and wedding shit is pretty, but I don't want to post wedding stuff on my random fashion board because it doesn't really fit. I loved my first wedding, I love weddings. Nothing about the demise of my relationship has changed that. I think it is a beautiful thing to celebrate love. The world is shitty enough, I don't need to shit on something happy just because it might not work out.
GET OUT OF MY BRAIN!
Also, I never really loved my wedding ring(s). They were custom made but I always thought they looked kinda meh. And for whatever reason, the pink stones looked purple and it bugged the crap out of me. I have very different ideas for the next one.