Post by DotAndBuzz on Dec 22, 2014 17:05:49 GMT -5
First - do not, for one second, discount or question your accomplishment. You're awesome.
Second - it would be a shame for his experiment to go unrecognized by the general public. I think it's time for an instagram/fb post w/ his picture, giving a quick outline of the experiment, and that this was the result - you sharing it with the world so he can receive credit where credit is due. All in the name of science, of course. An experiment always yields results, expected or otherwise.
Third - reading this makes me want to light something on fire on your behalf. FUCK him.
Post by themoneytree on Dec 22, 2014 17:08:41 GMT -5
He is pond scum.
I hope you understand that this has nothing at all to do with you. He said what he knew would hurt you and take you down. Do not let him. It is hard fucking work losing that much weight. Do not let this shit pig derail you and do not allow him to get to you.
Go out and get a new outfit that makes you feel amazing. And get your nails and/ or hair done. Stand up tall and feel more proud than ever of what you have accomplished.
You were never an experiment, I promise. He clearly has massive issues (Including, significantly, his erectile problems) and is just saying whatever he can to hurt you to compensate for his short comings.
His behaviour is the issue, you are not. He knows your weight is your sore spot, so he went for an easy target. You are not fat. You were never a project.
This hurts now and I know it'll take you a while to believe this. But it's true. You are not fat, you were together for seven months and your body and mind kept him interested. He introduced you to his Mom FFS, again, hardly the actions of someone stringing you along for a joke.
Stay strong sweetheart. You will get through this and there are bigger and better adventures waiting for you when you are ready.
Post by litebright on Dec 22, 2014 17:30:53 GMT -5
I can't come up with any better invectives than have already been said, but seriously, no whole and decent person ever says anything like that to someone else. You have to be a particular brand of nasty and cruel to be up for sucker-punching another person emotionally, and my guess is that someone like that will never, ever treat a partner well enough in the long term to have a healthy relationship.
I'm sorry. It still hurts even though/because he was such an asshole. Getting hurt, and getting through the hurt is never fun, but it does happen. I hope that it won't be very long before you can look back and recognize that as much as it stings to have him be the one who broke things off and did it in such a horrible way, that you will ultimately be SO much happier and healthier without him.
Holy shit, what a complete asshole. I'm so sorry! Was this the guy you were engaged to?? Or did I miss something?
No, we broke up awhile ago. This was a new guy I spent 7 precious months of my life with. I updated in some thread a little while ago lol.
I think I am off the dating scene for awhile.
Ok, what he said to you isn't acceptable after any length of time - but you have to know that if he bothered to put SEVEN MONTHS into a relationship with you, what he said was in no way, shape, or form true.
If he truly wanted to do some experiment, he would have done that after a couple of dates. You don't invest 7 months into someone you don't actually have an attraction to and care about.
This sounds to me like someone who likes to use words to hurt and lashed out by saying the thing he knew would hurt the most. I don't know what the context was, but you have to know this is TOTALLY UNTRUE. I fucking hate people who say hurtful things just to be hurtful.
Also, I see you are in my state. Let me know if you'd like me to go slash his tires or put him on blast on facebook or something.
What a fucking asshole. I'm so sorry. As someone who has struggled with weight, I can totally relate to how hurtful that must have been. Congratulations on losing the 40 lbs. You are awesome and deserve someone who loves you no matter what.
No, we broke up awhile ago. This was a new guy I spent 7 precious months of my life with. I updated in some thread a little while ago lol.
I think I am off the dating scene for awhile.
Ok, what he said to you isn't acceptable after any length of time - but you have to know that if he bothered to put SEVEN MONTHS into a relationship with you, what he said was in no way, shape, or form true.
If he truly wanted to do some experiment, he would have done that after a couple of dates. You don't invest 7 months into someone you don't actually have an attraction to and care about.
This sounds to me like someone who likes to use words to hurt and lashed out by saying the thing he knew would hurt the most. I don't know what the context was, but you have to know this is TOTALLY UNTRUE. I fucking hate people who say hurtful things just to be hurtful.
Also, I see you are in my state. Let me know if you'd like me to go slash his tires or put him on blast on facebook or something.
This. He was definitely lying, because if he was doing an "experiment", it would have lasted a week or two tops. He was lying because he is an awful person who wants to hurt you. I think if you look back, you may realize that most of what he said are lies.
Post by bohemianmango on Dec 22, 2014 17:40:11 GMT -5
What a terrible person.
Just remember that when you look in the mirror, you will see a beautiful person who is worthy of love and respect. He did not deserve you. When he looks in the the mirror, he will see an awful person who will never know what real beauty, love and respect is.
It says a lot about this person (I won't call him a man. He didn't earn it.) that he did this just days before Christmas, and in such an immature way.
No person like this is worth YOUR valuable time. You are beautiful (you have put a photo here before, maybe recently) and you have worked on you (40 pounds?! Amazing!!). AND, you have a lot of class.
It is really sad he reverted back to junior-high-boy behavior and name calling. There was no need for that. Wash your face, take a good look at beautiful you in the mirror, and get on with your wonderful life. Someone GREAT will come along and he will love YOU and treat you like the treasure you ARE.
I am so sorry what he said was so hurtful. You can feel the others hurting here with you. Shows you how completely clueless this guy is with women.
You go and be beautiful you, mk. We've got your back. At the end of the day you get to crawl into bed with wonderful YOU. He has to go to be with his rotten self. That is actually really sad.
I can't say it any better than anyone else here has. He is totally screwed up mentally to intentionally hurt someone like that and it's terrible that he's done something that has affected you. He's an awful, disgusting person who is rotting away from the inside out. You are worth so much more than him.